Keepin' It Real!

Kim Haar and Kim Spence
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We're real life friends who discuss real life problems in a real life way. As you listen to this podcast we celebrate the good, support you through the bad and point you to a real life God who has the answers. We invite you to join us at our table, where together we'll laugh, sometimes we'll cry, but most importantly, our promise is to show up and do real life together! Kim Haar is a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience helping others find healing and wholeness in life. Kim Spence is all about story. Whether it's through ghostwriting, book coaching, podcasting or legacy stories, she is all about helping others bring their story to life.

  1. 4D AGO

    When Boundaries Become Walls

    Cutting people off has quietly become one of the most common forms of "self-care" in our culture. In this Part 1 episode of Keepin’ It Real, we take an honest, compassionate look at boundary-setting and where it can slowly shift into emotional cutoff. As Christian women, we’re called to guard our hearts…but we’re also called to love well, pursue peace, and walk in truth. So how do we know the difference between a healthy boundary and a wall built from hurt, fear, or unresolved pain? In this conversation, we explore: What emotional cutoff actually looks like in real lifeWhy “cutting people off” can feel empowering—but often leaves deeper woundsHow boundaries sometimes become confused with bitterness or avoidanceA faith-centered way to think about protection, distance, forgiveness, and wisdomThis isn’t a conversation rooted in judgment. It’s rooted in discernment, grace, and healing. If you’ve ever been cut off…or if you’ve wondered whether distance was necessary, or just easier…this episode is for you. Our KIR Question: Have you ever experienced being cut off—or do you know someone who has? 🎧 This is Part 1 of a multi-part conversation. This episode is intended for reflection and conversation, not diagnosis or one-size-fits-all advice. We recognize that some relationships require distance for safety and healing. Our heart is to explore this topic thoughtfully, through a Christian lens, with wisdom, grace, and prayerful discernment.

    20 min

  2. JAN 14

    Leaving a Life of Legacy

    Legacy moves beyond last names, family trees, or picture-perfect backgrounds. In fact, it moves into the moments that most people may never see. For those who come from complicated families… or who struggle to see how their lives could possibly matter to anyone else…this conversation is for you. What does it really mean to live a life of legacy? What if the way you love, show up, pray, encourage, or simply stay faithful is shaping something far bigger than you realize? We unpack how shifting our focus from what others think to what God has called us to do frees us to let our light shine. Not for recognition. Not for applause. But to glorify God. Our hope is that you walk away encouraged, reminded that you are leaving a legacy, for your family, your friends, and for people who will come after you… whether you ever see it or not. And as always, we invite you to sit with the Keepin’ It Real Question and ask it of yourself. “Is there someone who has left a legacy for you — in a good way — who may never know it this side of heaven?” Want to suggest a KIR Topic, or have a question for Kim Haar or Kim Mullen?   Contact: Kim@kimberlyhaar.com or Kim@thewomensfellowship.com

    17 min

  3. 12/29/2025

    When You're the Go-To Woman

    There’s a particular kind of woman people instinctively run to when life falls apart. She’s strong. She listens well. She prays. She shows up. And before she knows it, she’s carrying everyone else’s stories, struggles, and pain, often quietly, and usually without complaint. In this episode of Keepin' It Real, Kimberly Haar and Kimberly Mullen talk honestly about what it’s like to be the go-to woman...the one people lean on, vent to, and expect always to have the strength, the words, and the faith to hold it all together. We unpack the difference between being present and taking responsibility… between loving people well and slowly draining your own emotional and spiritual stamina. We talk about why you don’t have to fix, solve, or even respond with the perfect words, and how sometimes the most faithful thing you can do is let someone know you’re thinking about them and praying for them. This conversation is a gentle reminder that just because you can carry something doesn’t mean you’re meant to. Ultimately, God is the One who carries burdens, not us. Keepin’ It Real Question: Are you the go-to person for friends and family? If so, how do you keep from wearing out? Pull up a chair. This one feels like a conversation you didn’t know you needed.

    16 min

  4. 12/10/2025

    The Power of Women Who Show Up For Each Other

    There’s something undeniably powerful about a woman who shows up for another woman. Not in grand, cinematic moments—though those happen, too—but in the quiet, everyday ways that remind us we’re not walking this life alone. This episode is all about that sacred gift: women showing up for women. We’re talking about the friend who helps you pick out an outfit when you can’t decide.  The auntie-type who gives the kind of advice that saves you five years of heartache.  The sister in Christ who sits with you in silence when life knocks the breath out of you—no answers, just presence. And yes… the woman who prays you through something you didn’t even have the words for. These moments matter. They shape us. They steady us. They remind us that God often wraps His love in the voice, arms, and wisdom of another woman. ✨ Our Keepin’ It Real Question: “Tell me about a time a woman showed up for you.” Your story might be sweet, simple, hilarious—or holy. They all count. Because here’s the truth: Sometimes you’re the one who shows up. And sometimes you’re the one who needs someone to show up for you. That’s the beauty of genuine relationships. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

    18 min

  5. 11/25/2025

    When "I'm Fine" isn't true - A Real Talk On Burnout

    Burnout doesn’t always show up like a collapse — sometimes it sneaks in quietly, one “I’m fine” at a time. You’re doing all the things… serving, working, praying, saying yes… and yet something inside feels dim, off, disconnected. In this conversation, we get real about what burnout looks like for women who genuinely love God but suddenly find the fire low, the joy thin, and the connection flickering. We unpack the subtle signs most of us ignore — the irritability, the numbness, the going-through-the-motions. And we talk about why burnout doesn’t make you weak or unspiritual…it makes you human. More importantly, we explore what it actually looks like to reignite the fire — not through guilt or striving, but through grace, rest, honesty, boundaries, and simple, practical shifts that create space for the Spirit to breathe again. This one’s for the woman who’s been pushing, carrying, pouring out… and suddenly realizes she’s running on fumes. Keepin’ It Real Question: Have you ever found yourself doing all the things, but something still felt off — and later realized you were burned out? What did that look like for you? Take a breath. Let the Lord meet you here. You’re not alone — and you’re not meant to burn out to prove your faith.

    25 min

  6. 11/13/2025

    Ouch! That Critical Comment I Can't Stop Thinking About!

    When someone’s words hit that tender spot…ouch! Criticism can sting — even when it seems small, unintentional, or wrapped in a tone we don’t prefer. And if we’re honest, our knee-jerk reactions usually tell the truth long before our heart catches up. In this conversation, we pull back the curtain on what really happens inside us when we feel judged or criticized. We talk about the things we wish didn’t bother us — but do. We look at what Scripture says about guarding our hearts without hardening them. And we wrestle with the tricky balance: how to receive feedback without letting it define us and how to make sure we’re not becoming the very critical spirit we dislike in others. This is a grace-filled, honest, sometimes funny, and deeply practical conversation about emotional maturity, spiritual growth, and what it looks like to stay steady when the sting is real. Keepin’ It Real Question: What is your knee-jerk reaction when you feel criticized? And why do you think that shows up the way it does? If you’ve ever battled people-pleasing, defensiveness, overthinking, or the deep desire to crawl into a cave and not come out — this one's for you. Lean in. Let God speak. Let your confidence settle in Him again.

    27 min

  7. 10/28/2025

    The Myth of the Superwoman

    Maybe it’s time to put away the cape — the one with the supersized “S” — and remember that strength isn’t in doing it all, it’s in depending on the One who already did it all. We all know her, that woman who seems to do it all and make it look effortless. Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing we had to be her, too. But behind the cape, the smile, and the color-coded calendar is often a heart running on empty. In this Keepin’ It Real episode, we unpack the myth that we have to be all things to all people. Through honest reflection and a little laughter, we talk about the idea that God never asked us to be Superwoman — just faithful women who know when to show up, when to rest, and when to hand it back to Him. 💭 Keepin’ It Real Question: Are there areas in your life where you feel like you have to be all things to all people? We’d love to hear your story and what topics you’d like us to dig into next on Keepin’ It Real.

    27 min

  8. 09/23/2025

    Guardrails for Your Soul: Boundaries that Beat Burnout

    We live in a world that applauds hustle, but hustle without boundaries leads to burnout. In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we discuss the importance of balance, including knowing when to say yes, when to say no, and setting healthy guardrails that protect your energy, time, and peace. Boundaries aren’t barriers to keep people out; they’re bridges to keep you strong enough to stay in the game for the long haul. From practical strategies to spiritual wisdom, we’ll look at how creating balance helps you avoid exhaustion and actually enjoy the life God has given you. If you’ve been running on empty, this one’s for you. Our Keepin' It Real question: Is there something you love doing that takes up too much of your time?

    19 min
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We're real life friends who discuss real life problems in a real life way. As you listen to this podcast we celebrate the good, support you through the bad and point you to a real life God who has the answers. We invite you to join us at our table, where together we'll laugh, sometimes we'll cry, but most importantly, our promise is to show up and do real life together! Kim Haar is a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience helping others find healing and wholeness in life. Kim Spence is all about story. Whether it's through ghostwriting, book coaching, podcasting or legacy stories, she is all about helping others bring their story to life.

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  • Creator
    Kim Haar and Kim Spence
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    72
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Keepin' It Real!
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