How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok

Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.

  1. 2D AGO

    What To Do When A Decision Blindsides You

    You walk into a meeting prepared and you think you’ve anticipated the questions + direction of the conversation. Then suddenly the decision goes a different way, and you feel the shift immediately. Your body reacts before your brain catches up. That reaction isn’t just frustration. When reality doesn’t match what your brain expected, it triggers a response that can make even experienced leaders defensive or reactive. This episode is about recognizing that moment and knowing how to slow it down so you can stay strategic instead of emotional. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize when your brain has shifted into a reactive stateQuestions that help you slow the conversation down and regain clarity Ways to pause and reset so you can respond thoughtfully instead of reacting_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    23 min
  2. MAR 10

    Elevate Your Differentiator: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 5

    You’ve recognized the moment. You’ve aligned. You’ve inserted value. You’ve supported others. Now it’s time to elevate. In this final part of the R.A.I.S.E. framework, I’m challenging you to stop leaving your growth up to interpretation. Silence inhibits opportunity. If you don’t anchor your value and raise your hand, someone else will. Elevate is about understanding your differentiator, naming your ROI, and making it easier for others to see where you belong. You’ll walk away clear on how to advocate for yourself in a way that feels intentional, not self-serving. In this episode, I’ll cover: Clarify what makes you uniquely valuable and why it mattersRaise your hand for opportunities before they pass you byFrame self-advocacy as ownership, not ego_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    14 min
  3. FEB 24

    Insert Your Value Before They Move On Without You: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 3

    You know that moment when you stay quiet even though you had something to add? It feels safe in the moment, but it costs you more than you think. Staying silent doesn’t just slow your momentum. It keeps the room from seeing your value. This episode is all about what it really means to insert. To speak, contribute, and take up space in the right moments. Not because you want credit. Because the room needs your perspective. I’m sharing one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned about silence and how to stop holding back when it matters most. You don’t need to speak more. You need to speak sooner. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to insert your perspective without overexplaining or overthinkingWhat your silence is teaching people about how to see youThe small contributions that create big influence_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    14 min
  4. FEB 17

    Align with What They Need Before You Speak: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 2

    Being right doesn’t make you influential. If you've ever walked away from a conversation wondering why your idea didn’t land, or worse, why someone went silent, you’re not alone. Today we’re talking about the A in RAISE: Align. This step is all about learning to shift your perspective before you speak so your message actually connects. This episode gets personal. I’ll share one moment I still cringe about years later and what I wish I’d done differently. If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone else’s reaction, this is for you. By the end, you’ll understand why 30 seconds of prep can change everything. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to align your message with what others actually care aboutWhat happens when you miss the moment to connectA simple mindset shift to avoid silence and create buy-in_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    14 min
  5. FEB 10

    Recognize the Moment Before Silence Writes Your Story: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 1

    People can't choose you if you're invisible. And when you're silent, people think you're satisfied. This is the first episode in my five-part RAISE framework series, and we’re starting with something most people completely overlook: the moment the stakes quietly shift. You can’t advocate for yourself if you don’t even recognize it’s time. I’ll share the exact moment I learned this the hard way and why recognizing these subtle shifts is the first step to building real influence at work. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize the moment when the stakes shiftWhy silence feels safer and how it sabotages youThe leadership habit that separates decision-makers from the rest_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    18 min
  6. FEB 3

    Stop Waiting for Permission

    If you’re waiting for someone to hand you the next opportunity, this one’s for you. We don’t always realize how often we hold ourselves back, telling ourselves it’s not our role, we’re not ready, or we don’t want to look pushy. The problem? Silence gets mistaken for satisfaction. This episode is a wake-up call to notice the invisible rules you’ve absorbed and start challenging the ones that no longer serve you. I’m sharing how to move from observer to advocate, use curiosity as a powerful tool, and start showing up like someone who’s ready to lead. You don’t need a permission slip. You need a plan. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to spot the subtle ways you’re holding yourself backA reframing strategy to shift from polite silence to confident curiosityWhat to ask for in the next 72 hours to change how you’re seen_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    21 min
  7. JAN 27

    Rewriting Your Relationship with No

    Most of us hear no and take it personally. We shut down. We see it as the end of the road instead of the beginning of a conversation. But what if no could actually be a place to start? In this episode, I’m sharing how to shift the way you hear and respond to no so you can stop backing down and start getting curious. This shift will change how you negotiate, how you lead, and how you advocate for what you want. It’s time to get comfortable with resistance and reframe it as data, not defeat. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize the subtle forms of no and what to do nextQuestions to ask that keep the conversation going instead of shutting it downWhy curiosity is your best tool for navigating resistance_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min
5
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17 Ratings

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Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.