Chasing Brighter Podcast: Choosing Real Over Perfect

Jessica Colarco and Kelly Fox
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**2024 PODCAST OF THE YEAR WINNER: BEST FEMALE HOSTED PODCAST** Welcome to the Chasing Brighter podcast;  created as a guide to living brighter, more connected and real. Because real is the new perfect.  Are you ready to embrace the next chapter of your life with confidence and excitement? Whether you’re looking to reinvent your career, improve your health, deepen your relationships, or find your true purpose, Chasing Brighter is here to help. Join us each week as we bring you inspiring stories, expert interviews, and actionable tips to help you navigate the challenges and opportunities of midlife. From wellness and personal growth to connection and beyond, we’ve got you covered.

  1. 2d ago

    Building the Friendships You Want Now

    Ep. 20: Building the Friendships You Want Now We've spent all of October talking about friendship: the ones that last, the ones that change, and the ones we outgrow. To close out the month, Jess and Kelly take on the question so many women quietly wonder about: how do you actually make new friends as an adult? When you're younger, friendships happen almost by accident. You share a classroom, a team, an office, or a preschool pickup line. Later in life, between work, kids, households, aging parents, and the relationships you already have, connection takes intention. In this episode we talk about why adult friendship can feel like dating, why we overthink unanswered texts, and why the "we should get together sometime" that never happens is something almost everyone does. We also talk about figuring out what kind of friendship you're really missing right now. Hint: the answer isn't always more friends. In This Episode (00:08) Why making friends as an adult feels so awkward, and why it's a lot like dating (03:07) Repeated contact: friendships grow from seeing someone again and again, not from one great conversation (04:00) Giving people grace: a slow reply is usually just a slow reply (04:47) Becoming the one who initiates, and getting out your calendar the moment someone says "let's get coffee" (06:21) Taking the pressure off: you don't need to plan the girls' trip before the first coffee (07:28) Different friendships serve different purposes, and "touch points" (the barista, the front-desk regular) count too (09:45) Asking yourself "What am I missing right now?" instead of assuming you need more friends (12:45) Wanting friends who know you outside your roles as mom, spouse, or professional (14:14) Where to meet people: book clubs, fitness classes, cooking classes, volunteering (16:41) Making the ask: following up on a shared interest and putting a plan on the calendar (18:32) Real Over Perfect moment: when life gets busy and six months go by, it's still not too late to reach out (19:39) This week's Brighter Moves This Week's Brighter Moves Kelly: Reconnect Before You Add. Before you go looking for new friendships, think of someone you're already connected to who might just need a little rekindling. Send a text, tell them you're thinking of them, and ask if they're free for coffee. Jess: One Small Invitation. Pick someone you enjoy being around, whether you just met or you'd like to know them better. Invite them to do one simple thing: coffee, a walk, a workout, lunch. Skip "we should get together sometime" and try "Would you want to grab coffee next week?" Last Chance: The Friendship Audit This is your final chance to download October's free Friendship Audit. Sign up for our newsletter at chasingbrighter.com/newsletter to get it. Coming in November: Less Comparing, More Living Next month we're stepping into the comparison trap. That includes the friend group that always seems to be traveling, the family with the picture-perfect traditions, and the quiet "why doesn't my life look like that?" Follow along on social to see what's happening behind the scenes.   Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter signup: chasingbrighter.com/newsletter making friends as an adult, adult friendships, how to make new friends, friendship for women, women over 40 friendships, midlife friendships, loneliness in adulthood, empty nest loneliness, finding your people, building connection, initiating plans, friendship anxiety, overthinking texts, types of friendships, friendship touch points, reconnecting with old friends, where to meet new friends, book club friends, making friends at the gym, volunteering to meet people, identity beyond motherhood, intentional friendship, Friendship Audit, Chasing Brighter podcast, Becoming Not Arriving, Real Over Perfect, Brighter Moves

  2. 5d ago

    Superwoman Diaries #8: Retreats, Rising Costs & the Lost Art of the Letter

    Retreats, Rising Costs & the Lost Art of the Letter Jessica and Kelly kick off the week admitting they're running on fumes. Jessica blames perimenopause, post-trip fatigue, and those workouts where you show up but just don't care. That leads into a conversation about teen retreats, sticker shock, and why a handwritten letter might be one of the most meaningful gifts you can give someone you love. Kelly's son Wes is heading off on a Kairos retreat, which sends the sisters back to their own Catholic youth retreat days and how differently faith can feel depending on whether it's framed around guilt or around love. They talk about why retreats matter at any age, whether for teens building friendships or for adults who need time to reflect (and yes, they still need to book their own). Then the conversation turns to how expensive everything feels right now, from a $350 weekend retreat to restaurant quotes for a family Thanksgiving dinner. The heart of the episode is the Kairos tradition of family members writing letters to the teen on retreat. Jessica shares how she wrote hers with a little AI help (and why you have to go back and forth rather than accept the first draft), and the sisters reflect on their grandmother's college letters, why we say things in writing that we'd never say in a text, and the idea of creating that kind of love-letter moment for every child. In This Episode (00:05) Surviving the week, perimenopause fatigue, and showing up when your heart isn't in it (01:36) Wes's Kairos retreat vs. the Teens Encounter Christ retreats of our youth (03:49) Why retreats are valuable, for teens and for women in midlife (04:32) Confirmation, choice, and why bonding retreats should come first, not six months in (06:30) Retreat sticker shock and the "everything is so expensive" rant (07:44) Planning a restaurant Thanksgiving with family on a budget (10:03) The Kairos letter tradition, and dropped balls with a college student's paperwork (12:43) Using AI to help write a heartfelt letter (and editing it so it actually sounds like him) (13:45) Grandparent relationships today, and getting Nona on Snapchat (14:56) Creating a "letters of love" moment for every child (16:00) The Correspondent, our grandmother's letters, and Snow Flower and the Secret Fan (17:08) November freebie announcement Books Mentioned The Correspondent by Virginia Evans and Snow Flower and the Secret Fan by Lisa See. November Freebie This month's freebie is a set of easy AI prompts to help you use ChatGPT (or your preferred AI tool) as your personal stylist: build a capsule wardrobe, explore your style, and figure out what to wear to holiday gatherings. Get it by signing up for our newsletter at chasingbrighter.com. Reflection Prompt Who in your life would light up reading a letter from you? This week, write one, whether on paper, in a card, or in a longer message than you'd usually send, and tell them what you appreciate about them. Fan, Lisa See, book recommendations, connection, gratitude Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here Chasing Brighter podcast, Superwoman Diaries, women’s podcast, sister podcast, midlife women, perimenopause fatigue, burnout, workout motivation, Kairos retreat, Teens Encounter Christ, Catholic youth retreat, confirmation, teen retreats, adult retreats, self-reflection, introspection, cost of living, everything is expensive, Thanksgiving planning, hosting Thanksgiving at a restaurant, family traditions, letter writing, handwritten letters, letters to teens, grandparents and grandkids, grandmother’s letters, parenting teens, college parenting, using AI to write letters, ChatGPT prompts, AI stylist, capsule wardrobe, holiday outfits, The Correspondent, Virginia Evans, Snow Flower and the Secret Fan, Lisa See, book recommendations, connection, gratitude

  3. Oct 22

    Your Marriage Is a Friendship Too

    Your Marriage Is a Friendship Too Chasing Brighter | Season 6: Becoming, Not Arriving When was the last time you got curious about your partner, the person they are right now, not the version you memorized years ago? After a month of talking about friendship, Jessica and Kelly turn to the relationship where it's easiest to assume the friendship will hold on its own: your marriage or long-term partnership. Jess and Kelly have each been with their husbands since '99, and they get honest about how long-term partnerships can quietly shift from romantic friendship to running a household together: schedules, kids, finances, logistics. They talk about what couples counseling taught them, why "if marriage is hard, you're with the wrong person" misses the mark, and why small, consistent moments of connection matter more than grand gestures. Whatever you call your relationship, this one is about tending the friendship at its center. In This Episode Why every relationship takes work, and why that doesn't mean you're with the wrong person How partnerships drift from friendship into "operational partnership" without anyone noticing Jess on the couples therapist who kept steering her and Justin away from talking about their kids "Updating your information" about your partner, because they're becoming too The Gottman question: do you still know your partner's favorite things now? Why small daily rituals beat date nights and grand gestures Laughing together, watching a show together, cooking together: what connection looks like in real life Kelly's three-tier system for friendships and why she doesn't struggle with friendship ambiguity Timestamps 00:05 – Still one of my favorite people, 27 years in 01:18 – Your marriage as a friendship you tend, not a partnership you manage 02:29 – "If marriage is hard, you're with the wrong person"? Not so fast 04:53 – From romantic friendship to operational partnership 05:22 – What couples counseling revealed 06:53 – Knowing your partner vs. knowing who they are now 07:46 – Gottman, Eight Dates, and getting curious again 08:36 – Small things over grand gestures 11:31 – This week's Brighter Moves 12:46 – Apps that help you get to know your partner 13:17 – Kelly's friendship tiers and the Friendship Audit This Week's Brighter Moves Jessica: Take a car ride with your partner, phones away, and focus on a real conversation full of curious questions. Kelly: Ask your partner one real, curious question about what's going on with them right now. Make it something that isn't logistics. Resources Mentioned Eight Dates by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman Gottman Card Decks app (free) Paired app Conversation and family question cards Best Medicine (the show Jess and Justin are watching together) Grab This Month's Freebie Sort out your friendships with our Friendship Audit, the free guide that goes with this month's episodes. Get it when you sign up for the Chasing Brighter newsletter. Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here marriage as friendship, long-term relationship advice, keeping your marriage strong, couples connection, marriage after kids, rituals of connection, Gottman method, Gottman Card Decks, Eight Dates book, couples counseling, getting to know your partner again, curiosity in relationships, small gestures in marriage, date night alternatives, empty nest marriage, partnership vs friendship, laughing together, relationship maintenance, friendship audit, friendship tiers, women's podcast, personal growth podcast, Becoming Not Arriving, Chasing Brighter podcast, Jessica Colarco, Kelly

  4. Oct 19

    Superwoman Diaries #7: Disco Nights, Builder Gel & Finding the Causes That Move Us

    Superwoman Diaries: Disco Nights, Builder Gel & Finding the Causes That Move Us It's October in Vegas and Jessica is still pretending it's cozy season in a blazer. In this Superwoman Diaries episode, the sisters catch up on the little luxuries and the big-hearted moments of the past few weeks. Jessica shares her day of beauty before a disco-themed gala (complete with a surprise Vietnamese coffee from the salon's new beverage menu), and she and Kelly compare notes on builder gel, the joy of booking appointments online without ever picking up the phone, and how wildly manicure prices vary between Henderson and Chicago. Then the conversation turns more meaningful. Jessica reflects on attending the Crohn's & Colitis Foundation gala in Las Vegas, the stories that stayed with her from last year's event, and how much she learned about the real, daily impact of these diseases. Kelly connects it to one of the core ideas behind Chasing Brighter: getting involved in a cause you care about is one of the most powerful ways to nourish your heart and soul. Jessica also opens up honestly about her involvement with Moms Demand Action, why one meeting felt too overwhelming, and why giving financially is a meaningful way to show up when you can't do it all. In this episode: (00:07) Still warm in Vegas, and a disco gala recap (01:12) A day of beauty: builder gel explained, and how it compares to hard gel and dip (05:13) Online booking love and a salon glow-up with a beverage menu (05:48) Manicure and pedicure prices: West Coast vs. Chicago (09:41) The surprise Vietnamese coffee (09:57) The Crohn's & Colitis Foundation gala and the stories behind it (14:16) Why getting involved in a cause brings joy (14:49) Moms Demand Action, feeling overwhelmed, and the value of giving (16:10) This month's freebie: the Friendship Audit Mentioned in this episode: Crohn's & Colitis Foundation Moms Demand Action / Everytown October's theme: relationships and friendships Grab this month's freebie: The Friendship Audit is yours when you join the Chasing Brighter newsletter. It pairs perfectly with our October episodes on friendship, so sign up at chasingbrighter.com and take a fresh look at the connections in your life. Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here Chasing Brighter podcast, Superwoman Diaries, women's podcast, sister podcast, builder gel manicure, builder gel vs hard gel, gel pedicure, self-care routine, treat yourself, disco themed gala, Crohn's and Colitis Foundation, Las Vegas charity gala, giving back, getting involved in a cause, charity and happiness, Moms Demand Action, Everytown, compassion fatigue, feeling overwhelmed by causes, Vietnamese coffee, online booking, friendship audit, friendship podcast, Becoming Not Arriving, real over perfect

  5. Oct 15

    The Friend You're Not Sure About Anymore

    Not every friendship ends with a falling-out. Some quietly drift. Some go on pause. Some still exist on paper, with birthday texts and the occasional "we should get together!", while the emotional closeness has faded. In this episode, Jessica and Kelly talk about friendship ambiguity: the friendships that leave you unsure where you stand, how you feel, or whether anything needs to be said at all. Jessica introduces ambiguous loss, a concept from psychologist Pauline Boss's work in the 1970s. It describes grief that has no clear resolution, no funeral, and no script for closure. It was first applied to dementia and missing persons, and Jessica explains why it also fits the friend who slowly drifted but never actually left. Kelly pushes back in her own way. Does drifting always feel like loss? Or can a friendship simply evolve, rest, or go on pause without anything being wrong? The sisters compare their very different approaches. Kelly tends not to overthink it and lets some friendships fade on their own. Jessica wrestles with guilt, obligation, and a newer midlife phenomenon: the sudden "ick," when you realize you just don't have the energy for someone anymore, even though nothing specific happened. They also look at the other side of ambiguity: what to do when you miss someone and the time gap makes reaching out feel awkward. In This Episode (00:05) Why we chose friendship ambiguity, and second-guessing a script written months ago (00:57) Ambiguous loss: Pauline Boss's framework and why it applies to friendships (02:06) Friendship as work, and when we're not always doing the work (03:18) Friendships "on pause": growing up moving around, and staying close to friends you rarely see (04:30) Seasonal communities, like sports team families, and the quiet loss when a season ends (05:08) Why our brains find uncertainty so uncomfortable (06:40) Should you ask "are we okay?" or let it be? (07:37) Kelly's no-overthinking strategy, conflict avoidance, and attachment styles (09:01) Flipping it: what to do when you miss a friend and feel weird reaching out (10:48) The midlife "ick," running out of energy for certain relationships, and being an empath (12:00) Free resource: The Friendship Audit (12:45) Coming up next week Key Takeaways Not all distance is loss. Some friendships go on pause and pick up right where they left off. Others quietly fade. Knowing which is which can ease a lot of anxiety. Ambiguous loss is real. If a friendship's slow fade feels disorienting, there's a reason. Grief without a clear ending is harder for the brain to process. Check in with yourself first. Before reaching out or pulling away, notice whether you're actually missing the person or just uncomfortable with the uncertainty. Leave the door open for the people you love. A simple "I miss you, let's get together" often lands better than we fear. You don't always owe a big conversation. Sometimes drifting away from a relationship that no longer fits is enough. Free Resource: The Friendship Audit Want to sort out where your friendships stand? The Friendship Audit helps you sort your friendships into thriving, resting, or maybe over. It's honest without being brutal. Get it free when you sign up for the Chasing Brighter newsletter at chasingbrighter.com/newsletter. Next Week Your relationship with your partner is a friendship too. Tune in next week as we explore what friendship looks like inside an intimate relationship. friendship ambiguity, ambiguous loss, Pauline Boss, friendship drift, losing a friend, friendships in midlife, adult friendships, friendship breakup, growing apart from friends, friendship on pause, the ick, guilt and obligation in friendships, avoidant attachment, ghosting friends, how to reconnect with an old friend, missing a friend, empath, uncertainty and anxiety, friendship audit, women's friendships, mom friends, Chasing Brighter podcast, Becoming Not Arriving Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here

  6. Oct 12

    Superwoman Diaries #6: White Lies, Chicken Sandwiches & the College Search

    Superwoman Diaries: White Lies, Chicken Sandwiches & the College Search Jess and Kelly catch up on life as moms of almost-grown and newly-grown kids. Jess shares the college "white lies party", her plan to feed a team of hungry college athletes from 2,000 miles away, and the surprisingly emotional side of parenting an adult child in a different time zone. Kelly opens up about kicking off the college search with Wes, who just announced he might want to "work in nature," and how she's using YouTube "day in the life" videos (and a little help from AI) to help him figure out what actually lights him up. Together they talk about choice overload, letting kids explore, and why the path you picture at 17 rarely matches where you end up. In This Episode (00:06) Butt dials, Apple CarPlay chaos, and the college "white lies party" trend (02:07) Heading to watch Gabby play, why Jess taps out of the parent group text, and the Chick-fil-A catering hack (plus the reward points bonus) (05:44) Kelly's catering rotation for sports teams and why cold food can be the smarter tailgate move (05:59) Parenting an adult child three time zones away, homesickness, and remembering their own tearful freshman years (07:41) The thought that sends Jess spiraling: is this the longest she's ever been apart from her daughter? (07:53) Kelly and Wes start the college search, and how much more choice kids have today (09:04) When your kid surprises you: Wes wants to work outdoors, Dominic is curious about religion and philosophy (09:42) Why schools that let you wait until junior year to declare a major can be a great fit for exploring (12:14) Berry College's massive campus, complete with farms, cows, and cabins (12:56) Using AI to brainstorm ways to explore career interests, including "day in the life" videos (14:06) Unexpected careers that really do pay off, from an anthropologist cousin to a marine biology professor (15:10) Prioritizing internships and applied learning, setting search parameters, and staying flexible Takeaways When the group text gets overwhelming, it's okay to tap out and solve the problem your own way. Homesickness often shows up on the bad days, and having ups and downs during the first semester is normal. Choice overload is real in the college search. Start by talking with your teen about what actually matters to them. Kids' interests will shift. Schools that support exploration can take pressure off choosing "the right" major at 17. "Day in the life" videos are an easy, low-pressure way to help teens picture different careers. Superwoman Diaries, Chasing Brighter podcast, sister podcast, motherhood, parenting teens, parenting adult children, college freshman homesickness, empty nest, college search, choosing a college, undeclared major, exploring majors, career exploration for teens, day in the life videos, using AI for parenting, college internships, applied learning, white lies party, college sports parents, team catering ideas, Chick-fil-A catering, group text overwhelm, time zone difference, Becoming Not Arriving, women's podcast, real over perfect Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here

  7. Oct 8

    When You Outgrow a Friendship (and That's Okay)

    Here are the show notes, built from the episode audio. The timestamps are approximate, so give them a quick check against your final edit. Outgrown, Not Failed: When Friendships Fade Have you ever thought about a friend you used to be inseparable from and felt… nothing? Not bad, just not the same. In this episode, Jess and Kelly talk about friendships that run their course, why a fading friendship doesn't mean anyone failed, and how to tell the difference between real guilt and plain old obligation. Some friendships are built for a specific season of life: work friends, the parents you bonded with because your kids were friends, the people who got you through a particular chapter. When that season ends, the friendship may have done exactly what it was meant to do. Jess, a licensed clinical social worker, explains why guilt and obligation feel so similar but work very differently, and why one lifts when you act on it and the other leaves you feeling hollow. The sisters also share how to honor what a friendship was without clinging to what you think it should be, and how letting go can free up energy for the relationships that are thriving now. In This Episode [0:00] That "nothing bad, but nothing the same" feeling about an old friend [1:00] Seasonal friendships, and how a recovering people pleaser stopped treating fading friendships as a personal failure [2:00] Situational friendships: work friends, parenting stages, and the magazine article that turned out to be true [3:00] Why a friendship ending from unresolved hurt is different from simply growing apart [3:30] The part nobody talks about: guilt that hangs around even when the fade is mutual [3:45] Guilt vs. obligation, from a clinical lens [4:45] Honoring what the friendship was instead of clinging to what it "should" be [5:15] Reframes: a relationship's value isn't measured by how long it lasted, and grief can exist even in a good ending [6:30] Real Over Perfect moment [7:45] This week's Brighter Moves [8:30] October freebie: The Friendship Audit Key Takeaways Some friendships are seasonal on purpose. When the season ends, the friendship completed its purpose rather than failing. Guilt usually comes from inside you. It signals something feels out of line with your own values, and it tends to lift once you act on what you believe is right. Obligation comes from outside pressure about what a "good" or "loyal" friend should do. You can meet an obligation and still feel hollow. You don't owe anyone a lifetime of obligation just because you share a history. You're allowed to grieve a friendship that ended well, and letting go can open space for the friendships you have now. Real Over Perfect Moment Both sisters admit to the same thing: something pops up on Facebook about an old friend, the guilt kicks in, the "we should get coffee" text never turns into an actual coffee, and nothing changes. The honest takeaway is that sometimes guilt is just guilt. It isn't a sign that something needs fixing. This Week's Brighter Moves Jess: The next time you feel a guilt ping about a faded friendship, notice it, and then consciously let it pass instead of acting on it out of obligation. Kelly: Write a private note to yourself about a friendship you've outgrown, to honor what it was without reopening it. Think of it as journaling, with no action required. October Freebie: The Friendship Audit If you're mentally sorting your friendships into the ones that are thriving, the ones that are resting, and the ones that are complete, this one is for you. The Friendship Audit is an honest, judgment-free way to assess your friendships. Get it free when you sign up for our newsletter at chasingbrighter.com. Keywords & Search Terms outgrown friendships, friendships ending, seasonal friendships, growing apart from friends, friendship guilt, guilt vs obligation, people pleasing, recovering people pleaser, letting go of friendships, friendship breakup, mom friends, work friendships, adult friendships, women's friendships, friendship grief, honoring past relationships, friendship audit, emotional energy, relationship reframes, journaling, Becoming Not Arriving, Real Over Perfect, Chasing Brighter podcast, sister podcast, personal growth podcast for women Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here

  8. Oct 5

    Super Woman Diaries #5: Fall Fashion Finds, TJ Maxx Jackpots & the Mystery of the Missing Mediums

    Superwoman Diaries: Fall Fashion Finds, TJ Maxx Jackpots & the Mystery of the Missing Mediums It's officially fall, and Jessica and Kelly are talking wardrobes. After a school open house leaves Kelly second-guessing her go-to t-shirt-and-jeans look, the sisters swap stories about refreshing their closets for the new season without falling into overwhelm or overspending. Jessica shares her case for a capsule wardrobe built on intentional choices instead of strict rules, plus the shopping "relapse" that ended with a TJ Maxx jackpot (and 15 pairs of shoes donated). Kelly walks us through a surprisingly futuristic fitting room experience at Reformation, and a chat with a Trader Joe's cashier reveals why there's never anything "in the back." Real talk, real closets, and a few fall trend picks you can actually use. In This Episode (00:45) Kelly's open house moment and why it made her want to polish up her wardrobe (04:08) What a capsule wardrobe really is, and why it doesn't have to come with crazy rules (05:36) Jessica's shoe audit: you only need one piece that does the thing (06:57) Why in-store shopping is so draining, and the "I'll spend Saturday finding a blouse" fatigue (08:09) The hunt for the perfect brown trousers, and shopping when your size is changing (09:26) Giving up, then finding everything at TJ Maxx: burgundy Mary Janes, loafers, slingbacks and a chocolate brown bag (13:13) Why shopping a less busy location can mean better selection (14:04) Fall trends: Mary Janes, penny loafers, slouchy boots, kitten heel booties, silver accents, plaids, chocolate brown and burgundy (16:22) Kelly's Reformation experience: one item per rack, virtual closets and fitting rooms stocked from behind the wall (18:39) Jessica's similar experience at Aritzia, and why shopping suddenly feels so different (19:45) Why stores restock daily but your size is always gone (20:13) Trader Joe's spicy rolled tortilla chips, "Gio's office" and what the cashier revealed about deliveries and storage Key Takeaways A capsule wardrobe is about intention, not restriction. Know your colors, your best necklines and silhouettes, and build around pieces that mix and match. If you own seven versions of the same shoe, you don't need an eighth. One piece per job is enough. Shop for your actual lifestyle. If you work from home, you don't need pants that require ironing. Sometimes the best finds show up right after you stop looking. Stores are restocking constantly with few sizes per item, so checking back often (or trying a less busy location) can pay off. Episode Mentioned: Hot Mom Summer Fall Trend Picks Mentioned Mary Janes, penny and mule loafers, pointed slingback heels, slouchy boots, kitten heel booties, silver shoes and accents, plaid, chocolate brown, burgundy, and a structured brown crossbody bag. Connect With Us Grab this month's free download when you sign up for the newsletter, and follow along for our real-life shopping finds. Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter signup: chasingbrighter.com/newsletter fall fashion, fall wardrobe 2026, capsule wardrobe, intentional wardrobe, women's fall trends, Mary Janes, penny loafers, slingback heels, slouchy boots, kitten heel boots, chocolate brown, burgundy, silver accessories, plaid, TJ Maxx finds, Nordstrom Rack, Anthropologie, Reformation, Aritzia, Trader Joe's, shopping overwhelm, decluttering closet, shopaholic, wardrobe refresh, budget fashion, style over 40, women's podcast, sister podcast, Superwoman Diaries, Chasing Brighter, Becoming Not Arriving

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**2024 PODCAST OF THE YEAR WINNER: BEST FEMALE HOSTED PODCAST** Welcome to the Chasing Brighter podcast;  created as a guide to living brighter, more connected and real. Because real is the new perfect.  Are you ready to embrace the next chapter of your life with confidence and excitement? Whether you’re looking to reinvent your career, improve your health, deepen your relationships, or find your true purpose, Chasing Brighter is here to help. Join us each week as we bring you inspiring stories, expert interviews, and actionable tips to help you navigate the challenges and opportunities of midlife. From wellness and personal growth to connection and beyond, we’ve got you covered.

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