The REALationship Method

Chris Lomboy
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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

  1. 4d ago

    Drug Addiction, Military Spouse Reality, and Authenticity w/ Yani

    Send us Fan Mail A DM can change your life if you send it with respect and a real purpose. We link up with Yani, a military spouse, mom, and content creator who keeps it unfiltered about what it takes to build a stable home while your zip code keeps changing. From upstate New York to Hawaii, we talk about why travel and culture can be a bigger “flex” for kids than clothes, cars, or clout, and how military family life can create resilient, curious children when the adults stay grounded.  We also go deep on parenting in real time: good cop bad cop dynamics, being firm without being cruel, and the mom guilt that shows up when your own childhood was full of chaos. Yanni shares what trauma-informed parenting looks like in practice, including repairing after you lose your cool and setting hard boundaries with family members who try to rewrite your story to your kids. If you’re navigating co-parenting, blended families, or protecting your peace, you’ll hear strategies you can use today.  Then we get into addiction recovery, being judged for old chapters, and why honesty beats secrecy when it comes to teen drug education. We talk harm reduction, fentanyl risk, and how to create a home where your kids call you instead of hiding. We close with social media truth, handling hate comments, content creation tips, and relationship topics like cheating and microcheating. If you got value from this, subscribe, share it with a parent or creator who needs it, and leave a review with the biggest takeaway you’re applying this week. • why a clear, respectful DM gets a yes • military spouse reality from New York to Hawaii and what kids gain from moving • good cop bad cop parenting and backing each other up • trauma-informed parenting and repairing after you snap • addiction, relapse, health consequences, and rebuilding trust • how to talk to teens about drugs without shame and with safety • cutting off family who poison your kids’ view of you • being authentic online, handling hate comments, and growing as a creator • cheating, microcheating, and why delivery changes everything

  2. Oct 20

    Standards, Situationships & Single Motherhood: Dating in 2026 with Kirsten

    Send us Fan Mail Ghosting, double taps, bar banter, and “I know my worth” quotes can all sound harmless until you’re the one trying to date with real responsibilities. We sit down with Kirsten Ortiz, a single mom and fitness coach, and get honest about what modern dating actually feels like when your time is limited, your standards are higher, and your child comes first. We talk about the unspoken rules of DMs, how people avoid ending conversations, and what respect looks like both online and in person. Then we jump into the bar scene: how to read body language, how humor and confidence can matter more than looks, and why pushy energy (especially with alcohol) is an instant turnoff. If you’ve ever wondered whether you should “try again” with someone later in the night, we break down when that’s playful and when it’s just pressure. From there, we go deep on dating as a single mom: when to tell someone you have kids, how to think about introductions, and why maturity is non negotiable for anyone stepping into your world. We also dig into red flags, emotional safety, money habits, the reality of 50-50, dating apps like Hinge, and whether situationships are real dating or commitment without accountability. Kirsten closes with advice for her younger self and a message to single moms about self care, support systems, and finding community. If this conversation helps you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. What’s your biggest dating boundary right now? •DM etiquette and why people leave others on seen •How to end conversations without being rude •Reading body language at the bar and knowing when to walk away •Dating as a single mom vs being a single mom •When to tell someone you have kids and why honesty filters faster •Why kids can clock weird energy early •Overlooking red flags when you fear being alone •What “I know my worth” means with real communication •Money habits as a non negotiable and the reality of 50-50 •Unrealistic expectations around constant texting and time •Dating apps as a resume and why prompts matter •Situationships and what accountability really looks like

  3. Sep 22

    Strong Bonds, Birthdays, Anniversaries and Marriage with Tiffany

    Send us Fan Mail A marriage can be strong and still need a reset, and we prove it with a week that packs in everything: a Strong Bonds marriage retreat, Tiff’s birthday, and our 13-year anniversary. We start with the honest stuff, like how mental health can feel like a roller coaster and how we cope without pretending we have it all figured out. Then we get into why doing a retreat or workshop is not a sign something is broken. For us, it is a way to reconnect, compare perspectives, and catch small issues before they turn into big ones. Tiff breaks down what made her birthday hit so deep, from acts of service to the difference between “the usual” and truly feeling seen. We talk love languages, expectations, and why forgetting or minimizing significant days can hurt even when you have done a lot right all year. From there, we pivot into family and parenting, including our trip back to California, the nostalgia of Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk, and watching our kids surprise us with bravery on the rides. We also get real about the tug-of-war between moving back home and protecting the peace we have built for our household. The second half turns into straight relationship advice with our unfiltered Q and A: apologizing first, disagreeing without disrespect, the need for separate interests, what romance looks like after years, emotional intimacy versus physical intimacy, and why “50-50” in marriage is often more myth than math. We also discuss blended family boundaries and step-parent authority, including a tough wedding scenario that raises big questions about loyalty and respect. If you’re navigating a long-term relationship, military marriage stress, parenting, or a blended family, this conversation gives you language, perspective, and a few laughs along the way. Subscribe for more real marriage talk, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review if our stories help you. What part of marriage do you wish people talked about more openly? • mental health check-ins and coping through ups and downs • Strong Bonds marriage retreat takeaways and why growth is healthy • aging, milestones, and the “health is wealth” mindset • love languages, acts of service, and what thoughtfulness looks like • birthdays and anniversaries as acknowledgment not just spending • California family trip, Santa Cruz nostalgia, and kids trying big rides • protecting peace, boundaries, and the fantasy of moving back home • what marriage teaches us about patience, tone, and self-awareness • apologizing first, picking battles, and how conflict escalates • disagreeing without disrespect and keeping separate interests • romance after years, emotional intimacy, and shifting sex drives • why 50-50 is rarely real and how we communicate about fairness • step-parent authority, loyalty, and the wedding scenario that sparks debate

  4. Sep 15

    Behind the Crown: Dating, Love & The REAL You with Charieze

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when you take off the crown, the makeup, the sash, and all the expectations—and just talk about being YOU? In this episode of The REALationship Method, Chris sits down with Charieze, a beauty queen and pageant contestant, to go beyond the crown and get real about dating, love, relationships, standards, expectations, and what it’s like navigating romance while pursuing your goals. We talk about the difference between the person people see on stage and the person behind the scenes, what dating looks like in today’s world, whether having high standards makes dating harder, and how ambition, confidence, and vulnerability can all affect relationships. And of course… we get into the questions you probably wouldn’t hear during a pageant interview. 😂

  5. Sep 2

    Dating on God's Timing with Jes

    Send us Fan Mail Dating advice gets weird fast when everyone assumes you must be “talking to someone” just because you’re seen with a man. So we brought Jess on for her first ever podcast and kept it brutally honest: she’s single, she’s never had an official relationship, and she’s not ashamed of it. We talk about what it’s like to be goal-driven in your early 20s while people treat your love life like a scoreboard, and how a vision-board mindset can turn “one day” into real action.  Jess shares how she balances hospital work as a nurse aide with content creation, modeling, and building a clear personal brand around faith, fitness, self-motivation, and independence. We dig into the difference between posting for fun and treating social media like a platform, plus the dating complications that come with being visible online. If you’ve ever wondered whether social media makes relationships easier or harder, we break down DMs, public assumptions, and the endless drama around likes, follows, and “respect.”  Then we get into the deep stuff: commitment fear, vulnerability, high standards, and why “nice” still doesn’t make someone the right partner. Jess explains how faith shapes her dating boundaries, how values like wanting kids can be deal-breakers, and where she draws the line on physical intimacy without apologizing for it. We also talk Filipino family pressure, education-first parenting, and the drive to become financially stable without losing yourself in love.  If you know someone who’s protecting their peace while still hoping for real love, share this with them, subscribe, and leave a review. What’s one boundary you refuse to compromise on? • vision boards as a practical tool for direction and action • building a personal brand through content creation while working in healthcare • growing up sheltered and choosing family, friends, and goals over dating • high standards, time-wasting filters, and fear of vulnerability in commitment • faith as a guide for dating choices, values, and long-term compatibility • physical intimacy boundaries and the need for emotional safety • balancing college, work, dating, and independence without losing identity • Filipino family expectations, financial pressure, and wanting to support a parent • social media and dating, public assumptions, and what “likes” can mean in a relationship

  6. Aug 18

    More Than His Girlfriend: Fitness, Influence & Finding Your Own Identity with Maka

    Send us Fan Mail People love to talk about “discipline” like it’s just willpower, but the truth is messier: schedules, stress, relationships, and social media all shape how we show up. I sit down with Maka to get real about what it actually takes to protect your me time, stay consistent, and build a career that fits who you’re becoming. We bounce from early mornings and late nights into the deeper stuff: what you owe yourself when life gets busy and nobody’s coming to save your calendar for you.  Maka shares her path through entrepreneurship and career pivots, from beauty and esthetics to re-centering fitness and working toward becoming a certified personal trainer. We talk personal branding, switching niches on social media, losing followers, and the confidence it takes to keep going anyway. If you’ve ever thought about moving away for school or work, her Las Vegas lessons bring a grounded look at money, independence, and rebuilding momentum when plans change.  Then we get into relationship communication, because none of this happens in a vacuum. We dig into accountability, tone, venting versus problem solving, and why “I’m silent because I don’t want it to get worse” can still land like distance. We also talk about body image pressure, “looking the part,” and what it feels like when people see you as someone’s partner before they see you as your own person.  If you’re into relationship advice, fitness mindset, entrepreneurship, and social media boundaries, hit play and take something useful from every chapter. Subscribe for more, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the one communication habit you’re working on right now. • early mornings versus late nights and how we protect quiet time • juggling business, studying, and relationships without burning out • pivoting from esthetics to fitness and rebuilding after losing followers • body image pressure on social media and “looking the part” standards • handling likes, comments, and online conflict without spiraling • communicating truth with better tone and avoiding disrespect • venting versus problem solving and saying what you actually need • being seen as someone’s partner first and staying grounded in your own identity

  7. Aug 11

    'Speak My Language', 10 Day Movement Mission, and Does Heartbreak Make Better Music?, with Kali Flower

    Send us Fan Mail A song can be a postcard from home or it can be a line in the sand. Kali Flower joins us in person for a super real conversation about coming back to Hawaii, feeling that instant reset, and still carrying the pressure of family expectations, big dreams, and a limited window to see everyone you love. We talk about the questions that always pop up when you visit home, how to show up without resenting the schedule, and why protecting your timeline matters when you’re building a life with purpose. We also get into the story behind her new single “Speak My Language” and the 10-day mission to promote it. What starts as a marketing plan turns into something deeper: connecting with people, reclaiming what Hawaii represents, and pushing back on outsiders trying to define the culture. If you’re into independent music, artist branding, music marketing, and real behind-the-scenes industry talk, this one lays it out with zero fluff. Then we go craft and relationships. Kali breaks down her songwriting process, why heartbreak often makes better music than healing, and how world-building shapes what makes the cut for a project. We talk choreography and breath control training, balancing a Sephora day job with late-night performances, and the hard relationship questions artists face: can love survive an artist schedule, is “support” enough, and what boundaries keep you steady with exes and old doors that do not need reopening. We close with discernment, faith, and the difference between a good opportunity and a God opportunity when everything looks tempting. If this conversation hits, subscribe, share it with a friend chasing a dream, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part are you navigating right now: home expectations, career hustle, or relationship boundaries? We sit down with Kali Flower in person and talk through what it means to come home to Hawaii while pushing a new single into the world. We get honest about the grind behind music, the relationships that get tested by ambition, and the choices that keep you aligned when everything looks like an opportunity. • Coming home expectations with family and friends and how to manage the limited time • “Speak My Language” and why the rollout becomes more connection than promotion • Building support as an independent artist and finding resources beyond your hometown • Working a Sephora job while performing and why culture matters more than perks • Songwriting from present emotion and past experience plus rewriting endings for story • Why heartbreak tends to create stronger music and what Saltwater Secrets represents • Dating on an artist schedule and drawing lines between stage persona and real life • Training for choreography and vocals including breath control and cardio • Social media making music easier to release but harder to stand out • Collaboration dynamics, pride, control, and learning to trust a team • The reality behind the “smoke and mirrors” of the music industry and marketing rollout • Boundaries with exes and why intention matters with “harmless” messages • Discernment, prayer, and counsel for choosing the right opportunities

  8. Jul 21

    Behind the Ink: Love, Life & Lowrider Culture with Kayla

    Send us Fan Mail You can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to put on their body and why, but you learn even more when you hear the stories behind it. We link up with Kayla, a Waipahu tattoo artist at Tattoo Crew, a lowrider model, and a mom, for a conversation that bounces from shop life to family life without losing the thread: be real, be intentional, and protect your peace. We talk about the growing wave of AI tattoo design and why so many artists hate it, especially when tattooing is supposed to be about creativity, skill, and personal style. Kayla walks through how she gets into tattooing through ombre brows and an apprenticeship, what a legit tattoo portfolio should show, and why rejection is part of the path if you want to break into the tattoo industry. We also hit the tattoos that age badly, like partner name tattoos, and what makes her excited to work on a piece, especially when a client comes with meaning and a story. Then we open it up: lowrider culture in Hawaii and what it takes to get respect in a tight knit community, motherhood and therapy, making time for self care without guilt, and the hard parenting conversations around bullying, fighting, and accountability. We even get into relationship boundaries like separate bank accounts and whether being friends with an ex ever really stays clean. If you vibe with honest talk and real life lessons, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What topic hit you hardest: tattoos, parenting, or relationship boundaries? • why AI tattoo design feels like a shortcut and how to spot it • how Kayla starts with ombre brows then commits to a tattoo apprenticeship • what to put in a tattoo portfolio and why you will hear no a lot • tattoo red flags like partner name tattoos and trend quotes • what makes a tattoo a green flag for an artist to take on • lowrider modeling in Hawaii and earning respect by loving the culture • patience, therapy, and making guilt free time for yourself as a parent • kids fighting, guns, and why parents have to be accountable • a real bullying story and rules for self defense without starting fights • separate bank accounts, joint savings, and avoiding money fights • staying cordial in blended families while keeping boundaries with exes • handling rumors, name droppers, and weird DMs by protecting your peace

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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

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  • Creator
    Chris Lomboy
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    114
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The REALationship Method
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    The REALationship Method