How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok
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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meetingWhen you ask for an opportunityWhen you handle workplace conflictWhen you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

  1. 6d ago

    The Skill That Stops You From Overcommitting

    Send us Fan Mail Someone asks you to take something on, and before they've even finished, you've already said yes. You didn't check your calendar. You didn't ask if it was your job. And three weeks later, you're carrying work you never wanted and quietly resenting the person who handed it to you. That yes was automatic. And automatic isn't the same as generous. This episode is about catching that yes before it leaves your mouth, and saying no instead in a way that's warm, fast, and doesn't cost you the relationship. Learning to pause in that split second is how you stop overcommitting and start getting what you want. In this episode, I'll cover: The hidden cost of a yes you give without thinkingWhy a quick no protects your relationships more than a slow maybeWhat actually keeps you stuck saying yes when you mean no🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    19 min

  2. Jun 23

    What to Do When the Answer Is No

    Send us Fan Mail Getting a no can throw you in a way that doesn't really make sense until you've felt it. You make the ask, it doesn't land, and suddenly you're quiet and a little off your game, and the worst part is how long that feeling sticks around afterward. What you might not realize is that the people in the room feel it too. They're not walking away thinking about what you asked for. They're thinking about how you handled not getting it, and that impression can quietly shape how they see you for a long time. In this episode, I get into why no hits us so hard, why so many of them slip past us disguised as something softer, and how to stop letting a single no knock you off your footing. In this episode, I'll cover: Why a no can rattle you more than it should and what's actually behind thatThe kind of no most people completely missHow to stay steady and keep the conversation going when you don't get the yes🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    21 min

  3. Jun 16

    How to Get Into the Rooms You're Not In Yet

    Send us Fan Mail You've watched a colleague get tapped for the senior meeting, the stretch project, the introduction you didn't know was happening. And your first thought wasn't resentment, it was confusion. They know how hard you work. They know what you're capable of. So why aren't they picking you? Because people don't live in your head, and if you haven't told them where you want to go, they're not guessing. In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually takes to get access to the opportunities, rooms, and relationships that will move your career forward. It's not about doing more. It's about signaling differently. In this episode, I'll cover: Why the people around you are picking whoever raised their hand, not whoever worked the hardestHow to get clear on what you actually want so you can start framing it to the right peopleThe small actions that get you seen differently without waiting for someone to notice you on their own🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    19 min

  4. Jun 9

    The Right Time to Ask Is Never Going to Feel Right

    Send us Fan Mail You keep delivering. You keep saying yes to more responsibility. And somewhere in the back of your mind, you tell yourself it's just not the right time to ask for the title, the raise, the recognition you've been waiting on. But on the other side of that silence, your boss isn't waiting with you. They're watching you perform and assuming you're fine. In this episode, I'll cover: Why silence signals satisfaction, even when you're anything butThe 90-day window that determines whether your yes becomes leverage or assumptionThree moves to take in the next 72 hours so you stop leaving it on the table🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min

  5. Jun 2

    The Career Move No One Else Can Make for You

    Send us Fan Mail You see a colleague get the stretch assignment. You think, "Good for them." And then, quietly, "Why not me?" That moment is where most people stop. But that question, "Why not me?" is exactly where a negotiator starts. Research shows 46% of managers don't even know what their people want next. That's not on them. That's on you knowing it first. Getting what you want at work starts long before any conversation. It starts with being clear enough to say it out loud. In this episode, I'll cover: Identify what you actually want beyond just the next titleAsk the right people for perspective, including those outside your direct chainFrame what you want in a way that makes it easy for others to say yes🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    20 min

  6. May 26

    Office Politics Isn't Dirty, It's How You Get What You Want

    Send us Fan Mail Most of us hear "office politics" and immediately distance ourselves. It sounds manipulative, underhanded, like something people with questionable integrity do to get ahead. So we opt out. We stay professional, stay quiet, keep our heads down. But opting out is still a choice. And while you're making it, someone else is in the room getting credit for your idea, volunteering to send out your work, and positioning himself for the opportunity you didn't raise your hand for. In this episode, I'll cover: Why refusing to engage with office politics is still a position, and what it costs youThe three-part formula that separates real influence from manipulationHow to make your value visible without becoming someone you're not🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    23 min

  7. May 19

    Why the Most Prepared Person in the Room Always Wins

    Send us Fan Mail You've been thinking about a conversation for days, maybe longer, and when you finally walk in, something unexpected happens. The other person says something that catches you off guard, the energy shifts, and suddenly everything you planned feels out of reach. You end up agreeing to something you didn't mean to, and you spend the drive home wondering how it went sideways so fast. That moment isn't about confidence. It's about preparation, and specifically what happens when the other person in that room did more of it than you did. In this episode, I'll cover: Why "being good on the fly" is a myth that puts even experienced people at a serious disadvantageThe three things to write down before any high-stakes conversation so your past self can anchor you when emotions take overHow your emotions can be used as a tactic against you, and why preparation is the thing that takes that off the table🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    20 min

  8. May 12

    When to Push and When to Pause in High Stakes Conversations

    Send us Fan Mail You're ready for the client presentation, the meeting with your boss, the room full of people counting on you to speak. You rehearsed, you have a plan, and the moment finally comes. But the energy is tight, something feels off, and instead of pausing to read it, you push through anyway. The call goes hollow. And you know it the second it's over. That gap between what you prepared for and what the room actually needed? That's where situational awareness lives. And it's the one thing that separates the people who rise in an organization from the ones who stay stuck wondering what went wrong. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize when you're running your script instead of reading the roomPrepare for the meeting you might get, not just the one you planned forBuild a feedback habit so it stops feeling like a threat when it finds you🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    19 min
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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meetingWhen you ask for an opportunityWhen you handle workplace conflictWhen you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

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  • Creator
    Susie Tomenchok
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    198
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    Clean
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    © 2026 How to Get What You Want
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