Sacred by Design

Regeneration Ministries
  • 5.0 (12)
  • Christianity
  • Updated Bimonthly

We’re diving deep into topics like desire, sexual integrity, relational healing, and so much more. Get ready for honest, safe conversations with women, about women. Together let's do the important work of connecting your sexual struggle to your story to God. Your sexuality is, in fact, Sacred by Design

  1. 2d ago

    Betrayal’s Emotional Rollercoaster

    Betrayal doesn’t end after the “earthquake” moment of discovery. For many women, the next stage is worse in a different way: an emotional rollercoaster that can flip from rage to numbness to grief in a single day. If you’ve been thinking, “I don’t feel like myself,” we want you to hear this clearly: that whiplash can be a normal trauma response, not a personal failure. We break down the psychoeducation behind betrayal trauma and infidelity recovery, especially the idea of attachment trauma. When the person who was supposed to be your safe place becomes the source of danger, your brain starts scanning for safety nonstop. That can show up as spiraling thoughts, constant checking for reassurance, and very real body symptoms like poor sleep, appetite changes, clenched jaw, tight chest, and living on high alert. We talk through anger as protection, grief as the deeper truth underneath, and why tears and numbness can feel shameful even when they’re doing important work. We also get practical about what helps when you still have a job, kids, school, and life to manage. We discuss choosing safe support, setting boundaries around unsafe conversations, and using simple grounding tools to ride the waves: holding onto something, deep breathing, releasing tension through a scream in the car, and giving yourself permission to step away when it’s “not now.” If this resonated, subscribe, share this with someone who needs steadier ground, and leave a review with the one feeling you want help naming next. Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    30 min

  2. Jun 16

    Hey Girl!

    The fastest way to lose yourself is to live under a label you didn’t choose. We talk about why “what it means to be a woman” can feel so heavy, and how disqualifying messages from family of origin, culture, school, and church can quietly shape your choices, your relationships, and even your private coping strategies. We get personal about the molds we grew up with: pressure to be tough and take up space, pressure to be quiet and polished, pressure to smile while ignoring what you feel. Then we connect the dots to the hidden places many women run when real life feels too tight to breathe in, including sexual fantasy, erotic stories, pornography, and other unwanted sexual behavior. Not to shame you, but to help you understand you. Awareness creates options, and options create freedom. From there we slow down and offer a practical path forward: build an identity inventory, name the roles and stereotypes you’ve carried, notice what you rejected to survive, and move those words out of your head and onto paper, paint, or anything tangible. We also reframe “the things that make you different” as gifts and callings, not evidence that you’re wrong. Finally, we look at Genesis and the word ezer, where “helper” means indispensable partner required to achieve the divine commission, a radical vision of women as essential and fully designed on purpose. If this conversation puts words to something you’ve felt for years, share it with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review so more women can find it. What label are you ready to kick out the door? Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    27 min

  3. May 19

    Unveiling your true self

    Your personality might not be your personality. Sometimes it’s a survival strategy you perfected in an unsafe home, the version of you that kept the peace, stayed small, made everyone laugh, or never needed anything. Andrea and Kyle pull apart the idea of the "false self and true self," starting with a blunt reality: every child needs to be themselves and to be loved, and when those needs collide, authenticity often gets traded away for attachment and safety. We get specific about what that trade can cost in adulthood: exhaustion, hollowness, confusion about what you actually want, and the nagging sense that the “real you” is trying to come back online. We also name a connection many people feel but rarely say out loud: unwanted sexual behavior, pornography use, hookups, and fantasy can become an escape hatch when you’re still living from a protective persona. If fantasy offers control, quick dopamine, or the feeling of being seen, there’s a story underneath, not a verdict about your worth. From there, we shift into what healing can look like when safety comes first. We talk about curiosity without judgment, noticing condemning voices, and letting Jesus meet the parts of you that learned to hide.  If this resonates, subscribe, share this with a friend who’s tired of surviving, and leave a review so more people can find Sacred By Design. Resources: Transformed Into Fire, Judith Hougen Path Through the Wilderness, Chapter TwoThe Dream of YouSpiritual Gifts SurveySend us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    37 min

  4. Apr 28

    Essential Steps To Marriage Recovery Part 2

    A hidden struggle doesn’t just hurt you; it quietly rewrites your marriage. James Craig sits down with spiritual coaches Ann Donahue and Aaron Tagert to talk about one of the most loaded questions in sexual addiction recovery and marriage healing: what if my spouse doesn’t want to hear confession, or I’m convinced they’ll reject me if they really know me? We walk through practical recovery steps for husbands in recovery (and anyone navigating sexual brokenness): why secrecy keeps you stuck, why “what isn’t known can’t be healed,” and how shame turns mistakes into identity. Ann and Aaron explain what betrayal trauma can look like in a spouse’s body and mind, why empathy matters more than speeches, and why sobriety is only the baseline for rebuilding trust. We also dig into boundaries as protection, not punishment, and how consistent actions create real safety over time. Then we get concrete with check-ins. Aaron shares the FANOS framework (Feelings, Affirmation, Needs, Ownership, Sobriety) as a structured weekly rhythm that helps couples repair ruptures, grow emotional honesty, and rebuild attachment after betrayal. Lastly, we discuss how a full therapeutic disclosure and couples-centered recovery can give a marriage its best fighting chance for restoration, intimacy, and long-term healing. If this resonates, listen through, share it with someone who needs a path forward, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. After you listen, would you leave a review and tell us what part of honesty feels hardest right now? Resources from this episode: 5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery PDF Awaken check-in FAQs Becoming Whole Podcast: Aaron Tagert & Lyshel Burket on check-ins FANOS R2M Application Becoming Whole Podcast: Disclosures Send us Fan Mail Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    42 min

  5. Apr 14

    Essential Steps to Marriage Recovery

    What if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by‑play, and how to honor both integrity and nervous system safety at the same time. We walk through five essential steps for real recovery. It starts with getting help: a community that tells the truth, content that explains the roots beneath behavior, and coaching or counseling that brings the story into the light. If your spouse knows nothing, we explain how to disclose with care and name what’s changing so the truth arrives with a plan. We emphasize support for the betrayed partner, groups, trauma‑wise guidance, and structure that restores daily stability. Then we outline how brief, scheduled check‑ins reduce dread and build credibility through consistent action rather than desperate, reactive confession. If you’re ready to trade secrecy for integrity and fear for honest repair, this conversation is your roadmap. Listen, share it with someone who needs hope, and subscribe for part two as we unpack the remaining steps. If this helped you, leave a review and tell us what question you want answered next. Resources: 5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    35 min

  6. Mar 31

    Betrayal Recovery: Unstuck & Unfiltered

    Betrayal doesn’t just break trust, it breaks your inner compass. One day you’re functioning, the next you’re asking, “Am I healing or am I stuck?” and you can’t even tell which way is up. We sit down with Tammy Gustafson, therapist and betrayed partner, to get painfully clear about the predictable places women get stuck after infidelity, pornography use, and other sexual integrity breaches, and what actually helps you start moving again. We dig into a distinction that can instantly reduce shame: your healing is not the same as his healing, and it’s not the same as relationship healing. When he’s not doing the work, the marriage may be stuck, but that doesn’t mean you are. From there we talk through the most common traps, including self-blame that targets your body or your sex life, the pressure to manage his emotions, and the power imbalance that makes “fairness” a misleading framework after betrayal trauma. We also go straight at two faith-community hot buttons: forgiveness and anger. Tammy explains why “forgive and forget” can shut the process down, why forgiveness and trust come after truth and grief, and why anger, expressed safely, is often the doorway back to self-worth and strong boundaries. If you’ve been trying to be the “good wife” while your nervous system is screaming, you’ll feel seen here. If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs language for what she’s going through, and leave a review so more betrayed partners can find support. Links: Website: https://tammygustafson.com Book: Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    44 min

  7. Mar 17

    Reclaiming Desire

    Redeeming Desire: Listening to the Ache and Meeting God There In this episode, we discuss how desire has been distorted by both a culture that says to gratify it and religious voices that say to shut it down, and invite a more careful, redeemed view.  Desire is described as a deep ache that tells the truth about what the heart longs for, not simply a problem to manage with pornography, fantasy, erotic literature, or even as a tool to prepare for sex in marriage. We are encouraged to approach desire with kind curiosity, notice shame or anger, and ask what the desire is communicating about intimacy with God and with others.  We encourage you to share this with someone who may need it, and reach out with questions or for help engaging this topic. Links: Rethinking Sexuality - Dr. Juli Slattery Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    29 min

  8. Mar 3

    The Gift of Imagination

    Ever notice how fantasy shows up right when you feel most alone? We get honest about why sexual fantasy feels comforting, why it keeps you stuck, and how to turn your mind from a private escape hatch into a place of healing and creativity. Without shaming or quick fixes, we walk through a simple “gift box” framework—unwrap, look inside, reach in—that helps you name the storyline, locate the deeper need for intimacy, and invite Jesus into the places that feel most secret. We start by defining fantasy clearly and kindly, acknowledging the real needs it tries to soothe. Then we slow down together: What’s the setting of your go-to story? Who holds power? What does your body do as you approach it? With insights from Jay Stringer’s research on unwanted sexual behavior, we explore how fantasy often attempts to reverse or reinforce old wounds, and why grieving those wounds loosens fantasy’s grip. Along the way, we distinguish reactive fantasy from creative imagination, and we practice turning imagination toward goodness and beauty. If your heart wants connection more than escape, this conversation offers a kind map back to intimacy, wholeness, and holy imagination. Press play, try the steps, and if you’re ready for support, reach out—we’d love to sit with you in the sacred space of being known. If this resonated, subscribe, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more people can find their way from secrecy to healing. Resources: Janice McWilliams - Restore My Soul Jay Stringer - Unwanted Sexual Behavior Assessment  Send us Fan Mail We are excited to announce that we will be releasing new content on two different days. On Tuesdays, we will focus on women and unwanted sexual behaviors. And the next week, on Wednesdays, we focus on women impacted, recovering, and healing from betrayal trauma. Tune into one or both; either way, we pray it will bring healing and hope! Contact us today: If you have a question, comment, or need help, email us at info@regenerationministries.org Free Resources for you! 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

    26 min
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We’re diving deep into topics like desire, sexual integrity, relational healing, and so much more. Get ready for honest, safe conversations with women, about women. Together let's do the important work of connecting your sexual struggle to your story to God. Your sexuality is, in fact, Sacred by Design

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  • Creator
    Regeneration Ministries
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Sacred by Design
  • Show Website
    Sacred by Design

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