The Best Self Podcast

Nicola Fulstow
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You're capable, ambitious and really good at showing up for everyone else. But somewhere in the middle of doing it all, you have struggled to show up for yourself. And now you're overwhelmed, tired or maybe a bit lost. This podcast is ready for the woman ready to take up space and make her life about her again! Maybe you've just been going through the motions, perhaps you've got too many ideas and are overwhelmed by the your own ideas and potential; or maybe you know exactly what you want, but just can't seem to get traction on it? Perhaps you're starting to question at this stage in your life; 'where do I belong now?' Hosted by your Elevator-in-Chief Nicola Fulstow; who has 20 years of experience as a women's Coach, Image Consultant and Business Owner; each episode is an honest warm conversation about the inner work that actually moves the needle. Real self-care. Essential boundaries. Messy, unapologetic, non-linear growth. No quick fixes, no toxic positivity no fake performance. Just the truth about the challenges and lessons about making your life about you again after a period of change in your life, where you felt like you kind of disappeared... and now you're ready to return.

  1. 5d ago

    Visibility Could Be Vanity But Reputation is Sanity

    We’re being told constantly that we need to be more visible. Post more. Show up more. Be everywhere. But after a competitor got an opportunity I thought should have been ours, I panicked... and then absolutely nothing happened. Our relationships stayed intact, our business carried on, and it made me question whether visibility is really the thing we should all be chasing. In this episode, I’m exploring the difference between being seen and actually being known, trusted and remembered. I’m talking reputation, real connection, social media fatigue and why your marketing strategy needs to work with who you are. Because you’re a human being, not a content machine, and sometimes the people we remember most are the ones who made us feel seen. Highlights: (04:20) - A competitor got the stage, I panicked... and then absolutely NOTHING happened (08:35) - Everyone is visible all the blooming time, so why does it all feel like noise? (12:38) - Are you actually connecting, or are you just broadcasting into the void? (17:02) - I stopped posting and we had our busiest year in 14 years... excuse me, WHAT? (25:07) - The person who was 20 times more visible didn’t get my money, and here’s why (33:33) - Maybe the question isn’t “How can I be more visible?” but “How do I want to be known?” Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  2. Oct 12

    There's a Glass Ceiling on Your Business And You Need to Hear What it is

    If you’re a sole trader or running a small business, here’s something worth considering: you are your business. Your confidence, energy, boundaries, fears and even the amount of sleep you got last night can affect how you show up, and ultimately, how your business performs. So what if the thing holding your business back isn’t another strategy you haven’t discovered yet? In this episode, I’m looking at the patterns behind overgiving, undercharging, procrastination, playing small and struggling to be visible. I’m also talking about finding your natural genius, because building a successful business shouldn’t require becoming someone you’re simply not. Highlights: (05:06) - The launch excitement has disappeared... now what? (09:37) - Feast or famine in your business? It might not be as random as you think (14:37) - Are you supporting everyone else while quietly avoiding your own spotlight? (19:07) - When saying no feels harder than being completely drained (24:08) - Your natural genius might be the business strategy you’ve been overlooking (29:29) - Ambition and inner peace absolutely can exist in the same business Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  3. Oct 5

    Burnout Isn’t a Battery Problem

    What if your burnout isn’t something a holiday, a weekend off or an early night can fix? Sometimes we’re exhausted because we genuinely need rest, but sometimes that flat, heavy feeling is telling us something completely different. And if we’re solving the wrong problem, it’s no wonder nothing seems to change. In this episode, I’m breaking burnout down into five different places it can come from: capacity, physical depletion, performance, lost joy and timing. I want to help you work out what’s actually draining you, because you might not need to burn your whole life down. You may simply need clarity about what needs to change. Highlights: (05:09) - Why burnout isn’t always an energy problem (09:59) - Are you expecting today’s version of you to have yesterday’s capacity? (14:36) - When the answer really is to stop, rest and do less (19:05) - The burnout that comes from living a life that no longer fits (23:32) - How the things that once brought you joy get buried beneath the admin (32:17) - Why accepting the wrong timing isn’t the same as giving up Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  4. Sep 28

    A Day In Your Dream Life is Worth Imagining: My Alternative to a Vision Board

    In this episode, I’m talking about why goals alone aren’t always enough to keep us moving, and why having a bigger vision for your life can be so powerful. Sometimes we get so focused on what we need to achieve next that we forget to ask the bigger question: what do I actually want my life to look and feel like? I’m sharing how I’ve been using AI to create a detailed “day in the life” of my future self, then work backwards from that vision into realistic goals and actions. It’s about dreaming bigger, getting emotionally connected to the life you want, and taking sustainable steps towards the woman you’re becoming. Highlights: (04:20) - Why it matters to notice the life you’ve already created (08:43) - How to use ChatGPT to build a detailed vision of your dream life (13:01) - Why feeling the future matters as much as planning it (17:53) - How a big vision can motivate you when goals stop feeling exciting (22:23) - The difference between goals that push you and a vision that pulls you (26:59) - Why your best self is a journey, not a perfect finished version Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  5. Sep 21

    Break the All or Nothing Cycle and Start Gaining Goal Traction

    In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can feel so different in midlife, especially when you’re motivated, ambitious and still somehow finding yourself stuck in that stop-start cycle. So often, the problem isn’t a lack of discipline. It’s trying to work at a pace that no longer fits your actual life or capacity. I’m sharing a more sustainable way to approach progress, including my red, amber and green system for adjusting your effort without abandoning your goals. We’ll also look at self-sabotage, identity, consistency and why progress becomes much easier when you stop expecting yourself to operate at 100% all the time. Highlights: (04:21) - Why pushing through constantly can actually destroy consistency (08:34) - The shift from all-or-nothing thinking to sustainable action (13:21) - How to keep the goal while adjusting the intensity (18:07) - Why your real capacity matters more than the capacity you wish you had (22:02) - My red, amber and green system for staying consistent through real life (35:36) - How to spot your self-sabotage language before it knocks you off track Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  6. Sep 14

    Why You Keep Setting Goals But Stay Stuck

    In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can start to feel very different in midlife, even when you are motivated, capable and know exactly what you want. For me, the problem was not discipline or willpower. I was setting goals for the life I used to have, not the capacity I actually have now. We’ll look at starting with how you want to feel, getting honest about your current responsibilities, and using the Wheel of Life to see which areas need your attention most. This is about setting goals from reality, not frustration, so you can make progress without constantly feeling like you are falling behind. Highlights: (04:15) - Why this may be a capacity problem, not a motivation problem (08:41) - Forget the goal for a moment. How do you actually want to feel day to day? (13:01) - Stop setting goals like you still have the time and energy you had at 25 (17:26) - When plan A, B and C all fall apart, ask yourself what you can do next (21:44) - The Wheel of Life exercise that can quickly show you where your biggest shifts may be (29:49) - Before you set a single goal, get clear on your feelings, your focus and your real capacity Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  7. Sep 7

    Back To School, Back To You: Your Four Step September Reset

    September always feels far more like a fresh start to me than January. The routines are returning, the summer chaos is settling, and there’s suddenly a little more space to think about what I actually want for myself. In this episode, I’m sharing the simple reset process I use every September, inspired by my years as a stylist. We’ll reflect on where life feels good and where it needs attention, clear out some of the physical, mental and emotional clutter, and get organised so you can move into the final quarter of the year feeling purposeful, energised and ready for what’s next. Highlights: (04:46) - The four stages of my September reset (08:49) - Stop setting goals before asking how you actually want to feel (12:42) - Why the things that matter rarely happen by accident (16:49) - The detox that goes far beyond clearing out your wardrobe (18:30) - Getting organised for yourself, not just everyone else (20:47) - Who do you want to become more of over the next 12 months? Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

  8. Aug 31

    Courage Over Comfort - Why the Worst Time to Start Can Be the Best Reason To

    In this episode, I’m sharing what it has looked like to start again with my health, fitness and routines after a really difficult few years. I talk about returning to boot camp, choosing courage over comfort and why waiting until you feel completely ready can keep you stuck for far longer than you realise. I’ll also share what I’ve learned about acceptance, letting go, capacity and rebuilding trust with yourself. This is not about changing everything overnight. It is about choosing one thing, showing up consistently and proving to yourself that you can move forward, even when life feels messy and the timing is far from perfect. Highlights: (04:15) - The message that stopped me in my tracks: you chose courage over comfort (08:20) - Why I decided not to wait until September to start again (12:03) - The real turning point was committing before I felt ready (16:19) - When pushing harder was actually making things worse (25:24) - Why this was never a willpower problem, it was a capacity problem (29:59) - One thing at a time: how small commitments create real momentum Connect with me: Instagram @thebestselfpodcast Website - https://thebestselfproject.co.uk/ Email hello@thebestselfproject.co.uk

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You're capable, ambitious and really good at showing up for everyone else. But somewhere in the middle of doing it all, you have struggled to show up for yourself. And now you're overwhelmed, tired or maybe a bit lost. This podcast is ready for the woman ready to take up space and make her life about her again! Maybe you've just been going through the motions, perhaps you've got too many ideas and are overwhelmed by the your own ideas and potential; or maybe you know exactly what you want, but just can't seem to get traction on it? Perhaps you're starting to question at this stage in your life; 'where do I belong now?' Hosted by your Elevator-in-Chief Nicola Fulstow; who has 20 years of experience as a women's Coach, Image Consultant and Business Owner; each episode is an honest warm conversation about the inner work that actually moves the needle. Real self-care. Essential boundaries. Messy, unapologetic, non-linear growth. No quick fixes, no toxic positivity no fake performance. Just the truth about the challenges and lessons about making your life about you again after a period of change in your life, where you felt like you kind of disappeared... and now you're ready to return.

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  • Creator
    Nicola Fulstow
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    54
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Nicola Fulstow
  • Show Website
    The Best Self Podcast

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