The REALationship Method

Chris Lomboy
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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

  1. 1D AGO

    Love Frequency, Powerful Women Surrendering and Fake Lifestyles with Mzeye

    Send us Fan Mail “I’ve never felt emotionally safe.” When Mzeye says that out loud, the whole conversation changes. We go from surface-level dating talk straight into what it means to be the strong one for everyone else, how grief reshapes your nervous system, and why “I can do it alone” can quietly turn into a wall you don’t know how to put down.  We unpack attraction versus emotional depth, emotional control versus emotional suppression, and what happens when a partner’s insecurity starts sabotaging something good. Mzeye shares how losing her mother and going through a breakup pushed her to protect her peace, commit to health and fitness, and stop tolerating disrespect. We also talk about modern relationships and social media culture, where looks, surgery, and “baddie” branding can get more attention than actual character, communication, and long-term compatibility.  Then we get practical about hyper independence and love. Yes, powerful women can surrender, but it takes a partner who shows up, handles business, and earns trust through consistent action. Mzeye defines softness in simple terms: being able to sit back, breathe, and know someone’s got you without you having to manage them.  We also get into creativity and building purpose from pain: why she launched her Love Frequency podcast, her take on healing energy and 528 Hz, what it’s like dealing with podcast tech glitches and guest ghosting, and her new intuitive, therapeutic deck focused on accountability, boundaries, and self-love. If you want relationship advice with emotional intelligence and real-life honesty, press play, subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • first attraction through looks, then real connection through depth and conversation • emotional intelligence as expressing feelings rather than suppressing them • disappointment, forgiveness, and why confidence protects the relationship • never feeling emotionally safe and the pressure of being the strong one • coping tools for grief and stress through fitness, health, and positivity • hyper independence online, fake lifestyles, and why collaboration matters • what surrender and softness look like when trust is earned • modern dating lacking depth because social media rewards image over substance • starting Love Frequency after loss and the meaning behind “love frequency” • podcast consistency, tech problems, rejection, and staying focused • creating an intuitive healing deck built around accountability and boundaries

    24 min

  2. MAY 19

    Bathroom Breaks, Hormone Shifts, and COVID Divorces with Lola

    Send us Fan Mail The scariest relationship problems aren’t always the loud ones. Sometimes it’s the quiet drift: two people doing everything for the family, handling life like a checklist, then waking up one day feeling like strangers. Chris sits down with wellness practitioner and fitness coach Lola, founder of Lola’s Vibrant Living, to get honest about why that happens and what actually helps couples reconnect.  We dig into a topic many men misunderstand: what can change for women after 35. Lola explains how hormone shifts can affect mood, desire, patience, and even the “lens” someone sees life through, especially after kids and years of putting everyone else first. We also talk about why a well-meaning staycation, a night off, or “go take self-care” can land wrong when receiving help feels awkward, loaded, or unsafe. If you’ve ever tried to support your partner and got pushback, this conversation gives you a new framework.  From there, we get practical. Lola breaks down how routine and structure rebuild self-worth through small wins, why expectations quietly create tension, and how resentment often comes from meaning and interpretation, not just words. We also touch on survival mode marriages, COVID pressure, and the truth behind the line: a lot of women don’t want a divorce, they want relief.  If you want better marriage communication, healthier habits, and a stronger emotional connection, hit play. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs relief, and leave a review with the one shift you’re going to try this week. • hormonal shifts after 35 shaping perception, energy, and emotional bandwidth • why offers of “go relax” can feel unsafe or loaded • the challenge many women have with receiving help and voicing what they want • getting out of robotic survival mode through routine, structure, and small wins • releasing expectations and focusing on what you can control • Lola’s health story, miscarriage, and the question “Is what I’m doing working for me?” • how couples reconnect through acknowledgment, forgiveness, and simplifying life • why timing, tone, and interpretation matter more than the words • the idea that many women want relief more than divorce • finding nostalgia and meaning in the messy parenting years

    56 min

  3. MAY 13

    Creepy Bosses, Red Flag Ignorance, and Long Distance Trust with Kacee

    Send us Fan Mail A “good opportunity” can turn into a bad situation fast, especially when money, access, and attention get mixed together. Kacee comes back to talk with us about what changed since the last time we recorded: she’s getting better modeling and influencer marketing gigs, she’s being paid in cash instead of just merch, and she’s learning the hard line between a brand that respects you and a person who tries to control you. We get into the uncomfortable stuff, too. Kacee  opens up about a brand owner who gave her and other women weird vibes, the moment it stopped feeling safe, and what finally made her say “I’m done.” From there, we talk boundaries that actually protect you: how she handles DMs, why she keeps distance with strangers, and how trusting your gut can save you time, money, and stress. If you work in modeling, content creation, or any public facing job, this is a real conversation about professional safety and self respect. Then we shift to relationships and dating standards. Kacee  breaks down the biggest red flags she ignored with an ex, what feels different with her current boyfriend, and what emotional intelligence looks like in real life. We talk long distance trust (he’s away on a ship), healthy arguments, why “casual” often gets messy, and why cheating culture is wrecking modern dating. If you’ve ever wondered whether your standards are too high, or you’re trying to learn how to communicate without blowing things up, you’ll get plenty to think about. If this hit home, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. What boundary are you setting today? • her boyfriend’s merchant marine schedule and how they handle distance • leveling up in modeling with better paid brand deals and consistent work • the warning signs of a creepy brand owner and why she walked away • being managed by her mom and shifting to marketing for career growth • red flags she ignored before and the traits that feel safe now • boundaries with DMs, strangers in public, and online attention • what makes a partner “boyfriend material” beyond looks • why casual situations often turn messy and the case for transparency • what a healthy argument looks like and why people quit too fast • independence, missed calls, and trust when both people are building goals • standards that are realistic versus standards that are just fantasy • cheating culture and why honest communication beats sneaking around

    1h 2m

  4. APR 28

    Modeling Scams, Hangin' Out with Baddies, and Picking up Poop with Amari

    Send us Fan Mail Your dog can embarrass you in a coffee shop, your DMs can expose your boundaries, and your social media can either build your career or drain your peace. We link all of that together with Amari, a Hawaii model and actress who’s also the founder of Baddies of Hawaii, a community built for artists, models, and creators who want support without the drama. We talk about what “baddie” actually means when you strip away the noise: confidence, goals, and showing up for your people. Amari breaks down real-world safety in the modeling industry, how to vet photographers, what to watch for in casting, and why “pay to work” is a red flag. If you’re trying to get booked for runway shows, commercial shoots, or acting gigs in Hawaii, we also share practical tips like how to film a runway walk video and how to treat Instagram like a professional portfolio. Then we get personal about relationships and public attention: how marriage impacts DMs, what respectful messages look like, and how a supportive partner can turn outside attention into something that strengthens the relationship instead of threatening it. We also dig into privacy boundaries, code words, avoiding regret posts, and why genuine check-ins matter more than we admit. Subscribe for more honest relationship conversations, share this with a friend who’s building a public life, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. • running errands with dogs and handling public mishaps • recurring dreams and why certain themes stick • creating Baddies of Hawaii as a supportive model community • spotting photographer red flags and protecting comfort levels • acting and modeling in Hawaii and how pay differs from visibility • avoiding modeling scams and refusing pay-to-work gigs • filming a runway walk video and what casting teams look for • how marriage changes DMs and what respectful messages look like • keeping friends of the opposite sex without crossing lines • why genuine check-ins matter for mental health • using social media like a portfolio and staying in the algorithm • learning privacy boundaries and avoiding regret posts

    56 min

  5. APR 21

    Keeping Your Lashes On, Parental Cops, and Chris' Nair Experience with Lynn

    Send us Fan Mail A tsunami alert hits your phone and half the neighborhood panics while the other half fires up a barbecue. That’s how this conversation starts, and it only gets more honest from there. Lynn joins me to talk about what it’s really like chasing modeling in Hawaii while staying grounded through storms, social media noise, and the weird stuff that comes with being visible online.  We get into her path toward cosmetology or aesthetician school and why she wants to pair beauty industry skills like waxing and lashes with a business degree. If you’re building a brand, thinking about entrepreneurship, or trying to create a stable career in the creator economy, her plan is simple and smart: learn a real skill, learn how to run the business, then scale with consistency. We also talk about rejection in modeling and brand collaborations, how she reaches out to companies, what “no” sounds like, and why it shouldn’t shake your confidence when you know there are more opportunities out there.  From there we dig into the social side: relationship boundaries, trust, jealousy, and how she handles DMs and attention without letting it run her life. We also talk body image, confidence, gym culture, and the pressure to look perfect on Instagram, plus practical photography lessons like angles and framing that can instantly improve your content. If you care about self-confidence, modeling advice, influencer marketing, and staying authentic online, you’ll get plenty to take with you.  If you enjoyed the conversation, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s chasing a goal, and leave a review. What’s one boundary you’ve set with social media that actually improved your life? • stormy Hawaii weather, power outages and a tsunami warning story • growing up with police parents and what support looks like at home • cosmetology and aesthetician goals plus planning a beauty business • waxing and body hair preferences, funny fails and real talk • how Lynn gets into modeling through a best friend and brand collabs • dealing with rejection, discipline and the numbers game of opportunities • why angles matter in photos and what makes a shoot actually work • beauty standards, lashes, and the pressure to look perfect • trust, DMs, jealousy and setting boundaries with social media attention • cancel culture, online judgment, bullying and outgrowing high school • confidence versus insecurity, gym culture and approaching people respectfully You can find me on Instagram or TikTok. They're both the same username. Lynn L-Y-N-N Maria, but replace the I with the one.

    57 min

  6. MAR 31

    Love After Loss, Patience in New Relationships & Healing Outloud with King Katty

    Send us Fan Mail You’ve probably met someone who looks “tough” and assumed they don’t feel much. This conversation flips that myth on its head. I sit down with Hawaii fighter and full-time mom King Katty to talk about what strength actually costs, how boundaries keep you safe, and why emotional pain can be harder to heal than any black eye in the gym. We start with her origin story: running the streets, fighting out of anger, and then finding boxing at a small backyard gym where a crew of girls became the first “Lady Animals” training together. From there we get into modern dating and relationship advice that’s blunt but clean: men approaching her cautiously, why social media kills mystery, and the standards she refuses to compromise on like communication, loyalty, and clarity. We also talk about dominance that feels secure versus arrogance that gets checked fast, plus what she values most in a partner through acts of service and words of affirmation. Then the real heart of it: grief, guilt, and love after loss. King Katty shares what it’s like to heal out loud after losing her husband, raising five kids while the house still has to run, and finding patience in a new connection without rushing labels. We close with parenting, structure, and the kind of discipline stories you will not forget, plus where to follow her and details around her upcoming BKFC fight. If you got something from this, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • her origin story from running the streets to training boxing with the Lady Animals • being recognized in public and why men approach cautiously • protecting privacy in the social media era and keeping mystery alive • what kills attraction fast and why inconsistency does not fly • simple relationship standards like communication loyalty and clarity • dominance versus arrogance and reading a man’s energy • love after loss including guilt and comparing new partners • patience in new relationships without rushing labels • raising five kids with structure and trust • emotional pain versus physical pain and why self-work matters • blended family anxiety and introducing a new partner gently • fighting as therapy and healing out loud • parenting advice for teen relationships plus dinner table rules • discipline stories including docking allowance and taking a door away Instagram, King Katty on Instagram. I think it’s king.Katttyy. Make sure you guys are there. Ticketmaster will have tickets.

    57 min

  7. MAR 17

    100!!! REAL Marriage Talk, Bad/Good Cop, and Brady Bunch Woes with Tiffany

    Send us Fan Mail We hit a milestone and decided to make it personal: Chris brings on his wife, Tiffany Lomboy, for the 100th episode of The REALationship Method, and we go straight into the stuff couples usually talk about after the kids are asleep. Tiffany opens up about caring for her dad after a stroke, what recovery at home really looks like, and the warning signs that made her say, “We’re going to the hospital.” If you’ve ever Googled stroke symptoms, caregiver stress, or how to keep your marriage steady when life gets heavy, you’ll feel this conversation. Then we pivot to marriage and parenting with zero filters: the clashes that come from different personalities, how we split household duties without constant “meetings,” and how good cop bad cop actually plays out when you’re tired and overstimulated. We also talk blended family parenting, learning each other’s boundaries with older kids, and why repair matters more than being “right,” including apologizing to your kids when you lose your temper. The biggest debate is one a lot of families avoid out loud: should a 19-year-old pay rent at home? Chris breaks down the real-world skills he’s trying to teach, Tiffany shares the emotional side of letting your kids struggle, and we unpack how to make decisions as a team even when we don’t fully agree. We wrap with lighter moments too, like the story behind our pet name “Ebabs” and the question that stings a little: who gets the nicest version of you, coworkers, friends, or family? If you got something from this, subscribe to The REALationship Method, share this with a parent or partner who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. • caring for Tiffany’s dad after his stroke and what recovery looks like at home • the early stroke symptoms they noticed and why acting fast matters • living together with big personalities and how they navigate friction • how they split parenting duties and handle good cop versus bad cop • blended family boundaries with older kids and shared kids • Tiffany’s support for Chris starting a solo relationship podcast • dealing with family reactions to personal stories and managing embarrassment • parenting moments they regret plus apologizing to kids and handling mom guilt • whether adult kids should pay rent and what responsibility training looks like • mood shifts, venting safely, and what helps them de-escalate • the story behind “Ebabs” and why their private language matters • who gets the nicest version of you at work, with friends, or at home Hey, thank you for listening and watching this 100th episode.

    1h 2m

  8. MAR 3

    Creating the Scene, Persistent with the Vision and Protecting Your Worth with Scoot and Mai

    Send us Fan Mail Creative momentum doesn’t come from perfect conditions. It comes from saying yes early, learning when to say no, and mastering the details that most people overlook—like how to rescue a high-noon ceremony or coax a genuine smile from a nervous couple. We sit down with two Hawaii-based photographers, Scoot and Mai, to unpack the real playbook for building trust, shaping light, and growing a career that actually lasts. We start with the outreach game: why DMs get ignored, how to write messages that earn replies, and why meeting people in person changes everything. From there, we pull back the curtain on weddings that happen at the worst possible time for light and how pros adapt without ruining the vibe. Night shoots get love too—balancing flash with ambient warmth, asking clients if they prefer cool or warm tones, and using quick test shots to align on style before the big moments happen. Editing and ethics take center stage. Mai explains her minimalist approach—remove distractions, protect real skin, and save heavy retouching for beauty images—while admitting the simple magic of a subtle face swap to fix blinking group shots. Scoot shares how fast, thoughtful in-camera color and JPEG delivery can win clients who need next-day turnarounds. We also talk shop about credits, watermarks, and contracts: set expectations in writing, ask for tags once, then move on and choose collaborators who respect the work. Style threads through the whole episode. Scoot’s fashion revamps—spray paint, rhinestones, glow effects—turn rentals into head-turning looks for shoots and events, while Mai calls for intention over hype when it comes to gym fits and mall wear. Underneath the humor is a serious point: your choices signal your standards. That applies to clothes, edits, prices, and boundaries. Manifest goals, keep a visible mood board, and knock out weekly must-dos to beat procrastination. And remember the power of me time—those quiet hours that protect your mind and keep your craft sharp. If you’re a creator—photographer, designer, or content maker—looking to navigate ghosted DMs, tough lighting, and the politics of credit without burning out, this conversation will feel like a deep breath. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a push, and leave a review telling us the one boundary you plan to set this week. • choosing guests and saying yes with intent • moving from free shoots to knowing your worth • why lighting beats gear and how to adapt • weddings at midday and saving skin tones • night shoots with flash and ambient warmth • editing lightly, removing distractions, swapping faces • posing with prompts and building comfort fast • DM culture, follow-ups, and in-person trust • referrals in Hawaii and growing a media team • contracts, credits, and handling missing tags • fashion revamps, rentals, and practical style • mindset, goals, mood boards, and me time

    1h 9m
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The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!

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  • Creator
    Chris Lomboy
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    105
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The REALationship Method
  • Show Website
    The REALationship Method

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