The Conscious Love Show

Shane Kohler
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Most relationship advice will tell you what to do differently. This show will tell you why you keep doing what you do — and what it's actually costing you. Every week Shane Kohler brings direct, unfiltered insight into the psychology of love, attraction, and commitment. No validation. No generic advice. Just honest conversations about the unconscious patterns driving your relationships and what it actually takes to change them. This isn't a show about finding the right person. It's about becoming someone who can recognize them, choose them, and build something real with them. New episodes every week. Take the Relational Blueprint Quiz at inspiredloveapproach.com/blueprint to find out which pattern has been quietly running your love life.

  1. 6d ago

    Should I Tell Him How I Feel? Wanting Commitment, Wrecking It, and Running From It

    Commitment shows up in more ways than we usually admit — in what we demand from someone, in what we accidentally scare away, and in what we ourselves keep avoiding. This week we work with audience questions that explore all three: do we ask for more than what's being offered? Does honesty and vulnerability destabilize a connection? And what does it really mean when someone can't seem to fully commit, even when everything looks right? At the center of it all is the question so many people are quietly sitting with: do you say how you feel, or do you stay silent and hope it's enough? Grab your spot in The Blueprint Experience: 5 Day Immersion beginning September 14th To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here. To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com

  2. Aug 19

    The 5 Ways Men Love — And the Only One That Actually Matters

    To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here.   To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com My wife recently shared that every relationship she had before ours feels insignificant by comparison. That what she thought love was back then just wasn't really love at all. I understood exactly what she meant — because I feel the same way. In today's episode I'm breaking down the four types of love, why most of them lead nowhere, and what the only starting point capable of becoming lasting love actually looks like. If you've ever wondered why the most intense connections seem to burn out the fastest, or why the quieter path to love might actually be the more real one, this episode is for you.

  3. Aug 12

    Shane's Diary Entry #9: My Life Story Part 1

    To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here.   To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com For my most dedicated listeners — the ones who have been here since the beginning and want to know the full context behind this work — this is the complete story. From my birth to the birth of my daughter, to be released in monthly installments over the next few months. I've shared pieces of it over the years. This is the first time I'm sharing all of it — including the parts I've never shared before. Join me through the journey of my conditioning, my liberation, and ultimately my creation.

  4. Aug 5

    The 4 Childhood Experiences That Explain Why Men Don't Choose You

    To Book Sessions Directly with Shane, Click Here.   To take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, Click Here. To book a personalized Blueprint Audit with a member of my team, Click Here.   Send all questions for the monthly Q and A session to info@thelivingrelationship.com   There's a pattern running your relationships right now and you didn't choose it. You learned it before you were old enough to evaluate whether what you were learning was true. And here's what makes it so hard to change — it's not that you don't know it's there. Most women who carry these patterns have read the books, done the therapy, understand the concept. The problem is that the pattern doesn't live in your intellect. It lives in your nervous system. And knowing something is there doesn't automatically give you the ability to move. Today I'm sharing the four childhood experiences that create the four Relational Blueprints — the origin stories behind why you do what you do with men, why certain patterns keep repeating no matter how hard you try, and what it actually takes to change them. By the end of this episode you'll know which one is yours. And knowing where the stake was placed is the first step toward finally being able to pull it out.

  5. Jul 29

    The Real Reason He Keeps Coming Back But Never Commits

    To take the Quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint, click here. To book a private session with Shane, click here. Please send all questions for next month's Q&A episode to info@thelivingrelationship.com   This week's episode is a Q&A, built around three listener questions that all circle the same painful, familiar territory: trying to read a man who won't give you a straight answer. The first question comes from a woman navigating a six-year, on-and-off connection with a man who disappears for months at a time, then resurfaces with an intense day or two before vanishing again — leaving her wondering whether he's genuinely interested or simply enjoys the attention when it's convenient. The second comes from a 47-year-old woman who recognizes she's stuck in an old, anxious pattern — one where she gives her power away and accepts far less than she actually wants, currently playing out in a relationship with a man unwilling to commit. The third comes from a woman who keeps encountering the same frustrating pattern in dating: men pursue her hard in the beginning, only to pull back a few months in, concluding they don't see a future — leaving her questioning what she might be doing wrong, even though nothing about her has changed. Shane breaks down what's really happening beneath each of these situations — the difference between chemistry and commitment, why inconsistency so often gets mistaken for depth, and how to stop trying to decode a man's behavior and start trusting what it's already telling you.

  6. Jul 22

    How Not to Be A Doormat with Erin and Sara Foster

    Click here to take the quiz and discover your Relational Blueprint   I met with Erin and Sarah Foster — the real-life sisters behind Netflix's Nobody Wants This — for a wide-ranging conversation on the most potent relationship challenges we all face and a powerful breakdown of my Relational Blueprint system. Listen to the full episode. Click below to listen on Apple or Spotify or search for The World's First Podcast on any major platform and look for the episode "How Not To Be a Doormat" Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify

  7. Jul 15

    What Men Notice About a Woman Before She Even Says a Word

    Take the Blueprint Quiz here to discover your Relational Blueprint and get your personalized breakdown.   There's a version of dating advice that tells you exactly what to say, when to say it, and how to say it. And there's a reason none of it works. Because what he's responding to has almost nothing to do with your words. Before you've finished your first sentence he's already picked up something about you that no script can manufacture and no strategy can fake. And that something determines everything — whether he leans in or pulls back, whether he takes you seriously or keeps things casual, whether he sees a future or just a moment. This episode is about what he's actually reading. And more importantly — what you can do about it.

  8. Jul 8

    If He's Not Afraid of Commitment, Why Her and Not You

    You watched him leave. And then you watched him move on — faster than you expected, happier than you thought he'd be, with someone who seems to be everything you thought you were supposed to be to him. And the question that's been living in the back of your mind ever since is a simple one. Why her and not me. This episode is designed to answer that question. Because the relationship came into your life for a reason. When you really understand what that reason is, everything else that happened will make sense too.

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Most relationship advice will tell you what to do differently. This show will tell you why you keep doing what you do — and what it's actually costing you. Every week Shane Kohler brings direct, unfiltered insight into the psychology of love, attraction, and commitment. No validation. No generic advice. Just honest conversations about the unconscious patterns driving your relationships and what it actually takes to change them. This isn't a show about finding the right person. It's about becoming someone who can recognize them, choose them, and build something real with them. New episodes every week. Take the Relational Blueprint Quiz at inspiredloveapproach.com/blueprint to find out which pattern has been quietly running your love life.

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  • Creator
    Shane Kohler
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2022 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    The Conscious Love Show

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