The Humans vs Retirement Podcast

Dan Haylett
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Humans vs Retirement is the podcast that proves retirement isn't just about money, it's about life. Hosted by me Dan Haylett, I dive into the real, human side of retirement: the emotions, the mindset shifts, and the messy, wonderful journey of reinventing yourself for the next chapter. Through honest conversations with experts and inspiring stories from retirees themselves, you'll get the tools, ideas, and encouragement you need to retire to something, not just from something. If you want to make your second half even better than your first, hit subscribe and join the Humans vs Retirement community.

  1. 5D AGO

    Ep 103 - The Emotional Price Tag of Retirement

    You've saved for decades. The spreadsheet says you're fine. So why can't you book that trip to Italy? Why does buying nice coffee feel wrong? This isn't a financial problem—it's an emotional one. And it's incredibly common. What We Cover Money Scripts: The Invisible Backpack "There will never be enough" "Money is shameful / Rich people are bad" "I don't deserve nice things" The challenge: You've trained for 40 years to accumulate. Now you need to distribute. Your brain hasn't caught up. The Big Three Emotional Blocks Scarcity Mindset - Tom has £1.8M but won't spend more than £45K/year. The fear isn't rational—it's hardwired. Guilt & Permission - Margaret: retired teacher, £1M saved, felt physically sick before her dream cruise. Guilt steals joy. Identity Loss - David: "I don't know what the money is for anymore." When money was proof you mattered, retirement is existential. Five Ways to Break Free Name it, trace it - Where did this belief come from? Does it serve you now? Practice spending - Start small. Buy the nicer coffee. Try a "guilt-free spending account." Retrain your brain. Reframe it - You're not spending down savings. You're converting savings into life. Separate worth from wallet - Your value isn't your net worth. Would you judge your loved ones for enjoying retirement? Talk about it - Money emotions thrive in silence. Get help if you need it. The Bottom Line The difference between anxious wealthy retirees and fulfilled modest ones? Not the account balance. The internal relationship with money. You're not broken. You're carrying old programming that doesn't fit your new reality. Share your story: What money emotions are you carrying into retirement? Humans vs Retirement Podcast - The messy, human side of retirement your financial advisor isn't covering.

    26 min

  2. FEB 4

    Ep 102 - Why your brain is hardwired to fail at retirement

    Episode Description Your brain has spent decades as a corporate drug addict, getting its dopamine fix from deadlines, presentations, and feeling important. But when you retire, the dealer cuts you off—cold turkey. This episode explores the neuroscience behind why retirement can feel so devastating, and what you can actually do about it before you clock out for the last time. Key Topics Covered The Great Retirement Myth Why the "golden ticket" narrative sets us up for disappointment The deafening silence after the leaving party Understanding retirement as a form of grief The Science Behind the Emptiness Dopamine withdrawal: When the "pings" stop coming Cognitive decline after retirement (Whitehall II study findings) Loss of identity and social tribe Why your brain is "use it or lose it" The Five-Act Drama of Quitting Work The Run-Up: Excitement mixed with anxiety The Honeymoon: The world's longest bank holiday The 'Oh, Bugger' Phase: When freedom feels empty The Re-Build: The hard graft of reinvention The New Normal: Finding your rhythm Rewiring Your Brain for a Decent Retirement Three essential pillars to build before you retire: Pillar One: Stop Being a Noun, Start Doing Some Verbs Redefining yourself beyond your job title The "I am..." exercise (10 non-work identities) Setting achievable goals for dopamine hits Pillar Two: Build Yourself a Tribe Finding your "Third Place" (beyond home and work) Scheduling social connections like board meetings Why social connection predicts longevity Pillar Three: Find a New Rhythm Creating a keystone routine to anchor your day The art of tinkering: trying things without pressure Finding purpose through engagement, not grand passion Key Takeaways Retirement isn't just a lifestyle change—it's a neurological shock to your system The psychological adjustment is as important as financial planning, yet we ignore it completely Feeling lost or irrelevant after retirement isn't a personal failing—it's a predictable human reaction Your brain needs structure, achievement, and social connection to thrive Retirement is a "lifequake" that can clear the ground for a stronger, more authentic version of yourself Research Mentioned Whitehall II study on cognitive decline and retirement The "use it or lose it" principle of brain function Cognitive reserve theory The concept of "Third Places" in sociology Action Items for Listeners Complete the "I am..." exercise (10 non-work identities) Identify your potential "Third Place" Create one keystone routine to anchor your day Schedule social connections deliberately Start "tinkering" with new activities and interests Join the Conversation Share in the comments: What's one thing you're planning for—or anxious about—for your own retirement? Humans vs Retirement Podcast Subscribe for more deep dives into the psychology of life's biggest transitions.

    16 min

  3. JAN 28

    Ep 101 - Why Your Perfect Retirement Can Feel So Wrong

    Why Your "Perfect" Retirement Feels So Wrong You did everything right. Saved hard. Invested well. Ticked every box. So why does retirement feel… off? In this episode, I unpack the uncomfortable truth nobody talks about: retirement can feel psychologically harder than work, even when the money's sorted. Not because you failed, but because you were never given the emotional or mental roadmap for what comes next. We dig into the five hidden psychological traps that quietly derail retirement, and more importantly, what actually helps you navigate them. In this episode, we cover: Why losing your job title can feel like losing yourself What happens when a problem-solving brain suddenly has nothing meaningful to solve Why the "endless holiday" version of retirement wears thin fast The silent pressure to perform a perfect retirement, and why it's exhausting How a lifetime of saving can make spending feel terrifying, even when you're financially secure You'll also learn: How to rebuild your identity around who you are, not what you used to do Why your brain needs purpose, not just rest How to design a flexible routine that gives freedom without drift How to let go of guilt, busyness, and comparison And how to create real permission to spend without anxiety or second-guessing This episode isn't about fixing retirement. It's about understanding it, so you stop wondering "What's wrong with me?" and start building a life that actually fits. Free Resource If this episode hit a nerve, I've created a free one-page Purpose Finder guide to help you get clarity on what you want this next chapter to be about. 👉 Download it here

    22 min

  4. 12/12/2025

    Ep 100 - What 100 Episodes Taught Me About Retirement... And About Being Human

    After 100 episodes of diving into the messy, hilarious, emotional and utterly human world of retirement, I return with the rawest and most powerful episode yet. This milestone isn't a celebration; it's a challenge. A wake-up call. A bold invitation to stop drifting, stop delaying, stop hiding behind old identities… and finally step into the second half of life with honesty, courage, and intention. This episode strips retirement down to what it really is: not money, not timing, not spreadsheets, but the ongoing evolution of you. Who you are when the job title disappears. Who do you dare to become next? And what you're no longer willing to tolerate in the life you have left. What You'll Learn The biggest insight 100 episodes have revealed about human beings and retirement Why retirement isn't actually about retirement, it's about identity The hidden question sitting under nearly every conversation I have ever had Why most people drift through the second half of life instead of designing it How self-honesty becomes the true starting line of retirement Why courage, not money, is the single biggest predictor of a fulfilling future What it really means to write the next chapter of your life on purpose Challenge of the Week 👉 Answer the only question that truly matters: What are you no longer willing to tolerate in the second half of your life? Write it down. Say it out loud. Let it change something. Because that answer is your starting line, your compass, your invitation to evolve. Next Episode Season 7 begins soon — with a fresh blend of interviews, solo episodes, and deeper dives into the emotional, behavioural, and wildly human side of retirement. Expect honesty, humour, science, challenge… and more than a few loving kicks up the backside.

    14 min

  5. 12/03/2025

    Ep 99 - How to Retire Well in 2026: The 5 Key Areas to Get Right

    If you want to retire well in 2026, you don't need a ten-year spreadsheet, a suitcase full of pensions, or a perfectly colour-coded life plan. You need five human foundations: clarity around your money, health that actually supports your freedom, purpose that wakes you up in the morning, people you want in your corner, and the courage to take action. In this episode, I strip away the fluff and break down what actually moves the needle... the things your future self will thank you for getting right now, not "one day." What You'll Learn Why your "vibes-based" retirement plan needs to become a real plan How financial clarity — not wealth — creates confidence and choice Why health is the core engine of your next chapter (not a side quest) How to explore purpose without pretending golf is a personality The huge role relationships play in your retirement experience Why courage — not spreadsheets — is the final unlock The 5 Things That Matter 1️⃣ The Money Plan (not the one in your head) You don't retire on vibes — you retire on numbers, clarity, and confidence. Know what you've got, how it's structured, and what it can actually do. 2️⃣ Your Health (so you can enjoy the freedom you've worked for) No point having time and money if you're exhausted, aching, or stuck on the sofa. Small, consistent actions → big retirement quality. 3️⃣ Purpose (you need something to wake up for) Work gave you identity, rhythm, and direction. Retirement requires you to create it — not wait for it to appear. 4️⃣ Relationships (your real retirement portfolio) Remove work, and the room gets quiet fast. Build connection intentionally: tribes, friendships, laughter, people who energise you. 5️⃣ Courage (the part no one likes to talk about) Fear keeps people in holding patterns: waiting for "readiness," waiting for a sign. Confidence doesn't precede action — it comes from it. Challenge of the Week 👉 Pick one of the five pillars and make a visible move. Book the financial planning call Start a consistent walk routine Try a new hobby or project you've always avoided Message someone you miss and reconnect Commit to one brave retirement decision you've been postponing Don't wait for certainty. Do the human thing that moves life forward.

    13 min

  6. 11/19/2025

    S6 Ep 98 - The New Rules of Retirement

    In the season finale, I tear up the traditional retirement rulebook and replace it with a bold, human, and rebellious manifesto for the second half of life. The old rules — work 40 years, aim for "enough," play it safe, slow down — were never designed for modern retirees who want meaning, energy, experiences, connection, and agency. This episode lays out The New Rules of Retirement — ten powerful principles for anyone who refuses to drift through retirement and instead wants to design it boldly, live it fully, and leave a legacy that's felt as much as it's funded. This is your encore… so make it loud. What You'll Learn Why the old retirement rules are outdated, limiting, and designed for a different era Ten modern, human-first principles for living boldly after work Why retirement isn't the end — it's the starting line How to prioritise time, meaning, purpose, and memory dividends over fear and preservation Why confidence comes before clarity, and flexibility beats perfection The truth about retirement as an emotional journey, not just a financial event How to shape a legacy through impact, stories, and how you live — not just what you leave Challenge of the Week 👉 Write your own new retirement rule. Just one. Something that becomes a north star for how you want to live the next chapter. Examples: "I spend without guilt when it brings me joy." "My time is my greatest asset." "I will not shrink my life to fit someone else's expectations." "I choose connection over busyness." "The second half of my life will be better than the first." Write it. Repeat it. Live it. Resources & Mentions The New Rules of Retirement — Dan's Season 6 manifesto Episode references: Episode 4: Time Isn't What You Think It Is Episode 9: The Retirement Reinvention Curve Episode 10: Modern Software, Ancient Hardware Episode 11: The Retirement Focus Ratio My sketches, book, and newsletter Final Note This episode wraps Season 6, a season dedicated to human-first retirement, emotional truth, and challenging the defaults. If these conversations have sparked anything in you, share them with someone who needs a more rebellious, honest, and liberating view of retirement.

    11 min

  7. 11/12/2025

    S6 Ep 97 - Are You Solving The Wrong Retirement Problem?

    Most financial planning conversations in retirement are 90% about money, but most retirees spend 90% of their time thinking about life. That's the Retirement Focus Ratio, and it's completely out of sync. In this episode, I challenge the industry obsession with spreadsheets and show why the real success of retirement isn't built in Excel, but in how you live, spend, and find meaning after work. You'll discover how to rebalance your focus from money to life, and why the best retirement plans aren't about preserving wealth; they're about unleashing it to create joy, connection, and purpose. What You'll Learn Why retirement planning often solves the wrong problem The disconnect between financial advice and emotional reality How to flip your Retirement Focus Ratio from 90% money / 10% life to 50/50 (or better) The key steps to building a life-led retirement plan How money becomes more meaningful when it supports purpose Why you can't measure joy in basis points, but you can design for it Challenge of the Week 👉 Audit your own Retirement Focus Ratio. Ask yourself: How much of my energy is focused on money vs life? What would go in my "Retirement Life Plan"? What's one step I could take to shift the balance? Then take action: Book a call to talk about legacy Write your ideal week Start a "Life List" — not a bucket list The goal isn't to ignore THE money. It's to elevate THE life. Next Episode Coming up in Episode 12 — the grand finale of Season 6: The New Rules of Retirement (For Rebels Only) A bold manifesto for those who refuse to drift through retirement, and want to design, live, and leave a legacy on their own terms.

    11 min

  8. 11/05/2025

    S6 Ep 96 - Why Your Brain Isn't Built for Retirement: Modern Software, Ancient Hardware!

    Retirement is a modern invention, but your brain didn't get the upgrade. In this episode, I unpack why so many retirees feel restless, guilty, or underwhelmed, even when life looks "perfect on paper." It's not because something is wrong with you, it's because you're trying to run a 21st-century life on Stone Age wiring. I explore the mismatch between modern retirement and ancient survival instincts, why you struggle to relax, why doing nothing feels uncomfortable, why spending feels risky, and why your brain craves purpose, progress and tribe. Most importantly, I share how to retrain your mind for this new chapter, without fighting your biology. What You'll Learn Why retirement feels unsettling (and why it's not your fault) The clash between modern freedom and caveman brain wiring How dopamine, productivity and survival instincts mess with your retirement mindset Why your brain resists rest, spending and stillness Five ways to "upgrade the software" — from micro-missions to novelty, contribution and healthy discomfort How to feel useful, alive and excited again in retirement Challenge of the Week 👉 Pick one "Brain Upgrade" and try it for 7 days: Set a Micro Mission (e.g. walk 10k steps daily, plan a trip, finish a book) Add Novelty — try something new for 30 minutes a day Create Contribution — teach, help, give or mentor someone Introduce Healthy Discomfort — cold shower, tech-free evening, social challenge At the end of the week ask: How did it feel? What did it teach me about what my brain needs? Resources & Mentions Micro Missions, Contribution Loops & Novelty Windows — My behavioural retirement tools Next Episode Episode 11 — The Retirement Focus Ratio: Are You Solving the Wrong Problem? Why most retirement plans are 90% about money… but most retiree worries are 90% about life. And how to fix the imbalance.

    13 min
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Humans vs Retirement is the podcast that proves retirement isn't just about money, it's about life. Hosted by me Dan Haylett, I dive into the real, human side of retirement: the emotions, the mindset shifts, and the messy, wonderful journey of reinventing yourself for the next chapter. Through honest conversations with experts and inspiring stories from retirees themselves, you'll get the tools, ideas, and encouragement you need to retire to something, not just from something. If you want to make your second half even better than your first, hit subscribe and join the Humans vs Retirement community.

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