Sacred by Design

Regeneration Ministries
  • 5.0 (12)
  • Christianity
  • Updated Bimonthly

We’re diving deep into topics like desire, sexual integrity, relational healing, and so much more. Get ready for honest, safe conversations with women, about women. Together let's do the important work of connecting your sexual struggle to your story to God. Your sexuality is, in fact, Sacred by Design

  1. Jul 8

    You are irreplaceable

    The most brutal part of betrayal isn’t only what happened, it’s what it convinces you to believe about you. When you’re staring at timelines, screenshots, and credit card receipts, “I was replaced” can feel like the only honest conclusion. We slow that moment down and challenge the belief underneath it: that your being, your worth, and your value are replaceable.  We talk through the sneaky if/then scripts that show up after infidelity and porn addiction: If only my body were different, then he would choose me. If only I did more, then I’d be safe. Then we practice a different move, naming the lie and bringing it into the light with Jesus, because betrayal is an attachment wound and attachment wounds heal in safe places with truth and care. We also make room for anger as a sign of inherent worth, and we share a simple body tool for jaw clenching that can help your nervous system breathe again.  From sacred attachment (seen, soothed, safe, secure) to calling a friend when you’re sinking, we offer small anchors that meet you in the moment. We also confront the comparison voice and doomscrolling spiral, and we invite you to choose beauty as a way to restore your lens. If you need one takeaway to carry today, let it be this: you are one of a kind, beloved, chosen, and irreplaceable. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more hurting hearts can find support. What’s one if/then thought you’re ready to name? Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  2. Jun 30

    Shame Free

    Shame has a way of hijacking your identity. It doesn’t stop at “I made a mistake,” it goes straight for “I am the mistake,” and it can feel so true that you start organizing your whole life around hiding. We sit with how heavy shame feels, why it shows up in our bodies, and why it can be especially intense for women navigating unwanted sexual behavior or betrayal trauma. We break down a framework that changes the conversation: state shame versus trait shame. State shame is the in-the-moment sting that can rise and fall. Trait shame is the chronic, identity-level story of “I’m bad,” often shaped by early wounds, trauma, or long seasons of secrecy. We talk about how shame can masquerade as “protection,” pushing us to overperform, stay quiet, and keep people out so we can preserve relationships, even though it slowly isolates us from community and from God. Then we anchor the whole topic in Scripture and hope. From Genesis 2:25 and the first experience of shame after the fall, to the prodigal son’s return, to Hebrews 12:2, where Jesus endures the cross “despising the shame,” we explore what it means to let God cover what we’ve tried to cover ourselves. We also offer practical next steps, including finding safe people, naming shame out loud, writing a letter to your shame, and a “redirect the arrow” exercise for those impacted by betrayal. If shame has been running the show, you don’t have to carry it alone. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a gentler path to healing, and leave a review or fan mail with one takeaway you’re choosing to practice this week. Resources from this episode: The Shame Training Company - https://www.shametraining.com/ Carolyn Spring: Reversing Adversity - https://www.carolynspring.com/ The Soul of Shame - Curt Thompson Beloved: A Journey of Prayer - Dale Gish Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  3. Jun 24

    Betrayal’s Emotional Rollercoaster

    Betrayal doesn’t end after the “earthquake” moment of discovery. For many women, the next stage is worse in a different way: an emotional rollercoaster that can flip from rage to numbness to grief in a single day. If you’ve been thinking, “I don’t feel like myself,” we want you to hear this clearly: that whiplash can be a normal trauma response, not a personal failure. We break down the psychoeducation behind betrayal trauma and infidelity recovery, especially the idea of attachment trauma. When the person who was supposed to be your safe place becomes the source of danger, your brain starts scanning for safety nonstop. That can show up as spiraling thoughts, constant checking for reassurance, and very real body symptoms like poor sleep, appetite changes, clenched jaw, tight chest, and living on high alert. We talk through anger as protection, grief as the deeper truth underneath, and why tears and numbness can feel shameful even when they’re doing important work. We also get practical about what helps when you still have a job, kids, school, and life to manage. We discuss choosing safe support, setting boundaries around unsafe conversations, and using simple grounding tools to ride the waves: holding onto something, deep breathing, releasing tension through a scream in the car, and giving yourself permission to step away when it’s “not now.” If this resonated, subscribe, share this with someone who needs steadier ground, and leave a review with the one feeling you want help naming next. Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  4. Jun 16

    Hey Girl!

    The fastest way to lose yourself is to live under a label you didn’t choose. We talk about why “what it means to be a woman” can feel so heavy, and how disqualifying messages from family of origin, culture, school, and church can quietly shape your choices, your relationships, and even your private coping strategies. We get personal about the molds we grew up with: pressure to be tough and take up space, pressure to be quiet and polished, pressure to smile while ignoring what you feel. Then we connect the dots to the hidden places many women run when real life feels too tight to breathe in, including sexual fantasy, erotic stories, pornography, and other unwanted sexual behavior. Not to shame you, but to help you understand you. Awareness creates options, and options create freedom. From there we slow down and offer a practical path forward: build an identity inventory, name the roles and stereotypes you’ve carried, notice what you rejected to survive, and move those words out of your head and onto paper, paint, or anything tangible. We also reframe “the things that make you different” as gifts and callings, not evidence that you’re wrong. Finally, we look at Genesis and the word ezer, where “helper” means indispensable partner required to achieve the divine commission, a radical vision of women as essential and fully designed on purpose. If this conversation puts words to something you’ve felt for years, share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review so more women can find it. What label are you ready to kick out the door? Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  5. May 19

    Unveiling your true self

    Your personality might not be your personality. Sometimes it’s a survival strategy you perfected in an unsafe home, the version of you that kept the peace, stayed small, made everyone laugh, or never needed anything. Andrea and Kyle pull apart the idea of the "false self and true self," starting with a blunt reality: every child needs to be themselves and to be loved, and when those needs collide, authenticity often gets traded away for attachment and safety. We get specific about what that trade can cost in adulthood: exhaustion, hollowness, confusion about what you actually want, and the nagging sense that the “real you” is trying to come back online. We also name a connection many people feel but rarely say out loud: unwanted sexual behavior, pornography use, hookups, and fantasy can become an escape hatch when you’re still living from a protective persona. If fantasy offers control, quick dopamine, or the feeling of being seen, there’s a story underneath, not a verdict about your worth. From there, we shift into what healing can look like when safety comes first. We talk about curiosity without judgment, noticing condemning voices, and letting Jesus meet the parts of you that learned to hide.  If this resonates, subscribe, share this with a friend who’s tired of surviving, and leave a review so more people can find Sacred By Design. Resources: Transformed Into Fire, Judith Hougen Path Through the Wilderness, Chapter TwoThe Dream of YouSpiritual Gifts SurveySend us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  6. Apr 28

    Essential Steps To Marriage Recovery Part 2

    A hidden struggle doesn’t just hurt you; it quietly rewrites your marriage. James Craig sits down with spiritual coaches Ann Donahue and Aaron Tagert to talk about one of the most loaded questions in sexual addiction recovery and marriage healing: what if my spouse doesn’t want to hear confession, or I’m convinced they’ll reject me if they really know me? We walk through practical recovery steps for husbands in recovery (and anyone navigating sexual brokenness): why secrecy keeps you stuck, why “what isn’t known can’t be healed,” and how shame turns mistakes into identity. Ann and Aaron explain what betrayal trauma can look like in a spouse’s body and mind, why empathy matters more than speeches, and why sobriety is only the baseline for rebuilding trust. We also dig into boundaries as protection, not punishment, and how consistent actions create real safety over time. Then we get concrete with check-ins. Aaron shares the FANOS framework (Feelings, Affirmation, Needs, Ownership, Sobriety) as a structured weekly rhythm that helps couples repair ruptures, grow emotional honesty, and rebuild attachment after betrayal. Lastly, we discuss how a full therapeutic disclosure and couples-centered recovery can give a marriage its best fighting chance for restoration, intimacy, and long-term healing. If this resonates, listen through, share it with someone who needs a path forward, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. After you listen, would you leave a review and tell us what part of honesty feels hardest right now? Resources from this episode: 5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery PDF Awaken check-in FAQs Becoming Whole Podcast: Aaron Tagert & Lyshel Burket on check-ins FANOS R2M Application Becoming Whole Podcast: Disclosures Send us Fan Mail Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  7. Apr 14

    Essential Steps to Marriage Recovery

    What if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by‑play, and how to honor both integrity and nervous system safety at the same time. We walk through five essential steps for real recovery. It starts with getting help: a community that tells the truth, content that explains the roots beneath behavior, and coaching or counseling that brings the story into the light. If your spouse knows nothing, we explain how to disclose with care and name what’s changing so the truth arrives with a plan. We emphasize support for the betrayed partner, groups, trauma‑wise guidance, and structure that restores daily stability. Then we outline how brief, scheduled check‑ins reduce dread and build credibility through consistent action rather than desperate, reactive confession. If you’re ready to trade secrecy for integrity and fear for honest repair, this conversation is your roadmap. Listen, share it with someone who needs hope, and subscribe for part two as we unpack the remaining steps. If this helped you, leave a review and tell us what question you want answered next. Resources: 5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

  8. Mar 31

    Betrayal Recovery: Unstuck & Unfiltered

    Betrayal doesn’t just break trust, it breaks your inner compass. One day you’re functioning, the next you’re asking, “Am I healing or am I stuck?” and you can’t even tell which way is up. We sit down with Tammy Gustafson, therapist and betrayed partner, to get painfully clear about the predictable places women get stuck after infidelity, pornography use, and other sexual integrity breaches, and what actually helps you start moving again. We dig into a distinction that can instantly reduce shame: your healing is not the same as his healing, and it’s not the same as relationship healing. When he’s not doing the work, the marriage may be stuck, but that doesn’t mean you are. From there we talk through the most common traps, including self-blame that targets your body or your sex life, the pressure to manage his emotions, and the power imbalance that makes “fairness” a misleading framework after betrayal trauma. We also go straight at two faith-community hot buttons: forgiveness and anger. Tammy explains why “forgive and forget” can shut the process down, why forgiveness and trust come after truth and grief, and why anger, expressed safely, is often the doorway back to self-worth and strong boundaries. If you’ve been trying to be the “good wife” while your nervous system is screaming, you’ll feel seen here. If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs language for what she’s going through, and leave a review so more betrayed partners can find support. Links: Website: https://tammygustafson.com Book: Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

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We’re diving deep into topics like desire, sexual integrity, relational healing, and so much more. Get ready for honest, safe conversations with women, about women. Together let's do the important work of connecting your sexual struggle to your story to God. Your sexuality is, in fact, Sacred by Design

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  • Creator
    Regeneration Ministries
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    73
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Sacred by Design
  • Show Website
    Sacred by Design

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