SOLACE: Soul + Grief

Candee Lucas
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This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José/Santa Cruz area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality.  I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side. "I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving.  I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings." BACKGROUND Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint IgnatiusCentro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent RetreatCenter for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, COCalifornia State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. IgnatiusSanta Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral MinistriesCONTACT ME:  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.

  1. 3D AGO

    Zen, Ignatius, And The Voice That Heals

    Send a text What if the center of your grief isn’t emptiness, but a voice that calls you "Beloved"? We explore a quiet, radical shift inspired by Ruben L. F. Habito’s Zen and the Spiritual Exercises, bringing Zen attention and Ignatian prayer together to meet sorrow without shame. Instead of ranking life by wins and losses, we invite you into a gentler metric—inner freedom rooted in identity rather than performance. We walk through the baptism of Jesus as a living scene, not a distant story. With sensory imagination and simple breath, we step into the water, hear the heavens open, and receive the naming that steadies the heart: “You are my beloved; with you I am well pleased.” From there, grief looks different. Not smaller, but held. You’ll learn how contemplative stillness can soften the tight loops of comparison, how Zen’s don’t-know mind releases deadlines for healing, and how Ignatian discernment guides daily choices toward what actually brings life. Across the conversation, we offer a short, practical practice you can repeat when waves rise: sit, breathe, listen, return. We talk about letting go of inherited rules about “strong” mourning, making space for tears without apology, and building a small rule of life—journaling after hard moments, naming the one you miss, and choosing companions who bring freedom. If you’ve ever wondered whether faith and mindfulness can speak the same language to a broken heart, this is a hand on your shoulder and a path under your feet. Please subscribe to us on Amazon Music, Spotify, or Apple Music SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    11 min

  2. FEB 13

    How Love Helps Us Endure

    Send a text Grief can make the world feel loud and far away, yet there’s a quieter path that helps us hear what the heart is trying to say. We invite you into a reflective, conversation inspired by Mark Nepo’s "Seven Thousand Ways to Listen", exploring how care and kindness live beneath the ideas of fairness and deserving. Rather than trying to outpace loss, we focus on how love asks us to hold nothing back, how it lets beauty in even while we hurt, and how the simple practice of listening can help us endure what we cannot escape. Together, we walk through powerful questions designed to open both compassion for others and honesty with ourselves. Are we leading with care or keeping score? What makes the effort to love feel like a lift rather than a burden? How different is the face we show the world from the one we show no one? These prompts offer a gentle structure for grief work, inviting you to notice the feelings that signal aliveness and the ones that warn of disconnect, and to hear what each is trying to teach. We also unpack  a reflection on how modern life can split our experience into rooms of fear, anger, sadness, or worry. The risk isn’t feeling too much; it’s getting stuck in one feeling until isolation becomes a habit. By slowing down, our scattered emotions can reconnect, giving depth, coherence, and resilience. When we honor that slower light, kindness becomes a way of life, a lamp the heart carries for others and for ourselves. If you’re looking for grounded tools for grief, spiritual direction rooted in presence, and a reminder that there is no substitute for going through things together, you’ll feel at home here. Please subscribe to us on Amazon Music, Spotify, or Apple Music SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    12 min

  3. FEB 6

    Finding Hope After Loss

    Send a text Loss can make the world feel smaller, but something larger than sorrow keeps breaking through: a steady love that refuses to leave. We open a gentle path through grief by walking the terrain of Lent and Easter—naming the desert honestly and listening for the first hints of dawn. Along the way, we draw on Rumi’s striking line about love and separation and on Romans 8:35, asking what it means to be held when everything else feels unsteady. Together we reflect on how Lent becomes less a ritual and more a refuge, a season that burnishes the heart rather than burdens it. The desert teaches us to travel light, to notice where God moves under the noise, and to accept help when it arrives. From there, Easter becomes recognizable not as a shortcut around sorrow but as the quiet recovery after deep mourning: one morning the light looks kinder, the load a shade lighter, and hope begins to sound like our own voice again. We talk about daily practices that anchor us—simple prayers, small acts of gratitude, and the healing repetition of one word that changes everything: beloved. A blessing inspired by Jan Richardson meets listeners exactly where they are—offering rest, courage, and the promise that grace shows up on the road. If you’re carrying loss, longing for meaning, or needing a reminder that separation is not the final word, this conversation holds space for you. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    9 min

  4. JAN 30

    Mourning Together

    Send a text Some losses hit the national bloodstream and leave us reeling. The impact ripples beyond family and friends to anyone who sees their own hopes reflected in that life. We sit with that shock and name what it does to trust, to community, and to our sense of moral ground. Rather than drowning in  numbness, we slow down to ask what faithful, human grief looks like in public. We talk frankly about the sanctity of life and why no cause, no grievance, and no ideology justifies taking it.  Wrestle with how to hold outrage and compassion at the same time. Drawing on the witness of Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., and other voices who refused to answer violence with more violence,  explore a demanding, practical pacifism: solidarity without scapegoats, courage without contempt, and action that honors dignity. The goal isn’t to silence anger; it’s to transform it into care for the vulnerable, support for the bereaved, and commitment to repair. Along the way, we reflect on the psychology of collective mourning. Why do some of us rush to blame while others go numb? How can communities shape sorrow into rituals that heal—vigils, clear words, generous acts—so grief becomes connective rather than corrosive? We end in prayer, asking for the grace to remember love beneath the pain, to keep the loss human and not symbolic, and to let that memory guide how we live. If your heart feels heavy and you’re searching for a way to stand with others without losing yourself, we offer language, grounding, and hope. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    12 min

  5. JAN 23

    Ordinary Grief, Extraordinary Love

    Send a text The bells are quiet, the colors turn to green, and the calendar says ordinary time—yet your heart still feels anything but ordinary. We lean into that tension and talk honestly about the everyday weight of grief: the way a scent can stop you in a doorway, how an empty chair can crowd a room, and why the ache itself can be a sign that love is alive and doing its work. With clear, gentle language, we name what so many feel but hesitate to say out loud. We explore how culture often rushes mourning, leaving people embarrassed by tears or unsure how to show up for each other. We reflect on Anderson Cooper’s evolving voice on loss and what changes when we finally give sorrow time and space. From there, we turn to faith and continuity—how Christians and people of other traditions find hope in the idea that love outlasts a heartbeat, and how that promise can steady us when anniversaries and sudden memories arrive uninvited. Along the way, we ask questions: How much does love weigh? What color is it? We can’t measure it, but we can feel how it binds us to the people we miss. This conversation offers small, practical ways to make grief part of life without letting it swallow the day. Think simple rituals, quiet prayers, and intentional moments that honor memory while making room for new breath. The goal isn’t to move on, but to move with—allowing sorrow to soften, love to broaden, and hope to return in everyday places like kitchens, pews, and sidewalks under bright blue skies.  If you’re carrying a loss that feels heavy and unspoken, consider this a welcoming chair at a table set for honesty and care. We reflect on how grief becomes part of daily life, how faith and memory hold us, and why acknowledging sorrow is a sign of love, not weakness. From  hard-won wisdom to simple rituals that help us carry on, we make space for healing with honesty and hope. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    11 min

  6. JAN 16

    Grief Resolutions for the New Year

    Send a text The calendar turns, but grief doesn’t follow dates. We open this new year by laying out seven honest, compassionate resolutions for anyone carrying loss—practices that respect your pace, honor your person, and rebuild daily life without pretending the hurt is gone. From the first minutes, we name a core truth: this is your grief and only you can know what helps. Together we explore personal ritual as a lifeline—cooking a favorite meal, choosing a song, carving a quiet corner, or adopting visible symbols that speak without explanation. Beyond formal support, we talk about the humble power of community—book clubs, faith gatherings, bowling nights—to remind your nervous system what ordinary life feels like. For those drawn to faith, we unpack spiritual direction as a gentle companion to therapy. You’ll hear how a director can help you notice where God feels near or far, how your spiritual life has shifted, and which practices might hold you now. We close with whole-self care you can actually keep: regular sleep, simple food, steady movement, and soothing hobbies that regulate the body and give sorrow room to move.  If you’ve been told to “move on,” consider this your permission to move with—at your pace, with your rituals, and with community beside you. If this resonated, follow the show, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so others can find these gentle tools too. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE UPCOMING WORKSHOP ON  SOULFUL LISTENING:  https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    13 min

  7. JAN 9

    Mourning The One Who Saw You Best

    Send a text Today, my daughter-in-law, Rachel takes us through the intimate, complicated journey of losing her father to COVID and finding unexpected grace in hospice care. Along the way, Rachel names the ache of anticipatory grief, the way traditions become flashpoints, and how a single sentence from a nurse can rearrange your world. What sets this story apart is the quiet courage in the details. Rachel’s father, a man who prized his intellect, drifts in and out of lucidity while she becomes his advocate and historian, translating his life for overworked staff. When a facility outbreak pushes him past the point of return, the decision to choose comfort over intervention becomes an act of love. A hospice worker asks for stories, hears about a grandmother’s gentle ear tug, and carries that ritual into the room so he doesn’t die as an anonymous patient—but as a father, a son, and a whole person. It’s a small gesture that turns a lonely goodbye into a sacred passage. We reflect on how grief compounds over time, why losing the person who sees you best reshapes identity, and the practical steps that help families navigate chaos: insist on clear updates, prepare for abrupt transfers, and use simple rituals to anchor meaning when you can’t be at the bedside. If you’ve ever carried a phone under your pillow, saved a plate at the table, or wondered how to say goodbye when you can’t hold a hand, this conversation offers honesty, tools, and tenderness.  SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE UPCOMING WORKSHOP ON  SOULFUL LISTENING:  https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    20 min

  8. JAN 2

    Hope After Loss

    Send a text A nation’s grief can teach a child what silence looks like. With the Kennedy assassination as a first brush with public loss, we unpack how early experiences shape the way we mourn, speak, or go quiet when death enters the room. From the shock of seeing tragedy unfold on television to the private unsteadiness of waking beside a loved one who slipped away in the night, we explore how the manner of death changes the contours of grief without changing its weight. We talk about what gets lost when families don’t name their sorrow, and what becomes possible when communities choose to gather, listen, and remember. You’ll hear how love persists through the numb hours, how hope survives as a quiet companion, and how simple routines—brushing teeth, checking the mirror, speaking a name aloud—become anchors in days that feel unreal. If you’ve ever wondered why some losses feel harder to accept, or why certain questions won’t stop circling, this conversation offers language and gentle practices that honor both mystery and memory. The heart of it is simple: grief wants witnesses, and healing grows where love is named. Join us to find steadier footing, a kinder rhythm, and the stubborn jewel of hope you may have thought you lost. SPIRITUAL DIRECTION WHILE GRIEVING IS AVAILABLE UPCOMING WORKSHOP ON  SOULFUL LISTENING:  https://events.scu.edu/markey-center/event/359741-soulful-listening-workshops-on-the-ministry-of Art:  https://www.etsy.com/shop/vasonaArts?ref=seller-platform-mcnav and  https://fineartamerica.com/profiles/candee-lucas https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F2SFH4Z6 Music and sound effects today by:   via Pixabay

    13 min
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This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José/Santa Cruz area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality.  I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side. "I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving.  I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings." BACKGROUND Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint IgnatiusCentro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent RetreatCenter for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, COCalifornia State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. IgnatiusSanta Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral MinistriesCONTACT ME:  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.

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  • Creator
    Candee Lucas
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    207
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 SOLACE: Soul + Grief
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