How to Get What You Want

Susie Tomenchok
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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meetingWhen you ask for an opportunityWhen you handle workplace conflictWhen you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

  1. 4d ago

    Starting Over With Josh and Jennifer After They Left Corporate

    Send us Fan Mail This is part two of my conversation with Josh and Jennifer, two former executives who left corporate leadership to build their own businesses. If you haven't heard part one, start there, we spent that episode looking back at their years running big, complex organizations. In this episode, we look at what it felt like to walk away and build something of their own. Josh talks about the identity he didn't realize was wrapped up in the company he left. Jennifer walks through the slow build toward her own business, and what changed once she got clear on what to say yes and no to. We also talk about what surprised them most about themselves once the title and the office were gone. In this episode, I'll cover: Hear what it took to separate their identity from the company they built their career aroundLearn what actually created stability once the paycheck and structure were goneDiscover what surprised them most about who they became once they stopped performing for someone elseConnect with Jennifer Bergman: www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferjbergman Connect with Josh Seiden: www.linkedin.com/in/joshuaseiden 🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  2. Aug 25

    Looking Back With Josh and Jennifer Before They Left Corporate

    Send us Fan Mail I'm bringing two of my close friends onto the show today. Both spent years as senior executives, one in a private company, one in a public company, and both have since left to run their own businesses. This is part one of a two part series. In this episode, we're looking back on their years leading inside big, complex organizations. We get into the moves they wish they'd made sooner, the moments they actually negotiated for themselves, and what leadership taught them that no book or course ever could. Part two picks up with what it actually felt like to leave and build something of their own. In this episode, I'll cover: Look back at the career moves they'd make differently todayHear how they each learned to negotiate for themselves when it matteredUnderstand what real leadership taught them that no book couldConnect with Jennifer Bergman: www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferjbergman Connect with Josh Seiden: www.linkedin.com/in/joshuaseiden 🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  3. Aug 18

    When Was the Last Time You Checked If This Still Fits?

    Send us Fan Mail You take the promotion because it looks like progress. You feel chosen, relieved, maybe even flattered, and you don't stop to ask yourself if it's actually right for you until you're already in it. That's the moment I keep coming back to. I built a career assuming someone else would tap me on the shoulder with the next opportunity, and by the time I noticed the pattern, I'd already handed the decision away. This episode is about catching that shift before it happens again, and what it actually takes to stop waiting and start choosing. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize the difference between staying because it's easy and staying because it's rightAsk yourself the questions most people wait for someone else to askBuild the kind of career capital that keeps your options open, even when you're not looking🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  4. Aug 11

    Stop Asking For Feedback The Wrong Way

    Send us Fan Mail A senior leader wraps up a conversation and asks what they can do for you. You reach for the question you've been taught to ask. Where can I improve, and what are my blind spots? It feels like the responsible thing to say. But that question does something to the person across from you that you don't see happening in the moment, and by the time you realize it, the impression is already set. There's a specific swap that changes what someone walks away thinking about you, and once you hear it, you'll notice how often you've been doing the opposite. In this episode, I'll cover: The real reason that "blind spots" question works against youA better question to ask when someone offers to help you growHow to be intentional about who you ask, and when🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  5. Aug 4

    The Shift Most New Leaders Never Make

    Send us Fan Mail There's a moment after every promotion where you have a decision to make, even if you don't realize you're making it. Keep leading the way that got you here, or figure out what this new role actually needs from you. Most leaders default to the first one without noticing. That default is a negotiation problem, not a personality trait. The way you show up sets the pattern for how everyone around you responds, and if you don't reset it, neither will they. That's the shift most new leaders skip, and it's not automatic just because your title changed. In this episode, I'll cover: Say the shift out loud, to your team and to yourselfAsk more questions instead of jumping straight to answersAnticipate what your boss needs before they have to ask🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  6. Jul 28

    What To Do When Your Team's Work Missed The Mark

    Send us Fan Mail You ask someone on your team for a draft, and what comes back isn't even close to what you had in mind. It's easy to chalk that up to a skills gap, but that's rarely the real problem. I'm breaking down what's actually happening in that gap between what you pictured and what got delivered, and why the fix isn't about micromanaging harder. It comes down to something most leaders skip entirely, and once you see it, you can't unsee it in your own team. In this episode, I'll cover: Notice the pattern behind every "that's not what I asked for" momentRethink whether it's really a them problem or a you problemSee what's actually missing before you blame the person who delivered it🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  7. Jul 21

    Three Questions That Make Accomplished Leaders Go Quiet

    Send us Fan Mail I have three questions I come back to more than almost any other with my clients, and every time, I watch a smart, accomplished leader go quiet. Not because they're unsure. Because they've never had to answer it before. I'm sharing what those three questions are and what that quiet usually means. It's rarely about what people think it's about, and once you see it, it's hard to unsee. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize when you're treating something as fixed that's actually up for negotiationNotice what you're not saying, even when you think you've been clearWalk into your next high-stakes conversation seeing what you've been missing🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

  8. Jul 14

    Nobody Asked If You Were Okay With That

    Send us Fan Mail There's a version of negotiation that has nothing to do with raises or job offers. It happens in ordinary conversations, when an agreement quietly becomes something bigger than what you actually said yes to. Most people don't catch it in the moment. They catch it later, and by then they've already started doubting themselves instead of questioning what changed. That self-doubt is doing more damage than the shift itself. I'm breaking down why this happens, how to spot it before it becomes a habit, and what to do the next time you feel that gap between what you agreed to and what you're now expected to do. In this episode, I'll cover: Why scope creep is a negotiation problem most people never label as oneThe difference between doubting your memory and correctly identifying a shiftWhat to do the moment you notice the gap, before it becomes a pattern🎯 Done feeling overlooked while you watch others move forward? Executive coaching helps you advocate for yourself, get clear on where you're going, and take ownership of your next step. Book your call here: https://calendly.com/susietomenchok/new-meeting _____________________ 🚀 Ready to Get What You Want? Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.  📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources: Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation: www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training _____________________ Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset. 💕Susie www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok

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You already know what you want. The question is, do you know how to get it? On How to Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok shows you how to navigate the moments at work that actually determine your career. The conversations, decisions, and situations where what you say and how you show up shapes your career growth, leadership presence, and professional advancement. Because getting what you want isn’t about being louder or more aggressive. It’s about how you think, how you position yourself, and how you handle those moments at work. And whether you call it that or not, that’s negotiation. Not the kind that feels pushy or uncomfortable. The everyday kind you’re already in. When you decide to speak up in a meetingWhen you ask for an opportunityWhen you handle workplace conflictWhen you position your ideas and advocate for your value Each week, Susie breaks down real workplace scenarios, communication strategies, and mindset shifts so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start getting what you want in your career and your life.

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  • Creator
    Susie Tomenchok
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    207
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