Freedom Is You Podcast

Alyssa Wack

Your place to find the power YOU have in what has been troubling you, so you can move forward in a way that feels really good! I have this saying, when you change the way you feel, it changes the way you look at it and when you change the way you look at it... you interact with it differently - that whatever has been troubling you, interacts with you differently. Shadow work and Self healing meets motherhood, infertility & everything in between. Each moment we are feeling troubled by something/someone, is simply highlighting a dysfunctional emotional connection we have to whatever is happening. So lets create a healthy emotional connection in it's place!Here is to raising humans who feel safe, understood, calm so they don't have to heal from their childhood and have thriving relationships and a life they don't feel they need to take a vacation from.Here is to navigating fertility struggles from a place of feeling inner peace and if you don't, knowing how to find it again so you don't lose yourself in the journey.Here is to having a healthy relationship with your partner where you feel understood, calm and safe so when there are disagreements they get resolved in a calm manner so you can feel more connected then ever.Here is to making your mind a place you truly want to be.Here is to helping you be able to interact with others OUTSIDE the dysfunction, including yourself.I fell into a depression in my first TTC journey after having two early miscarriages that I had to take a mental health leave from work. I ended up with a fertility diagnosis and cried for a week straight. I dug myself out of my depression and found happiness in my journey again, three short months later I got the pregnancy that stuff. My story doesn't end there. I ended up with a happy healthy baby girl but here was the problem - hearing her cries felt overwhelming that I would curl up into a ball and start crying. The intrusive thoughts where I felt sure I was going to accidently harm her, I remember freaking out in my psychologists office "I'm going to manifest her death! I can't stop worrying about it!" To daily fights with my husband feeling like we weren't a priority, feeling unappreciated - one day I realized, I couldn't keep going on this way. The way I felt every day, it wasn't something I wanted for my daughter - I wanted her to have the foundation to thrive in life. I had all the material things that promised me happy but inside, I was far from happy. I was forever arguing with my husband, felt isolated from friends and more like a nuisance then anything, my thoughts were hard to be with, anxiety. So I dove head first into spirituality, started practicing mediumship and offering readings, started exploring the science behind spirituality, neuroscience, mindset, hypnosis, NLP, trauma and somatics. Now? I use my daughters troubling behavior to heal unresolved emotional wounds, no longer giving her troubling behavior oxygen to breathe that the behavior completely resolves. You better bet I've applied it within every other relationship I've had too - the best part? It works. Every single time.

  1. Aug 30

    EP 38: Healing in Real Time | What Motherhood Taught Me About EFT

    Send us Fan Mail What does it actually look like to heal in real time—in the middle of the messy, ordinary moments when life is lifing and your nervous system is completely fired up? I’m sharing a story I’ve carried with me for years: the first time I experienced the power of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping not in a session, not in therapy, and not after the fact—but in the thick of motherhood, while I was still holding all the heat of the moment. I was camping alone with my two-year-old daughter when I became overwhelmed, overstimulated, and eventually lost my shit. I needed a minute. And sitting by the fire, still angry and activated, I found myself tapping. Within minutes, I could feel myself coming back to myself. What happened next—being able to reconnect with my daughter, repair, and respond from a more grounded place—changed the way I understood healing. In this episode, I’m sharing what that experience taught me about:  healing while the pattern is actually happening  the emotional “residue” we carry from everyday interactions  why our reactions can sometimes feel bigger than the moment itself  EFT tapping and somatic practices as tools for real-time regulation  the difference between reacting from an old pattern and responding from conscious choice  repairing with our children after we get it wrong  how guilt and shame keep us stuck in old patterns  creating a new “software program” for the way we want to show up  and what it means to come back to yourself again and againBecause healing isn't about becoming someone who never gets angry, overwhelmed, or dysregulated. It’s learning how to return. And sometimes, that return can happen right in the middle of the moment. If you’re new to EFT: I’ve created a free EFT reset that you can access as a free Substack subscriber.  If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me?  Hop on over to @alyssa.wack and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

  2. Feb 11

    EP 35: What used to spiral into tension and reactive words… didn’t | unfiltered moment from inside my marriage

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m sharing a fresh, unfiltered moment from inside my marriage. A 2:30am wake-up.  A simple request.  A “no” that didn’t land well.  And the familiar edge of disappointment and irritation rising in my body. What used to spiral into tension and reactive words… didn’t. Not because I suppressed it.  Not because I forced positivity.  But because I paused long enough to notice where I was actually responding from. I walk you through: The subtle difference between silence and shutdownWhat it feels like to catch yourself before sending the reactive textHow dysregulation meets dysregulation in relationshipsAnd what happens when just one person chooses to stay connected insteadThis isn’t about being perfect.  It’s about breaking a toxic cycle in real time — first internally, then relationally. And maybe the most important part:  The moment later that day when I caught myself saying, “It doesn’t matter”… when it actually did. If you’ve ever: Felt disappointment but didn’t know how to express it cleanlyShut down instead of asking for helpOr wondered how to shift long-standing patterns in your relationshipThis episode will feel like sitting in my kitchen while we unpack it together. Because I don't think the breakthrough always needs to be loud. I think it can be choosing to respond differently in the smallest, most ordinary moments. If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me?  Hop on over to @alyssa.wack and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

  3. 12/10/2025

    EP 34: Feeling emotionally held by my husband | Healing the father wound

    Send us Fan Mail I found an episode I had uploaded but never published from this summer - it was too good to not share. So here you go! Yesterday was a moment I once craved but didn't know how to name. There was a time when a spilled bowl of oatmeal would’ve ruined the whole day. Where my reaction would’ve triggered his. When my feelings would’ve become a fight. When something small turned into an argument or taken personally—every time. But yesterday… something different happened. Something I didn’t even know I was allowed to want five years ago. I decided to share a real-time moment from our family camping trip, how one small accident—spilled oatmeal over a campfire—became a portal into emotional safety, repair, and nervous system trust between me and my husband. What changed? Not perfection. But how we held each other when the tension rose. This episode is for the version of me who used to feel like she couldn't say anything without it turning into a fight. Who questioned how she felt. Who avoided bringing anything up because it always got twisted. It’s for the woman still wondering if emotional safety in partnership is even possible for her. It is. And this moment is proof🖤 If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me?  Hop on over to @alyssa.wack and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

  4. 06/12/2025

    EP 31: What part of me is tempted to override my pace to avoid disappointing someone?

    Send us Fan Mail As I go about my day today—I’d been invited last minute to my parents’ place, then my husband asked if we wanted to head into town and go shopping for golf pants together when he’s done work. Normally? I say yes to these things and go with it. Today was different. I found myself tuning in and asking: 🖤 If I say yes to these things, does anything feel squeezed or sacrificed? 🖤 Will I still get to savor what I want to experience—or will I be rushing through it? 🖤 What part of me is tempted to override my pace to avoid disappointing someone? 🖤 What would I need to rearrange or release to still feel grounded? Because the real question wasn’t “Can I do it all?” It was—what version of me will be showing up if I try? The present one? Or the one quietly calculating how to make it all fit? So I hit record on a little voice note from my back deck, letting this moment move through me—  and I hope it gets to be medicine for you too 🖤 If you're craving to rewrite these kinds of moments in your own life—to feel rooted in your pace, your priorities, your Self. I’ve opened space for one month of 1:1 support. You can explore it here:https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/211c7852/appointment/53866394/calendar/6187019?appointmentTypeIds[]=53866394&fbclid=PAQ0xDSwK4DVxleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp1YJytOkPFO8DxwYNrmUF1xhas5QsCxlkLg7NN0jUL1-hVze0Vgus79zkhtj_aem_G78QXbrISfAgrzGK2TfRhA If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me?  Hop on over to @alyssa.wack and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

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Your place to find the power YOU have in what has been troubling you, so you can move forward in a way that feels really good! I have this saying, when you change the way you feel, it changes the way you look at it and when you change the way you look at it... you interact with it differently - that whatever has been troubling you, interacts with you differently. Shadow work and Self healing meets motherhood, infertility & everything in between. Each moment we are feeling troubled by something/someone, is simply highlighting a dysfunctional emotional connection we have to whatever is happening. So lets create a healthy emotional connection in it's place!Here is to raising humans who feel safe, understood, calm so they don't have to heal from their childhood and have thriving relationships and a life they don't feel they need to take a vacation from.Here is to navigating fertility struggles from a place of feeling inner peace and if you don't, knowing how to find it again so you don't lose yourself in the journey.Here is to having a healthy relationship with your partner where you feel understood, calm and safe so when there are disagreements they get resolved in a calm manner so you can feel more connected then ever.Here is to making your mind a place you truly want to be.Here is to helping you be able to interact with others OUTSIDE the dysfunction, including yourself.I fell into a depression in my first TTC journey after having two early miscarriages that I had to take a mental health leave from work. I ended up with a fertility diagnosis and cried for a week straight. I dug myself out of my depression and found happiness in my journey again, three short months later I got the pregnancy that stuff. My story doesn't end there. I ended up with a happy healthy baby girl but here was the problem - hearing her cries felt overwhelming that I would curl up into a ball and start crying. The intrusive thoughts where I felt sure I was going to accidently harm her, I remember freaking out in my psychologists office "I'm going to manifest her death! I can't stop worrying about it!" To daily fights with my husband feeling like we weren't a priority, feeling unappreciated - one day I realized, I couldn't keep going on this way. The way I felt every day, it wasn't something I wanted for my daughter - I wanted her to have the foundation to thrive in life. I had all the material things that promised me happy but inside, I was far from happy. I was forever arguing with my husband, felt isolated from friends and more like a nuisance then anything, my thoughts were hard to be with, anxiety. So I dove head first into spirituality, started practicing mediumship and offering readings, started exploring the science behind spirituality, neuroscience, mindset, hypnosis, NLP, trauma and somatics. Now? I use my daughters troubling behavior to heal unresolved emotional wounds, no longer giving her troubling behavior oxygen to breathe that the behavior completely resolves. You better bet I've applied it within every other relationship I've had too - the best part? It works. Every single time.