Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Nurjan Sterbenz I Trauma-Informed Coach for Immigrant Moms and Speaker
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NOTE: The podcast is currently on pause. Feel free to explore past episodes!!.    Have you ever felt like you're doing everything right — but still feel disconnected, stuck, and, well, unhappy? You're not alone. I'm Nurjan Sterbenz — a foreign-born mama and trauma-informed coach who spent years chasing happiness and success outside of myself, not realizing I had to stop looking for external solutions and start doing the internal work. I needed to heal the trauma that kept me stuck in chronic exhaustion, anxiety, and overwhelm — impacting negatively my marriage, relationships, and parenting. Welcome to Foreign-Born Mama — where we learn to heal trauma and transform our parenting, marriages, and lives. Each week, we'll explore: How trauma secretly impacts every area of your lifeWhy healing is the key to unlocking everything you desireReal tools and practices you can use to start healing todayInspiring conversations with experts and moms who've healed and transformed their lives Healing is possible. The life you truly desire — filled with peace, joy, love,  health and wealth — is waiting for you on the other side of healing. It's time we heal, rise, and thrive as foreign-born mamas! Join our free Foreign-Born Mama Community on Facebook to connect with other moms and begin your healing journey. Want to connect further? Find me on Instagram → instagram.com/foreignbornmama To learn more about me and how I can support you, visit foreignbornmama.com

  1. 05/27/2023

    Victim mentality and trauma

    On this episode, I talk about: - Signs of victim mentality - the root cause of victim mentality - difference between victimhood mentality vs survivor mentality - why it is hard to break out of victimhood mentality and hidden benefits - examples of how victimhood mindset affect us in our parenting and marriage - how we may fall into trauma victim mentality - patriarchy, women and victimhood - tools to get out of victim mentality I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    30 min

  2. 05/22/2023

    Sharing our stories with Aisulu Masylkanova

    This is our first story feature with a foreign-born mama! Aisulu and I talked about motherhood in the US, how we want to be a different parent, challenges of mothering in the US and how we are navigating past and present. Aisulu brought up our usual behaviors and thinking through her story and how it can keep us stuck or feel powerless. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    51 min

  3. 05/05/2023

    Self-care for immigrant mama with Erin Hearts

    I was invited to be a guest on a podcast "Self-care for Childhood Trauma Survivors" with Erin Hearts. We talked about: - How trauma affects us as moms and how it is different for immigrant moms - We shared self-care tools and how it is important for keeping us regulated and manage our reactions Please enjoy this interview and let us know if anything resonated.  Erin Hearts podcast, Self Care for Trauma Survivors, please listen in: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839

    48 min

  4. 04/20/2023

    Beauty Standards and Trauma

    On this episode, I talk about: - Invisible standards we have on physical beauty and what makes us attractive and desire-able - cultural and societal conditioning of women and standards - how these standards have traumatized and still traumatizing women - how these standards makes us create internal belief that we are "not pretty enough" or "good enough", or "loveable enough" - how we changes our true nature to fit in to these standards and loose our sense of authenticity and who we are - how these standards are perpetuated not only through social media, movies, and by men, but also by women themselves - I discuss the beauty standards in Kyrgyzstan and the USA - I offer a different perspective and belief shift on beauty standards so we can feel more empowered. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    26 min

  5. 04/03/2023

    Can trauma hold us back from thriving?

    On this episode, I share about: - story of how Oprah Winfrey opened a new school and how girls were not thriving despite how an amazing environment she created for them to thrive - I discuss how childhood trauma was affecting these girls in learning and reaching their potential - I discuss similarities I see between these girls' journey and our journey as foreign-born moms with childhood trauma - one powerful tool to shift our perspective and access self-compassion toward ourselves and toward others in overcoming judgment, self-criticism. -power of self-compassion in our healing journey - how trauma can hold us back from living fully until we create space to heal and acknowledge them. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    28 min

  6. 03/08/2023

    International Women's Day Special

    On  this epidose, I talk about how we, as women and moms, give away our power to men , particularly to our husbands to make this day special for us, to make us feel special. I offer a different perspective and discuss the potential old patterns and beliefs that may be guiding our feelings and emotions on this day. I also discuss the significance of March 8th and how it affected us and how we can honor those women who fought for our privileges that we have right now. Enjoy the episode! I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    24 min

  7. 02/08/2023

    Why do we feel guilty when we do something nice for ourselves?

    On this episode, I talked about: - Turning 40 years old and how it can make us feels as women - Share my decision to celebrate my birthday big time and feeling guilt -  Unconscious beliefs and thoughts in my head - where does this guilt come from and how is it affecting us? - Patriarchy and women's subjugation and guilt - Difference between guilt and shame - how guilt stops us from living truly and being ourselves - how guilt affects our children and how we can cope with guilt - Breaking intergenerational traumas and guilt trips in our families and lives I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    37 min

  8. 01/25/2023

    How does trauma affect our brains and nervous systems?

    In this episode, I invite you to slow down and connect with natural cycles of winter season. The episode goes then to explain how trauma affected our brain size and our nervous system. As childhood trauma survivors, we need to understand the difference between sympathetic and parasympathetic systems of our brains, so we can begin noticing where we usually habitually live. I also explain  how chronic high alert mode can deteriorate our health and lead to chronic health conditions. Understanding our nervous system and finding ways to calm it, will help us to feel better and thrive as moms. But most of all, it will help us to cultivate some self-love and self-compassion that we so much deserve in motherhood phase of our lives. I would love to hear from you! Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.   Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group    Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home.    Learning to heal and grow alongside you, Nurzhan

    23 min
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NOTE: The podcast is currently on pause. Feel free to explore past episodes!!.    Have you ever felt like you're doing everything right — but still feel disconnected, stuck, and, well, unhappy? You're not alone. I'm Nurjan Sterbenz — a foreign-born mama and trauma-informed coach who spent years chasing happiness and success outside of myself, not realizing I had to stop looking for external solutions and start doing the internal work. I needed to heal the trauma that kept me stuck in chronic exhaustion, anxiety, and overwhelm — impacting negatively my marriage, relationships, and parenting. Welcome to Foreign-Born Mama — where we learn to heal trauma and transform our parenting, marriages, and lives. Each week, we'll explore: How trauma secretly impacts every area of your lifeWhy healing is the key to unlocking everything you desireReal tools and practices you can use to start healing todayInspiring conversations with experts and moms who've healed and transformed their lives Healing is possible. The life you truly desire — filled with peace, joy, love,  health and wealth — is waiting for you on the other side of healing. It's time we heal, rise, and thrive as foreign-born mamas! Join our free Foreign-Born Mama Community on Facebook to connect with other moms and begin your healing journey. Want to connect further? Find me on Instagram → instagram.com/foreignbornmama To learn more about me and how I can support you, visit foreignbornmama.com

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