Habits for Your Happily Ever After: Relationship Communication Advice

Rebecca Mullen
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Each episode offers a date-night-discussion to foster conversation, as well as a tiny habit to keep you and the one you love connected: Because happily ever after isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. Habits for Your Happily Ever After is a place to get clear about your marriage communication. Because when your relationships are strong, you’re able to concentrate at work, reduce conflict at home, and receive support for your dreams so you have courage to live your best life. Relationship Coach, Rebecca Mullen, hosts the show filled with stories about relationship struggles and successes.

  1. 6D AGO

    What does forgiveness have to do with setting boundaries? With Dr. Lee Baucom

    What are you hesitant to forgive? Are there “unforgivable” things in your past? Are you feeling STUCK because you can’t bring yourself to forgive? Today I have a conversation with the author of The Forgive Process, by Dr. Lee Baucom. I love the way Dr. Baucom writes about forgiveness. Do you know why? Because he gives YOU all the agency. He explains why forgiveness is for YOU, not the person who wronged you. He doesn’t say you “have to” forgive. He says you “get to” forgive.We’ll talk through his 6-step process to help you practice forgiveness because you’ll feel more free.Over and over you’ll see how you can take back your life, get unstuck, and have more agency when you employ these tools of forgiveness. Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480 Connect with my guest Visit Dr. Baucom’s website. Listen to the Save the Marriage Podcast. Read one of Dr. Baucom's books. Download the UnPause app.

    49 min

  2. FEB 26

    The Seductive (and Toxic) Power of Drama in Relationships

    Do you like the drama in your relationship? Hollywood trains us to believe that intimacy lives in the heart of conflict. All those Hollywood stories are about some huge obstacle and the music swells when they…finally…come together. But there is no swelling soundtrack that underscores your relationship. And navigating obstacles is hard! And most of us don’t have great skills to navigate those challenges, so we just make a mess. Today, we talk about how drama impacts your relationship. You'll hear about how big questions and grand gestures can light up your life and the shadow that it also might cast on your relationshipDo you and your partner think about drama differently? I'll offer a story from my marriage to help you ponder that question. And you'll hear about the consistent, ever-present, but not very sexy or dramatic, style of loving that might also lead to your happily ever after Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to make a choice when it comes to the drama in your relationship. How can you simply show up rather than out shine? Where could your life benefit from some consistency? Date Night Discussion I invite you to talk about the role of drama in your home. What are your favorite Hollywood dramas? How do those dramas show up in your relationship?How would you describe the roles in your home?What are the ways your various dramatic moments enhance your intimacy? Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480

    18 min

  3. FEB 19

    A Habit That Could Save Your Marriage with Divorce Mediator Joe Dillon

    What do blueberry pancakes and butterflies have to do with your happily ever after? They’re part of divorce mediator Joe Dillon’s advice for staying married. I’m a relationship coach. It's odd that I would want to introduce you to a divorce mediator, but he has so much great information to share with us about what he sees when it comes to divorces: I found Joe Dillon online and his body of work was so extensive that I wanted to share it with you.Joe is going to help you understand what typical patterns bring people to his office so that you can use those as a cautionary tale.He'll also tell you what butterflies and blueberry pancakes have to do with your happily ever after. Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit helps you make space for the individual inside of the shared life. Joe and Cheryl have regular marriage meetings, and it was at one of these meetings that they exchanged legal pads full of their bucket list items. This helped them realize that even though they share a life, they may not share every dream. Joe and Cheryl decided that although they live in Southern California where there's a beach for Cheryl, they'll take a month during the year to move to Chicago so that Joe can get his city fix. I invite you to trade bucket lists with your partner. What dreams do you share? Where will you have to compromise? Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480 Connect with my guest Joe Dillon is a divorce mediator at Equitable Mediation. His unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insights enable him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations and reach fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial health. Visit website here. Connect on social media here.

    41 min

  4. FEB 12

    Dating the Friend: The Date Night That Helps You Feel Known

    What kind of Friendship date is good for your relationship? Has life been noisy and busy and you just need some time of shared silence to both reset? What style of date would help you hush the ever-present noise filling your life? Maybe you need a date where you have some dedicated time to understand what your sweetheart is feeling. Remember my framework of Partner, Lover, Friend? I’ve identified 3 roles inside your singular relationship: Partners want to achieve together. Friends assure each other we belong together. Lovers want to explore together. Valentine’s Day is coming up and there is a lot of pressure to have THE PERFECT date, but I want to challenge this notion of THE PERFECT date. Instead, I’d like to talk about great dates for the three roles inside your relationship. Let’s break it down into three episodes to talk about each role: Partner, Friend, and Lover.Today we’re talking about designing a great date for the Friend inside your relationship. Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to put a Friendship-building date night onto your calendar. Date Night Discussion This week I invite you to talk about the kinds of dates that promote Friendship in your relationship. Your Friendship will be deepened by two things: talking and listening. Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480

    42 min

  5. FEB 5

    Dating the Lover: The Date Night That Wakes Up Your Desire

    What type of date does the Lover inside your relationship need? Remember my framework of Partner, Lover, Friend? I’ve identified 3 roles inside your singular relationship: Partners want to achieve together. Friends assure each other we belong together. Lovers want to explore together. Valentine’s Day is coming up and there is a lot of pressure to have THE PERFECT date, but I want to challenge this notion of THE PERFECT date.Instead, I’d like to talk about great dates for the three roles inside your relationship. Let’s break it down into three episodes to talk about each role: Partner, Friend, and Lover.Today we’re talking about designing a great date for the Lover inside your relationship. Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to put a Lover date (or several!) onto your calendar. Date Night Discussion This week talk about the types of Lover dates that your relationship might need. Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480

    35 min

  6. JAN 29

    Dating the Partner: The Date Night Most Couples Skip

    The Partner role in your relationship asks, “Can I rely on you?” The Lover asks, “Do you make my life exciting?” And the Friend asks, “Do you really know me?” Remember my framework of Partner, Lover, Friend? I’ve identified 3 roles inside your singular relationship: Partners want to achieve together. Friends assure each other we belong together. Lovers want to explore together. Valentine’s Day is coming up and there is a lot of pressure to have THE PERFECT date, but I want to challenge this notion of THE PERFECT date.Instead, I’d like to talk about great dates for the three roles inside your relationship. Let’s break it down into three episodes to talk about each role: Partner, Friend, and Lover.Today we’re talking about designing a great date for the Partner inside your relationship. If you’re new to my podcast and you’d like an overview of the three roles, listen to my last episode with Dayna Haig-Conway, a therapist in Fernie, British Columbia who recently interviewed me. Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to create a recipe for a Partner date at your house. I use 5 steps when I’m coaching couples to find a Partner date: Identify a conflict.Identify the dream you each have for a shared life.Build a bridge from conflict to your dream.Plan to fail.Begin again. Date Night Discussion I invite you to have a discussion with your sweetheart about how and why you appreciate the Partner you already have. This week invite your sweetheart for a slice of toast, a cup of coffee, and tell your sweetheart 3-5 things that you appreciate about sharing a life with them. Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480

    27 min

  7. JAN 22

    The Three Roles in Your Relationship with Dayna Haig-Conway

    “What if relationship conflict isn’t about communication SKILLS–but about misunderstood needs?” This is the foundational question Fernie resident and Counselor, Dayna Haig-Conway asked me when I got to be a guest on her podcast–CAMP Conversations: Keys to Resilience–recently. I’m eager to share her conversation with you. Dayna’s approach is to search for “the needs behind the needs,” and I am thrilled I get to introduce you to this gem of a human being: You’ll hear how The Partner, The Lover, and The Friend can unintentionally compete with each other, confusing your communication and making it tough to see what each person truly needs.You’ll hear why naming HOW you communicate matters as much as WHAT you’re saying. Hint: your animal body communicates too.You’ll get some simple language shifts that will reduce defensiveness and cultivate understanding with your sweetheart. Connect with Dayna Haig-Conway I invite you to listen/watch her podcast.Explore the world of resilience and service she’s building for front line caretakers like nurses and teachers.Or book a discovery call with her to see how she might be able to help you locate the needs behind your needs. Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480

    1h 9m

  8. JAN 15

    The Most Important Habit to Form: Joy as Jet Fuel

    What’s the best thing you can do to create momentum with a habit? If you want to form a new habit, psychologists tell us the biggest momentum builder is a positive emotional rush. Joy. Today we talk about the most important part of the habit-building cycle: celebration. You’ll learn why celebrating those tiny changes in the directional vector toward your destination matters so muchYou’ll hear about the biology of celebrating and how it contributes to habit formationAnd you’ll get a host of questions to help you celebrate to strengthen your own efforts at habit formation rather than relying on circumstances to make you feel better. Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is…to celebrate! To help you celebrate better and more consistently, I’ve designed a couple questions to guide you. Use these questions to help you mine for the positive emotions associated with the way you’re living your life. Date Night Discussion Today the discussion I want to suggest isn’t with your partner, but rather with yourself. And it’s a simple question. I invite you to ask yourself, “Did I truly let myself see and celebrate the tender habit of hello (or whatever habit you are building) I am creating?” Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes here. Buy my book. Listen to my book. Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. Reach me at 970-210-4480

    30 min
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Each episode offers a date-night-discussion to foster conversation, as well as a tiny habit to keep you and the one you love connected: Because happily ever after isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. Habits for Your Happily Ever After is a place to get clear about your marriage communication. Because when your relationships are strong, you’re able to concentrate at work, reduce conflict at home, and receive support for your dreams so you have courage to live your best life. Relationship Coach, Rebecca Mullen, hosts the show filled with stories about relationship struggles and successes.

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