My Friend the Friar

John Lee and Fr. Stephen Sanchez, O.C.D.
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A podcast where we learn about our faith and share what it takes to live a Catholic Christian life through conversations and contemplations with my friend the friar, a Discalced Carmelite Priest.

  1. Sep 26

    Carmelites and the Desert Mountain Part 2 (Season 4 Episode 12)

    Send us Fan Mail Prayer can feel like one more thing to “get done,” but that mindset quietly drains it of power. We sit down with Father Stephen Sanchez, a Discalced Carmelite priest, and walk through the Carmelite tradition to recover what prayer actually is: a living relationship with Jesus Christ that changes your desires, your choices, and the shape of your life. We connect the dots from the Rule of St Albert and the early hermits of Mount Carmel to the church’s struggle through war, famine, and the Black Death, including why the Carmelite rule was mitigated in 1432. From there we follow the fire that refused to die out, especially in the “Institution of the First Monks,” with its two aims for the spiritual life: purity of heart and real experiential awareness of God’s presence. That thread leads straight to St Teresa of Avila’s reform, her insistence on smaller communities, and her longing for friends of God who are truly “good ones.” Then we bring it home with the core of Carmelite spirituality today: contemplative prayer as relationship, not a checklist. We talk about the practical marks of healthy Christian spirituality, including concrete love for the poor, community life, vulnerability, and the hard work of letting go of control. We also unpack why Teresa and John of the Cross lean on bridal and friendship language and how desert spirituality forces a choice between comfort and conversion. If you’re hungry for a deeper interior life, this conversation is for you. Subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find these reflections on Carmelite prayer and the contemplative life. Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  2. Aug 29

    Carmelites and the Desert Mountain (Season 4 Episode 11)

    Send us Fan Mail God might be trying to get your attention, but not the way you expect. A lot of us assume He shows up in noise, drama, and big spiritual moments. Father Steven Sanchez, a Discalced Carmelite priest, makes the case that the Bible keeps pointing somewhere else: the desert and the mountain, where the heart gets stripped down enough to actually listen.  We start with the surprisingly important basics of Carmelite life, from monasteries and friaries to why Carmelites still talk about “cells.” Then we go deep on the two core symbols that shape Carmelite spirituality: the desert as the hard road to freedom and the frontline of temptation, and the mountain as the place of encounter and covenant. Along the way we connect Jesus’ forty days in the desert to a spiritual strategy of taking the battle into the enemy’s territory, not negotiating on our own.  From Mount Sinai’s thunder to Elijah’s gentle breeze, the conversation keeps circling back to one uncomfortable theme: silence. We talk about how modern stimulus wrecks attention, why contemplative prayer feels hard even when we’re sincere, and a simple way to begin training the mind through quiet and breath. We also trace the desert tradition through early Christian hermits and into the Carmelite origin story, including the Rule of St Albert, the crusader background of “allegiance,” and devotion to Mary as Our Lady of Mount Carmel.  If you’ve been craving a more grounded Catholic spirituality, a clearer prayer life, and a real relationship with God, this one will give you language and direction. Subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find it. Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  3. Jul 20

    Is Catholic Faith Formation Failing? (Season 4 Episode 10)

    Send us Fan Mail We dig into Catholic catechesis, sacramental preparation, and the uncomfortable truth that a one hour CCD class can’t replace daily formation. We kick around a bold proposal: what if readiness for First Communion, Reconciliation, and Confirmation was tested through a simple pass-fail interview, and the real burden of formation moved back to the domestic church? That opens up the hard questions about priorities, overscheduling, and whether the faith is lived at home or treated like a milestone party.  From there we talk parish life and relationship: why community can’t be built by the same small group doing everything, and how treating the sacraments like a “product” leads to shortcuts like drive-by bulletin stamping. We zoom out to Church renewal, unity, and why both leadership and families have responsibilities. We also reflect on contemplative religious life, the “productive” mindset, the faithful remnant, and how apologetics can drift into pride if we forget we’re called to witness, not win.  If this hits a nerve, listen through and then share your take with us. Subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the conversation. Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  4. Jun 19

    Parish Life, Squirrels, And Ministry From Prayer Not The Algorithm (Season 4 Episode 9)

    Send us Fan Mail We catch up on real parish life with Father Stephen Sanchez, from the labor of so many First Communions and Confirmations to what it means to shepherd a loving, very poor community on a shoestring budget. Along the way we laugh about tomato-stealing squirrels and get serious about grief, memory, and why Catholic “content” only works when it flows from a deep spiritual life.  If you like My Friend the Friar and want to support us, please consider subscribing or following us if you haven't already done so. And if you found us on YouTube, then don't forget to click the notification bell when you subscribe so you'll be notified of new episodes when they release.  Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  5. May 1

    The Theology of Intimacy (Season 4 Episode 8)

    Send us Fan Mail Intimacy sounds soft until you realize it can be the difference between a living faith and a life that runs on spiritual autopilot. I sit down with my friend the Friar, Father Stephen Sanchez, a Discalced Carmelite priest, to ask a deceptively simple question: what is intimacy, really, and does it matter for salvation? We unpack intimacy as “the meeting of two interiorities” a shared exchange of the inner life that includes trust, transparency, and the courage to be seen. That leads to the crucial idea of mutuality: there are relationships where one person knows everything and the other knows almost nothing, and that is not the kind of communion God calls us to. We connect this to Catholic prayer and spiritual growth, where God’s grace is abundant, but we can still miss the mark by choosing a safe, neutral distance that avoids relationship. Along the way we draw from the Gospel of John, John of the Cross and the dark night, and Bonhoeffer’s warning about cheap grace. We talk vulnerability without romanticizing pain, why dismissing someone’s openness can wound a relationship for years, and how genuine intimacy can be sacramental in daily life as a real channel of grace. We also turn to the Trinity and the Incarnation as the deepest picture of communion: God does not stay distant, and He moves first. If this conversation challenges your prayer life or your closest relationships, share it with a friend, subscribe or follow for more, and leave a review that tells us what “intimacy with God” means to you. Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  6. Apr 18

    Saint John Of The Cross (Season 4 Episode 7)

    Send us Fan Mail We start half-awake on coffee and end up talking about why the “same weeds” keep coming back in our spiritual life. We use Saint John of the Cross to make sense of confession, suffering, purification, and what union with God actually asks of us. • a garden as an image for recurring sin and lingering roots  • temptation as the same weakness rather than the same act  • confession of devotion as real healing grace  • prudence and temperance against scrupulosity and spiritual gluttony  • why we’re drawn to Saint John of the Cross and how he hits you with truth  • Spain’s Catholic reform climate and Teresa’s role in reforming Carmel  • John’s poverty, family love, and the roots of resilience  • the Discalced reform and the conflict that leads to his kidnapping  • Toledo imprisonment, flogging, and the birth of his greatest poetry  • Dark Night of the Soul as purification of desires and identity beyond consumerism  • how to read John without drowning, starting with biography and poetry  Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  7. Apr 3

    How Christian Anthropology Shapes Catholic Worship (Season 4 Episode 6)

    Send us Fan Mail We connect what we believe about the human person made in God’s image to what we do at the altar, from the Bible’s earliest sacrifices to the Eucharist. We push past ritual fights and “do-it-my-way” spirituality to recover worship as a real encounter with Christ that demands love of God and neighbor.  • Christian anthropology as the foundation for worship and liturgy  • worship as awe before the Creator and reserved to God alone  • the human desire for transcendence and the temptation to worship created things  • sacrifice as the thread from Eden through Cain and Abel to Abraham  • God’s corrective guidance and progressive “plus one” teaching in salvation history  • ritualism as ideology and the prophets’ call back to mercy  • the law as a pedagogue leading to Christ and Christ as fulfillment  • the Eucharist as participation in Christ’s once-for-all sacrifice  • joining our lives to the offering and living as a steward through baptismal grace  • communion as a communal reality that must spill into love of neighbor  • avoiding legalism on one side and guideline-free worship on the other  If you like My Friend the Friar and want to support us, please consider subscribing or following us if you haven't already done so. And if you found us on YouTube, then don't forget to click the notification bell when you subscribe so you'll be notified of new episodes when they release. Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

  8. Feb 27

    Imago Dei (Season 4 Episode 5)

    Send us Fan Mail We trace a living map of Christian anthropology, from Imago Dei and dignity to mercy, worship, and stewardship in a tech-shaped world. Along the way we ask how baptismal grace can form our daily choices and make our communities more humane. • why naming Christian anthropology matters now • Imago Dei as the source of un-losable dignity • Augustine’s restless heart and the human longing for God • Jesus as model for seeing and treating others • baptismal grace as power for daily mercy • worship as the people’s response to revelation • oneness and belonging beyond bloodlines • stewardship vs ownership in tech and ethics • building guardrails for power and progress • practical examen for practicing dignity Please consider supporting the Discalced Carmelites of the Semi-Province of St. Thérèse. Links are in the show notes. Pray for us that the Holy Spirit gives us the time and grace to cover these topics well. Support the show Click here to support the Carmelite Friars! Have something you'd love to hear Fr. Stephen and John talk about? Email us at myfriendthefriar@gmail.com or click here!

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A podcast where we learn about our faith and share what it takes to live a Catholic Christian life through conversations and contemplations with my friend the friar, a Discalced Carmelite Priest.

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  • Creator
    John Lee and Fr. Stephen Sanchez, O.C.D.
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    122
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 My Friend the Friar
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