How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok

Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.

  1. 3D AGO

    Confidence Isn’t the Starting Point; It’s the Outcome with Sarah Barnes-Humphrey

    You don’t need to feel ready to start. You just need to start. That’s exactly what Sarah Barnes-Humphrey did when her life and career imploded overnight. In this conversation, Sarah opens up about what it took to rebuild her confidence from scratch and how she used small steps, side hustles, and her own voice to get there. We talk about what it really means to be seen, and why self-worth isn’t something you wait to feel. It’s something you create. Today, Sarah is the host of the Blended podcast and the author of the #1 Amazon bestseller I Buried Her in a French Press. She’s built a platform rooted in advocacy, inclusion, and helping others feel seen, but none of it came easy. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to build self-worth when you don’t feel confident yetWhy you need more than one option and what it gives youHow to stop telling stories that dilute your valueConnect with Sarah: www.sarahbarneshumphrey.com www.linkedin.com/in/sarahbarneshumphrey _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    30 min
  2. JAN 6

    How to Lead When Confidence Wanes

    If confidence were constant, leadership would be easy. But it’s not. One moment you feel solid, the next you’re second-guessing everything. That shift can throw off your presence, your voice, even your ability to ask for what you need. In this episode, I’m breaking down why that happens, what it means about your leadership (hint: it’s not a flaw), and how to lead yourself through those moments. Confidence isn’t fixed, and the more you understand that, the more prepared you’ll be to show up the way you want. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to separate confidence from competence when it matters mostWhat to do when your confidence dips mid-meetingA mindset shift that great negotiators use to stay grounded under pressure_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    24 min
  3. 12/30/2025

    Build Career Options Before You Need Them

    If your role changed tomorrow, would you have options or just panic?  Most people assume their company will guide their career. That someone, somewhere, is thinking about their growth. But here's the truth: no one is planning your next move but you. In this episode, I’m sharing a core negotiator mindset shift: build your BATNA before you need it. You’ll hear what a senior leader told me about how he evaluates his team’s preparedness, and why confidence doesn’t come from certainty. It comes from having real options. Your career isn't a job title. It’s a portfolio. Let’s talk about how to invest in it on purpose. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to build internal and external career options before you need themWhat it actually means to invest in your portfolioWhy options, not bluffing, are your source of true confidence_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    21 min
  4. 12/23/2025

    Are You Diluting Your Power Without Realizing It?

    It’s not just what you ask for. It’s how you ask for it. In this episode, I’m walking through three deceptively simple strategies that have helped countless women shift how they show up, how they’re perceived, and how confidently they navigate their work. If you’ve ever walked away from a meeting thinking, I could have handled that differently, this is for you. We’re talking about silence, framing, and the ask. These aren’t nice-to-haves. They’re everyday negotiation tools that sharpen your influence and change the way others experience you. This isn’t mindset fluff. These are practical habits you can use every day to build clarity, confidence, and leadership presence. In this episode, I’ll cover: Practicing silence as a signal of confidence and authorityMaking small, intentional asks that build your negotiation muscleSpotting where you’re softening your message and how to reframe it with clarity_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    30 min
  5. 12/16/2025

    Why Smart Women Miss Opportunities

    Sometimes we know exactly what we want, but we don’t raise our hand.  We hesitate. We wait. And the opportunity passes us by. In this episode, I’m talking about what holds us back from stepping up, why hesitation costs more than we think, and how to catch ourselves in the moments we stay small. Smart women miss out. Not because they’re unqualified. Because they don’t prepare for the moment when opportunity quietly appears. Let’s change that. You’ll walk away knowing what to look for, what to say, and how to advocate for yourself before you're “ready.” In this episode, I’ll cover: How to spot the subtle opportunities hiding in plain sightWhat hesitation sounds like in your head and why it winsThree specific steps to raise your hand with intention_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    19 min
  6. 12/09/2025

    When Your Boss Pulls Away, Is It You or Them?

    One day you’re having regular one-on-ones with your boss, and the next? Silence. Fewer meetings. Less context. No feedback. It’s easy to assume it’s personal, but is it? In this episode, I’m talking about what’s really going on when a leader suddenly gets quiet and how to manage up without spiraling into insecurity. If you’ve ever felt like your boss’s behavior changed overnight, this conversation will help you step back, zoom out, and approach the situation with clarity and confidence. You’ll walk away with a practical way to shift the dynamic and protect your momentum, even when your boss is overwhelmed and unavailable. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to shift from self-doubt to strategy when your boss changes behaviorWhat to say (and not say) when reconnecting with a checked-out leaderWays to support your boss while still getting what you need_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min
  7. 12/02/2025

    How Confidence Changes the Conversation

    Ever seen someone walk into a room and instantly command it, without saying a word? That’s confidence. Not ego, not arrogance. Just belief. And belief is leverage. In this episode, I’m talking about the power of calibrated confidence—why it influences others, how it opens up opportunities, and what it actually looks like in a negotiation. You don’t have to fake it. But you do have to find it, own it, and use it. Whether you're walking into a high-stakes meeting or making an ask that makes your voice shake, confidence is the signal that gets others to trust your value. In this episode, I’ll cover: • How to anchor your belief so confidence shows up before you speak • The power of silence (and why you should stop talking after the ask) • Ways to borrow confidence when you’re not feeling it yet _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    13 min
  8. 11/25/2025

    Are You Leaving or Leading?

    Most people put all their focus on the new job when they leave a role. But if that’s where your attention ends, you’re missing a huge opportunity. I want to show you how to leave well, not just logistically, but strategically. In this episode, I’m walking you through a real example of how one woman made a career move with intention, influence, and grace. Because how you exit matters just as much as how you show up. Your influence doesn’t end when your badge turns in. If you’re planning a move or even just thinking about it, you’ll walk away knowing how to preserve your network, leave a legacy, and step into your next chapter with more confidence. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to exit without burning bridges even if you’re frustratedSimple ways to build influence before day one in a new roleA mindset shift that boosts your confidence by 25 percent in your next job_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    18 min
5
out of 5
17 Ratings

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Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.