Try Not To Overthink It

Try Not to Overthink It
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Hello everyone and welcome to Try not to Overthink it! We’re three professional individuals just trying to navigate through this chaotic thing we call "life" and try to make sense of it. We find ourselves discussing many different topics, and after many heated debates we decided to expand our conversations and share them with you and hopefully get your input. We would like to thank you for checking us out and we hope that you’ll stay and participate in the conversations as well.

  1. 4d ago

    Episode 119 Matching Energy Is Just Revenge With Better Branding

    Hey it's Kalhil and RJ! 🔥 MATCHING ENERGY SOUNDS FAIR… BUT IS IT COSTING YOU YOUR PEACE?“If they switch up, I switch up.”“If they stop trying, I stop trying.”“I’m just matching their energy.”But here’s the question nobody asks: If somebody else’s behavior determines YOUR behavior… whose energy are you actually living in? 👀In this episode, we’re breaking down why matching energy isn’t always maturity—it can be giving someone else control over who you become.If you’re naturally loving, loyal, respectful, and intentional, you don’t have to become cold, petty, or inconsistent just because someone else does. Let people reveal who they are without allowing them to change who YOU are.We’re talking boundaries, emotional maturity, protecting your peace, handling disrespect, and learning the difference between matching energy and adjusting access.💬 What do you think: Should you match people’s energy—or simply change their access to you?Drop your answer in the comments and send this episode to somebody who needs to hear it.✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel. #MatchingEnergy #ProtectYourPeace #MentalHealth #EmotionalMaturity #Boundaries #SelfRespect #Relationships #PersonalGrowth #podcast Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  2. Sep 4

    Episode 118 You Got Too Comfortable Disrespecting Me

    Hey it's Kalhil and RJ! At some point, you have to stop giving people unlimited opportunities to disrespect you just because you love them, have history with them, or keep hoping they'll eventually change.But here's the real question: How do you handle disrespect without becoming disrespectful yourself?In this episode, we're having a raw and honest conversation about HANDLING DISRESPECT—because protecting your peace doesn't mean becoming a punching bag, and standing up for yourself doesn't require you to crash out.We’re talking about:🔥 Why you don't always need to “match their energy”🚧 Setting boundaries without seeking revenge💯 Why being the bigger person DOESN'T mean tolerating disrespect👀 Knowing the difference between a mistake and a pattern🗣️ When disrespect needs to be confronted🚪 When it's time to stop explaining and start walking away🙏🏾 Why forgiveness DOESN'T automatically restore access❤️ Loving someone while recognizing they may no longer belong in your life🎯 Why sometimes the disrespect itself IS the closureHere's something a lot of us learn the hard way:Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt when the pattern has removed all doubt.Everybody can make a mistake. But when you've clearly communicated what hurts you, established the boundary, and they continue doing it anyway—that's no longer a misunderstanding.That's information.And once somebody shows you how little they respect your boundaries, you have a decision to make:Are you going to keep arguing for respect…or are you going to change their access to you?Because forgiveness can be free.ACCESS IS EARNED.✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel. Remember: How someone disrespects you reveals their character. How you respond reveals yours.#HandlingDisrespect #Disrespect #SelfRespect #Boundaries #ProtectYourPeace #MentalHealth #Relationships #Healing #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence #KnowYourWorth #HealthyRelationships Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  3. Aug 28

    Episode 117 The Right Person Won’t Require the Wrong Version of You ❤️

    Hey it's Kalhil and RJ! the right person isn’t just about chemistry, attraction, or how good things feel in the beginning. It’s about finding someone whose values, communication, effort, intentions, and vision for the future actually align with yours.In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about what it really means to choose the right person—and why sometimes the person you desperately want isn’t necessarily the person you need.We’re talking about compatibility vs. chemistry, recognizing red flags, emotional maturity, reciprocity, knowing when to walk away, and becoming the kind of person capable of maintaining the healthy relationship you say you want.Because the right person won’t make you constantly question where you stand. They won’t require you to abandon your boundaries, shrink yourself, or beg for the bare minimum.Sometimes finding the right person starts with finally having the courage to stop entertaining the wrong ones.🔥 Question of the episode: What tells you that someone is truly the right person for you?✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel.Because real growth starts with real #TheRightPerson #Relationships #DatingAdvice #MentalHealth #HealthyRelationships #SelfWorth #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #healing Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  4. Aug 21

    Episode 116 Let's Be Honest… 🔥

    Hey it's Unique and RJ! Honest Conversations Can Change Everything... If You're Willing to Have Them. In a world where people avoid difficult conversations, we're choosing to lean into them.In this episode, we're talking about the power of honest conversations—the ones that challenge us, strengthen relationships, expose uncomfortable truths, and ultimately help us grow. Whether it's with your partner, your friends, your family, your coworkers, or even yourself, avoiding the truth almost always creates bigger problems down the road.🔥 In this episode, we discuss:Why people avoid honest conversationsThe difference between honesty and being hurtfulHow uncomfortable conversations build stronger relationshipsWhy accountability is an act of loveThe cost of silence and unspoken expectationsHow to disagree without disrespecting one anotherSometimes the conversation you're avoiding is the very one that can change your life.💭 Question of the Day:What's one honest conversation you've been putting off—and what's stopping you from having it?Drop your thoughts in the comments. We want to hear your perspective, and as always, let's keep the discussion respectful.✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel.Because real growth starts with real conversations.#HonestConversations #Podcast #Communication #Relationships #SelfGrowth #PersonalDevelopment #Leadership #MentalHealth #Truth #Accountability #LifeLessons #Conversation #Growth #RealTalk #MotivationPlease follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  5. Aug 14

    Episode 115 Culture, Clothing, & College

    Hey it's Kalhil, Unique, and RJ! 🚨 Colleges Are BANNING Bonnets & Durags… Is This Professionalism or Policing Culture? 🤔The internet is divided, and we're diving headfirst into one of the hottest debates on college campuses today.Should colleges have the right to ban bonnets, durags, pajamas, and other forms of casual attire? Is this about promoting professionalism and preparing students for the workforce—or is it unfairly targeting cultural expression and personal freedom?In this episode, we unpack both sides of the argument and tackle the bigger questions:🎓 Should colleges enforce dress codes?👑 Are bonnets and durags cultural symbols or simply sleepwear?💼 Does appearance impact opportunity and first impressions?⚖️ Where's the line between professionalism and personal expression?🔥 Are these policies creating discipline... or unnecessary division?This isn't just about bonnets and durags—it's about identity, accountability, expectations, and what it really means to prepare students for life after college.💬 We want to hear from YOU!Should colleges be able to ban bonnets and durags on campus, or should students be free to wear what they choose?👇 Drop your thoughts in the comments and let's have a respectful conversation.✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel.#Bonnets #Durags #CollegeLife #DressCode #Professionalism #BlackCulture #CampusLife #Podcast #Debate #Culture #StudentLife #Trending #Viral #RespectabilityPolitics #selfexpression Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  6. Aug 7

    Episode 114 Stop Wasting the Doors You Prayed For

    Hey it's Kalhil and RJ! What’s the point of praying for an opportunity if you’re not prepared to take advantage of it when it comes?Opportunities don’t always arrive perfectly packaged. Sometimes they look like uncomfortable conversations, unexpected challenges, new responsibilities, closed chapters, or chances that require you to move before you feel completely ready.In this episode, we’re talking about making the most of the opportunities in front of you—recognizing when a door has opened, overcoming the fear that keeps you from walking through it, and understanding that getting the opportunity is only the beginning. What you DO with it determines what happens next.We’ll discuss preparation, timing, fear, complacency, growth, accountability, and why some of the biggest opportunities of your life may require you to become a version of yourself you haven’t met yet.Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Stop talking yourself out of possibilities. And most importantly, don’t fumble the opportunity you once prayed for.🎙️ Watch the full conversation and ask yourself: If the opportunity you’ve been waiting for showed up today… would you be ready?✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel.#MakingTheMostOfOpportunities #PersonalGrowth #Motivation #MentalHealth #SelfImprovement #SuccessMindset #GrowthMindset #Accountability #Purpose #opportunity Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  7. Jul 31

    Episode 113 Demand Better or Stay Disappointed

    Hey it's Unique and RJ! Are you demanding better... or are you settling for what you know you shouldn't accept?Too often, we convince ourselves that asking for more is selfish, unrealistic, or asking too much. The truth is, your standards shape your relationships, your career, your friendships, and ultimately the life you build.In this episode, we dive into what it really means to demand better—not from a place of entitlement, but from a place of self-respect. We'll discuss why people often accept the bare minimum, how low standards become normalized, and why raising your expectations can transform every area of your life.We'll also explore:Why people treat you according to what you consistently allow.The difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations.Why setting boundaries often makes the wrong people uncomfortable.How demanding better starts with demanding more from yourself.Why walking away from less creates room for something greater.If you've ever struggled with settling, questioning your worth, or wondering whether you're asking for too much, this conversation is for you.💬 Join the conversation: What's one area of your life where you've decided to stop settling and start demanding better? Share your thoughts in the comments below.✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel.#DemandBetter #SelfRespect #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships #Communication #Leadership #Mindset #SelfWorth Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

  8. Jul 24

    Episode 112 Move in Silence

    Hey it's Unique and RJ! In a world where everyone feels the need to post every move, every relationship, every win, and every setback... we've forgotten the power of keeping some things to ourselves.Not everyone deserves access to your life.In this episode, we're unpacking why privacy is one of the most underrated forms of self-care and self-protection. From relationships and friendships to business, goals, finances, and social media, we'll discuss why moving in silence isn't about hiding—it's about protecting your peace, your purpose, and your progress.💭 In this episode, we'll cover:*Why everyone doesn't need to know your business*The difference between being private and being secretive*How oversharing can sabotage your goals and relationships*Setting healthy boundaries without feeling guilty*Why successful people often move in silence*Protecting your peace in the age of social media*Who deserves access to your personal life—and who doesn't🔥 Remember: Just because people ask doesn't mean they're entitled to an answer. Sometimes your next move is safest when it's made quietly.👇 Join the conversation:Do you think people overshare on social media, or is transparency always the best policy? Drop your thoughts in the comments—we want to hear from you!✨ Our hope is that our audience will get something from this deep, honest, and real conversation from the viewpoint of both a Licensed Professional Counselors and a Licensed Social Worker. If you want to watch this episode we can be found at Try Not To Overthink it on Youtube. If you happen to stop by the Youtube channel please like, share, turn on your notifications, and subscribe to the channel.#Privacy #Boundaries #ProtectYourPeace #SelfGrowth #MentalHealth #Relationships #PersonalDevelopment #LifeAdvice #Podcast #MoveInSilence #SelfRespect #HealthyBoundaries #EmotionalIntelligence #GrowthMindset #youtubepodcast Please follow us on both Instagram as well as TikTok. Links are below Instagraminstagram.com/ trynot2overthinkitTiktoktiktok.com/@trynottooverthink_it

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Hello everyone and welcome to Try not to Overthink it! We’re three professional individuals just trying to navigate through this chaotic thing we call "life" and try to make sense of it. We find ourselves discussing many different topics, and after many heated debates we decided to expand our conversations and share them with you and hopefully get your input. We would like to thank you for checking us out and we hope that you’ll stay and participate in the conversations as well.

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  • Creator
    Try Not to Overthink It
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    124
  • Rating
    Explicit
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