A Psychological Journey: A Podcast About Relationships and Personal Growth.

Akiva Ragen

My name is Akiva Ragen, and I am an certified counselor and a clinical MSW in training. dedicated to guiding individuals through their personal growth, both online and in my clinic in israel. You can contact me at: Akivaragen@gmail.com

Episodes

  1. Sep 21

    Boredom and desire in Relationships. Introduction to Stephen Mitchell.

    Most people believe boredom is merely the byproduct of routine, familiarity, or fading chemistry. However, psychoanalyst Stephen Mitchell—in his groundbreaking book Can Love Last?—offers a completely different perspective: boredom is not a passive state, but an active defense mechanism against the vulnerability of deep intimacy.In this video, we explore Mitchell's profound insights on: • Why we unconsciously choose boredom to protect ourselves from anxiety and emotional risk. • The psychological dynamics of short-term flings vs. long-term committed partnerships. • How creating an overly predictable view of your partner suffocates mystery and desire. • The courage required to bring new, unexpressed parts of yourself into the relationship to reignite vitality. • A practical question you can ask yourself whenever boredom surfaces in your life or love.Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction: The Paradox of Boredom & Stephen Mitchell01:08 - The Case of Burt: Why Passion Fades as Attachment Grows03:28 - Boredom as a Psychological Defense Mechanism05:25 - Short-Term vs. Long-Term Relationship Dynamics07:50 - Safety vs. Vitality: The Illusion of Total Predictability10:15 - The Solution: Embracing Uncertainty & Self-Disclosure13:28 - Key Takeaway & Practical ExerciseMy name is Akiva Ragen, and I am an certified counselor (M.A) and a clinical MSW in training. dedicated to guiding individuals through their personal growth, both online and in my clinic in israel. I also host the podcast "Journey to the Soul," (In Hebrew) which delves into psychology and relationships. Additionally, I am the author of the book "The Secret of the Encounter." In my clinic, the therapeutic space is crafted to support and nurture key life processes, helping individuals to deeply reflect, process, and heal from the challenges they face, ultimately enabling meaningful growth. The issues I address are wide-ranging and encompass anxiety, relationship problems ,trauma, professional and family crises, addictions, unresolved past experiences, lack of clarity, creative blockages, loss of passion, depression, and overwhelming emptiness.To schedule a session online, please contact me by email at akivaragen@gmail.com

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My name is Akiva Ragen, and I am an certified counselor and a clinical MSW in training. dedicated to guiding individuals through their personal growth, both online and in my clinic in israel. You can contact me at: Akivaragen@gmail.com