I Talk To Myself Sometimes

Antoinette Arrington
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Sometimes the only way to see it clearly… is to say it out loud. I Talk To Myself Sometimes is where Antoinette Arrington unpacks the life that shaped her — and talks through the woman she’s still becoming. Each episode is sparked by the nostalgic soundtrack of the 90s, revisiting the songs that carried us through first loves, heartbreaks, and grown woman lessons we didn’t even know we were learning. This podcast is for anyone who finds themselves lost in thought, processing life out loud, or replaying old songs with brand new understanding. Through single-sided conversations that feel intimate and unfiltered, Antoinette invites you to reflect, laugh, and maybe heal a little — one track and one musing at a time. If you grew up on 90s RnB and hip-hop, if you’ve ever caught yourself having “that talk” in your head, or if you just need a moment of honesty and nostalgia, this space is for you.

  1. 4D AGO

    Heavy D’s “Is It Good to You”: When Asking Becomes the Power Move

    Heavy D & The Boyz’s “Is It Good to You” dropped in 1991, and if you’ve ever realized that the best intimacy happens when someone actually cares enough to ask if you’re enjoying it, you know this song. This confident new jack swing classic captured something we don’t talk about enough: that asking “is it good to you” isn’t insecurity—it’s power. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this sensual track reveals why communication is the sexiest thing you can do, why assuming kills intimacy, and what it means to finally require someone to care about your pleasure as much as their own. Through direct, self-reflective conversation, this episode examines: • Why asking about pleasure is confidence, not insecurity • How we confuse silence with satisfaction in intimate spaces • The courage it takes to speak up about what you actually need Perfect for fans of classic 90s R&B, Heavy D, new jack swing, honest conversations about intimacy, sexual communication, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode challenges you to stop assuming and start asking—both in bed and in life. Listen now and reflect on the confident wisdom of Heavy D’s “Is It Good to You”. When did you learn to speak up about what you needed? Drop your reflections in the comments—I need to hear your story.

    9 min

  2. FEB 7

    Donell Jones’s “Where I Wanna Be”: When Leaving Isn’t the Same as Loving

    Donell Jones’s “Where I Wanna Be” dropped in 1999, and if you’ve ever been left by someone who said they loved you too much to cheat on you, you know this song. This confessional R&B hit captured something we don’t talk about enough: how self-awareness can be weaponized, how leaving someone “to avoid hurting them worse” is still choosing yourself, and how “I need time” often means “I’m already gone but don’t want to be the bad guy.” In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this song reveals the difference between honesty and accountability, why confession doesn’t erase harm, and what it means when someone needs time to figure out if they want you. Through direct, unflinching introspection, this episode examines: ​ How we confuse self-awareness with selflessness in relationships​ The pattern of leaving someone under the guise of doing the right thing​ What it means when someone’s honesty is just a prettier version of goodbye Perfect for fans of classic 90s R&B, Donell Jones, honest relationship reflections, accountability in love, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode challenges you to recognize when “I need space” is really “I want out”—and to stop waiting for someone to choose you. Listen now and reflect on the hard truths of Donell Jones’s “Where I Wanna Be”.

    8 min

  3. JAN 31

    Carl Thomas’s “Emotional”: When Vulnerability Sounds Like Strength

    Carl Thomas’s “Emotional” dropped in 2000, and if you’ve ever had to walk away from something you still loved because staying was costing you too much, you know this song. This raw R&B ballad captured something rare: a man admitting he’s breaking, feeling everything, and still making the hard choice to leave. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this confessional classic reveals the difference between emotional honesty and weakness, why vulnerability in men deserves to be honored not managed, and what it means to choose yourself even when it destroys you. Through layered introspection, this episode examines: • How emotional honesty in men is an act of courage, not fragility • The strength it takes to feel everything and still do what’s necessary • Why we struggle to hold space for male vulnerability even when we say we want it Perfect for fans of classic R&B, Carl Thomas, honest relationship reflections, emotional vulnerability, male sensitivity, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode shows how revisiting songs from our past can teach us that being emotional and being strong aren’t opposites. Listen now and reflect on the vulnerable courage of Carl Thomas’s “Emotional”. Have you ever had to choose yourself even though it broke your heart? Drop your reflections in the comments—I want to hear your story.

    8 min

  4. JAN 24

    Aaliyah’s “Rock The Boat”: When Desire Sounds Like Trust

    Aaliyah’s “Rock The Boat” dropped in 2001, and if you’ve ever experienced intimacy where you felt safe enough to ask for exactly what you wanted, you know this song. This sensual R&B classic captured something rare: desire without urgency, pleasure as collaboration, and the kind of trust that allows you to be both vulnerable and direct. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this iconic track reveals the difference between performance and presence, why real intimacy requires communication, and what Aaliyah’s confidence teaches us about showing up fully in our bodies. Through layered introspection, this episode examines: • How intimacy becomes deeper when we trust enough to communicate our desires • The difference between urgency and unhurried attention in physical connection • What Aaliyah’s maturity and self-possession in this song reveal about genuine sensuality Perfect for fans of classic R&B, Aaliyah, sensual music reflection, honest conversations about intimacy, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode shows how revisiting songs from our past can teach us about trust, presence, and the courage it takes to ask for what we need. Listen now and reflect on the sensual wisdom of Aaliyah’s “Rock The Boat”. Have you ever felt safe enough in intimacy to truly communicate what you wanted? Drop your reflections in the comments—I want to hear your story.

    11 min

  5. JAN 17

    Case & Joe’s “Faded Pictures”: When You’re Loved But Never Chosen

    Case & Joe’s “Faded Pictures” dropped in 1998, and if you’ve ever loved someone who was still mourning someone else, you know this song. This bittersweet R&B ballad captured the unique heartbreak of being present with someone who’s emotionally absent—watching them flip through old memories, waiting for them to see you, wondering why your love isn’t enough to pull them back. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this nostalgic classic reveals the difference between patience and self-erasure, the pain of competing with the past, and what it means to finally walk away from someone who isn’t ready to hold you. Through layered introspection, this episode examines: ​ The loneliness of loving someone who’s still living in yesterday​ How we confuse waiting with devotion when someone isn’t emotionally available​ The courage it takes to stop competing with a memory and choose yourself Perfect for fans of classic 90s R&B, Case & Joe, nostalgic love songs, honest relationship reflections, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode shows how revisiting songs from our past can help us understand when to hold on and when to let go. Listen now and reflect on the tender heartbreak of Case & Joe’s “Faded Pictures”. When did you realize you were competing with a memory? Drop your reflections in the comments—I want to hear your story.

    7 min

  6. JAN 10

    Boyz II Men’s “Never Go Away”: When Intensity Isn’t the Same as Devotion

    Boyz II Men’s “Never Go Away” dropped in 2000, and if you’ve ever been someone’s whole world—or tried to be—you know this song. This tender R&B ballad captured the kind of intensity we thought was devotion: the breathless declarations, the promises of forever, the feeling that love means needing someone so completely you can’t imagine surviving without them. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this reflective classic reveals the difference between intensity and sustainability, devotion and dependency, and what it really means when someone’s friends think they’re crazy. Through layered introspection, this episode examines: • How we confused intensity with commitment in our younger relationships • The difference between being captivated by someone and building a life with them • What it means when “never go away” sounds more like pleading than devotion Perfect for fans of classic R&B, Boyz II Men, nostalgic love songs, honest relationship reflections, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode shows how revisiting songs from our past can reveal the difference between love that consumes and love that sustains. Listen now and reflect on the complexity of Boyz II Men’s “Never Go Away”. When did you realize the difference between someone wanting you to stay and someone doing the work to make staying feel good? Drop your reflections in the comments—I want to hear your story.

    6 min

  7. 12/21/2025

    Erykah Badu’s “Next Lifetime”: When Right Person, Wrong Time Wasn’t Just an Excuse

    Erykah Badu’s “Next Lifetime” dropped in 1997, and if you’ve ever felt something real and had to walk away because the timing wasn’t right, you know this song. This wistful neo-soul classic captured the emotional maturity it takes to honor connection without acting on it, the clarity that comes from understanding that wanting someone and being available for them aren’t the same thing, and the wisdom of choosing integrity over impulse. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this reflective hit reveals what it means when right person, wrong time isn’t just an excuse, the gift of recognizing that not every connection is meant to be pursued, and the evolved understanding that sometimes love is about respecting what you can’t have. Through layered introspection, this episode examines: • Why right person, wrong time is a truth, not an excuse • The emotional maturity required to honor boundaries in love • How some connections teach us what we’re capable of feeling without being meant to stay Perfect for fans of classic 90s neo-soul, honest reflections on timing and circumstance, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode shows how revisiting songs from our past can help us understand the wisdom in walking away from what feels right but isn’t meant to be. Listen now and reflect on the bittersweet clarity of Erykah Badu’s “Next Lifetime”.

    8 min

  8. 12/08/2025

    Jodeci’s “Forever My Lady”: When Wanting Someone Felt Like Knowing Them

    Jodeci’s “Forever My Lady” dropped in 1991, and if you’ve ever mistaken intensity for permanence, you know this song. This intimate 90s R&B classic captured the kind of desire that feels all-consuming—the pull toward someone so strong it seems like it has to mean forever. In this episode of *I Talk To Myself Sometimes*, Antoinette Arrington explores how this sensual hit reveals the difference between wanting someone and keeping them, the lessons we carry about confusing heat with devotion, and the self-awareness that comes from understanding that intensity doesn’t guarantee staying power. Through layered introspection, this episode examines: • The difference between desire and devotion • How we confuse intensity with permanence • The hard-won lesson that wanting someone doesn’t make them yours Perfect for fans of classic 90s R&B, honest reflections on desire and relationships, soulful music analysis, personal growth, and introspective podcasts, this episode shows how revisiting songs from our past can help us name the truths we’ve been carrying. Listen now and reflect on the intimate honesty of Jodeci’s “Forever My Lady”.

    7 min
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Sometimes the only way to see it clearly… is to say it out loud. I Talk To Myself Sometimes is where Antoinette Arrington unpacks the life that shaped her — and talks through the woman she’s still becoming. Each episode is sparked by the nostalgic soundtrack of the 90s, revisiting the songs that carried us through first loves, heartbreaks, and grown woman lessons we didn’t even know we were learning. This podcast is for anyone who finds themselves lost in thought, processing life out loud, or replaying old songs with brand new understanding. Through single-sided conversations that feel intimate and unfiltered, Antoinette invites you to reflect, laugh, and maybe heal a little — one track and one musing at a time. If you grew up on 90s RnB and hip-hop, if you’ve ever caught yourself having “that talk” in your head, or if you just need a moment of honesty and nostalgia, this space is for you.

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  • Creator
    Antoinette Arrington
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    48
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Antoinette Arrington