Sex, Drugs, & Soul

Kristin Birdwell
  • 4.7 (14)
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Sex, Drugs, & Soul is a podcast about intimacy, sexuality, relationships, tantra, psychedelics, spirituality, and what it means to feel fully alive. Hosted by best-selling author and intimacy mentor Kristin Birdwell, the show explores what happens when we stop performing, shed the shame and conditioning, and start connecting more deeply with our partners, our bodies, our desires, and ourselves. Welcome to a space where the sacred gets spicy, the growth gets real, and self-discovery comes with a side of mischief. Kristin is a playful professional line-blurrer between the profane and the profound, which means very little is off-limits around here. We talk sex, love, desire, altered states, relationships, healing, embodiment, spirituality, and the weird, wild shit that happens when you start questioning everything you were told you should want. Expect vulnerable conversations, sensual explorations, unexpected wisdom, inappropriate laughter, aaaand the occasional existential crisis. Kristin brings raw stories and unfiltered conversations with experts, fellow seekers, sensual enthusiasts, and pleasure revolutionaries who aren’t interested in living numb, disconnected, or politely half-alive. Because you can look wildly successful on the outside and still be starving for deeper intimacy, better sex, real connection, more pleasure, and a life that actually feels as good as it looks. So if you’re ready to drop the shoulds, rewrite the scripts you inherited, get a little more honest about what you want, and become wildly turned on by your own life… Come play. Less performing... more connecting, pleasure, & aliveness.

  1. 6d ago

    When Your Desires Don’t Match | Amanda Dames on Kink, Trust, & Intimacy

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! What happens when you love your partner deeply but your desires don’t quite match? Amanda Dames, the Kink Consultant, certified sexologist, sex and relationship coach, and former professional dominatrix, joins for a candid conversation about kink, intimacy, sexual desire, communication, consent, trust, and shame. Amanda shares how she went from working at The Wall Street Journal to becoming a professional dominatrix in New York City and eventually helping individuals and couples navigate mismatched desires, fantasies, fetishes, BDSM, and deeper intimacy. In this episode, we explore... • Why it can feel so difficult to tell your partner what you actually want • How to talk about sexual fantasies without creating pressure • Why understanding the feeling beneath a kink can change the conversation • The difference between a kink and a fetish • Whether kink is always connected to trauma • Sexual shame and the fear of being judged or rejected • The connection between neurodivergence, sensory play, and BDSM • Why kink may have a major “PR problem” • Female dominance, power, and stepping into authority • Amanda’s own 24/7 Dom/sub relationship • How consent and boundaries can create deeper trust and intimacy • How owning your desires can build confidence far beyond the bedroom One of the biggest takeaways? Sharing a fantasy doesn’t mean it has to become reality. Sometimes it gets explored physically. Sometimes it lives in dirty talk. And sometimes simply telling the truth about your desires can deepen a relationship. Ultimately, this conversation goes far beyond kink. It’s about emotional safety, honest communication, self-trust, and creating relationships where both people can feel fully seen without making the other person responsible for fulfilling every desire. If you’re curious or have ever struggled with mismatched sexual desires, kink, BDSM, fantasies, consent, sexual shame, communication, or creating deeper intimacy with your partner, this episode is for you. Learn more about Amanda at amandadames.com, follow @the_kinkconsultant on Instagram, and listen to The Kink Consultant Podcast wherever you get your podcasts. Resources for Couples: Guide for couples with mismatched desire to have more open and honest conversations in a safe framework: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1BDSM Menu for couples who are curious to explore each other's kinks: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlistSupport the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

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    Sex, Drugs, & Soul: Where Taboo Meets Transformation

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! Sex, Drugs, & Soul is where intimacy, desire, spirituality, sexuality, and the beautifully messy art of being human collide. Hosted by author, intimacy mentor, and professional line-blurrer between the profane and the profound, Kristin Birdwell, this podcast is for people who want more than a life that simply looks good. We're talking about the stuff that makes you feel fully alive: deeper connection, better relationships, eroticism, vulnerability, personal growth, spirituality, tantra, psychedelics, kink, pleasure, purpose... and yes, occasionally devil dick energy. 😈 Around here, no topic is too spicy, too weird, or too human. You'll hear honest conversations about what we really desire, why vulnerability is the gateway to intimacy, how our relationships change when we stop performing and start telling the truth, and what happens when sexuality and spirituality are allowed to exist in the same damn room. We explore everything from tantric intimacy and erotic reclamation to psychedelic healing, unconventional relationships, grief, creativity, consciousness, self-discovery, and those glorious existential moments when you suddenly wonder: what the f**k am I doing with my life? And maybe the goal isn't becoming more impressive, more enlightened, or more perfect... It's about becoming 100% human. Welcome to Sex, Drugs, & Soul, where the sacred gets spicy, the personal growth gets real, & the self-discovery comes with a side of mischief.. 🔥 Follow the show and come get weird, wise, and wildly alive. Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

  3. Aug 30

    Mushrooms, Memes, & Meaning | James McCrae on Creativity, Purpose, & Being Human

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! What happens when you’ve gotten pretty damn good at achieving but start wondering if success and fulfillment are actually the same thing? I sit down with James McCrae, poet, author, viral creator, creative entrepreneur, and former Madison Avenue brand strategis, to talk creativity, purpose, psychedelics, spirituality, and what it means to become a little more human in a world obsessed with optimization.  We get into mushrooms in Central Park, ayahuasca, creativity as therapy, trusting the muse, spirituality without the dogma, and whether our best ideas come from us or through us. James also shares how losing his advertising job helped launch his creative career, his take on AI as assistant rather than artist, and the wild story behind Instructions Before Visiting Earth—the poem that unexpectedly reached more than 100 million people and is becoming a full poetry collection in 2027.  Plus: ego death vs. orgasm, the best drug for creativity, aliens, dance-floor salvation, and one of my favorite ideas from the episode: Maybe being human is the next enlightenment. Instructions for Visiting Earth Poem  Connect with James: Website: https://www.jamesmccrae.com/ Substack: https://substack.com/@jamesmccrae IG: @wordsarevibrations Sunflower Club: @sunflower.club.creative Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

  4. Aug 16

    Ecstasy for Couples: Can MDMA Transform Trauma, Sex, & Intimacy? | Jonathan Robinson

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! What happens when fear gets turned down and couples finally say the things they've been afraid to say? Jonathan Robinson, former psychotherapist, bestselling author, and longtime pioneer in MDMA-assisted work, joins to explore the intersection of MDMA, trauma, couples therapy, sex, intimacy, and emotional healing. Jonathan shares how his work with MDMA began in the 1980s, why he believes it can help couples move through long-standing resentment and communication breakdowns, and what happens when people suddenly feel safe enough to talk openly about sex, money, infidelity, trauma, and unmet desires. We get into sexless marriages, mismatched libidos, attachment patterns, empathy versus “fixing,” why couples get caught in what Jonathan calls the “misery go-round,” how some relationships reconnect...while others realize it may be time to lovingly separate. Chapters: 00:00 — From Therapy to MDMA 03:33 — What MDMA Does to Fear 06:51 — The Relationship Misery Go-Round 10:35 — MDMA & Sexual Trauma 17:14 — When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough 19:06 — The Best Night of Their Marriage 21:35 — When Couples Choose to Separate 26:46 — Sex, Lies & Radical Honesty 29:34 — The Communication Tool Couples Need 32:47 — Talking About What You Want in Bed 38:01 — Empathy, Intimacy, & Sexless Marriage 40:24 — The Future of MDMA Therapy Connect with Jonathan: mdmatraining.net (coupon code: OFF200) xtcforcouples.net Jonathan's Books: Ecstasy as Medicine: How MDMA therapy Can Help You Overcome Trauma, Anxiety, and Depression...and Feel More Love Ecstasy For Couples: How MDMA Therapy Can Create More Love and Less Conflict In Your Relationship  Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

  5. Aug 11

    Vulva Portraits, Womb Wisdom, & Reclaiming Female Pleasure | Khadoma Colomby

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! What happens when a woman stops viewing her body through everyone else’s eyes and begins seeing herself as art? In this episode, I’m joined by ritual artist and pleasure weaver Khadoma Colomby to talk about p***y portraits, healing sexual shame, erotic embodiment, womb wisdom, and what it means to reclaim the parts of ourselves we were taught to hide. Khadoma shares how she transforms images of women’s vulvas into deeply personal works of art and how the process becomes a ritual of reconnecting with a part of the body many women have been taught to hide, judge, change, or reserve for someone else’s pleasure. We explore how women become disconnected from their bodies, why fully expressed women can be so confronting, and what changes when a woman begins treating her pleasure, sexuality, and life-force energy as her own. Khadoma also shares her simple three-song Tending Your Turn-On practice, designed to help you reconnect with your emotional landscape, awaken sensuality through self-touch, and invite more energy and pleasure into your day. Enjoy, darlin'.  Timestamps: 00:00 — Feminine Reclamation 01:30 — Khadoma’s Journey Into the Divine Feminine 03:00 — The Inspiration Behind the Portraits 05:17 — The Holy Harlot and Reclaiming Sexuality 06:15 — Healing Shame Through Ritual and Art 11:37 — Eros, Consent, and Listening to the Body 13:23 — Erotic Energy as Life Force 14:53 — The Three-Song Tending Your Turn-On Practice 17:25 — Pleasure, Magnetism, and Embodiment 20:33 — Why Fully Expressed Women Are Confronting 23:42 — Untaming Women’s Emotional Wilderness 24:49 — Women Aren’t Meant to Be the Same Every Day 28:10 — What to Do When You Feel Disconnected 29:33 — Womb Wisdom and the Inner Temple 31:21 — Menstrual Cycles, Relationships, and Perimenopause 33:00 — Fertility, Aging, and the Body’s Timeline 35:08 — Reclaiming Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond 37:17 — Fun and Spicy Lightning Round Connect with Khadoma: Website: https://www.khadomacolomby.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/khadoma_colomby/ Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

  6. Jul 18

    From Submissive to Dominatrix | Temptress Pixie on BDSM, Pegging, & Power Exchange

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! This week, I chat with Temptress Pixie, erotic writer, kink educator, dominatrix, and open relationship expert, to explore a world that's often misunderstood. We talked about BDSM, power exchange, pegging, tantra, conscious domination, submission, nervous system regulation, and how kink can become a profound path toward healing. Whether you're deeply immersed in kink or curious about why so many people find freedom through conscious power dynamics, this conversation goes way beyond whips and chains. We also get into... • how she accidentally discovered BDSM through Rihanna's S&M song • the surprising journey from lifelong submissive to dominatrix • why communication is the sexiest foreplay • how fantasy conversations can strengthen relationships • what tantra and BDSM actually have in common • why pegging carries so much unnecessary shame • how play helps us reconnect with parts of ourselves we've forgotten • and why pleasure, healing, and spirituality might all be speaking the same language. As always...take what resonates, leave the rest, and stay curious. Watch the episode on YouTube.  Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and guest introduction 01:21 How Timtress Pixie discovered BDSM 03:32 Defining BDSM and kink 04:25 Range of interests in BDSM and kink 05:58 Submissive and dominant roles explained 07:07 Pain, confidence, and power exchange 09:17 The story of the switch to dominance 11:53 Creative role play and trust 14:56 Evolving into full dominance 17:55 The importance of play and imagination 22:40 Daddy and Mommy Dom roles 26:01 BDSM as therapy and emotional healing 27:38 Tantra and energy work in BDSM 32:58 Journey into different BDSM styles and tools 36:55 Pegging: Tips, conversations, and overcoming shame 44:53 Prostate play, anal exploration, and tantra Connect with Temptress Pixie: IG: @temptress.pixie & @enm_diaries Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

  7. Jul 3

    Why Toxic Relationships Feel Addictive | Love, Lust, & Dopamine with C.R. Herro

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! This episode is brought to you by... tacos & tequila. 🤪 After a couple of anejos, addiction therapist C.R. Herro joins me for a candid conversation about dopamine, addiction, fantasy, and why we so often find ourselves chasing the very things that keep us stuck. We explore: • What addiction really is (and why it's more common than you think) • The difference between guilt and shame... and why it matters • Why we stay in relationships that hurt us • The hidden addiction to productivity, achievement, and external validation • Fantasy vs. authentic intimacy • Dating in the age of AI • What it actually means to live authentically Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:18 The Real Definition of Addiction 07:42 Dopamine, Survival, & Your Brain 14:35 Why We Repeat Self-Destructive Behaviors 21:58 Accountability vs. Excuses 29:41 Addiction to Success & Validation 37:56 Guilt & Shame Explained 45:10 Why Toxic Relationships Feel Addictive 52:44 Fantasy vs. Authentic Love  Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

  8. Jun 21

    Acupuncture, Existential Kink, & Sexual Vitality | Dr. Veda

    Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin! This week, I'm joined by Dr. Veda, acupuncturist, frequency medicine practitioner, pleasure pioneer, host of Quantumly Kinky, and one of my favorite new friends. We Explore...  - Acupuncture, Sexual Vitality, & the Erotic Intelligence of Your Nervous System - How to live a more turned-on life - Curiosity as a philosophy & the importance of play - Metaphysics, manifestation, & multidimensional living - How acupuncture is frequency medicine  - Existential Kink: the framework that will make you ask "wait, what part of me actually wants this?" (aka what your shadow secretly enjoys) - Sexual avatars and how they come online for women - Her podcast Quantumly Kinky, aka the sexy sermon your Sunday morning needs Timestamps: 00:00 Intro & Internet Friendship Origin 05:00 Questioning Religion & Finding Spirituality 09:00 Childhood Play Before Social Media 13:30 Sexuality Without Shame 18:00 90s TV, Sex & The City & Sexual Archetypes 23:00 First Heartbreak & Relationship Books 31:00 The Secret, Abraham Hicks & Conscious Creation 35:00 The Seth Material & Multidimensional Reality 38:00 Frequency Medicine Explained 41:00 Acupuncture as Frequency Medicine 46:00 Discovering Esoteric Acupuncture 50:00 The Frequency of Your Future Self 53:00 Breathwork & Receiving Intuition 56:00 Wellness Culture & Biohacking Burnout 1:00:00 How to Get Turned On By Judgment 1:02:00 Existential Kink Explained 1:07:00 Quantumly Kinky & Creating a Podcast 1:10:00 Final Reflections & Turned-On Living If you've been craving more aliveness, more presence, more pleasure... press play to become more turned on by life. Connect with Dr. Veda: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.sarahveda Website: https://turnedonclinic.com/ Support the show Connect with Kristin: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube Kristin’s Book: Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify Audiobook Subscribe: YouTube Spotify Apple Peptides: Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptide https://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwell Microdose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/ password: opensesame Code: kristin20 for 20% off

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Sex, Drugs, & Soul is a podcast about intimacy, sexuality, relationships, tantra, psychedelics, spirituality, and what it means to feel fully alive. Hosted by best-selling author and intimacy mentor Kristin Birdwell, the show explores what happens when we stop performing, shed the shame and conditioning, and start connecting more deeply with our partners, our bodies, our desires, and ourselves. Welcome to a space where the sacred gets spicy, the growth gets real, and self-discovery comes with a side of mischief. Kristin is a playful professional line-blurrer between the profane and the profound, which means very little is off-limits around here. We talk sex, love, desire, altered states, relationships, healing, embodiment, spirituality, and the weird, wild shit that happens when you start questioning everything you were told you should want. Expect vulnerable conversations, sensual explorations, unexpected wisdom, inappropriate laughter, aaaand the occasional existential crisis. Kristin brings raw stories and unfiltered conversations with experts, fellow seekers, sensual enthusiasts, and pleasure revolutionaries who aren’t interested in living numb, disconnected, or politely half-alive. Because you can look wildly successful on the outside and still be starving for deeper intimacy, better sex, real connection, more pleasure, and a life that actually feels as good as it looks. So if you’re ready to drop the shoulds, rewrite the scripts you inherited, get a little more honest about what you want, and become wildly turned on by your own life… Come play. Less performing... more connecting, pleasure, & aliveness.

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  • Creator
    Kristin Birdwell
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    122
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Sex, Drugs, & Soul
  • Show Website
    Sex, Drugs, & Soul

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