Love Your Family Again and Again and Again and Again

Dr. Marcie Beigel
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Love is an action. Love is the words we use (or don't use). Loving our family is a choice we get to make each and everyday! Sometimes we forget what love looks like in our parenting. Sometimes, we were never taught how to parent from love. Sometimes we need to love ourselves more so we can show love to our families. Where ever you are today, for whatever the reason you are there, there is always a way to bring in more love to your family! Let's find the way to do it together, one small step at a time! This podcast is individual conversations between Dr. Marcie and parents. Sometimes it is one parent and sometimes it is a couple. Parents share what is great about their family and what is challenging. Together with Dr. Marcie they problem solve new ways to move through difficult moments, new perspectives to understand what is unfolding in their homes, and new possibilities to build joy in their families.    Dr. Marcie believes small steps lead to big changes, so each episode ends with the parents sharing their the one small step they are committed to taking. The one nugget from the conversation that inspired them the most. You are encouraged to share your one take away in the comments.   Blue skies are ahead and we are going to get their together!

  1. Meet My Parents

    10/30/2023

    Meet My Parents

    After many episodes of me talking with other parents, thought it was time to introduce you to my parents. Listen in as I chat with my parents about what it was like parenting me!

    41 min
  2. Great Parents are Constantly Learning

    10/23/2023

    Great Parents are Constantly Learning

    About the Episode  Christian is a dad of a 7 year old Daughter, Malia. They live with his girlfriend   Go To Glitter  In the house hold - watching music videos is the Go To Glitter. Go back and forth between music that is current, music form Dad's childhood, music from before dad was born. Malia gets to decide first several songs :)    Dr. Marcie's Must Make Moves  1. Balance between technology and playing with 3D object. Having time on screens can help us learn and grow. As can playing with kitchen sets and blocks  2. Teach appreciation over entitlement. It is ok to have lots of things and for her to receive from so many. It is important to create ways for her to appreciate all she has and share with others who are less fortunate. Donation of her overflow is a great way to teach this.  3. Share your own experiences as an emotional guide for her learning. Even when our kids have great wisdom, they still need the lessons and we can give them that while sharing out our lives. When she asks how your day is, share the emotional experience to help her learn new tools and strategies!   Golden Nugget  This Golden Nugget was touched on as an underlying theme throughout the session, not one specific strategy. Just because I think she is great and in touch with her feelings and emotions, don't take for granted. Foster that. Don't assume she has it and let her do her own thing. She is going to come across problems of her own. I need to sit with her and go through them and give her the tools!

    39 min
  3. Parenting Evolution: How your parenting skills grow as you grow

    10/16/2023

    Parenting Evolution: How your parenting skills grow as you grow

    About this episode Julia is part of a family of 5. Her husband, Javon, who she has known for 18 years and been married to for 4. Her older daughter Lila, who is 11 years old. Her younger daughter Zora, who is 2 years old. The fifth family member is her dog, Jezze, a poodle mix.  She is a doula and you can find her on instagram at @357HolisticServices Got To Glitter The go to glitter for Julia and her family is 'so simple' she says, it is walking to the park. Not a playground, the park that is a big open flied. When we get there there is conversation just flowing and they are learning things about each other and making jokes. Walking to the park brings out good, earnest conversation and makes the day great! Dr. Marcie's Must Make Moves 1. Relationships are two way streets. If you want your child to share openly with you about their feelings and day, share with them about your feelings and your day. You modeling the open connected conversation, helps them know what it looks like and how to do it.   2. Create a space for deep meaningful connection. That does not mean that every time that you are in this space together, there will be deep meaningful connection. It does mean that it is more likely to happen during this time. It also means that the meaningful connection might not happen in words but the action you take together during this time is building deep meaningful connection. For example a once a week cooking time together becomes a memory your child will hold onto.  3. Tell your children you love them. Tell your children what you like about them. Have your child share what they like about themselves. Sometimes we know that we love our kids, so we don't say the words. The action of telling someone you love them, ensures they know it. The action of telling someone what you like about them, ensures they know it. Don't let your kids guess how you feel, tell them often and clearly. Golden Nugget Trusting my mom feelings...trusting my mother intuition and having grace.

    46 min
  4. Parenting is Hard: How to see the successes along the way

    10/09/2023

    Parenting is Hard: How to see the successes along the way

    About the episode   Go To Glitter  Hard because of the widespread of ages. Simplest answer is being at home - Saturday mornings on the couch each doing their own thing in PJ. Cleaning and coffee for the adults. Meals together and try to connect - breakfast and dinner as a family of 5. Thrive on being connected   Dr. Marcie's Must Make Moves  1. Time together is important, so is everyone getting their unique needs met. Perhaps it is helpful to create times when you are meeting the family’s needs and other times when each individual in the family gets needs met. These are two different things and can be addressed at different times.  2. Reactive parenting versus responsive parenting. Take a breath before you react. Take a moment to assess the best way to respond because not every moment in parenting is a crisis. Do not react as if it is a crisis when it is not.  3. Parenting is hard and has many challenging moments. Make time to see the success/joy that is happening along the way. As parenting is a never ending experience, create chunks of time or goals so that you can feel the same sense of accomplishment as you go through life.   Golden Nugget  Biggest thing is the shift in perspective...your story is so close to you. Talk to a professional about it and it is a hole other level of what we think it is. All the positive. We are having joyful moments, have options, intentionality as a positive thing.    Dr. Marcie's Golden Nugget  Find the mile markers - the successes you have along the way as you continue down the hard path. Language is different for each of us - use the words that are right for you and see what they.

    54 min
  5. The Power of a Label: Autism as a Gift and Clarity

    10/02/2023

    The Power of a Label: Autism as a Gift and Clarity

    About the episode   Martika has a 2 and 1/2 year old son who she is raising with he partner Max. They have been together for 8 years. Go To Glitter  Love going to the children's museum together. Having full as a family with the interactive elements. Watching Harry Potter, Miko loves the magic and runs around the house with his wand. The final piece is going to the park all together, time outside makes everyone happy!   Dr. Marcie's Must Make Moves  1. Miko was just diagnosed with Autism so that tells us a bit about how his brain works. He thinks in a linear fashion that is very clear - left or right; right or wrong - the more specific and clear you can be in your language the easier it will be. He also is most likely a visual learner, so use visuals to support directions and vocal communication.  2. When asking a question, ask a question. When giving a direction, give a direction. It is not about being stern and yelling versus sweet and kind. It is about clarity and teaching Miko to listen.  3. Pick one priority as a parent. You can't change everything at once and it is exhausting to try. So pick one area of focus at a time. If it is potty training, great! If it is sleep training, great! If it is listening skills, great! The other areas, keep moving forward as you are and know you will get there in the future.   Golden Nugget  Using visual instructions and incorporating pictures into communication. Doing this while making sure to use clear and effective communication - asking questions for questions and directions for directions.

    40 min
  6. Anxiety Antidotes - The Power in Strong Parent Led Routines

    09/25/2023

    Anxiety Antidotes - The Power in Strong Parent Led Routines

    About this episode  Cam is a white straight cis man in a heterosexual relationship with his wife. They have 3 children together, Lucy who is 9 years old, Marlo who is 7 years old, and Teddy who is 4 years old.   Go To Glitter  We live by the ocean in Massachusetts. We are a good beach family. The activity we love as a family is going to the beach. In a more micro sense, family dinner. Everyone is there and it is a home cooked meal. Sitting around and going around the table to talk. They do this at least a couple times a week. Always on Sundays, usually one other night a week. Often Taco night is family dinner night, they all love tacos!   Dr. Marcie Must Make Moves  Started with a celebration that your daughter is going to therapy. Help and support from professionals is really important when there are big situations in your family.   1. Regular communication, specifically around who is going to be home when. Currently the only conversations happen when you are leaving. Need to create a regular time to talk about who will be home when, sometimes everyone is home and sometimes mom or dad will be leaving. Don't always have the conversation be around hard moments.  2. Since she thrives with the family calendar, keep it going. You need to be in charge of the calendar, the adults need to be responsible for sharing the information. Create a routine and predictable time when you as a family will reset it.   3. Create a night time connection routine based in positive activities. Build a routine for 15-30 minutes that you will do together each night. Activities that will keep her mind away from spiraling, think about positive things and safe things and what is great in her day. Maybe a body scan or journaling together or highlights of the day.   Golden Nugget  Lean into daily radical transparency! Really trying to increase the amount we are talking about everything. Creating more routines, routines that make her recognize and live in the present moment. This will help her get out of the future worry and fear and into the present moment where she can thrive.

    40 min
  7. Communication as a Parent - The importance of saying ALL the things

    09/18/2023

    Communication as a Parent - The importance of saying ALL the things

    About this Episode  JoAnna has an awesome family that is comprised of her husband Fan and their three wild children. Her oldest, G is 7 years old. Her middle, E is 5 years old. Her youngest, B is 21 months old. We are using initials for the podcast, they have full names in other places in their lives :)    JoAnna also shares lots of her parenting and educational perspective on her channel @positively_parenting on Instagram. Go check her out!   Go To Glitter  In the summer, the family favorite is swimming. Playing in the water is something everyone can enjoy, even though her husband does not generally love being outside. Water allows for a fresh start, reset during the day. In winter she will throw her youngest in the tub and bring them all into the shower together, with bubbles and coloring to make it even more fun. Even playing in the snow is part of what the family enjoys or is learning to enjoy!   Dr. Marcie's Must Make Moves  This is the first time you are doing this, each of you (as a parent and for your children). Remember you are learning, so there will be bumps in the road.  1. Being in relationships does not mean always getting along. It is about teaching them to have compassionate conflict and to communicate their needs. Communicating needs can look likes using the words "I feel..." and "I love you and I need ... right now" or "Not now, we can play later when...". So that everyone can get their needs met with specific communication.  2. Modeling is not enough for your kids to learn skills. You need to model and teach them. Say in clear and direct language what you need from them, what you are doing that is supporting them, and how they can use these same tools to support each other. Give them a script and context to use the tools themselves.  3. Emotional regulation - when you are having a hard day, say it and enroll them in supporting you more proactively. Then model what it takes to stay in the emotional transparent conversation as the day unfolds.    Golden Nugget  The golden nugget for JoAnna is clear, concise communication. Being clear of with expectations and boundaries. It can be for everything! Being clear about interactions and what you would like to see/expect and our own thoughts. Be clear and explicit will fix so many things! Such a universal tool for so many relationships! Additional Episodes If you enjoyed this episode you may want to check out Season 2, Episode 6.

    44 min
  8. Raising Twins: Different Needs for Different Kids

    09/11/2023

    Raising Twins: Different Needs for Different Kids

    About the episode  Cassy is the mom of twins 9 year olds who are headed into 3rd grade. Rae, her son, is introverted and reserved. Rose, her daughter, is energetic and outgoing. Cassy and her husband look for ways to balance their seemingly very different children. Go To Glitter  We always have a good time when we go places! That can be staying in a local hotel and visiting a water park or taking a cruise or traveling internationally. We love to travel as a family and spending time in new environments. Dr. Marcie's Must Make Moves  1. Continue to parent each child differently. Support your son to see the bigger picture. Support your daughter to see her value outside of what she is giving.  2. Ask questions to help them both see the areas they need to extend. Rather than provide scaffolding for your son, ask him questions to realize the support he is receiving and build his awareness. For your daughter help her reflect on what she needs first, before she helps others.  3. Create proactive goals. Set up ways for them each to grow in new ways, as you enter into situations rather then as a correction after the moment has passed. Golden Nugget  Asking more questions. For my son, that will be asking 'what do you think your sister might want?' instead of telling him to do something. For my daughter, that will be asking her to think beyond her giving. Here are some additional questions you can ask your kids  5 Questions to try with your kids who are like Ray:  1. Do you think anyone else would want a ___ also? 2. Who else would enjoy this? 3. Before you get started, what else/who else needs to be included? 4. How do you think this will impact _____ (your sister/friend/teacher)? Is that the impact you want to create? 5. What would make someone else smile today?   5 Questions to try with your kids who are like Rose:  1. What would you like to do?  2. Who shared with you today? 3. Before you help ____, what do you need for yourself? 4. How are you feeling?  5. What friend made you smile today? What did they do?

    32 min
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Love is an action. Love is the words we use (or don't use). Loving our family is a choice we get to make each and everyday! Sometimes we forget what love looks like in our parenting. Sometimes, we were never taught how to parent from love. Sometimes we need to love ourselves more so we can show love to our families. Where ever you are today, for whatever the reason you are there, there is always a way to bring in more love to your family! Let's find the way to do it together, one small step at a time! This podcast is individual conversations between Dr. Marcie and parents. Sometimes it is one parent and sometimes it is a couple. Parents share what is great about their family and what is challenging. Together with Dr. Marcie they problem solve new ways to move through difficult moments, new perspectives to understand what is unfolding in their homes, and new possibilities to build joy in their families.    Dr. Marcie believes small steps lead to big changes, so each episode ends with the parents sharing their the one small step they are committed to taking. The one nugget from the conversation that inspired them the most. You are encouraged to share your one take away in the comments.   Blue skies are ahead and we are going to get their together!

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