The View Looks Good

Ann de Passos and Kim van Niekerk

The View Looks Good is a podcast about evolving—both personally and professionally. We explore personal development, leadership, collaboration, and growth through the lens of living and working nervous system-first, uncovering how this awareness shapes the way we live and work. Join us for deep conversations, real-world observations, and practical tools that help individuals and organisations move from competition to connection. Expect insights from experts, personal reflections, and stories of transformation. Music by Anastasia Chubarova.

  1. 12/11/2025

    S4 E9: Are you in relationship with money?

    In this episode, Ann and Kim place money on the table — not as a problem to solve, but as a relationship to notice. What begins as a conversation about discomfort, avoidance, and judgement slowly opens into something softer: a sense that money can be met with curiosity, connection, and even care. Together, they explore how many of us spend years out of relationship with money — ignoring it, resenting it, fearing it, or handing responsibility to someone else. Through a nervous system–first lens, they name the familiar patterns that surface around finances: the rising urgency, the tight control, the distance, the shutdown, the freeze, and the inner critic who narrates all of it. As Kim shares a recent insight — imagining what it might look like to mother money, Ann shares how this has led to something shifting for her. The episode covers: How sympathetic, dorsal, and freeze responses often shape our behaviours with money The beliefs we carry from family, culture, and past experiences The surprising relief that emerges when we simply acknowledge, “I will be okay” The link between money and self-worth, especially when it comes to spending on our own wellbeing The courage it takes to name a need and ask for what supports us How playfulness, spaciousness, and a sense of “enoughness” become available when we reconnect Why the amount of money we have is rarely the real issue — it’s the relationship that creates safety or strain This conversation doesn’t offer a formula or a promise of abundance. Instead, it offers something far more honest and nourishing: an invitation to come into relationship with money in a way that honours your body, your capacity, and your lived experience. By the end, we hope money feels less like a threat or a mystery, and more like another place where connection, care, and growth are possible.

    44 min
  2. 11/13/2025

    S4 E8: Understanding Children's Emotions

    In this episode, Ann and Kim talk about what’s really going on beneath children’s big emotions – and why the first step is almost always to regulate ourselves as parents. They unpack simple anchors like “connect before you correct” and the “regulate, relate, reason” flow to help you navigate those heated moments with more steadiness and care - concepts shared by the NHS who offered a wonderful workshop for parents. You’ll hear how dysregulation is a natural part of being human, how to spot it in yourself, and why co-regulation is so essential for children’s emotional development. Ann and Kim share practical ways to model emotional regulation, validate your child’s feelings while still guiding them, and create everyday pathways for learning these skills over time. This is a gentle, hopeful conversation for any parent or carer who wants fewer power struggles, more connection, and a reminder that emotional regulation is something we can all learn – together – as we go. Key Moments 00:30 — What the brain is doing when emotions run high05:00 — Why children can’t self-regulate alone09:00 — Noticing when we’re the dysregulated ones16:00 — Why quiet doesn’t always mean calm18:00 — The social shame of public meltdowns21:30 — Personal signs of dysregulation26:00 — What safety feels like in the body30:00 — The “emptying out” image for being present35:00 — Turning rupture into repair38:00 — How co-regulation rewires safety in the brain Co-regulation • Parenting • Nervous system • Emotional regulation • Dysregulation • Safety • Connection • Polyvagal theory • Emotional literacy • Repair • Awareness • Family relationships • Trauma-informed parenting

    46 min

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The View Looks Good is a podcast about evolving—both personally and professionally. We explore personal development, leadership, collaboration, and growth through the lens of living and working nervous system-first, uncovering how this awareness shapes the way we live and work. Join us for deep conversations, real-world observations, and practical tools that help individuals and organisations move from competition to connection. Expect insights from experts, personal reflections, and stories of transformation. Music by Anastasia Chubarova.