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A podcast that demystifies, detangles and (hopefully) detoxes the legal process that follows a separation or divorce with the experts in the relationship property area. Lawyers and friends Taina Henderson and Shelley Funnell have tapped into their network and bring you smart and funny interviews with top lawyers and experts about their biggest cases, the law, and what you need to know to get through a separation in NZ.

04/29/2025

What is Collaborative Law? with Selina-Jane Trigg

If you have ever wished there were a better way of resolving relationship property issues than lawyers' letters and Court room battles this episode is for you. A structured, people-focussed approach to divorce, Collaborative Process redesigns divorce negotiations with no scary letters, no threats of litigation and no option to head off to Court (at least not with the same lawyers). If you thought you were already a collaborative lawyer, listen up because this US import may have something to teach you. Watch on Youtube https://youtu.be/bAtcXrT-FWE If you love this podcast or have suggestions for future episodes, let us know at divorcecafe@hendersonreeves.co.nz Selina-Jane Trigg is the fairy godmother of New Zealand Collaborative Process (as it is also known) you can find her at https://www.lighthouselegal.co.nz/ Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

1h 3m
09/15/2024

What is Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) with Gaye Greenwood

Parenting after separation is tricky. So where to do you go for help when things aren't working? FDR is a subsidised mediation service that is designed to get parents resolving their own issues with the help of an experienced mediator. Gaye Greenwood is brilliant at helping people work through conflict, resolve issues and start working as a team on the most important job in the world. You have to go to FDR before you can go to Court. But that is a good thing, and, says Gaye, the result is much better outcomes for children. Gaye has studied people's experiences of the legal adversarial system and the resulting increase in conflict and decrease in wellbeing. She has a PhD focussed on employment relationship disputes, and was a senior lecturer at AUT in the Centre for Business Interdisciplinary Studies from January 2001 to January 2022. She has published dozens of articles, and has presented at international and local conferences on conflict resolution. As well as working as an FDR facilitator at the Family Dispute Resolution Centre, Gaye has been practising at Greenwood mediators since 1999. She has been a teacher, a florist, a farmer, a mediator and lecturer…i wonder if this is her first foray into podcasts? Learn what to expect when you go to FDR and why you should give it a go. Watch on Youtube or view the article via our website. Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

48 min
05/09/2024

Business Breakups: how to break up without breaking the business

What happens when you break up when you are also in business together? Can you keep running it together? What can go wrong? Does it ever go right? If you have been watching Ted Lasso, you will be familiar with the character Rebecca who in the divorce takes over her husband’s beloved football team - “the only thing he ever loved”- and sets about trying to destroy it. In the same way that custody battles can be devastating, a contest over an enterprise you have built from scratch feels very personal, can be bitter, and when not handled well can needlessly destroy assets. Does this sound familiar? Hear more from the experts in this wide ranging live podcast recording! Watch episode here Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

45 min
02/12/2024

Who keeps the family home and other burning questions.

What happens to the family home when you separate? Who has to move out? Can it be sold out from under you? What if you live in a trust owned house or a rental? We discuss these and other burning questions that keep people up at night. Advice on practical ways to resolve these issues, amicably or through the Courts. And Shelley tells us what advice she would give herself if she could go back to the early days of her separation..."Chill Shelley, it will all be ok." Watch episode here Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

44 min
11/16/2023

Putting the house in a trust (a cautionary tale) with Viv Crawshaw KC and barrister Sam Wilson

When is it safe to put your house in a trust? That's a question that went all the way to the Supreme Court this year... and spoiler alert, the answer is that the only way to put the family home out of reach of your beloved is to be upfront about it (and contract out). What was the crux of the case? What have we learned about section 44? And what should lawyers be advising their clients? Find out what it's like to take a case to the Supreme Court, why you'd clone a hard drive, and what Taylor Swift has to do with it all in this episode of Divorce Cafe! Watch the episode here Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

45 min
09/23/2023

Judge Lex de Jong: an insider's guide to the Family Court

Does it sound too judgey to say this interview was full of surprises? Kicked out of Morrinsville High School as a teenager, Judge de Jong had a winding path to law, but once he got there has made it his life's work to fight (and innovate) for better outcomes for the victims of family violence. He talks about: lawyers who irritate judges, about setting up the ground breaking, wrap-around Family Violence Court, and his top tips for lawyers and self represented litigants. Do judges ever get thank yous? What really annoys him about how Judges are represented in the media? What is it like to be appealed? And what would he do in the Family Court if he had a magic wand? Judge de Jong shares his tips for lawyers (and people) going to the Family Court. Watch the episode here Read the article here Supporting Links Going to the Family Court without a lawyer | New Zealand Ministry of Justice Get legal advice and help | New Zealand Ministry of Justice New Zealand Ministry of Justice Contact Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

55 min
08/08/2023

Parenting Disputes Across International Borders: What is the Hague Convention?

What happens when a couple separate while living overseas, and only one wants to return home? If you no longer agree on where to live...what happens to the children? We were lucky enough to speak with Alex Ashmore one of Auckland’s leading experts on Hague Convention cases - fresh from the biennial Hague Convention Convention. Listen for a master class on the how to (and how not to) of Hague Convention work, what you need to know if you are a parent wanting to relocate overseas, and how to write a short letter (lawyers, listen up). Watch the episode here More information about Alex Read the article here Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

1h 3m
06/29/2023

What about the kids: Children and the Property (Relationships) Act 1976

Why aren't we judging our relationship property laws by how well they protect children? Champion of children's rights, much loved family law lecturer and family law reformer Professor Mark Henaghan gives us a master class on the laws that exist to protect children caught up in relationship property disputes, their effectiveness, and what we could be doing to improve outcomes for children. More information about Mark Watch the episode here. Read the article here. Interesting Reading: Borrin Foundation / University of Otago research into the impact of relationship property divisions Article from Law Foundation 2022, Adversarialism in the Family Court: ethics and practice, Dr Emily Henderson, Gemma Coutts and Professor Mark Henaghan UN Convention on the Rights of the Child Article about Judge Blaikie Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

1h 2m
05/02/2023

Understanding Mediation with mediator Tony Lendrum

Highly successful mediator and ex Family Court Judge Tony Lendrum gives his top tips for a successful mediation, explains why mediation can save you money, and shares his insights from years of successful mediations. If you are going to mediate, or are thinking about whether you should, listen to this. Watch the episode here. Read the article here. More information about Tony. Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

44 min
03/09/2023

Contracting out agreements: do you need a prenup? with relationship property expert Amanda Morgan

Navigating a contracting out agreement conversation is never easy. Knowing why we have them and what different arrangements can be put in place can make it a better and less stressful experience. This episode - with our resident expert on tricky prenups and complicated relationships - deals with why you would have a contracting out agreement, when you don't need one, and why it is so important to do a thorough job of it. A fair and well thought out agreement is better for you AND for the health of your relationship. Tune in for the "what, why and how" of contracting out agreements, and hear us ask the big question ...can you get a "prenup" without losing the "nup"? Here's more information about Amanda. Read the article here. Watch the episode here. Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

56 min
03/08/2023

Spousal Maintenance - financial support after a separation with legal legend Vivienne Crawshaw KC

In this episode we talk to our hero Vivienne Crawshaw (King's Counsel) about her epic battle in the case of McQueen v Penn - at the time the highest maintenance award ever made in New Zealand - a game changer amongst other things because it made legal fees a legitimate part of a spousal maintenance claim. Vivienne gives a master class in spousal maintenance, why court room etiquette matters, and what it takes to be a great lawyer. Divorce Cafe aims to demystify, detangle and (hopefully) detox the legal process that follows a separation or divorce in New Zealand with the experts in the relationship property area. Lawyers and friends Taina Henderson and Shelley Funnell have tapped into their network and bring you smart and funny interviews with top lawyers and experts about their biggest cases, the law, and what you need to know to get through a separation in NZ. Watch here: Divorce Cafe: Spousal Maintenance - financial support after a separation - YouTube Read the article: Beginner's Guide to Spousal Maintenance https://hobsonchambers.co.nz/lawyers-auckland-city/vivienne-crawshaw/ Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

49 min
03/07/2023

DIY Relationship Property Division with Stuart Henderson

This episode delves into when you can do your own relationship property division, when you should not, and how to set yourself up for success. Veteran Family Court lawyer Stuart Henderson talks about the benefits of negotiating your own agreement, what not to do, and the upside of your ex picking ‘the best lawyer in town’. Watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecafe/ Read the article: https://hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz/can-you-diy-a-relationship-property-division/ Taina Henderson - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz) Shelley Funnell - Henderson Reeves (hendersonreeveslawyers.co.nz)

35 min

12 Episodes

A podcast that demystifies, detangles and (hopefully) detoxes the legal process that follows a separation or divorce with the experts in the relationship property area. Lawyers and friends Taina Henderson and Shelley Funnell have tapped into their network and bring you smart and funny interviews with top lawyers and experts about their biggest cases, the law, and what you need to know to get through a separation in NZ.

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Henderson Reeves Lawyers
Years Active

2023 - 2025
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12
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Clean
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