🎙️ Spiritual Clarity; Living Life Beyond the Ego (podcast)

Tiger Singleton
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This podcast is a simple, honest look at what gets in the way of a peaceful human life. We explore the mechanics of the ego—not as an enemy to fight, but as the mind’s noisy misunderstanding—so we can see what’s actually here beyond all that tension. The conversation points back to the deeper clarity that’s always present when we’re not caught in fear, projection, or performance. No superstition, no spiritual posturing. Just a sincere curiosity about what it means to be human, to open the heart a little more, and to live with a grounded sense of love and play. Many episodes come from live sessions inside the Deep Divers Group, where these insights are explored in real time with real people, in a way that stays practical, intimate, and deeply human. tigmonk.substack.com

  1. A Moment to Just Be (Finding Peace)

    JAN 18

    A Moment to Just Be (Finding Peace)

    Sometimes, the most radical thing you can do is nothing. Just be here. Not figuring anything out. Not solving the maze. Not rushing toward peace as if it were somewhere else. What if it’s already here? What if the stillness you’re searching for is the very fabric of this moment — and you’ve just been too busy to notice? I recorded this meditation on a live broadcast. About 19 minutes of just… being. No special position. No perfect posture. Eyes open, and some helpful insights. What a gift. Below is the written version of the meditation — formatted so you can read it at your own pace, pause where you need to, and let the words land. Take your time. There’s nowhere else to be. An Invitation to Just Be Can this be a moment where you just give yourself permission to be here? A moment where you don’t need to be distracted. A moment where you don’t need to know what’s coming next. Where we might just sit here and do nothing. Can that just be okay? Allowing Yourself to Be Alive Allow yourself to experience what it is to really be alive. To notice that life is happening. And whatever difficulty that might be there, in just allowing yourself to be — maybe that’s okay too. We can still just be. However we are. A Moment Where Nothing Has to Be Figured Out Moments like this can be so important. A moment to just be. Maybe a moment where nothing has to be figured out. There isn’t some maze we need to unravel in our minds. We can just be. Pulling Back the Curtain It is a fascinating thing how difficult that might be sometimes. In a way, it’s like pulling back the curtain and seeing the chaos in the mind. Oh my goodness. There’s so much going on in there. That’s okay. We can still just be. What’s Always Here The more quiet I get, the louder the bird’s song becomes. The more still I become, the louder I hear a song of peace. What a gift. What a gift to give yourself — to be still and recognize what’s always here. Isn’t that amazing that it’s always here? No matter how chaotic our life becomes, no matter how lost we are in the mind — the stillness, the peace that is here right now, is always here. The Great Comedy And of course, that exposes the great comedy in rushing around trying to find peace. Or trying to create peace. Or demanding that somebody else give you peace. When in actuality, it’s the very fabric of existence. The question is: can you come home? Setting Down the Backpack It’s funny that in order to come home, there’s this invitation to let go of so much. You can’t have both. You can’t come home and hang on to every thought that passes through your mind. The noise has to be surrendered. Do you want to come back to peace? Okay. Then set down the backpack that says you can’t be at peace. Set down the backpack that says somebody else took your peace — or the backpack that says peace is far off into the future. And of course, this is just taking off the backpack of the mind. It’s Just One Thing We can think so many things, but it’s just the mind. We have 10,000 thoughts and we think it’s 10,000 different things. But it’s just one thing. It’s the mind. Or it’s the simple belief in thought — which then believes in 10,000 different things that are all just thoughts. Do you see how the noise quiets down when you see that it’s all just the same thing? Every sound is the same sound. Every thought is the same thought. Every moment is the same moment. A Great Rest What is the stillness that emerges from that? The invitation for a great rest. A great rest that doesn’t need to battle with 10,000 things. A great permission to just be. Held by This Moment No matter what is happening inside of us — whether that’s a physical sensation or an emotional experience — somehow it is simply held by this moment. There’s nothing that rejects it. There’s nothing in this moment that demands it be different. That’s just coming from the mind. A mind that wants to argue with what is, as it chases a life that thinks it knows how life should be. How silly. You Don’t Need to Run In this stillness, we see that we don’t really need to run. We see that regardless of what’s happening on the inside, what we really are is perfectly held. Isn’t that extraordinary — to see that within you is a capacity to hold space for whatever is showing up? Especially when there is the automatic assumption that you should turn and run. But really, if you just stay, you see that you’re okay. This Is the Love My goodness, how much that can translate into our everyday lives. I don’t need to run from what’s happening on the inside of what I am. Which might also look like: I don’t need to blame this on somebody else. I don’t need to distract myself. I don’t need to numb myself. I can just be. In some way — I know it might not make sense — but this is the love that we’re searching for. A love that sees that we’re really okay. A love that sees that it’s okay to be you. And of course, this love that we’re seeing is the very fabric of life. It’s only the mind that disagrees. It’s only another thought believed in. Scary Stories My goodness, how many thoughts and stories do we have about how you’re not worthy of love? About how you’re not worthy to just be what you are? Such scary stories we tell. And yet, when we come home to what is real and true — when we come home to this moment — all of those stories disappear. We see that they were never true. Thank God. The Dog Barking It’s funny to hear that dog bark. And one way, the mind can argue: “Oh, if only that dog wasn’t barking, this moment could be so much more peaceful.” How is that different from saying, “If only life wasn’t life”? If only dogs weren’t dogs. Do you see that? That it’s only the mind that argues? It’s only who I think I am — trying to be important — that would argue. “It’s interrupting what I’m doing. Life is about me. The dog should do what I want it to do.” And if it doesn’t, I will withhold love from the dog. Your Version of a Barking Dog So many daily irritations could be like that — things not going how we think they should go. Your own version of a dog barking, interrupting your peace. Maybe it’s your partner that is barking. Maybe your spouse is your dog. Maybe it’s your boss. Maybe it’s your business. And furthermore, as we argue — as we proclaim that life made a mistake — it only makes the bark louder. It only makes the dog bigger. An Innocent Misunderstanding Fundamentally, there’s the assumption that we are somehow not okay even though the dog is barking. Which is to completely miss the truth that you are okay. It’s such an innocent misunderstanding. I just didn’t see what I really am. And in that, I got scared and I blamed the dog. That’s understandable. Good thing you can go to the dog and say: “Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry for blaming you. I love you. Thank you for being the mirror that tries to remind me what I really am.” And of course, this is what life is constantly doing. Trying to remind you. Trying to point you home. A Beautiful Design What a beautiful design. Thanks for meditating with me. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    19 min
  2. Raw Video: How to Love a Woman (Deep Spiritual Truths About Relationships)

    12/19/2025

    Raw Video: How to Love a Woman (Deep Spiritual Truths About Relationships)

    This is the raw recording of the live broadcast mentioned yesterday. Will be available for free subscribers for 72 hours, and then switches to archive for paid subscribers. In this live broadcast, Tiger Singleton dives into a profound exploration of human connection through the lens of a man’s love for a woman. This isn’t your typical relationship advice video filled with tactics or checklists. Instead, it’s for the seeker who is tired of the struggle and ready to see the “truth of things.” Whether you are currently in a partnership or preparing for one, this session is vital because it exposes the innocent misunderstandings that make love feel like a transaction or a battlefield. By sitting with these five core questions, you’ll discover that what you’ve been searching for in another person has been waiting inside of you all along, inviting a radical shift toward effortlessness and genuine intimacy. Summary & Notes This document is designed to be your study guide for journey of discovery that Tiger walks you through. It is intended to help you relax into a deeper understanding of your own heart and your relationships. The Heart of the Exploration (00:00) Tiger opens this session by acknowledging that we all carry heavy assumptions about what it means for a man to love a woman. But this isn’t a strategy session.It’s not about tips or tricks to “do” relationships better. It’s about a profound discovery that is unarguably true. As Tiger says:“I’m inviting you to relax into a deeper understanding of what’s happening. And as that happens, things begin to transform on their own.” (04:11) A Note of Caution (05:59) One of the greatest traps we fall into is thinking we “know” something just because we’ve heard the words. Understanding happens in waves.You might see 1% and think you’ve seen the whole tree. If this exploration doesn’t drop you to your knees and open your heart to a radical, humble embrace of life...Then there is more to understand. 1. What Do You (Really) Want? (11:20) If we don’t understand this first point, nothing else in life will make sense. Most of us are running around in a state of hypnosis.We think we want something “out there.”We think we are searching for something in the world. The Great Internal Search Everything you think you want from another person is actually a search for something inside yourself. To seek something on the outside is only to seek something on the inside. * The Projection: “I want someone to love me.” * The Truth: I want to feel love within what I am. * The Projection: “I want her to be a certain way.” * The Truth: I want to feel a certain way inside of myself. “The more clearly you understand what it is that you actually want... the more you will see just how close it is.” (15:04) The Disaster: Giving Away Your Power If you don’t see that what you want most is an internal state, you assume other people have what you want. This creates a landscape of powerlessness.You start to see others as having power over you. You either try to convince them to give you what you want, or you try to forcibly take it. The Radical Reality for a Man When you get radically honest, you don’t want her to be different.You want a deeper capacity within yourself. You want to be helpful.You want to be useful.You want to protect and provide for the woman you have chosen. Doing so doesn’t just benefit her.It fulfills the purpose behind your being alive. 2. The Real Purpose of Relationship (20:21) Relationship is not a mechanism to extract love from someone else. Relationship is the act of experiencing yourself. There would be no experience of “self” without relationship.You relate to a chair, to money, to a job, or to a partner.Each interaction is a mirror. The Mirror Principle When you look at a mirror, you don’t see the glass.You see the one looking into it. “When I look at my partner, what I see is how I see her.” (23:37) How you see anything is filtered through how you see yourself.If you think love is missing in you, you will see a partner who is withholding love. The Self-Relationship Mirror: * Drama “Out There”: Reflects a self-relationship in conflict. * Peace “Out There”: Reflects a self-relationship that is whole. The Disaster: The Conditional Demand If you don’t see that she is a mirror, you reject the reflection.You blame the mirror for what you see in it. This leads to the “I will love you, if...” dynamic. This is effectively saying:“I don’t like what I’m seeing inside myself. So, please stop being honest. Pretend to be who I want you to be so I can avoid taking responsibility for my inner world.” The Sacred Duty of the Mirror (31:43) Because she shares your deepest intimacy, she is your most important mirror.She is your greatest helper. She isn’t “in your way.”She is perfectly designed to help you see where you are denying the love you crave. 3. Why Relationships Feel Painful and Difficult (33:29) The reason relationships are difficult is that you don’t like the reflection you see. We avoid the truth of the matter by blaming it on stupid, surface-level arguments.We try to avoid what is going on inside ourselves by blaming others. The Emotional Misunderstanding We think emotions respond to the world.They don’t. Emotions respond to how you are perceiving. “Your emotions don’t respond to what somebody else is doing or not doing. They’re responding to how you see it.” (35:56) The Alarm System of Negative Emotion Underneath every negative emotion is an alarm.It is telling you:“The way you are perceiving this is not in alignment with what is true.” If you feel unloved, the mirror is showing you that you are looking at yourself with less than loving eyes. The Disaster: The Tyrant and the Prisoner When you think others create your emotions, you become a prisoner to their behavior.To feel safe, you try to control them. You become a tyrant.You use weapons of judgment and shame to force them to change so you can feel “peace.” “How difficult is it to love well when you think that somebody else has power over your internal state of being?” (37:52) The Remedy: Radical Responsibility She is not your problem.She never was. She doesn’t have the power to disturb you emotionally.Only you can do that by how you see. 4. The Power of Real Love (46:19) We assume love is a transaction.“I’ll give you this, if you give me that.” This assumption implies you are inherently unlovable and must conform to receive love.It implies love is a finite resource that can be lost. The Infinite Supply The truth is that there is an infinite supply of love within you. “Real love is as the very core of what you really are.” (48:41) Love as a Stream, Not a Transaction You are not with her to get love.You have chosen her to be the stream in which you allow your love to flow. As you allow it to flow, you experience it. * When you withhold love: You are the one who feels the coldness. * When you give love: You are the one who feels the warmth. The Safety of “No Transaction” When love is a transaction, it is always deficient.It is always accompanied by fear. When you know the love you feel is your own, you don’t have to hide.You don’t have to pretend.You can have the difficult, honest conversations required for a deep relationship. 5. Turning It All Around (57:45) Where did it go wrong?It didn’t. It was a learning opportunity.Suffering is simply information. The Three Primary Confusions * Confusion about the Self: Thinking you are your ego. * Confusion about Relationships: Thinking they are transactions. * Confusion about Love: Thinking it is outside of you. The Remedy: Humility and Sincerity Arrogance and pride pretend you already know who is to blame.Humility and sincerity ask you to look inside and take responsibility for your experience. “If you look at any relationship conflict and drama, you will find arrogance in pride. If you look at any relationship healing, you will find humility and sincerity.” (45:07) The Floodgate vs. The Drip (01:02:13) Most of us let this truth in as a “drip.”We blame a little less. We get a little more honest. But there is a floodgate. The entirety of the universe is designed to point you toward the infinite supply of love inside you.The degree to which this transforms your life is in direct proportion to your devotion to seeing it. Final Reflection: The Choice of Sincerity (01:05:14) What you want most is also the thing you fear most.We are masters at finding excuses to hide from the truth of what we are. We numb ourselves.We find distractions.We blame our partners. But if you saw the full picture, you would put an end to all of that.You would just love. Not because you “should,” but because love is the truth. “What I really want is to see what’s true... Because as I do, it takes me straight into the heart of what I really crave.” (01:08:33) With love and grounded clarity, This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 10m

  3. 12/14/2025

    Be Still (ego) | Nothing is Missing; Relax, All is Well)

    Really. The noise is only an imaginary ego. Relax. Join me (Tiger) here for a few and you will see. There’s nothing to fear, all is well. Look below for a deep dive - walk through, for more clarity in what I’m pointing toward This session is a quiet, practical invitation to be still and see what’s true right now. Beneath the mind’s noise and the ego’s chase to “be enough,” there’s a simple wellness where nothing is missing. From that stillness, acceptance softens pain, love flows by giving it, and freedom is remembered — not achieved. Chapter List CHAPTERS: * 00:00 Stillness — Let’s just be here - Let’s pause the scroll and breathe, letting the ego settle so we can notice what’s actually here without urgency to fix. * 01:15 Mind Noise vs. Reality - Much of what agitates us is the ego’s storytelling; when we simply be here, reality right now is okay. * 04:57 Nothing Is Missing: Presence Lesson - Under the struggle lives an ego‑assumption that something important is missing; presence reveals a quiet wellness. * 09:54 Acceptance Reduces Ego’s Pain - Even with pain, acceptance is available; ego’s resistance and drama amplify suffering, while presence softens it. * 15:22 Stop Chasing the Ego’s Future - We treat life like a serious game to become enough; that’s the ego’s chase into an imagined future that hides the living miracle now. * 19:30 Give Love, Feel Love - You’re not here to get love; ego withholds to protect an image, but as you give love, you experience it. * 24:06 You Create Your Experience - In honest stillness, it’s seen your experience arises from you; seeing through the ego’s conditional love frees the grasping. * 29:16 Freedom Is Already Here (but not for the ego) - The way out isn’t more doing; relax and remember a freedom the ego can’t manufacture, only overlook. Deep Dive — Walk Through Why You Can’t Find What You’re Looking For (Because You Already Have It) Mood: A massive exhale for our overactive minds. Hi, I’m Sam. I’m learning (being) with you during this exploration with Tiger. Let’s do a deep dive. I don’t know about you, but most days I feel like I’m running at about 110% capacity. Between the career, the mortgage, the kids’ schedules, and trying to be a decent partner, my default state is “go, go, go.” In life, it’s easy to become a professional problem solver. It seems to be how we got where we are. But — I’ve started noticing that no matter how many problems I solve, or how many goals I hit, there’s this quiet, nagging background noise suggesting that something is still missing. I keep telling myself that if I could just get to next quarter, the next vacation, or finally renovate the friggin kitchen, then I could exhale. In this episode, Tiger invites us to do something that feels totally counterintuitive to my productive brain: Stop. Only to see that my heart has been begging for exactly that. He takes us on a deep dive into the “Ego” — that voice in our heads that is constantly scanning for monsters and lack — and it made me realize that the peace I’m grinding so hard to find might actually be sitting right underneath my feet. Here are a few things that came up for me while listening. Maybe you’ll see yourself in them too. 1. The “Something is Missing” Trap I caught myself nodding vigorously when Tiger pointed out this pattern. Today I’m stressed about this problem. Last year, it was that problem. Next year, it will be a new problem. The circumstances change, but the feeling remains the same: “I’m not there yet.” I usually blame this feeling on my job, my bank account, or even my spouse. But listening to this, I had to ask myself: Is this actually true? Or is this just a story my ego tells to keep me seeking? It feels like a cover for a deeper insecurity: the fear that “I am not enough.” 🐯 Quote to Remember:“Today it’s one thing and tomorrow it would be something else... It’s just a different story wrapped around the same thing. Something’s missing. And yet no matter how many years we’ve traveled this journey... here we are right now.” Self-Check: When I check my direct experience right now, not my thoughts about tomorrow, but literally right now — is anything actually missing? Or is there just a story in my head saying I should be somewhere else? 2. Taking the Game Too Seriously This analogy really stuck with me. Tiger talks about playing a board game with family. It’s fun, right? But what if I believed that winning that board game determined my actual worth as a human being? What if I thought losing meant I was unlovable? Suddenly, the game isn’t fun. It’s terrifying. I’d be anxious every time I rolled the dice. It hit me: this is exactly how I approach my career. I’ve confused the “game” (my job, status, social roles) with my reality. I take it so seriously that I forget to enjoy the play. It makes me wonder… If I realized my worth wasn’t on the table, could I actually play the game better (and with way less frustration)? 🐯 Quote to Remember:“Imagine you’re playing a game, and you think it’s serious. You think your worth and value is wrapped up in the game... You can’t just enjoy yourself. There’s too much on the line.” 3. The “Prison Guard” Paradox This part felt like a personal call-out. It actually irritated me. Must be something to look at, I guess. Tiger talks about the tragedy of finally getting the thing you wanted — the dream job, the perfect relationship, the status — and instantly becoming a “prisoner” to it. I realized, begrudgingly, I do this constantly. The moment I get a “win,” my ego becomes terrified of losing it. I need another win to protect the previous win. Yea, exhausting. I transform from a seeker into a prison guard, constantly watching my assets or checking the temperature of my relationships to make sure nothing changes. I twist myself into knots to keep the “dream” alive, which means I’m not actually free to enjoy the life I built. Real freedom, it seems, isn’t having a perfect setup that can never crumble; it’s realizing my safety doesn’t come from the setup in the first place. 🐯 Quote to Remember: “The moment you get it, you become afraid of losing it... You have to spend the rest of your time like a prison guard, making sure it does exactly what you want it to do, so it doesn’t leave.” 4. The “Upside-Down” Worldview I definitely operate on this transactional model of happiness: * I do good work -> The world gives me money -> I feel secure. * I act nice -> My spouse gives me affirmation -> I feel loved. Tiger calls this “upside-down,” and he’s right — it’s exhausting. It puts my emotional state entirely in the hands of things I can’t control (the market, other people’s moods, the weather). It made me pause and consider: What if I don’t “get” love, but extend it? The miracle Tiger points to is that when we extend love or joy to someone else, we are the ones who feel it first. We are the source. I don’t need the world to give me permission to feel good. That’s a game-changer. 🐯 Quote to Remember:“You are not here to get something, because that would imply you came into the world missing something... The miracle of this is that as you give, you experience what you give... You are giving it to yourself for the sake of your own sanity.” 5. Freedom isn’t a “To-Do” List At the end of the episode, the high-achiever in me immediately asked: “Okay, I get it. I want this freedom. What are the action steps? Give me the SOP.” The comedy—and the relief—is that we can’t “do” anything to get free, because we are free. It’s like searching for my shoes while they are on my feet. I don’t need to go out and by new sneakers; I just need to realize they are already there. For me, this isn’t about adding a 20-minute meditation to my already packed morning routine to “achieve” enlightenment. It’s about noticing, in the middle of a chaotic Tuesday, that the stress is a story, and the stillness underneath it is real. 🐯 Quote to Remember:“The way out of this has nothing to do with doing something... You have to see that you are already free, and you just don’t know it yet.” Final Thought:If you feel like you’re constantly waiting for the future to arrive so you can finally be happy, I hope you’ll listen to this with me. It was a gentle but firm reminder that the “prize” of life isn’t at the finish line. It’s right here. — Sam This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    33 min
  4. Wisdom of: Seeing the Scared Child Within (Waiting for Love)

    12/13/2025

    Wisdom of: Seeing the Scared Child Within (Waiting for Love)

    If you’d rather watch than read, the video is there for you. This is the written version of the same talk. She Really, Really Saw How Scared She Was She really, really saw how scared she was — in a way she hadn’t seen before. There is that little girl inside of her that is absolutely terrified. And then… seeing how deeply okay that is. It’s in the okayness of being deeply terrified that you have this space to hold it. To be held. What I See Under My Own Dilemmas When I see what the real issue is in all of my human dilemma, it’s that little boy inside of me that is scared. * Scared of not being loved * Scared of not being enough * Scared of being abandoned But then what I also see is that there is really nowhere in the world for me to go. So if that’s the case… where else can I go? That is the invitation. The Moment I Remember: I’m Just Scared Often, in the normalcy of my human life — that at times appears chaotic — I forget that that’s what’s really going on. I’m just scared. Do you notice this? When you get scared, you really start believing your stories. You start thinking it’s about this person. Or it’s about that person. Or it’s about this circumstance. See what it is. We’re scared. We’re scared of the same thing — the only thing we’re always scared of. And for me, that’s the doorway. To be honest about that. To ask myself: okay, I’m anxious. What’s really going on here? I don’t know if it does the same for you, but it just invites a softness. A stillness. Because then I see it’s not the world. It’s not other people. It’s not where I’m at in my work. It’s not my list of things to do. I’m just scared. Flipping It Around You know what it’s also like to flip it around? It’s like my partner. When she has her woman freak out, it’s so obvious that she’s just scared. And it becomes the most adorable thing. Because what is she scared of? She’s scared that she’s not loved. And then to hold a space that knows that that’s what the issue is… there’s a healing presence in that. And so I have to do that with myself. See the real issue. Talk About Miracles Somehow, some way, I’m 44 years old and I’m still here. All right — talk about miracles. That’s part of what scares me so much about the future. I don’t even know how I made it this far. How am I going to do the rest? But I see that I haven’t done it up till this part. I’ve just been taken care of. And pretty much all of it hasn’t gone how I thought it was going to go. So why do I all of a sudden think it’s going to start going how I think it’s going to go? We All Know But there is something that I do know in the midst of all of that. And my goodness… we all know it. Sometimes we don’t have words for it. Sometimes we don’t remember it. But we know it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    4 min

  5. 11/29/2025

    Relationship Problems? The Perfect Mirror for Real Healing (Learn & Grow)

    🗣️ Take a breath, see the mirror, it's only trying to help you get what you "really" want. ____ It's wild how often we look at relationship drama and think the other person is the problem. We believe that what we're searching for is held by someone else, or that they're somehow withholding what we want most. This assumption paints a world that is not a very nice place.But what if all your external relationships—from your partner to a tree you pass on the street—are fundamentally in service to helping you heal the relationship you have with yourself?In this deeply honest sharing, Tiger Singleton breaks down the Illusion of Seeking and shows you the vital, painful, and often beautiful mechanism of the mirror.Relationships are not the prize, they are the road map. They show you yourself. If you see something ugly or feel hatred toward someone, you are experiencing the conflict you have within. The pain of conflict is an alarm that tells you: the way you’re seeing is not to see what is.The goal isn't to change what's in the mirror; the goal is to see something different—to see something with more love. This requires courageous self-honesty, vulnerability, and letting the truth be the truth.Stop trying to find a human being to rescue you. You can't have a deeply beautiful relationship with anyone else until you have a deeply beautiful relationship with yourself. VIDEO CHAPTERS/Topics 00:00 | Introduction: Why Relationships Are Here to Heal You 00:46 | The Illusion of Seeking in the World 04:09 | The World as a Mirror of Self 06:14 | The Tree Analogy (Seeing Your Own Conflict) 09:56 | Giving to Another is Giving to Yourself 13:29 | Relationships Are For Healing Your Inner Conflict 17:21 | The Desire to Be Rescued (The Trap) 19:39 | The Mirror Cannot Be Wrong 21:39 | How to Heal What You See (Seeing with Love) 24:11 | Life is 100% in Support of You 26:05 | The Opportunity for Deep Honesty 28:43 | The Cost of Avoiding Vulnerability 32:25 | Conclusion: Be Still, Open Up, Love More This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    35 min
  6. How to Stop Being So Damn Bothered All the Time (Stoicism & Real Spirituality)

    11/18/2025

    How to Stop Being So Damn Bothered All the Time (Stoicism & Real Spirituality)

    If you enjoy this inquiry (opportunity to heal), check out this written substack article on the same topic; expressed in a more direct and digestible way. Stoicism? How to (Finally) Be Undisturbed by Life and Other People Being human — doesn’t require you to be bothered by what’s showing, what’s happening, or what may or may not happen. The principles of Stoicism, which invite you to see what’s actually in your control, are also universal spiritual principles of seeing yourself more clearly. In this talk, Tiger walks with you on a journey of discovery, to SEE how it’s possible to be undisturbed by Life. CHAPTERS: * 00:30 The Undisturbed Life: Stoicism and the Human Dilemma * 03:10 Control, Peace, and Where Disturbance Truly Resides * 06:13 The Mind’s Role in Disturbance and the Practice of Forgiveness * 09:56 Emotional Disturbance vs. Physical Reality * 13:34 Seeing Reality and Getting Out of the Mind’s Illusion * 17:07 Violence, Hurt, and the Non-Personal Nature of Conflict * 20:31 Healing Relationships Through Radical Self-Responsibility * 24:09 The Pathway to Truth: Honesty and Surrendering the Ego * 28:41 The Prayer of Illusion vs. The Prayer for Truth * 32:43 Why the Ego Takes Everything Personally * 36:40 The Devil, The Ego, and Confusing Story with Reality * 40:03 The Humble Power and Salvation of Unconditional Love * 43:37 Finding Peace with Conflict in the Forest of Life Help me Understand Your Struggle… For those willing to play with me, after reading this, I’m truly interest to hear in the comments how it landed for you. * What was your biggest takeaway? * What seems unclear or frustrating? * What would you like to hear me speak on (write about) next? Thanks for being here. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    47 min

  7. 01/13/2025

    EP109) Let Go, Be Yourself: A Journey of Self-Awareness

    Recap Why Does It Feel So Exhausting to Be Human? We all know that feeling of pushing, striving, fixing. It’s easy to believe that life itself is exhausting, but is it really? "The exhaustion isn’t life—it’s the ego’s fight to protect an image of who you think you are." We talked about how the ego is always chasing something—control, validation, perfection. But what if you didn’t need to fix yourself? What if, instead of striving, you could relax into being exactly who you already are? Key insight: You’re not a project to fix. You’re already enough. The Mind’s Stories and the Noise They Create The mind loves to spin stories—about who we are, what we lack, and how life should be. It convinces us that we’re broken and that if we just solved this one thing, we’d finally be okay. "The irony? The more we try to fix the noise, the louder it gets." But here’s the truth: these stories are harmless, temporary, and ultimately not real. The mind isn’t the enemy—it’s just doing its thing. You don’t have to solve its noise; you can simply notice it and let it pass. Reflection: What stories are you holding onto that aren’t serving you? Trusting the Unknown It’s the start of a new year, and naturally, we think about plans and resolutions. But as I shared in the talk: "Nothing in my life has ever gone the way I thought it would—and that’s actually beautiful." We spend so much time trying to predict and control the future, but what if the unknown isn’t something to fear? What if it’s the very thing that makes life magical? Instead of controlling, trust. Instead of fearing, allow. Instead of striving, relax. When we stop trying to direct life, we might just notice that it’s carrying us exactly where we need to go. Reflections Worth Holding Onto Here are a few takeaways to sit with: “You’re already the beautiful human you think you need to become.” “Relax, buddy. Everything’s okay.” “What if you stopped trying to be God—and just let God be God?” An Invitation to Let Go If there’s one thing I hope you take from this talk, it’s this: You’re already home. You don’t need to strive, fix, or solve. Life isn’t a problem—it’s an invitation to see the miracle that’s already here. And when you’re ready, go out and love on people. Love in the most effortless, joyful, and honest way possible. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

    43 min

  8. 01/06/2025

    108) The Inherent Playfulness of Existence

    Life as an Adventure We started by recognizing the human journey for what it is: a great adventure. An adventure isn’t complete without its twists and turns—the highs, lows, moments of uncertainty, and times where everything feels perfectly aligned. It’s messy, exciting, and yes, sometimes even terrifying. But that’s exactly what makes it an adventure. “For there to be any flavor of adventure, there has to be this element of fear that wonders, ‘Is it all going to be okay?’ And yet, here we are—whole and complete, untouched by anything we’ve been through.” The truth is, despite the stories we tell ourselves, everything we’ve experienced has brought us right here, right now, whole and complete. Whole and Complete: The Truth of What You Are One of the central insights we uncovered was the realization that the real you is whole and complete. Not the version of you the mind constantly comments on—not the “you” wrapped up in your past or anxiously chasing the future. Beneath all that, there’s an untouched, unbroken reality to who you are. “The deeper reality of what you are has never been touched by what you’ve been through. Sure, the mind will tell its stories—but that’s all they are, stories. The truth of what you are is already enough.” This realization changes how we see everything. The mind loves to make life feel heavy and serious, but when we recognize that what we are has never been at risk, the seriousness starts to dissolve. Given Enough Time, Tragedy Becomes Comedy One of the most freeing perspectives we discussed is how time softens the weight of what we’ve been through. “Give any tragedy enough time, and it eventually becomes comedy.” We’ve all had moments where something felt like the end of the world. Yet, weeks, months, or years later, we look back and laugh at how worked up we got. It’s not about dismissing pain—it’s about seeing that everything we’ve experienced is part of a grand, playful adventure. I shared the example of a child dropping their ice cream cone. For them, it feels like devastation. But from a bigger perspective, we can see the humor and lightness in it. The same is true for our lives. The Stories We Tell and Emotional Pain Much of our suffering comes not from what happens, but from the story we tell about what happens. “Your emotions don’t respond to reality—they respond to the story you’re telling about what you think is happening.” When we feel overwhelmed, anxious, or lonely, it’s not life itself causing that pain—it’s the narrative our mind creates about it. This doesn’t mean emotions aren’t valid. It means they’re an invitation to pause and ask: “What am I believing that isn’t true?” Our emotions guide us back to clarity, reminding us that we’re always whole and complete. The Playful Nature of Existence At its heart, life is playful. It’s not meant to be taken too seriously. We talked about how taking the “points” in life seriously—whether it’s achievements, relationships, or struggles—makes the game feel heavy. But when we realize those “points” don’t define us, life opens up. “The more you think the points are real, the harder the game becomes. But when you see that none of it defines your worth, life becomes light, free, and playful.” Like playing Monopoly with someone who takes the game too seriously, believing the money is real, we make life unnecessarily tense. But life, like any game, is an opportunity to connect, learn, and grow. Key Takeaways to Sit With Life is an adventure—embrace it. The fear, uncertainty, and joy are all part of the journey. You are already whole and complete. Your true self remains untouched by the stories in your mind. Given enough time, all tragedy becomes comedy. What feels heavy now will eventually reveal its playful nature. Emotions are guides, not punishments. Pain invites you to look at the story you’re telling—and to see more clearly. Play the game, but don’t take the points seriously. The real opportunity in life isn’t to “win”—it’s to connect, learn, and grow. An Invitation to See Clearly As we wrapped up, I shared this thought: “When you see the truth of what actually is, you can’t help but smile. And eventually… you can’t help but love everything.” This is the deeper invitation: to see life—and yourself—as inherently complete, playful, and free from the seriousness the mind tries to impose. Take these reflections with you. Play with them. And remember, this adventure you’re on isn’t something to conquer—it’s something to enjoy. Thank you for sharing this space with me. With love and playful curiosity, Tiger This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com/subscribe

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This podcast is a simple, honest look at what gets in the way of a peaceful human life. We explore the mechanics of the ego—not as an enemy to fight, but as the mind’s noisy misunderstanding—so we can see what’s actually here beyond all that tension. The conversation points back to the deeper clarity that’s always present when we’re not caught in fear, projection, or performance. No superstition, no spiritual posturing. Just a sincere curiosity about what it means to be human, to open the heart a little more, and to live with a grounded sense of love and play. Many episodes come from live sessions inside the Deep Divers Group, where these insights are explored in real time with real people, in a way that stays practical, intimate, and deeply human. tigmonk.substack.com

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