Finding Love After 30

Shonda Howard
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Finding Love After 30 is a podcast for women that are ready to have their big, amazing love story. Dating Coach and Hypnotherapist Shonda Howard will teach you exactly how to find your too-good-to-be-true Man. Every week you can expect simple how to’s and heart to heart conversations that will help you navigate dating and find your soul-mate relationship. Follow Shonda on instagram @shondahowardlove for more inspiration. Subscribe and share with any other women you know still want to believe that their love story is waiting for them!

  1. Sep 22

    Ep 44: Why You’re Attracted to the Wrong Men (Even When You Know Better)

    In this episode, I’m breaking down why we can consciously want a healthy, committed relationship while still feeling wildly attracted to the exact men who can’t give us one—and why the nice, available guy can somehow give us the ick. You'll learn: Why you can understand your dating pattern and still repeat itWhy emotionally unavailable men can create such intense chemistryWhy healthy, available men might initially give you the “ick”The role your nervous system and subconscious beliefs play in attractionWhy insight alone doesn’t necessarily create changeHow changing what feels familiar can change who you’re attracted toWhat happened when my clients stopped chasing the spark and started changing the pattern underneath itIf you’re tired of dating the same man in a different body, this episode is for you. And if you’re ready to figure out YOUR pattern, change it, and create a clear strategy for meeting the kind of man who is actually ready for love, marriage, and commitment, book a free Dating Strategy Call with me using the link in the show notes. We’ll look at what’s been keeping you stuck and create a plan for finding your person. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  2. Jul 28

    Ep 43: What Manifesting My Dream Move Taught Me About Finding Love

    In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the exact mindset and nervous system practices I used over four years to manifest one of my biggest dreams: moving back to California! But here's the thing... this isn't really about manifesting a move.It's about learning how to trust the process when life isn't happening on your timeline—and why that's the same work I teach women who want to find lasting love. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why the "how" and "when" aren't your jobHow to stop putting your life on hold while waiting for your dreamThe difference between surrender and giving upThe daily practices that helped me stay grounded and hopefulHow nervous system regulation changes what you're able to receiveWhy gratitude isn't about pretending everything is perfectThe future journaling practice that transformed my mindsetHow to process fear without letting it run your lifeWhat this entire experience taught me about finding love If you've been thinking about joining Find the One, send me a DM on Instagram (@shondahowardlove) or email me: shonda@shondahoward.com. I'd love to help you figure out whether it's the right fit for you and save $1000! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  3. Apr 7

    Ep 42: If dating apps "suck" you're missing the actual problem.mp3

    In today's episode, I'm getting real about why dating apps aren't actually the problem, and how the strategy you've been using is. In this episode you'll learn: Why treating dating like a numbers game is keeping you stuckThe difference between collecting matches and actually filtering for the right personHow to use your past dating experiences to identify your core valuesHow to weave those values into your profile so you attract the right men (and filter out the wrong ones) LINKS MENTIONED: 🎉 Free Irresistible Woman Series 20+ dating and relationship experts. Free access. Tons of gifts. 👉 Sign up here 🔥 The Magnetic Dating Profile: Turn your profile into a magnet for emotionally available men who actually want a relationship. 👉 Grab it here before the price goes up Enjoying the podcast? Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it. 💛 Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  4. 12/26/2025

    Ep 41: You're not bad at manifesting love - you're in the belief gap

    If you’ve tried visualizing, journaling, affirmations, or “manifesting” your dream relationship, and you’re still attracting the same type of men or relationship pattern, this episode is for you. In this episode, Shonda introduces a concept she calls The Belief Gap: the space between what you want in love and what your nervous system and subconscious actually believe is safe and possible. You’ll learn why manifestation doesn’t happen from desire alone, and how to gently close the gap between where you are and the relationship you want, without forcing belief or gaslighting yourself. In This Episode, We Cover: Why manifesting love often feels frustrating or ineffectiveWhat The Belief Gap is and how it blocks real changeWhy your subconscious cares more about safety than desireThe “CD player” metaphor for why affirmations get rejectedThe money analogy that explains why big desires bounce off the nervous systemWhy your ideal partner list isn’t the problem—it’s diagnosticHow to turn desires into believable mantras that actually workWhy belief is built incrementally (and why that’s enough)How closing the Belief Gap changes how you show up in dating Podcast Episodes Mentioned: Episode 5 How to get what you want with "the list" Ready for More Support? If 2026 is the year you want to call in real love then come find me on Instagram and DM me the word CUSTOM and I’ll send you a personalized dating strategy video. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  5. 12/19/2025

    Ep 40: Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain: Why Being Single Feels So Triggering (And How to Stop Spiraling)

    If being single feels especially triggering for you (engagement announcements, weddings, breakups, or the pressure of feeling “behind,”) this episode is for you. Today I'm breaking down a concept I teach all of my coaching clients: clean pain vs. dirty pain, and how confusing the two is what keeps so many women stuck in anxiety, shame, and dating spirals. In this episode, we cover: The difference between clean pain and dirty pain, and why it mattersWhy seeing other people get engaged or married can send you into a spiralHow your brain creates fear-based stories about your future without you realizing itWhy breakups hurt more when you make them mean something about youA simple way to validate your feelings without letting them run your lifeHow to stop dating from urgency, panic, or comparisonWhat it looks like to return to dating from a grounded, confident place This is a powerful mindset shift you can use anytime you feel triggered around being single, especially during the holidays. And if you are ready to stop spiraling, regulate your nervous system, and date with intention in the new year, send me a DM on Instagram (@shondahowardlove) with the word CUSTOM and I’ll send you a personalized dating strategy. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  6. 12/02/2025

    Ep 39: Meet Men IRL, Protect Your Energy & Stay in the Game with Lindsay May

    In this episode, I’m joined by marketing expert and single gal in Denver, Lindsay May, for a super honest convo about what it actually looks like to keep dating when you’re tired, triggered, or over the apps. In this episode, we cover: How Lindsay healed from a toxic relationship and eased back into datingWhy dating apps can feel so draining—and how to treat them as a neutral toolMeeting men in real life: pickleball, grocery stores, and being presentThe power of your presence and magnetic energy when you’re out in the worldHow to “market” yourself in your dating profile so it actually sounds like youSimple mindset shifts to keep you in the game without burning out Connect with Lindsay on Instagram HERE If you’re ready to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men and call in a secure, committed relationship 👉 Join my free masterclass “How to Stop Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men and Attract Your Soulmate in 6 Months.” SIGN UP HERE. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  7. 11/21/2025

    Ep 38: A Thanksgiving Message for the Woman Who Feels Left Behind

    In this Thanksgiving episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda gets real about how hard the holidays can feel when you’re single, surrounded by couples, and dodging questions like “So…are you seeing anyone?” She walks you through why gratitude is not pretending everything is fine, but a grounding practice that helps regulate your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and actually make you more available for healthy love. You’ll hear how Shonda used daily gratitude on her own journey to meeting her husband, how this ties into the cognitive model from CBT, and a simple three-part gratitude practice you can start today, even if you’re feeling lonely or behind. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why holiday comments about your love life sting so much (and why it makes sense you feel anxious).How gratitude supports nervous system regulation and secure attachment.A simple daily gratitude/appreciation ritual you can do in a few minutes, morning or night. If you’re ready to go beyond gratitude and want personalized support with nervous system regulation, attachment healing, and dating strategy, send Shonda a DM on Instagram with the word CUSTOM and she’ll send you a free custom dating strategy with the exact steps to take based on where you are right now. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

  8. 11/14/2025

    EP 37: How to Confidently Navigate the Holidays as a Single Woman w/ Elyse Conroy

    If you're heading into the holidays single and already dreading the “So… are you seeing anyone?” questions, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. I sat down with my friend, confidence coach Elyse Conroy, for a raw, hilarious, and honest conversation about navigating the holidays when you’re the only single one in the room. We talk about: Why those invasive questions from Aunt Mildred feel so triggeringHow to answer them with confidence (and shut them down with grace)What to do if you were just ghosted or broken up with before the holidaysWhy you keep dating the same emotionally unavailable guy on repeatHow to regulate your nervous system so you stop spiraling in datingAnd how to actually enjoy being single this season instead of feeling behind You’ll walk away with scripts, mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you feel grounded, worthy, and secure — no matter what’s happening in your love life right now. JOIN MY FREE MASTERCLASS: Ready to stop dating emotionally unavailable men and attract a committed partner in the next 6 months? Grab your seat RIGHT HERE or DM me the word TRAINING on Instagram. CONNECT WITH ELYSE ON INSTAGRAM Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Join the How to Meet Your Husband in 6 Months or Less Free Class (come live or get the replay) Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

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Finding Love After 30 is a podcast for women that are ready to have their big, amazing love story. Dating Coach and Hypnotherapist Shonda Howard will teach you exactly how to find your too-good-to-be-true Man. Every week you can expect simple how to’s and heart to heart conversations that will help you navigate dating and find your soul-mate relationship. Follow Shonda on instagram @shondahowardlove for more inspiration. Subscribe and share with any other women you know still want to believe that their love story is waiting for them!

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  • Creator
    Shonda Howard
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    44
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
  • Show Website
    Finding Love After 30

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