Aging Together // Unfiltered

Pooja A. Patel, DrOT, OTR/L, BCG, CDP
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TL;DR: A podcast for adult children of aging parents and family caregivers who want honest, no-fluff conversations about aging, care, and caregiving. We talk about what’s working, what’s broken, and what needs to change—without sugarcoating or euphemisms. Aging Together // Unfiltered explores the real challenges and hard decisions families face as they support aging loved ones. Hosted by Dr. Pooja A. Patel—a double-board certified occupational therapist and gerontologist, and longtime caregiver advocate—this show moves beyond “proper” conversations and into the realities families are navigating every day. After four seasons of carefully curated, polished discussions, this podcast is now intentionally unfiltered. Not for shock value, but because polite language hasn’t fixed broken systems—or made caregiving easier. Our elders and their families don’t need softer words. They need better care, clearer information, and honest conversations that lead to action. Each episode features clinicians, caregivers, innovators, and leaders who bring both professional expertise and lived experience. Together, we dive into aging in America—what’s working, what’s failing, and where families are being left to figure things out on their own. Topics include: Aging in place and long-term care optionsCare planning, transitions, and crisis momentsMental health, grief, and caregiver burnoutNavigating healthcare systems and resourcesAdvocacy, accountability, and better models of care This podcast is for the sandwich generation, long-distance caregivers, aging adults planning ahead, and professionals working in aging and care who want the truth—not platitudes. 👉 Follow Aging Together // Unfiltered if you’re navigating aging parents, caregiving decisions, or a healthcare system that wasn’t built with families in mind—and you’re ready for real conversations, not polite ones. 🎙️ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and YouTube.  A production of Aging Together LLC.

  1. 2d ago

    She Called 47 Times Today: Rethinking How We Respond to Repetitive Behaviors in Dementia

    Send us Fan Mail Dementia creates a unique challenge for caregivers, often leading to a cycle of anxiety and repetitive behaviors like constant phone calls. In this eye-opening episode, Pooja A. Patel and Kirstin Thomas, co-founder of Kindred Mind, delve into the emotional landscape of caregiving for loved ones with dementia. They challenge conventional wisdom that suggests simply redirecting or ignoring these behaviors, highlighting instead the profound need for connection and reassurance that lies behind each repeated call.  Kirstin shares her personal journey as the sole caregiver for her mother, who lives with dementia. She reveals how her experiences with her grandmother’s Alzheimer’s shaped her understanding of the loneliness and fear that often drive these repetitive behaviors. You’ll discover how Kirstin turned her lived experience into a tech solution that addresses the emotional needs of both the caregiver and the person with dementia.  You’ll learn about:   - The compassionate approach to managing repetitive behaviors without resorting to medication.   - How technology can bridge the gap between caregivers and their loved ones, fostering connection even when physical presence is impossible.   - The innovative tools developed by Kindred Mind, designed to provide comfort through familiar voices and personalized interactions.   Ignoring the emotional signals of dementia not only affects the person suffering from the disease but can also lead to caregiver burnout. This conversation is a wake-up call for anyone involved in caregiving, offering insights into how we can better respond to the needs of our loved ones.  Perfect for caregivers, healthcare professionals, and anyone looking to understand the deeper emotional currents of dementia, this episode is essential listening. Join us as we explore the intersection of compassion, technology, and caregiving in an era where connection is more crucial than ever. Get 10% off any KindredMind subscription with code PATEL10.  Summary In this episode, Kirstin Thomas shares her journey of building Kindred Mind from personal caregiving experience, focusing on innovative care tech solutions for dementia. We explore how personalized voice companions and other tools can support both individuals with dementia and their family caregivers, emphasizing compassionate, person-centered approaches. Key Topics Repetitive behaviors in dementia and their root causesThe importance of understanding unmet needs in dementia careHow personalized voice technology supports emotional well-beingThe role of validation therapy and simulated presence therapyDesigning care tech that respects personhood and independenceThe continuum of care from early to late-stage dementiaSafety and privacy considerations in care tech platformsThe impact of familiar voices on reducing stress and agitationHow caregivers can leverage technology for better supportThe importance of education and understanding in dementia care Chapters 00:00 Navigating the Challenges of Dementia Care 15:06 Understanding Repetitive Behaviors in Dementia 24:06 Person-Centered Care in Dementia 26:10 Addressing Anxiety in Caregiving 27:39 The Gaps in Care Technology 29:48 Innovative Solutions for Emotional Support 30:18 The Role of Technology in Dementia Care 32:24 How Kindred Mind Works 35:01 The Role of Voice Companions 38:53 Combating Loneliness with Technology 42:16 Reminders and Independence 45:01 Compassionate Approaches to Caregiving 45:12 Continuum of Care for Dementia 46:29 Educating Caregivers and Families 48:02 Data Security in Care Technology Connect with Kirstin:  https://kindredmind.care/https://kindredmind.care/watchhttps://www.instagram.com/kindredmind_care/ https://www.facebook.com/KindredMindCare/https://www.linkedin.com/company/kindredmindcarehttps://www.youtube.com/@kindredmindcareDementia-Friendly ActivitiesLooking for activities for someone with dementia? Find puzzles, games, & more at Assistex. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

  2. Oct 24

    How Old Are You Today? One Daughter's Game for Connecting With Her Mother Through Dementia

    Send us Fan Mail Donate to the How Old Are You Today Fund: https://djcf.fcsuite.com/erp/donate/create/fund?funit_id=8722  What if every correction you make to a loved one with dementia is actually creating a deeper disconnection? In this transformative episode, Pooja A. Patel sits down with Glenna Hecht, a seasoned caregiver and founder of Humanistic Consulting, to explore the profound impact of communication on dementia care. Whether you’re a family member or a professional, this conversation is essential for anyone grappling with the challenges of dementia caregiving.      Glenna shares her deeply personal journey, revealing the emotional toll and practical hurdles of caring for her mother diagnosed with dementia. She candidly discusses the pitfalls of correction and redirection, and why meeting patients where they are can foster genuine connections. You’ll discover:   - The critical difference between correction and connection in dementia care.   - Glenna's unique approach, including her award-winning game, "How Old Are You Today?" that transforms interactions.   - Key strategies for caregivers to build lasting bonds, even amid the challenges of memory loss.   - The emotional weight of caregiving, including feelings of guilt and isolation, and how to navigate these feelings to better support your loved one.      This episode is a wake-up call for caregivers everywhere. Ignoring the nuances of communication can lead to heart-wrenching disconnection at a time when connection is most needed. Glenna’s insights not only illuminate the caregiving journey but also offer hope and practical tools to enrich relationships affected by dementia.      Tune in for a heartfelt conversation that promises to change how you approach caregiving and emotional connection. Perfect for family members, healthcare professionals, and anyone looking to deepen their understanding of dementia care. Don’t miss this opportunity to transform your relationships and nurture the connections that matter most. Summary Glenna Hecht shares her profound journey with her mother’s dementia, introducing the 'How Old Are You Today' game that transformed their relationship. This episode explores compassionate caregiving, connection over correction, and practical tools to navigate dementia with love and patience. Key Topics The importance of meeting dementia patients where they areThe 'How Old Are You Today' game and its rulesThe emotional journey of caregiving and griefStrategies for building connection instead of correctionThe impact of caregiving on personal identity and mental healthThe significance of presence, patience, and play in dementia careGlenna's personal story and lessons learnedThe role of support systems and community in caregiving Takeaways Caregivers often default to correction because they lack tools for connection. Playing the 'How Old Are You Today' game fosters joy and understanding. Accepting the present moment with compassion transforms caregiving. The myth of fixing dementia is replaced by facing and accepting it. Small moments of connection can repair relationships and bring peace. Caregiving is a long journey that requires self-compassion and patience. Sharing stories and experiences helps normalize the emotional toll. The importance of asking oneself daily about moments of joy. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Caregiving and Dementia 03:09 Glenna's Personal Journey with Dementia 06:05 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving 08:53 Navigating Daily Challenges as a Caregiver 12:01 Finding Connection Through the 'How Old Are You Today?' Game 14:50 Transforming Caregiving Perspectives 18:02 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward 22:24 Navigating Memory and Presence 24:40 The Game of Connection vs. Correction 26:53 Understanding Reality in Caregiving 30:06 Facing the Fear of Recognition Loss 34:34 Transitioning to Memory Care 38:07 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving 41:34 Personal Growth Through Caregiving Connect with Glenna Website: glennahecht.comThe book and the game: howoldareyoutoday.comLinkedIn | Instagram | FacebookSupport the show

  3. Oct 17

    Invisible Infrastructure: How Our Healthcare System Fails Families and What to Do About It

    Send us Fan Mail Families are the unsung heroes of elder care, yet they’re left to navigate a complex system without support. In this eye-opening episode, Pooja A. Patel welcomes Holly Larson, founder of Your Chief Care Officer, who shares her profound insights on how families have become the backbone of the care infrastructure. Discover the hidden challenges that caregivers face and the solutions that can empower them to manage elder care effectively.     Holly’s journey began when her father’s medical crisis thrust her into the chaotic world of caregiving. She reveals the staggering reality that families are often unprepared for the complexities of their role, highlighting the urgent need for a support system that acknowledges their contributions. You’ll learn how current care systems fail families, the consequences of this neglect, and the innovative frameworks Holly is developing to address these gaps.     You’ll discover:   - Why families are crucial yet overlooked in the healthcare system   - The structural problems that lead to caregiver burnout and stress   - Effective strategies for proactive care planning that can ease family burdens   - Insights into the generational shifts affecting caregiving dynamics   - Resources and tools that can help families prepare for future care needs     As the population of older adults continues to grow, the stakes have never been higher. This episode is essential listening for anyone involved in caregiving or those who may face these challenges in the future. Don’t miss out on the vital information that could change how you approach care for your loved ones.     Join Pooja and Holly for a compelling discussion that not only sheds light on the struggles families endure but also offers hope and practical solutions for a better care future. Perfect for caregivers, healthcare professionals, and anyone seeking to understand the evolving landscape of elder care. Connect with Holly:  LinkedIn: @HollyKLarsonyourchiefcareofficer.comSupport the show

  4. Oct 10

    We Need to Play Until We Die: Sensory Engagement at Every Stage of Dementia

    Send us Fan Mail Unlocking meaningful connections in dementia care is the key to enhancing lives. Join Pooja A. Patel and Angela Fairhurst as they dive into the transformative power of sensory engagement for individuals with dementia, challenging the status quo of infantilizing activities that fail to resonate with adult experiences. If you’re a caregiver, clinician, or simply someone passionate about improving the quality of life for loved ones living with dementia, this episode is a must-listen.    Angela Fairhurst, founder and CEO of Geri-Gadgets, shares her personal journey inspired by her mother’s battle with Lewy Body Dementia. Discover how she recognized the profound lack of suitable engagement tools for adults and created innovative sensory solutions that promote meaningful interaction. You’ll learn how to shift from merely keeping someone busy to facilitating genuine connections that matter.     In this episode, we break down:   - The critical role of sensory stimulation and its impact on mood and behavior   - The difference between purposeful engagement and just filling time   - The story behind Geri-Gadgets and the unique products designed for adults   - Key insights on how to address sensory-seeking behaviors in dementia care   - Why traditional methods often fall short and what can be done to innovate     The stakes are high: failing to provide meaningful engagement can lead to withdrawal and deterioration in quality of life. This episode opens up a conversation about how we can do better for those living with dementia, emphasizing that connection is possible at every stage.     Angela’s journey is not just a story; it's a call to action for caregivers and professionals alike. This is essential listening if you want to make a real difference in the lives of individuals living with cognitive challenges. Tune in to discover how simple, thoughtful interventions can create lasting change. Use code AGINGTOGETHER10 for 10% off at shop.geri-gadgets.com on your order!  Support the show

  5. Sep 19

    Talking About Death Won't Kill You: What is a Death Doula, & Other End-of-Life Care Needs

    Send us Fan Mail Every family faces the inevitable, yet few are prepared to navigate the emotional and logistical complexities of death. In this eye-opening episode, host Pooja A. Patel dives deep into the world of death doulas with seasoned experts Kim Ladd and Lindsay Lenhart—both former neonatal intensive care nurses turned death doulas. They reveal how this emerging profession transforms end-of-life experiences into meaningful journeys, advocating for conversations about death long before a crisis strikes.    Lindsay and Kim share their profound personal stories that led them to this calling, emphasizing the critical need for families to engage in end-of-life planning. You’ll discover how death doulas differ from hospice and palliative care, the vital role they play in supporting both the dying and their families, and why most people wait until it’s too late to discuss death. They break down essential topics such as anticipatory grief, the importance of legacy planning, and the unique emotional landscapes caregivers navigate.    In this compelling discussion, Kim and Lindsay challenge the stigma surrounding death and dying, offering insights on how to honor life’s transitions with grace and intention. They highlight the consequences of avoiding these conversations—chaos for families left behind and lost opportunities for the dying to express their wishes.    This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to demystify the process of dying and empower themselves and their loved ones in making informed decisions. With practical advice and heartfelt anecdotes, Kim and Lindsay provide a roadmap for approaching death with openness and connection.    Tune in for an essential conversation that promises to change how you think about life’s final chapter. Perfect for anyone who has experienced loss or is curious about the role of death doulas in our lives. Summary This episode explores the vital role of death doulas, the importance of early end-of-life planning, and how conversations about death can lead to more meaningful and peaceful experiences. Guests Lindsay Lenhart and Kim Ladd share their journeys, insights, and practical advice for supporting families through life's final chapter. Key Topics What is a death doula, and how do they differ from hospice careThe importance of early end-of-life conversations and planningHow to navigate hospice and palliative care optionsSupporting family caregivers and addressing caregiver burnoutCultural perspectives on death and dyingLegal and logistical aspects of end-of-life planningThe impact of anticipatory grief on caregiversLong-term hospice care for chronic illnesses like Alzheimer'sThe role of community and support networks in end-of-life careThe potential of medical aid in dying to provide peace About Lindsay & Kim:  Website: walkinghomedoulas.comInstagram - @walkinghomedoulasSupport the show

  6. Sep 12

    Hearing Loss & Dementia: A Silent Link & A Whole Lot of Money

    Send us Fan Mail When was the last time you got your hearing checked? If you think hearing loss is just a minor inconvenience, think again. Dr. Pooja A. Patel and Dr. Robert Keefer dive deep into the startling connection between untreated hearing loss and its significant role in accelerating Alzheimer's disease and cognitive decline. This episode is a must-listen for anyone concerned about aging, brain health, and the hidden costs of neglecting hearing health.      Dr. Keefer, an Alzheimer's prevention advocate and former audiology clinic founder, reveals how untreated hearing loss can elevate the risk of dementia by up to 500%. He also discusses why hearing health is often overlooked in medical practice, despite being a modifiable risk factor for cognitive decline. Together with Pooja, they explore the pressing need for annual hearing screenings, much like vision tests, and the barriers that keep many from seeking necessary care.      You'll discover:   - The shocking statistics linking hearing loss to Alzheimer’s—why ignoring it could cost you your mental health.   - The essential steps families should take to safeguard their loved ones’ hearing and cognitive health.   - Why Medicare's policies on hearing aids are outdated and what needs to change for better accessibility.   - Best practices in hearing care and how they can dramatically improve quality of life, independence, and memory preservation.      Understanding the profound impact of hearing loss is crucial not just for individuals but for society at large. Failing to address hearing issues can lead to increased healthcare costs and diminished quality of life, making this conversation vital for everyone, especially as our population ages.      Tune in to hear Dr. Keefer's expert insights and be inspired to advocate for your hearing health and that of your loved ones. Perfect for caregivers, health professionals, and anyone interested in the intersection of sensory health and cognitive vitality. Support the show

  7. Sep 5

    Nobody's Selling Peace of Mind: Why Care Tech Skips Family Caregivers

    Send us Fan Mail In a world where health tech is evolving rapidly, the most overlooked players in the caregiving landscape are the caregivers themselves. Join Pooja A. Patel and seasoned elder care expert Meghan Phelan as they unveil the crucial gaps in care technology that leave family caregivers vulnerable and overwhelmed. If you’re a caregiver feeling the weight of responsibility, this episode is your lifeline.      Pooja and Meghan dive deep into the struggles caregivers face in today’s tech-driven environment. They highlight a startling truth: while innovation in health tech has surged, the tools designed to support caregivers lag far behind. You’ll discover why caregivers are often the unsung heroes in the aging equation and how the current tech landscape fails to address their unique needs.      You'll learn about the financial pitfalls of delaying care and the importance of preventative measures to avoid crisis situations. Pooja and Meghan discuss the emotional and psychological barriers that prevent families from adopting essential technologies that could ease their burdens. You’ll hear surprising insights on how familial ties and traditional caregiving methods often clash with modern solutions.     Why does it matter? The stakes are high: failing to prioritize caregiver support can lead to burnout and deteriorating care quality. The conversation sheds light on the urgent need for tech that empowers caregivers, offering peace of mind and reducing stress in their daily lives.      If you’re part of the sandwich generation or simply want to ensure your loved ones receive the best care possible, this episode is essential listening. Join us to explore how we can bridge the gap in care tech and transform the caregiver experience for the better. Content Type: Interview Primary Goal: Educational Summary: In this episode, Megan Phelan shares her insights on the evolving landscape of care technology, the importance of supporting caregivers, and how to effectively integrate tech solutions to improve aging at home. Key Topics: The evolution of care technology from paper to AIThe critical role of caregivers in the care systemBarriers to technology adoption among older adultsThe importance of trust and simplicity in care techRemote monitoring and proactive health managementThe financial and emotional benefits of preventative careBuilding a culturally competent caregiver networkThe need for a unified care management platformConnect with Meghan:  IG/FB: @meghan_phelan_official IG/FB: @grannynannies_southfloridaSupport the show

  8. Aug 29

    I'm Just Helping: What the Caregiver Identity Crisis Costs Families

    Send us Fan Mail Content Type: Interview Primary goal: Educational Summary: In this episode, we explore the complex world of caregiving, focusing on self-identification, societal perceptions, and systemic support. Our guest, Kunal Parikh, shares insights from his extensive work in digital health and aging, emphasizing the importance of recognizing caregiving roles early and advocating for societal change. Key Topics:  Caregiver self-identification and societal perceptionsImpact of cultural and gender expectations on caregiving rolesSystemic barriers to caregiver support and resourcesThe importance of language and terminology in caregivingThe role of technology and policy in supporting caregiversThe emotional and psychological challenges of caregivingCommunity and societal attitudes towards elder care and nursing homesStrategies for early detection and intervention in caregiving roles About the Guest: Kunal Parikh is a physician-turned-digital health strategist with years of research working with family caregivers. He joins us to share his learnings about why caregivers have such a difficult time with self-identification.  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to caregiving and societal perceptions07:02 Why caregivers often don't recognize themselves17:12 The impact of language and terminology in caregiving26:57 Cultural influences on caregiving roles and responsibilities37:02 The importance of societal and policy change46:51 Using technology to support caregivers effectively55:02 Closing thoughts and call to actionSupport the show

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TL;DR: A podcast for adult children of aging parents and family caregivers who want honest, no-fluff conversations about aging, care, and caregiving. We talk about what’s working, what’s broken, and what needs to change—without sugarcoating or euphemisms. Aging Together // Unfiltered explores the real challenges and hard decisions families face as they support aging loved ones. Hosted by Dr. Pooja A. Patel—a double-board certified occupational therapist and gerontologist, and longtime caregiver advocate—this show moves beyond “proper” conversations and into the realities families are navigating every day. After four seasons of carefully curated, polished discussions, this podcast is now intentionally unfiltered. Not for shock value, but because polite language hasn’t fixed broken systems—or made caregiving easier. Our elders and their families don’t need softer words. They need better care, clearer information, and honest conversations that lead to action. Each episode features clinicians, caregivers, innovators, and leaders who bring both professional expertise and lived experience. Together, we dive into aging in America—what’s working, what’s failing, and where families are being left to figure things out on their own. Topics include: Aging in place and long-term care optionsCare planning, transitions, and crisis momentsMental health, grief, and caregiver burnoutNavigating healthcare systems and resourcesAdvocacy, accountability, and better models of care This podcast is for the sandwich generation, long-distance caregivers, aging adults planning ahead, and professionals working in aging and care who want the truth—not platitudes. 👉 Follow Aging Together // Unfiltered if you’re navigating aging parents, caregiving decisions, or a healthcare system that wasn’t built with families in mind—and you’re ready for real conversations, not polite ones. 🎙️ Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and YouTube.  A production of Aging Together LLC.

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  • Creator
    Pooja A. Patel, DrOT, OTR/L, BCG, CDP
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    116
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Aging Together, LLC
  • Show Website
    Aging Together // Unfiltered

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