Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor
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For over 20 years now, we’ve fought the good fight of faith, and along the way we have learned so much about living a God-first life. Before Jesus, Tabatha was diagnosed depressed for over 12 years, we had $100,000 in debt, and we were headed straight for divorce. But when we started living for God, our lives radically changed. Tabatha was healed, we prospered financially, and we became best friends. With God's help, we learned how to do life well. And that’s exactly why we’ve created this Podcast – to help you do life with us and do it well. We will help you unlock principles for doing life God’s way, which will lead you to more joy, more peace, and true freedom. 

  1. 4D AGO

    5 Reasons Christians Should Re-Think Alcohol

    Send a text What if the line between “okay” and “too far” isn’t a line worth walking? We open up about our 24-year sober journey and the moment a mentor reframed the question from “Is it allowed?” to “Is it wise for a king?” From there, the conversation turns honest and practical—how alcohol blurred judgment, complicated leadership, and stole the very peace it promised. We dig into Scripture’s balanced view, the call to be sober-minded, and why “living beyond the gray” can protect marriages, ministries, and mental health. We also face the facts. Alcohol is a depressant that breaks sleep, raises cancer risk, and shows up in far too many assaults and crashes. Even modest use can fog thinking and dull discernment. Meanwhile, culture is shifting—low and no-alcohol options are booming, and younger generations are choosing clarity. For us, abstinence wasn’t loss; it was abundance. Joy got brighter, community got safer, and our witness grew stronger. We learned to host gatherings where the recovering feel welcome and leaders model restraint that builds trust rather than testing boundaries. If alcohol is your gray area, try a simple experiment: a 30-day sobriety challenge. Let your body reset, watch your sleep improve, and see what happens to your focus, mood, and mornings. At the end, reassess with clear eyes. You might discover, as we did, that the tradeoffs aren’t worth it and that the life you want thrives without a drink. If this resonates, subscribe for more conversations like this, share it with someone who needs a nudge toward freedom, and leave a review to help others find the show. Your next 30 days could rewrite the next 30 years. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    43 min

  2. FEB 26

    Submission & Faithfulness: God’s Path to Promotion

    Send a text What if the real path to promotion looks nothing like hustle culture promises? We take on two charged words—submission and faithfulness—and show how they form a powerful, practical way of life that advances marriages, teams, and callings. This isn’t about losing your voice. It’s about choosing God’s order, serving with strength, and becoming the kind of person heaven can trust. We start by reframing submission as a voluntary, faith-filled posture that prioritizes mission over ego. In marriage, we talk equal dignity with distinct roles: a wife’s trust-filled submission and a husband’s call to love like Christ—protective, sacrificial, and servant-hearted. We address the hard cases too: when to appeal, when to say no, and how to honor while obeying God above man. Then we move beyond the home into work, church, and community, where mature people bring strong ideas, align after decisions, and stop the whispering that fractures teams. From there we dig into faithfulness—commitment and consistency over time. We unpack why God promotes finishers who steward small assignments well, why “be found faithful” is a leadership superpower, and how to make diligence visible through clarity and follow-through. Expect concrete markers of a submitted heart (teachability, tone, peacemaking) and five next steps to grow: re-surrender daily, practice honor with honest appeal, master the small things, close the loop with cadence, and keep a clean, offense-proof heart. If you’re ready to trade striving for strength and hype for substance, this conversation will meet you with courage and clarity. Subscribe, share with a friend who leads or serves, and leave a review with the one area you’ll choose to be found faithful this week. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    37 min

  3. FEB 19

    7 Money Habits to End Marriage Stress

    Send a text Money pressure has a way of sneaking into a marriage and turning simple conversations into fights. We open up about our early years—over $100k in debt, sleepless nights, and two very different backgrounds—and share the seven habits that helped us replace anxiety with unity. This is a practical, faith-filled roadmap: one shared plan, a zero-based budget, the 10-10-80 priority rule, and margin that lets you breathe. We talk through sinking funds for “predictable surprises,” why we moved from “his and her” money to “our” money, and how a simple solo spend limit protects trust without micromanaging. You’ll hear how ditching personal credit cards and learning from wise friends changed our trajectory, plus how the debt snowball gave us momentum and milestone wins. Most importantly, we anchor every step in stewardship and Scripture—seeing money as God’s, not ours, and expecting favor, wisdom, and creative ideas rather than quick windfalls. We walk through passages like Deuteronomy 8:18, Malachi 3, and Proverbs 3 to ground financial choices in covenant, not fear. Good success means more than income; it’s peace in your home, clarity in your plan, and alignment with purpose. If money fights are draining your relationship, this conversation offers simple tools and a hopeful path forward. Listen to learn how to budget together, build margin, set boundaries, and turn debt into a shared mission. Then share the episode with a friend who needs encouragement, subscribe for more faith-forward marriage and money insights, and leave a review with the first habit you’ll start today. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    41 min

  4. FEB 12

    The Danger of Casual Christianity

    Send a text Lukewarm faith feels easy—until it costs you power, joy, and purpose. We get honest about casual Christianity, why it’s so common, and how to move from a Sunday habit to a life that actually carries the presence of God. Ken shares his past as a “Christian atheist”—believing in God but living like He didn’t exist—and how that exposed the gap between form and power. Together, we walk through the telltale signs of a casual believer, from private faith and convenience-based attendance to tipping instead of tithing and resisting repentance, and we ask the question that matters most: is there fruit that matches your repentance? To help you locate where you are and chart a way forward, we break down four levels of commitment—community, crowd, core, covenant—and why planting in a local church changes everything. The core grows the Church through sowing, serving, and making disciples, while covenant multiplies grace through spiritual fathers and mothers, accountability, and honor for God-ordained offices. We explore biblical models like Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, and Ruth and Naomi to show how covenant delivers double-portion impact. When you’re planted, you flourish: marriages heal, leaders emerge, and your witness stops being theoretical and starts transforming lives. If you’re tired of a faith that feels nostalgic, irregular, and powerless, this conversation offers a practical path into a Spirit-filled, mission-shaped life. Reorder your identity around Jesus, build rhythms of Scripture and prayer, commit to gathered worship, and serve people you love enough to tell the truth. Casual Christianity is convenient; covenant is costly and worth it. Subscribe for more, share this with someone who needs a nudge toward purpose, and leave a review to tell us your next step. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    36 min

  5. FEB 5

    Stop Wasting Your 20’s | 5 Dating Rules We Wish We Knew

    Send a text Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad instead of a landfill. We start by reframing the goal: Christlikeness over a wedding date. Contentment beats comparison, and wholeness beats hurried timelines. Then we get specific. Date on purpose using a 90‑day clarity window. Ask better questions about faith, direction, and character. Choose character over chemistry by testing for humility, forgiveness, and submission to godly authority. Pace the relationship with clear boundaries—public early dates, digital guardrails, and honest conversations about sex, soul ties, and healing. We also tackle love bombing, why it feels so real at first, and how accountability reveals the truth before it’s too late. Money matters too. Check the credit, not just the chemistry, and bring debt, spending, tithing, and budgeting into the light so you can build trust instead of resentment. Finally, don’t date alone. Isolation creates illusion; community brings clarity. Invite a married mentor and a wise peer, worship together, and let your circle call green, yellow, or red flags. Healthy relationships can handle scrutiny because they are built on truth. If this helped you rethink your standards or reset your pace, share it with a friend who needs clarity, subscribe for new episodes every Thursday at 3 p.m., and leave a review to tell us your biggest takeaway. Your future self will thank you. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    43 min

  6. JAN 29

    Quit Porn For Good! A Faith Based Plan

    Send a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    42 min

  7. JAN 22

    Don’t Settle For An “OK” Marriage

    Send a text Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to scheduling a 20-second hug, we share the small, repeatable habits that build warmth, trust, and momentum across every season. We get real about seasons and capacity: how wisdom can multiply what time no longer does, why pivoting your pace is not failure but stewardship, and how to keep your spouse first when life gets crowded with kids, career, and ministry. You’ll hear how we use family meetings to surface blind spots without blame, plus the honest questions that make feedback safe. We also name the trap of projection—how dissatisfaction with yourself can masquerade as disappointment with your partner—and offer a path back to ownership and healing. Then we roll out an eight-part playbook to beat the “okay” marriage: craft a shared vision, win the day with small rituals, fight fair with a written playbook, pursue intimacy on purpose, treat money as a team sport, practice radical honesty, install protective guardrails, and keep novelty alive with monthly mini-adventures. Expect practical examples—date-night rhythms, conflict rules, trust “bricks,” Sunday money huddles—and a reminder that many couples don’t fall out of love; they fall out of like. Choose curiosity, choose growth, and choose each other. If this helped you, tap follow, share it with a friend who refuses to settle, and leave a quick review telling us which practice you’ll try first. Your feedback helps more couples find a path from okay to extraordinary. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    40 min

  8. JAN 15

    Miracle Season: Creating An Atmosphere That Attracts God

    Send a text GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.com https://www.myalivechurch.org - Socials: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/ https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/ TikTok- @Ken_Claytor @Tabathaclaytor @myalivechurch Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch - Ask us questions: ...

    39 min
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For over 20 years now, we’ve fought the good fight of faith, and along the way we have learned so much about living a God-first life. Before Jesus, Tabatha was diagnosed depressed for over 12 years, we had $100,000 in debt, and we were headed straight for divorce. But when we started living for God, our lives radically changed. Tabatha was healed, we prospered financially, and we became best friends. With God's help, we learned how to do life well. And that’s exactly why we’ve created this Podcast – to help you do life with us and do it well. We will help you unlock principles for doing life God’s way, which will lead you to more joy, more peace, and true freedom. 

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  • Creator
    Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    177
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha
  • Show Website
    Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

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