Loving Me Before I Love You Podcast with Tammy Nicole and Friends

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Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You, the podcast for women who are ready to stop losing themselves while searching for love, validation, and belonging. Hosted by Coach Tammy Nicole, this show is where healing meets honesty, self-discovery meets transformation, and women learn how to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power. Each week, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with therapists, relationship experts, life coaches, authors, and everyday people with extraordinary stories to explore the conversations that help us become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves. From self-love and emotional healing to relationships, boundaries, confidence, mother wounds, childhood experiences, mental health, identity, and personal growth, no topic is off limits. This is not about becoming someone new. It's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, abandonment wounds, emotional unavailability, unhealthy relationship patterns, low self-worth, or the feeling that you've spent your life taking care of everyone except yourself, you're in the right place. Through meaningful conversations, practical tools, and powerful insights, you'll learn how your past shaped you, how your patterns were formed, and most importantly, how to create a future that aligns with the woman you're becoming. Because healthy love doesn't start when someone chooses you. It starts when you choose yourself. So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and join us each week as we do the work of healing, growing, and becoming. Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You. Your journey back to yourself starts here.

  1. 2d ago

    Unpacking the Layers of Who You Are

    Send us Fan Mail Who are you beneath the titles, the responsibilities, the pain, and the expectations you've carried for years? In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Kenya Metoyer, Personal Growth Strategist, to explore what it really means to unpack the layers of your identity. Together, they dive into the beliefs, habits, and emotional patterns that often keep us disconnected from our authentic selves and discuss how true personal growth begins with radical self-awareness and intentional change. Kenya shares practical insights on breaking free from outdated versions of yourself, building emotional resilience, and embracing the woman you were created to become. This conversation is both honest and empowering, reminding us that healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about returning to who you've always been beneath the survival strategies. If you've ever felt stuck, questioned your identity, or wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns, this episode will encourage you to look beneath the surface and begin the work of lasting transformation. In this episode, you'll discover:  Why your identity is more than your past experiences.  How survival patterns can keep you from becoming your authentic self.  The importance of emotional resilience in personal growth.  Practical ways to challenge outdated beliefs and embrace lasting change.  Why self-discovery is a lifelong journey worth taking. About Our Guest Kenya Metoyer is a relationship coach, speaker, educator, and the founder of Kenya's Keepsake, a personal development platform dedicated to helping individuals unlearn unhealthy patterns, relearn healthier relationship skills, and build stronger connections through self-discovery and informed choices. With expertise in emotional intelligence, communication, conflict resolution, boundaries, accountability, and personal growth, Kenya empowers individuals, couples, families, and communities to understand themselves first so they can navigate every relationship with greater confidence, clarity, and intention. She believes many relationship struggles aren't caused by a lack of love, but by a lack of awareness, emotional skills, and healthy communication. Known for her honest, practical, and thought-provoking approach, Kenya encourages people to examine the beliefs, behaviors, and survival patterns they've carried for years. Her work helps others unpack the layers of their identity, let go of what no longer serves them, and develop the emotional tools needed to build healthier relationships at home, at work, and within themselves. Kenya is also the founder of Rich in Roots, a nonprofit organization that equips youth with emotional wellness, conflict resolution, leadership, communication, and life skills to help them thrive in every area of life. Her guiding philosophy is simple: "Before you can build healthy relationships with others, you must first understand the relationship you have with yourself." Connect with Kenya Metoyer: @Kenya's Keepsake on all social media If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who's ready to peel back the layers and rediscover who she truly is. Questions about this episode? Email questions@iamtammynicole.com Interested in coaching? Email coaching@iamtammynicole.com

  2. Aug 11

    How to Reconnect with Your Inner Child

    Send us Fan Mail The little girl inside of you never disappeared. She simply learned how to survive. In this heartfelt episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Destiny Thomas, life coach and The Prayerpist®️, to explore what it truly means to reconnect with your inner child. Together, they unpack how childhood experiences continue to shape our beliefs, relationships, emotional responses, and sense of self long into adulthood. Through her signature Prayerpy®️ approach, Destiny shares how high-achieving women can begin healing the hidden wounds they've carried for years by inviting both intentional self-reflection and spiritual guidance into the process. This conversation reminds us that healing isn't about staying stuck in the past. It's about giving yourself permission to become the woman your younger self needed. In this episode, you'll discover: • What your inner child really is and why she still influences your life today. • How childhood wounds quietly affect your confidence, relationships, and emotional patterns. • Why high-achieving women often disconnect from their emotions to survive. • Practical ways to begin reconnecting with your younger self through self-compassion, reflection, and faith. • How Prayerpy®️ creates space for emotional and spiritual healing. Whether you've been carrying rejection, abandonment, criticism, or simply the pressure to always be "strong," this episode will encourage you to slow down, listen inward, and begin extending grace to the little girl who has always deserved love. About Our Guest Destiny Thomas is a life coach and The Prayerpist®️, helping high-achieving women experience transformational healing through her Holy Spirit-led coaching method, Prayerpy®️. Her mission is to guide women toward emotional freedom, spiritual growth, and lasting transformation by combining biblical truth, prayer, and practical coaching. 💛 Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who needs this message. 🌐 Coaching, courses, and resources: https://stan.store/iamtammynicole 🎙️ Interested in being a guest or have a question for the show? Reach out through the links above. Remember, healing doesn't happen because time passes. Healing happens because you decide to face what hurt you, love yourself through it, and choose differently.

  3. Aug 4

    The Role of Childhood in Your Adult Identity

    Send us Fan Mail Who you are today did not begin when you became an adult. It began with the experiences, relationships, and messages you absorbed as a child. In this powerful episode of Becoming Her, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Carole Evans, public speaker and host of the Faith and Works Podcast, for an honest conversation about how childhood experiences shape our adult identity. Through her own personal story, Carole shares how the wounds, beliefs, and patterns we carry from childhood often follow us into adulthood, influencing the way we love, trust, communicate, and see ourselves. Together, we explore why healing requires more than simply moving on. It requires understanding where those patterns began and allowing faith to guide the transformation. Carole reminds us that while our childhood may explain many of our struggles, it does not have to define our future. Through faith, self-awareness, and intentional healing, we can rewrite the story we have been living. If you have ever found yourself asking: Why do I keep repeating the same patterns? Why is it so hard to trust myself or others? How do I break free from the beliefs I learned as a child? This conversation is for you. Your childhood may have written the first chapters of your story, but through healing and faith, you get to write the rest. About Our Guest Carole Evans is a public speaker and the host of the Faith and Works Podcast, where she encourages others to live with purpose, faith, and resilience. Drawing from her own life experiences, Carole speaks candidly about the lasting impact of childhood, the importance of healing, and how faith can become the foundation for becoming the person God created you to be. Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole Website: www.iamtammynicole.com Coaching, courses, and products: https://stan.store/iamtammynicole Guest questions and podcast inquiries: questions@iamtammynicole.com Coaching inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com If this episode encouraged you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who is ready to understand their past, embrace healing, and become the woman they were always meant to be.

  4. Jul 28

    The Truth About Independence vs. Isolation with Jayna Palmer

    Send us Fan Mail Being independent is a strength. Living in isolation is a survival strategy. Somewhere along the way, many women learned that relying on others led to disappointment, abandonment, or pain. So we built lives where we could do everything ourselves. We called it independence. But what if what we're really experiencing is isolation? In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole and certified life coach, speaker, and author Jayna Palmer unpack the subtle but life-changing difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation. Together, they explore how unresolved trauma, fear, and self-protection can quietly keep us disconnected from the very relationships and support we desire. Jayna K. Palmer is an international speaker, author, and identity disruptor known for her raw truth, emotional intensity, and unforgettable stage presence. As the founder of the Resurrect Her Voice Movement, she helps women recognize the voices driving their decisions, expose the destructive patterns keeping them stuck, and take ownership so they can finally shift direction. Her work focuses on identity transformation, toxic patterns, forgiveness, personal power, and helping women reclaim the voice trauma tried to silence. Her message is simple yet profound: Your past may explain you, but it does not own you. In this episode, you'll discover: The difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation.Why hyper-independence is often rooted in survival, not strength.How fear, shame, and past experiences influence our relationships.Practical ways to reconnect with yourself and others without losing your independence.Why healing requires courage, vulnerability, and ownership.If you've ever said, "I've got it," while secretly wishing someone would simply show up for you, this conversation will challenge, encourage, and empower you to choose connection over self-protection. Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole Website: https://www.iamtammynicole.com Coaching: coaching@iamtammynicole.com Podcast Questions & Guest Inquiries: questions@iamtammynicole.com If this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that true strength isn't found in carrying everything alone. Healing happens when we find the courage to let ourselves be seen.

  5. Jul 21

    How to Redefine Freedom on Your Own Terms

    Send us Fan Mail What does freedom really mean? For many women, freedom has been defined by other people's expectations, past wounds, responsibilities, relationships, or even survival. But true freedom is not simply doing whatever you want. It's having the courage to live in alignment with who you truly are. In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Alpha Mshihiri, therapist, coach, and advocate for personal transformation, to explore what it means to redefine freedom on your own terms. Together, they unpack the difference between external freedom and internal freedom, how past experiences can quietly keep us emotionally imprisoned, and why healing is often the pathway to true liberation. You'll hear an honest conversation about identity, faith, relationships, personal responsibility, and the courage it takes to stop living for everyone else's approval. Whether you're breaking free from limiting beliefs, unhealthy relationship patterns, people-pleasing, or fear, this episode will challenge you to examine what freedom looks like in your own life. In This Episode We Discuss: • What freedom really means beyond the surface  • The hidden chains that keep people emotionally stuck  • How faith and healing work together in personal transformation  • The difference between independence and true freedom  • Practical steps to begin creating a life that feels authentic and aligned If you've ever felt trapped by expectations, fear, guilt, or old versions of yourself, this conversation will remind you that freedom isn't something you find. It's something you choose. Thank you for listening to Loving Me Before I Love You. If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need this message. Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole 📧 Coaching Inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com  📧 Podcast Questions & Guest Requests: questions@iamtammynicole.com Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey? Explore coaching programs, digital products, journals, workshops, and resources designed to help you reclaim your voice, your worth, and your power. 🌐 Website: I Am Tammy Nicole Until next time, remember: the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. 💜

  6. Jul 14

    Detaching from What No Longer Serves You

    Send us Fan Mail What if the very thing standing between you and the life you desire is your unwillingness to let go? In this thought-provoking episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with author, speaker, and time strategist Chrystal Wood Hawley for a powerful conversation about releasing what no longer aligns with the woman you're becoming. Whether it's an outdated belief, an unhealthy relationship, a limiting mindset, unrealistic expectations, or even commitments that no longer fit your season, detachment is often the bridge between where you are and where you're meant to be. Together, Coach Tammy and Chrystal explore: ✨ Why we hold on to things that no longer serve us  ✨ The hidden cost of emotional, mental, and time debt  ✨ How fear, guilt, and familiarity keep us stuck  ✨ Recognizing when it's time to release people, habits, and patterns  ✨ Creating space for healing, growth, and alignment  ✨ Practical ways to move forward without carrying yesterday into tomorrow Chrystal shares a unique perspective on how our relationship with time impacts our ability to let go and move forward. She challenges listeners to examine not only what they're holding onto emotionally, but what they're continuing to invest their precious time in despite knowing it's no longer serving them. If you've been feeling weighed down, stretched thin, or stuck between who you were and who you're becoming, this episode is your reminder that every new chapter requires a release. Sometimes growth isn't about doing more. It's about finally putting down what was never meant to come with you. About Our Guest Chrystal Wood Hawley is the founder and CEO of Let's Talk Time, a time strategy firm based in Atlanta, Georgia, where she helps individuals and organizations increase time traction through transformative goal setting. She is the author of Let's Talk Time: Own Your Hours. Rule Your Life. and is on a mission to teach women how to stop compounding time debt and transform their lives by understanding their relationship with time. Connect with Chrystal Wood Hawley 📱 Instagram: @cw_hawley | @lets.talk.time 💼 LinkedIn: Chrystal Wood Hawley Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole 📧 Coaching: coaching@iamtammynicole.com  📧 Podcast Questions & Guest Inquiries: questions@iamtammynicole.com On Loving Me Before I Love You, we believe healing begins when we choose ourselves. This conversation is a reminder that releasing what no longer serves you isn't loss, it's making room for the life, peace, and purpose you've been praying for. 💜 Listen, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a woman who needs permission to let go so she can finally move forward.

  7. Jul 7

    Are You Truly Free or Just Comfortable?

    Send us Fan Mail What if the life you've built isn't actually freedom... it's familiarity? In this thought-provoking episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with transformational guide Gabriela Rojas to explore the powerful difference between living freely and simply living comfortably. Many of us settle into routines, relationships, careers, and identities that feel safe, but safety and freedom are not always the same thing. Together, Tammy and Gabriela unpack how comfort can quietly become a cage, keeping us from the growth, healing, and expansion we deeply desire. Drawing from her own journey through profound loss and self-discovery, Gabriela shares how heartbreak became the catalyst that led her back to herself and ultimately inspired her mission to help women reconnect with their inner wisdom, spiritual health, and personal power. In this episode, we discuss: ✨ The difference between comfort and true freedom  ✨ How fear disguises itself as security  ✨ Why self-mastery is essential to creating the life you desire  ✨ The role spiritual health plays in personal transformation  ✨ How to recognize when you've outgrown a season of your life  ✨ Practical ways to begin choosing alignment over familiarity If you've been feeling stuck, restless, or like there's more waiting for you on the other side of your comfort zone, this conversation will challenge you to ask yourself a powerful question: Am I truly free... or have I simply become comfortable? Connect with Gabriela Rojas 📱 Instagram: @TheYouinProgress Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole 💜 Coaching & Programs: www.iamtammynicole.com  📧 Coaching Inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com  📧 Podcast Questions & Guest Requests: questions@iamtammynicole.com If this episode spoke to your heart, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who may be ready to trade comfort for freedom. #LovingMeBeforeILoveYou #CoachTammyNicole #TheYouInProgress #PersonalGrowth #SelfLoveJourney #WomenEmpowerment #HealingJourney #FreedomOnYourTerms #SelfMastery #EmotionalHealing

  8. Jun 30

    The Modern Man & Emotional Intelligence

    Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to be a man in today’s world… when strength is no longer silence, and leadership requires emotional awareness? In this powerful and necessary conversation, we sit down with Dr. Timothy Brantley—male mentor, counselor, author, and minister—to unpack what emotional intelligence looks like for the modern man. This isn’t surface-level talk. This is about the inner work men were never taught to do… but are now being called to rise into. Together, we explore how many men were conditioned to suppress emotion, disconnect from vulnerability, and equate feelings with weakness… and how that mindset is quietly impacting relationships, communication, and connection. Dr. Brantley brings truth, wisdom, and accountability as we discuss what it takes for a man to lead emotionally, not just logically. This episode will challenge both men and women. Because while women are doing the healing work, many are still asking… where are the emotionally available men? And the truth is… they exist, but they’ve had to unlearn everything they were taught about what it means to “be a man.” If you’ve ever struggled with emotional connection in relationships, misunderstood a man’s silence, or wondered how emotional intelligence plays a role in love, leadership, and legacy… this conversation is for you. Connect with Dr. Timothy Brantley:  TikTok & Instagram: @relationshiptrainer  Website: www.drtcbrantley.com Now listen… if you’re ready to stop navigating relationships from confusion, hurt, or survival mode, and start showing up with clarity, confidence, and emotional awareness… I got you. My coaching programs are designed to help you do the real work. The kind that transforms how you see yourself, how you communicate, and what you allow in your life. Tap into that next level version of you by joining my coaching program. Visit stan.store/iamtammynicole to get started. And don’t just listen to this episode… engage with it. Share your biggest takeaway. Send your questions. Let’s have real conversations that lead to real change. Email: questions@iamtammynicole.com  Coaching inquiries: coaching@iamtammynicole.com This is more than a podcast… this is where healing meets accountability, and growth becomes a lifestyle.

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Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You, the podcast for women who are ready to stop losing themselves while searching for love, validation, and belonging. Hosted by Coach Tammy Nicole, this show is where healing meets honesty, self-discovery meets transformation, and women learn how to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power. Each week, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with therapists, relationship experts, life coaches, authors, and everyday people with extraordinary stories to explore the conversations that help us become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves. From self-love and emotional healing to relationships, boundaries, confidence, mother wounds, childhood experiences, mental health, identity, and personal growth, no topic is off limits. This is not about becoming someone new. It's about becoming the woman you were always meant to be. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, abandonment wounds, emotional unavailability, unhealthy relationship patterns, low self-worth, or the feeling that you've spent your life taking care of everyone except yourself, you're in the right place. Through meaningful conversations, practical tools, and powerful insights, you'll learn how your past shaped you, how your patterns were formed, and most importantly, how to create a future that aligns with the woman you're becoming. Because healthy love doesn't start when someone chooses you. It starts when you choose yourself. So grab your journal, take a deep breath, and join us each week as we do the work of healing, growing, and becoming. Welcome to Loving Me Before I Love You. Your journey back to yourself starts here.

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