Lindsay Poelman returns to reintroduce the show as a brand new season and open a new series on betrayal. Drawing from her own story, a high-demand Mormon upbringing, a check-the-box life, and the turning point when her husband disclosed longstanding lies about his porn use, Lindsay names betrayal trauma out loud and explains why it lives underneath so much of the pain women carry and cannot name. Using Jennifer Freyd's definition of betrayal trauma, Lindsay walks through the many places betrayal shows up: religion and faith transitions, family systems that silence the victim to protect the family's image, institutions and medical gaslighting (including women dismissed around perimenopause), partnership and infidelity, and the self-betrayal we learn young in order to survive. Across almost a decade of coaching, she has seen the same pattern again and again, and the same way through: rebuilding self-trust, reconnecting to the body's felt sense and intuition, and using community to dissolve shame. She closes with the heart of her work: your body is not the problem, it is the solution. Learn more inside The Fluent Human course and certification, her live community calls, and her limited one-on-one coaching. What you'll learn in this episode What betrayal trauma actually is, defined through the research of Jennifer FreydWhy betrayal is not only about marriage, and the shape it takes underneath religion, family, institutions, and partnershipHow medical gaslighting works, and why so many women (especially around perimenopause) were told it was all in their headsWhat self-betrayal and self-abandonment are, why they were once a survival strategy, and how to tell if the pattern is still running your lifeWhy rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting to your intuition is the difference between staying stuck and moving forwardHow the body holds truth, keeps score, and can sense when something is off, even when everything looks fine on the outsideWhy community and being witnessed dissolve shame faster than trying to heal alone Key concept: What is betrayal trauma? Betrayal trauma, as defined by Jennifer Freyd, is the deep emotional and psychological injury that happens when a person you trust, love, or depend on for safety and survival breaks that trust in a major way. Lindsay expands it into a working definition for everyday life: betrayal is being told to trust something that was not safe. Once you see it that way, you start to notice how many places you were told exactly that. Chapters and timestamps 00:00 Welcome back, season reset00:28 Why betrayal, again01:11 My background: the checklist life02:16 The first betrayal story03:51 Coaching patterns and hope04:54 Self-trust and The Fluent Human06:43 What betrayal trauma is (Jennifer Freyd)08:22 Betrayal in religion09:50 Betrayal in family10:55 Institutions and medical gaslighting12:04 Partnership betrayal13:05 Boundaries and relationships15:27 Self-betrayal and self-abandonment18:20 Body wisdom and intuition19:03 Work with me: options21:15 Final encouragement and next episodesLindsay’s current program offerings: Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma is ten short videos that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website. Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching --- Meet Lindsay: ...
