How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok
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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meetingWhen you ask for an opportunityWhen you handle workplace conflictWhen you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

  1. 1D AGO

    What Imposter Syndrome Actually Looks Like in High Performers

    Seventy percent of people experience imposter syndrome at some point, and it hits hardest in high achievers. The more capable you are, the wider the gap feels between how others see you and how you see yourself. And the sneaky part is it rarely looks like doubt. It looks like stepping back, staying quiet, giving someone else the floor and calling it professional. That quiet step backward has a cost. In this episode, I'm getting specific about where it actually shows up in leadership and what starts to shift when you learn to catch it. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize how imposter syndrome actually shows up in high-stakes momentsShift your focus off self-doubt and onto the contribution the room expects from youUse three specific moves to start building the muscle that pushes doubt out of the way_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min

  2. APR 28

    Why Getting Things Done Isn't Getting You Noticed

    Your calendar is full. You're keeping up, moving fast, and honestly proud of what you're getting done. Then you find out there's a major cross-functional initiative in the works and your name wasn't on the list. It's not a confidence problem. It's not a performance problem. But something is quietly happening to the way you're thinking, and it's costing you visibility at exactly the moment it matters most. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize the three signs that your mindset has shifted into execution mode without you noticingReclaim strategic thinking even when your schedule feels completely packedTake one specific action this week to start showing up where the opportunities actually are_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    19 min

  3. APR 21

    The Excuses You Make That Are Costing You What You Want

    You picked the day. You thought through exactly what you were going to say. And then your boss pushed the meeting and you felt, if you're honest, a little relieved. So you reset the date. And then something else came up. And then again. And before you know it, you've talked yourself out of it so many times that the ask never happens. That's not strategy. It's directly connected to getting what you want, and every time you find a reason to wait, you're giving yourself a no before anyone else even has the chance to say yes. In this episode, I'll cover: How to recognize when you're protecting yourself instead of being strategicWhy there is no perfect timing and what to do insteadHow to create accountability that actually closes the gap between intention and action_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    20 min

  4. APR 14

    The Meeting Mistake That Makes You Forgettable

    Think about the last time you had something to say in a meeting and didn't say it. Maybe you were waiting for the right moment. Maybe someone else was talking and you thought you'd jump in after. And then the conversation shifted, and the moment passed, and someone else said something close enough to your idea that everyone moved on without you. That's not just a missed moment. It's directly connected to getting what you want in your career. Every time you stay silent, you're leaving other people to define what you bring to the table. And the story they tell about you is usually not the one you'd choose. In this episode, I'll cover: Why silence isn't neutral and what people actually think when you don't speak upHow to shift your perspective so you stop defending your silencePractical ways to get your voice in the room, even when you don't feel ready_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min

  5. APR 7

    Your Words Are Telling People How to See You

    Every time you speak, you're shaping how people receive what you say. And most of the time, you're doing it without realizing it. It sounds like this: I'm not as technical as everyone here, but... or this may not be helpful, but... It feels polite. It feels humble. But what it's actually doing is telling people exactly how much weight to give your ideas before they've even heard them. In this episode, I'll cover: Why the phrases that feel humble or polite are actually costing you credibilityHow to replace the disclaimers without sounding arrogant or overconfidentWhat shifts when you start framing yourself the way you want to be seen _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    21 min

  6. MAR 31

    The Habit Making You Invisible at Work

    How often do you say “I’m good” and move on? It sounds harmless, but it’s one of the fastest ways to disappear in your career. I see talented leaders doing this all the time: you’re doing the work, and you’re driving results, but in the moments that actually shape perception, you’re saying nothing. This isn’t about bragging. It’s about being intentional with how you frame your value. When you start thinking like a negotiator, even casual conversations become opportunities to anchor your impact. And that changes how people see you. In this episode, I’ll cover:  Turn everyday questions into moments that highlight your value  Anchor your impact so leaders understand what you bring  Shift language that quietly minimizes your contribution_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    18 min

  7. MAR 24

    What to Do When You Receive Conflicting Feedback

    You can be a confident leader and still feel thrown off by feedback. Especially when it points in completely different directions. One person tells you to speak up more. Another says you’re too strong. Suddenly, you’re left wondering which version of you is actually right. Tune in as I talk about how to think about feedback when it feels confusing or even contradictory. I share how I’ve learned to step back, separate emotion from information, and look for what feedback is really showing you about your impact as a leader.  In this episode, I’ll cover: • Identify the patterns in feedback instead of reacting to a single opinion  • Evaluate the context and relationship behind the feedback you receive  • Create space between the emotional reaction and your response _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    23 min

  8. MAR 17

    What To Do When A Decision Blindsides You

    You walk into a meeting prepared and you think you’ve anticipated the questions + direction of the conversation. Then suddenly the decision goes a different way, and you feel the shift immediately. Your body reacts before your brain catches up. That reaction isn’t just frustration. When reality doesn’t match what your brain expected, it triggers a response that can make even experienced leaders defensive or reactive. This episode is about recognizing that moment and knowing how to slow it down so you can stay strategic instead of emotional. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize when your brain has shifted into a reactive stateQuestions that help you slow the conversation down and regain clarity Ways to pause and reset so you can respond thoughtfully instead of reacting_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    23 min
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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meetingWhen you ask for an opportunityWhen you handle workplace conflictWhen you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

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  • Creator
    Susie Tomenchok
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    190
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 How to Get What You Want
  • Show Website
    How to Get What You Want

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