How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok

Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.

  1. 19H AGO

    Are You Diluting Your Power Without Realizing It?

    It’s not just what you ask for. It’s how you ask for it. In this episode, I’m walking through three deceptively simple strategies that have helped countless women shift how they show up, how they’re perceived, and how confidently they navigate their work. If you’ve ever walked away from a meeting thinking, I could have handled that differently, this is for you. We’re talking about silence, framing, and the ask. These aren’t nice-to-haves. They’re everyday negotiation tools that sharpen your influence and change the way others experience you. This isn’t mindset fluff. These are practical habits you can use every day to build clarity, confidence, and leadership presence. In this episode, I’ll cover: Practicing silence as a signal of confidence and authorityMaking small, intentional asks that build your negotiation muscleSpotting where you’re softening your message and how to reframe it with clarity_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    30 min
  2. DEC 16

    Why Smart Women Miss Opportunities

    Sometimes we know exactly what we want, but we don’t raise our hand.  We hesitate. We wait. And the opportunity passes us by. In this episode, I’m talking about what holds us back from stepping up, why hesitation costs more than we think, and how to catch ourselves in the moments we stay small. Smart women miss out. Not because they’re unqualified. Because they don’t prepare for the moment when opportunity quietly appears. Let’s change that. You’ll walk away knowing what to look for, what to say, and how to advocate for yourself before you're “ready.” In this episode, I’ll cover: How to spot the subtle opportunities hiding in plain sightWhat hesitation sounds like in your head and why it winsThree specific steps to raise your hand with intention_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    19 min
  3. DEC 9

    When Your Boss Pulls Away, Is It You or Them?

    One day you’re having regular one-on-ones with your boss, and the next? Silence. Fewer meetings. Less context. No feedback. It’s easy to assume it’s personal, but is it? In this episode, I’m talking about what’s really going on when a leader suddenly gets quiet and how to manage up without spiraling into insecurity. If you’ve ever felt like your boss’s behavior changed overnight, this conversation will help you step back, zoom out, and approach the situation with clarity and confidence. You’ll walk away with a practical way to shift the dynamic and protect your momentum, even when your boss is overwhelmed and unavailable. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to shift from self-doubt to strategy when your boss changes behaviorWhat to say (and not say) when reconnecting with a checked-out leaderWays to support your boss while still getting what you need_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    17 min
  4. DEC 2

    How Confidence Changes the Conversation

    Ever seen someone walk into a room and instantly command it, without saying a word? That’s confidence. Not ego, not arrogance. Just belief. And belief is leverage. In this episode, I’m talking about the power of calibrated confidence—why it influences others, how it opens up opportunities, and what it actually looks like in a negotiation. You don’t have to fake it. But you do have to find it, own it, and use it. Whether you're walking into a high-stakes meeting or making an ask that makes your voice shake, confidence is the signal that gets others to trust your value. In this episode, I’ll cover: • How to anchor your belief so confidence shows up before you speak • The power of silence (and why you should stop talking after the ask) • Ways to borrow confidence when you’re not feeling it yet _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    13 min
  5. NOV 25

    Are You Leaving or Leading?

    Most people put all their focus on the new job when they leave a role. But if that’s where your attention ends, you’re missing a huge opportunity. I want to show you how to leave well, not just logistically, but strategically. In this episode, I’m walking you through a real example of how one woman made a career move with intention, influence, and grace. Because how you exit matters just as much as how you show up. Your influence doesn’t end when your badge turns in. If you’re planning a move or even just thinking about it, you’ll walk away knowing how to preserve your network, leave a legacy, and step into your next chapter with more confidence. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to exit without burning bridges even if you’re frustratedSimple ways to build influence before day one in a new roleA mindset shift that boosts your confidence by 25 percent in your next job_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    18 min
  6. NOV 18

    What Happens When Certainty Disappears

    You’re doing well at work, but something changes. A layoff, a canceled meeting, your boss goes quiet. And suddenly, your confidence takes a hit. That’s scarcity creeping in. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like when fear takes the wheel, even when your role is secure. I’ll share real client stories, personal reflections, and the ripple effects that happen when scarcity starts showing up in how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself or holding back lately, let’s talk about what’s really going on and what you can do to shift out of it. In this episode, I’ll cover: How scarcity mindset shows up even when you’re not at riskWhat leaders accidentally signal when they withhold informationWhy survival mode keeps you from being bold, strategic, and generous_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    20 min
  7. NOV 11

    Get Ready So You Don’t Get Sidelined

    You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a practiced one. Whether it’s a big presentation, a negotiation, or a quick meeting that could escalate fast, how you prepare can make or break the outcome. In this episode, I’m talking about the real reason women get sidelined in high-stakes conversations and how to train yourself to stay grounded, focused, and agile no matter what comes up. These aren’t hypothetical tips. This is what top leaders actually do to stay ready, even when the conversation takes a turn. If you’ve ever walked out of a meeting wishing you’d said something differently, this one’s for you. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to prepare for unpredictable turns in high-stakes conversationsWhat top negotiators and decision-makers do before every meetingThe four preparation steps that should become second nature_____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    16 min
  8. NOV 4

    Are You Growing or Just Getting Promoted? with Tinna Jackson

    Are you growing as a leader, or just collecting titles? That’s the question I explored with my guest Tinna Jackson, a powerhouse with experience in politics, nonprofits, and corporate leadership. We talk about what happens when your job no longer fits, how to recognize your natural talents, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional if you want to lead well. There’s always room for growth if you're willing to look beyond your current role. In this episode, I’ll cover: How to recognize when your role no longer reflects your full valueA smarter way to lead your team by leaning into their strengthsWhy emotional regulation is a non-negotiable skill for leadersMentioned in this episode: The Power Play Journal by Tina Jackson www.thepowerplayjournal.com Connect with Tinna: www.linkedin.com/in/tinna-jackson tinnajackson.com _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

    24 min
5
out of 5
17 Ratings

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Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence. You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth. On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention. Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond. Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same. If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.