Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Alena Gomes Rodrigues
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I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!

  1. Ep 174: Why Knowing Why You Yell Still Doesn’t Stop the Yelling

    JAN 30

    Ep 174: Why Knowing Why You Yell Still Doesn’t Stop the Yelling

    Send us a text You’ve read the books. Taken the courses. Reflected on your childhood. Maybe even done therapy. You know why you yell. And yet… when it’s Monday morning, you’re late, your kids aren’t listening, and the pressure hits, you still lose control. This episode explains why knowing why you yell is not enough to stop the yelling - and why awareness alone collapses exactly when it matters most. We talk about: why insight and information disappear under stresswhy your logical brain checks out in “go time” momentswhy therapy and self-reflection can feel relieving but not stabilizingwhy calm doesn’t come from understanding, but from something else entirelywhy this pattern didn’t start with you - and why that matters for your kids This is not another “how to stop yelling” episode. There are no scripts, tips, or techniques to memorize. It’s an orientation to help you stop blaming yourself and stop chasing the wrong solution.  If you’ve ever thought: “I know what’s going on… so why can’t I control myself?” This episode is for you. Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: LINK Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    21 min
  2. Ep 173: She Looked Calm on the Outside but Was Exploding Inside: Jen’s Story of Rage, Shutdown, and Healing

    JAN 23

    Ep 173: She Looked Calm on the Outside but Was Exploding Inside: Jen’s Story of Rage, Shutdown, and Healing

    Send us a text Jen was not the mom who yelled all the time. She was the mom who held it together. Who stayed composed. Who looked calm. Who swallowed the rage until it turned into shutdown, resentment, and emotional distance. From the outside, everything looked fine. Inside, her nervous system was on fire. In this episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast, Jen shares what happened when she realized that not yelling does not automatically mean emotional safety. She opens up about the hidden patterns underneath her reactions, the people pleasing, the freeze response, and the generational conditioning that taught her to disappear instead of express. This conversation is for moms who: Rarely yell but feel emotionally disconnected or numbShut down when things get overwhelmingStruggle to set boundaries without guiltFeel pressure to be the calm one at all costsWonder why therapy and insight helped them understand but not changeInside this episode, you will hear: Why emotional shutdown is just as important to heal as yellingHow freeze and people pleasing are nervous system survival responsesWhy calm on the outside does not equal safety on the insideHow Jen learned to stay present without suppressing herselfWhat changed in her parenting once her nervous system felt safeThis is not about becoming a softer mom. It is about becoming a regulated one. Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    37 min
  3. Ep 172: "I Yelled at My 4-Month-Old”: The Real Story of Traumatic Birth, Postpartum Rage & Healing

    JAN 16

    Ep 172: "I Yelled at My 4-Month-Old”: The Real Story of Traumatic Birth, Postpartum Rage & Healing

    Send us a text What do you do when your life starts falling apart? You’re in pain 24/7. You’re not sleeping. Your baby won’t settle. Your nervous system is stuck in survival. Your marriage feels like it’s breaking. And everyone has a different “solution”: pain meds or physical recovery supportpostpartum depression diagnosis + medicationtherapycouple counselingyoga, mindfulness, breathing…But what if you don’t have time to do 10 different things - and none of them are actually fixing the root? In this Zen Supermom Podcast episode, Jacqueline shares her real story:  A traumatic birth + months of constant physical pain (and not being believed) The shame of yelling at her baby at just 4 months old Feeling distant, resentful, angry, and “not made for motherhood” How postpartum depression explained part of it — but didn’t solve it Why she kept trying to push through with willpower Why her marriage started falling apart What she uncovered underneath (hyper-achiever + controller patterns, early childhood layers, and deeper trauma) And what changed in just a few months: deep bonding and love with her sonpresence and joy in daily lifea transformed marriage (teamwork, communication, peace)flexibility, less control, and more easeIf you’ve ever thought: “I should be happy… so why do I feel rage?” “Why do I feel nothing with my baby?” “Why is motherhood bringing out the worst in me?” This episode is for you. Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    51 min
  4. Ep 171: Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work for Moms (and What to Do Instead)

    JAN 9

    Ep 171: Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work for Moms (and What to Do Instead)

    Send us a text January is the most dangerous month for moms who want to stop yelling at their kids. Because January convinces you the problem is motivation. “Try harder.” “Be calmer.” “Use better parenting tools.” “Read the books.” “Do the courses.” And if you’re a smart, strong, loving mom… you will try. Hard. But then the same cycle comes back: yelling → apologizing → being nice 1000 times → over-explaining → no boundaries → yelling again. In this first episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast of 2026, I break down what most parenting advice ignores: Why it’s not really about your child (even when they trigger you) Why suppressing anger makes the “volcano” build up Why yoga, meditation, and mindfulness often don’t work in the moment Why gentle parenting can feel like manipulation if you don’t have healthy boundaries The missing “healthy in-between” (beyond people-pleasing or yelling) The trauma spectrum: shock trauma vs developmental trauma (1,000 paper cuts) How conditional love creates hyper-achieving, controlling, people-pleasing patterns Why your nervous system and identity were shaped long before you became a mom What actually helped me become calm under pressure - without years of talk therapy This episode is a truth bomb, but it’s also a permission slip: There’s nothing wrong with you. And it’s not too late. Next steps (free): Watch the Mommy Tantrum Training (with exercises to connect the dots for yourself): https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-training-registration Book a free assessment call with our Zen Supermom Coach Sanja (45 min): She’ll help you detangle what’s really going on beneath your triggers and what you need next. Email hi@zensupermom.com You deserve to feel happy, at peace, and like the best mom your kids could ever wish for. Happy New Year, Supermom! Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    40 min
  5. Ep 170: She Was a Neuroscientist… and Still Yelling at Her 3-Year-Old: Mona’s Breakthrough Story

    12/12/2025

    Ep 170: She Was a Neuroscientist… and Still Yelling at Her 3-Year-Old: Mona’s Breakthrough Story

    Send us a text She had a degree in neuroscience. She understood the amygdala, stress responses, emotional regulation… And yet she was still yelling at her 3-year-old daughter, over and over again. Yoga didn’t help. Mindfulness didn’t help. Positive affirmations didn’t help. And despite having loving parents and a “good childhood,” Mona found herself stuck in a cycle she couldn’t think her way out of. In this powerful episode, Mona shares: Why knowledge alone can’t stop your nervous system from explodingHow “good girl conditioning” turns into people-pleasing and avoidant parentingWhy she believed her low self-confidence was her personality (when it wasn’t)How her inner child and generational patterns were running her reactionsThe exact moment she realized: “This goes much deeper than tools.”The transformation she experienced inside the Zen Supermom ProgramHow her daughter’s behavior and their connection changedHow healing her patterns helped her at work, in her marriage, and even with phone calls If you’ve ever thought: “I know the theory, so why can’t I DO better?”“I had a happy childhood… so why am I reacting like this?”“Maybe this is just who I am…”...  you need to hear this.  Listen to Mona’s real, raw, and inspiring healing journey. Free Mommy Tantrum Training: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-training-registration Book a Free Assessment Call: email hi@zensupermom.com #zenSupermom #gentleparenting #generationaltrauma #momanger #traumahealingforparents Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    39 min
  6. Ep 169: “I Don’t Need More Parenting Tips. I Need the Tools!” How to Stop Yelling Without More Books

    11/28/2025

    Ep 169: “I Don’t Need More Parenting Tips. I Need the Tools!” How to Stop Yelling Without More Books

    Send us a text You’ve read the books. You know child psychology. You understand that your kids are supposed to test boundaries, move at their own pace, have big emotions… and most of the time you are the calm, patient mom. Until you’re tired. Rushed. Overwhelmed. Hungry. Late for school again. And then you yell. Just like your mom yelled at you – even though you promised yourself you’d be different. You keep thinking: “I don’t need more theory. I just need the tools!” In this episode of the Zen Superman Podcast, I break down why more information is not the answer – and what “tools” actually mean when it comes to stopping mommy tantrums for good. We talk about: Why your logical, super‑educated brain “checks out” when you’re triggeredHow your unhealed inner child hijacks your body and reactions in secondsThe concept of “1,000 paper cuts” generational developmental trauma – even if you had a “good” childhoodWhy classic therapies and more parenting courses often don’t touch this patternThe 2 pillars you really need instead:Healing your inner child (so she stops taking over)Mental Fitness: rewiring your autopilot so you don’t repeat how your parents handled stressWhat changes when you build a healthy blueprint of unconditional love + boundariesWhy “I’ll fix it later when they’re older” is one of the most expensive lies we tell ourselves as moms If you’re the mom who says: “I know what I should do, but in the moment I just lose it.”“I’m terrified I’m becoming my mom – and my kids will sit in therapy because of me.”“I’ve done all the parenting courses, but I still don’t have the tools that actually work under pressure…”…this episode was recorded for you.  Listen now and start breaking the generational cycle – without trying to be a perfect, always‑nice mom. #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #momanger #traumahealing #mommytantrums #stopyelling #parentingpodcast Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    42 min
  7. Ep 168: “It’s My Responsibility to Make Everyone Happy” - Healing the Generational Pattern That Turns Your Strength Into Pain

    11/21/2025

    Ep 168: “It’s My Responsibility to Make Everyone Happy” - Healing the Generational Pattern That Turns Your Strength Into Pain

    Send us a text Have you ever told yourself, “It’s my responsibility to make everyone happy”? If so, this episode is for you. Because that sentence isn’t your personality. It’s not your “strength.” And it’s definitely not your purpose. It’s a generational trauma pattern that turned your empathy into over-responsibility… your intuition into hypervigilance… and your caring nature into exhaustion. In this episode, we go deep into the truth behind this pattern:  Why you feel responsible for everyone’s emotions Why you’re pulled to help people who don’t want help Why your kindness sometimes gets rejected or resented Why you can see other people’s patterns… but can’t stop yours And how to finally break free - without becoming “cold” or “selfish” You’ll hear:  Why high-achieving, self-aware, ultra-sensitive women fall into this trap How childhood roles (parentification, emotional caretaking, walking on eggshells) shape adult behavior Why knowledge is not enough to stop the cycle The moment your helping turns into proving, or saving, or trying to earn worth And the exact place where healing must begin If you’ve ever felt drained, unseen, unappreciated, or resentful despite your big heart and good intentions - this episode will hit home. This isn’t about stopping your empathy. It’s about rewiring the pattern that uses your gifts against you.  Listen/watch now and learn how to turn your sensitivity back into your superpower - without sacrificing yourself. Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    31 min
  8. Ep 167: How to Help Your Kids Get Out of Toxic Friendships Without Taking Over

    11/07/2025

    Ep 167: How to Help Your Kids Get Out of Toxic Friendships Without Taking Over

    Send us a text Your child’s best friend has started crossing lines: the teasing, the manipulation, the mixed signals... all hidden behind “friendship.” In this episode of The Zen Supermom Podcast, you’ll learn how to help your kids recognize and step away from toxic friendships without forcing, controlling, or breaking their trust. You’ll discover: The subtle ways toxic friends blur your child’s boundaries What to say (and what not to say) when they won’t listen How your own emotional patterns influence what they tolerate Why protecting them starts with modeling healthy relationships This isn’t about blame, it’s about awareness, safety, and empowerment. Listen now to learn how to protect your kids from toxic friendships by starting with your own healing. Support the show Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning). I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want. My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole. 🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next. 👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass 📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed Get the Zen Supermom book here: 👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com) More about me & my work: 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com Music by ...

    27 min
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I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!

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