Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Barb Nangle
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Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries  coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.   Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/

  1. 4d ago

    From Fragmented to Flow: How Letting Go Became My Business and My Life with Guest Shaun Enright | Episode 365

    Send us Fan Mail This is my 365th episode! That means you could literally listen to one episode per day for an entire year! In this week’s episode 365 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m joined by Shaun Enright, who shares his experience, strength, and hope of recovery and how learning to let go changed both his life and his business. Shaun shares how he went from running a successful seven-figure business while struggling behind the scenes, to recognizing that alcohol was a problem, entering 12-step recovery, and learning to surrender control. He also explains how those lessons eventually became the foundation for the work he now does helping entrepreneurs and professionals let go of stress, fear, and the need to control everything. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Shaun’s journey from outward success and inner struggle into 12-step recoveryWhy letting go of control and surrender became such an important part of his healingHow his relationship with a higher power changed his understanding of responsibility and controlHow recovery helped him rebuild his business and create a new life centered around helping othersThe “FLOW” framework he developed to help people feel, acknowledge, choose, and let go in moments of stressShaun also shares how he went from being deeply in debt and trying to carry everything himself to rebuilding his finances, creating a new business, and building a family life he describes as wonderful. This episode is ultimately about hope. Shaun has lived through the difficult parts he talks about, and his story is a reminder that even when you can't see a way forward, change is possible. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE Shaun Enright, Coach and Podcaster, Founder and CEO of Zenright Life. Shaun helps founder-led service businesses turn selling into a calm, consistent growth system—so revenue becomes predictable without pressure, gimmicks, or chasing. Listen to Shaun’s podcast “Drop the Stress, Not the Ball” Follow Shaun on LinkedIn On Instagram On Facebook on his Zenright Living page Other links we discussed: NLP - Neuro-linguistic Programming info David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. is the person who created the Levels of Vibration by Type of Emotion graphic Shaun and I discussed. CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

    From Fragmented to Flow: How Letting Go Became My Business and My Life with Guest Shaun Enright | Episode 365

  2. Aug 10

    How to Create New Routines Without Setting Yourself Up to Fail | Episode 364

    Send us Fan Mail As summer winds down, many of us start imagining the organized, disciplined person we're finally going to become in the fall. The problem is that we often create new routines for an ideal version of ourselves at the exact moment our lives are getting busier. When we can't maintain the plan, we don't question the routine. We question ourselves. This week, on episode 364 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about how to create new routines without setting yourself up to fail! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing why routines can become another form of self-abandonment when they ignore your actual energy, capacity, responsibilities, and circumstances. I'm also sharing what happened when I stopped trying to force myself through an ideal strength-training plan and started with two minutes a day instead. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why routines often fail when you create them for the person you wish you were instead of the person who will actually have to live them.How unrealistic expectations can turn a supportive routine into another form of self-abandonment and self-judgment.What my resistance to a full workout taught me about treating resistance as information instead of proof that I lacked discipline.Why starting with two minutes and gradually ramping up can build a routine you are genuinely willing and able to continue.How self-trust helps you adjust a routine, make room for it, and begin again without treating the change as failure.A routine is supposed to support the life you're actually living. It is not supposed to become another way to override yourself. Choose one routine that would genuinely help you, make the first version smaller than you think it should be, and give yourself time to ramp up. If it doesn't work, you haven't failed. You received information, and you can adjust, simplify, and begin again. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

  3. Aug 3

    How to Use Life Transitions to Become Who You Want to Be | Episode 363

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 363 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about life transitions and why the biggest change often isn’t what’s happening around you—it’s the shift in your identity. Whether you’re becoming an empty nester, changing careers, retiring, ending a relationship, or entering a new season of life, transitions often invite you to ask, “Who am I now?” In this episode, I explore a different question that can be even more helpful: “Who do I want to be?” Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why life transitions are often identity transitionsHow boundaries and routines help shape the person you’re becomingThe difference between creating routines for productivity and creating routines that support the life you wantWhy approaching new routines as experiments can make change feel more manageableQuestions to help you move intentionally into your next season of lifeI also share examples from coaching clients, including an empty nester navigating a new stage of motherhood and a professional experimenting with focused work time instead of reacting to email all day. This episode is a reminder that you don’t need to have your entire future figured out. You simply need something meaningful to reach toward—a value, a relationship, or a routine that helps you become more grounded in the person you want to be. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

  4. Jul 27

    Why Making Decisions Feels So Unsafe and How to Trust Yourself Anyway | Episode 362

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 362 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why so many people struggle to make decisions—and why the real issue often isn’t a lack of information. It’s a lack of internal safety. Many of us spend hours weighing options, asking for advice, researching every possibility, and trying to predict the outcome before making a choice. But no decision-making method can guarantee that no one will be disappointed, that you'll never regret your choice, or that life will unfold exactly as you hope. This episode explores what it means to trust yourself even when certainty isn’t possible. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why decision-making is often an internal safety issue rather than a lack of informationThe difference between reflection and ruminationHow self-trust means staying on your own side after making a decisionWhy you're allowed to change your mind as new information becomes availablePractical questions to help you make decisions without abandoning yourselfI also revisit several ideas from Episode 171 on decision-making and explain how my understanding of self-trust has evolved over the years. This episode is a reminder that the goal isn't to make the perfect decision. The goal is to become someone who can stay connected to yourself through uncertainty, learn from what unfolds, and make adjustments when needed. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

  5. Jul 20

    How Recovery and Boundaries Changed One Woman’s Relationship with Herself with Guest Ilene Z| Episode 361

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 361 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m joined by my former private coaching client, Ilene, for a heartfelt conversation about what happened after years of doing the work of recovery and boundary-building. Rather than focusing on theory, this episode explores what these concepts actually looked like in one woman’s life—how learning to honor her preferences, stop managing other people’s reactions, and build internal safety transformed the relationship she has with herself. The conversation was inspired by a thoughtful email Ilene sent after reflecting on two recent podcast episodes, and together we unpack the changes she experienced along the way. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: How recovery shifted Ilene’s relationship with herself over timeWhat changed when she began honoring her own preferences and needsThe impact of building internal safety instead of seeking it from othersWhy boundaries became an essential part of her healing journeyHow real-life recovery looks beyond understanding the concepts intellectuallyThroughout our conversation, Ilene shares honest reflections about her personal growth and the ways recovery has influenced her relationships, decision-making, and ability to stay connected to herself. This episode is a reminder that healing isn't about becoming a different person. It's about building a relationship with yourself that is grounded in self-awareness, self-trust, and healthy boundaries—one choice at a time. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Here's the link to ep. 99 How to Actually Understand the Difference Between Intention and Impact Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

    How Recovery and Boundaries Changed One Woman’s Relationship with Herself with Guest Ilene Z| Episode 361

  6. Jul 13

    How I Learned to Trust Myself (and Why Boundaries Were the Missing Piece) | Episode 360

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 360 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how my understanding of self-trust completely changed through recovery. For years, I believed I had a "bad picker" when it came to relationships. But over time, I realized the bigger issue wasn't choosing unhealthy partners—it was staying long after I knew the relationship wasn't healthy. What ultimately changed my life wasn't trying harder to trust myself. It was learning to build healthy boundaries. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why self-trust isn't something you decide—it's something you build over timeHow discovering your preferences, needs, and limits is the foundation of healthy boundariesWhy honoring your own limits creates evidence that you can rely on yourselfThe difference between blindly trusting people and discerning trust through consistent patterns of behaviorHow boundaries strengthen the most important relationship you'll ever have: the relationship with yourselfThis episode explores why trust grows through evidence, not intention. Every time you notice what's true for you, honor your limits, and follow through on your commitments to yourself, you're strengthening your ability to trust yourself. Because boundaries aren't just about protecting yourself from other people. They're about becoming someone you can count on. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

  7. Jul 6

    5 Things to Say When Someone Is Trying to Make You Question Your Reality | Episode 359

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 359 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about something many of us have experienced but struggle to describe: what to do when someone makes you question your own reality. If you grew up in an environment where your feelings were dismissed, your experiences were minimized, or your perception was constantly challenged, learning to trust yourself can feel incredibly difficult. In this episode, I share five simple responses that can help you stay grounded in your own experience without getting pulled into endless arguments or self-doubt. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why self-trust is essential for healthy boundaries and decision-makingFive simple phrases that help you stay anchored in your own realityThe difference between acknowledging someone’s perspective and abandoning your ownHow to recognize when a conversation is no longer productiveWhy boundaries become easier as you strengthen self-trustThis episode explores how self-trust is built in ordinary moments—every time you honor your own experience instead of looking to someone else to tell you what's real. Because boundaries don't begin with controlling other people. They begin with trusting yourself enough to stay connected to your own reality, even when someone else disagrees. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! 5 statements: "That's not my experience.""I'm not going to argue with you about what happened."“I hear you." "I've said everything I'm going to say.""What is your goal with this conversation?"Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

  8. Jun 30

    How to Understand the Difference Between Acceptance and Boundaries | Episode 358

    Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 358 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about a question that comes up often: What is the difference between acceptance and boundaries? Many people think they have to choose between accepting someone as they are or setting a boundary with them. But acceptance and boundaries are not opposites. Acceptance means seeing someone clearly and no longer trying to change who they are. Boundaries are about deciding what works for you, given that reality. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Why acceptance is about seeing reality clearly, not approving of someone’s behaviorHow boundaries help you respond to reality instead of trying to change itThe difference between acceptance and resignationWhy painful realities can bring up grief, disappointment, and lossHow accepting who someone is can reveal the boundaries you need to setThis episode explores what it looks like to stop going to people for things they are not capable of providing, whether that is emotional intimacy, reliability, privacy, or support. Because acceptance does not mean giving someone unlimited access to you. It means recognizing who they are, what they are capable of, and then choosing how you want to engage with them. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Ep. 2 Acceptance Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb!  Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up. On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.

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Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries  coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.   Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/

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