Durable Dad with Tommy Geary

Tommy Geary

The Durable Dad podcast gives men the skills and tools they need to be rock solid for their family, their work and their community.

  1. 1D AGO

    113: Building Steady Confidence With Stoic Integrity

    What does it actually mean to live a virtuous life? Not theory or philosophy quotes on Instagram, but in real life. In this episode, we break down the Stoic principle of virtue and how it applies to your training, your leadership, your marriage, and your fatherhood. Stoic philosophy isn’t abstract—it’s practical. It’s about building self-discipline, emotional control, courage, and patience in normal, everyday moments. Most high-achieving men have the ambition, but struggle with consistency. Dialed in for a week. Then off track. Calm at work. Reactive at home. Focused in the gym. Scrolling at night. That swing kills confidence. Stoic integrity is different. It’s steady. It’s proving who you are through daily behavior. Highlights: Why men live on emotional highs and lows—and how that erodes self-trustThe difference between short bursts of intensity and long-term integrityHow consistency (like quitting alcohol for 18 months) builds real confidenceThe four Stoic virtues—courage, discipline, justice, patience—and how they show up in modern lifeWhy missing once is normal, but repeating the miss creates driftHow quick recovery strengthens characterPractical Takeaways: Choose one area where your behavior doesn’t match the man you want to be—fitness, leadership, marriage, fatherhood.Identify the virtue required (courage, discipline, patience, self-awareness). Practice that trait deliberately.When you slip, recover fast. Don’t spiral. Prove it again the next day.Marcus Aurelius wrote, “Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” Stoic integrity isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being consistent. When your actions match your standards, you build a steady confidence your family can feel.

    14 min
  2. JAN 27

    111: Schedule Your Future

    Your calendar already tells the truth about your priorities.  This episode is about using that truth to shape the year ahead—on purpose. Most men stop at reflection. They do a year-end review, get clear on what mattered, and feel good about the insight. Then nothing changes. In this short follow-up, Tommy breaks down the missing step: deciding the next action and putting it on the calendar so it actually happens. In this episode: Why insight without action quietly keeps you stuckThe difference between wanting change and planning for itHow one calendar entry can shift your relationships, business, or healthReal examples: brothers’ trips, client strategy, training plans, and family timeWhy discomfort is often the signal you’re doing the right thingPractical takeaways: Choose one insight from your year-end review and name the very next actionAssign that action a specific date and timeLet your calendar reflect what matters to you—not just what’s demanded of youLook at your calendar for the year ahead. If it doesn’t show what you say is important, change it. That’s how different years are built. For high-achieving men, effort is rarely the issue. Most are working hard, carrying responsibility at work and at home, and trying to show up well. The problem is alignment. Without clear planning, even disciplined men end up reacting to their weeks instead of directing them. This episode of The Durable Dad Podcast focuses on calendar-based planning as a practical leadership skill.

    9 min
  3. JAN 13

    110: Drop the Pressure in 2026

    If you don’t pause to review your year, you don’t actually start a new one—you just drag old pressure forward. You already review your business. Numbers. Calendars. What worked and what didn’t.  This episode shows you how to apply that same discipline to your life—so your time, energy, and attention are spent where they matter most.  In this episode, we cover:  Why skipping a personal review causes you to repeat the same patterns How pressure-based goals quietly drain energy and motivation Using photos as data to reconnect with what actually mattered last year What your calendar reveals about stress, relationships, and priorities A four-step year-end review you can complete in one sitting How reflection creates vision—and why vision changes how you show up at home  Practical takeaways:  Block two uninterrupted hours and treat your life like you treat your businessUse photos and calendar entries as information, not nostalgia Set goals from clarity and appreciation, not urgency or scarcity If you want 2026 to feel different, you have to look back before you move forward. Drop the pressure. Get clear. Then lead your year on purpose. DOWNLOAD THE FREE YEAR END REVIEW - drop your email and get the step by step process I've used to optimize my life.  This episode is especially relevant for men focused on leadership—at work, at home, and in their community. Strong men’s leadership isn’t about doing more or pushing harder. It’s about clarity, self-awareness, and making intentional decisions with your time and energy.  When a man leads himself well, he leads his family better and shows up with steadiness at work. The year-end review process shared here helps men step out of reactive leadership and into grounded, intentional leadership.  It’s a practical tool for fathers, husbands, and high-performing professionals who want to reduce stress, strengthen their marriage, and model healthy leadership for their kids. Leadership starts with reflection—and this is where it begins.

    16 min
5
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33 Ratings

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The Durable Dad podcast gives men the skills and tools they need to be rock solid for their family, their work and their community.