The EQ Leadership Podcast

Toluwani Adebekun

Welcome to The EQ Leadership Podcast, where we explore the critical role of emotional intelligence in effective leadership. Hosted by Tolu Adebekun, each episode features a conversation with a top leader from various industries, discussing their personal stories and experiences, and how they've enhanced their emotional intelligence to lead with greater impact. Join us on this journey to discover practical tips and tools that can help you become a better leader.

  1. Growing in Emotional Intelligence, Humility and Authenticity - Denise Farquharson EP 30

    11/14/2023

    Growing in Emotional Intelligence, Humility and Authenticity - Denise Farquharson EP 30

    In this episode we are joined by Denise to discuss the importance of emotional intelligence and leadership. We delve into the impact of authenticity, respect, and humility in effective leadership. Denise shares her insights on the interplay between emotional intelligence and the rise of AI, highlighting the need for human interaction and practical examples. They explore the concept of self-empathy and the significance of addressing one's own mistakes and setbacks without overly criticizing oneself. Drawing from her own experience, Denise explains the importance of coaching and providing autonomy to foster better outcomes and personal growth. She emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence coaching, which focuses on strengths, development areas, and adjusting one's style to accommodate others. The episode also touches on the importance of continuous learning, adaptation, and self-awareness in leadership. Tolu and Denise discuss the role of emotional intelligence in treating people well and the potential impact of emotional intelligence coaching on personal and professional success. Throughout the conversation, Tolu and Denise provide practical tips and strategies for improving emotional intelligence, emphasizing the importance of practice, seeking feedback, and making small adjustments in leadership approaches. As the podcast episode comes to an end, Denise shares her own journey in coaching and helping individuals and teams progress. She encourages leaders to embrace new challenges, learn from previous transitions, and find their purpose through emotional intelligence coaching. Don't miss this insightful and thought-provoking conversation on emotional intelligence and its role in effective leadership. Connect with Denise Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/denise-farquharson-6b16768/ Book a meeting: calendly.com/denisefarquharson/90min

    51 min
  2. Equity & Leadership Across Generations - Digitising human connections & EQ - Clare & Caron - EP 29

    11/07/2023

    Equity & Leadership Across Generations - Digitising human connections & EQ - Clare & Caron - EP 29

    In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, Tolu Adebekun is joined by guests Caron and Clare to explore the fascinating world of emotional intelligence and leadership. The trio dives into various topics, offering valuable insights and sharing personal experiences. The conversation kicks off with a discussion about the importance of having a little bit of space to understand oneself and others. Caron, a South African navigating the UK, shares her experiences leading across cultures and highlights the need to adapt communication styles. The guests also touch on opportunities and ambition, emphasizing the ability to make a successful life with persistence. The conversation then shifts to how Caron and Clare teach their children about emotional intelligence and leadership. They stress the significance of empowering children with growth mindset principles and emotional awareness to navigate an ever-changing world. The guests express pride in their daughters' leadership qualities and their ability to navigate personal challenges with resilience. Caron and Clare go on to discuss their journey as business partners. They describe their partnership as a dynamic marriage, complimenting each other's strengths and enjoying the journey of building their own empire. Their company focuses on empowering entrepreneurial women through strategy, mindset, and well-being. Throughout the episode, the importance of self-belief, bravery, and self-leadership is emphasized. Clare shares her toughest lesson in leadership, learning the importance of overcoming mindset blocks and limiting beliefs while building her own business. Caron emphasizes the need to stand for what is right and challenge peers, even if it means not being popular. The guests stress the significance of emotional intelligence in leadership and advocate for women to pursue their ideas and test them, as they have the potential to make a significant impact on the world. They encourage individuals to do the inner work, take ownership of their ambitions and achievements, and find their own style of leadership. Despite the serious nature of their work, Caron and Clare emphasize the importance of having fun and enjoyment along the way. They believe that successful individuals don't always have everything figured out and that adjustments and changes are part of the journey towards success. Connect with Caron & Clare Websites: clareflaxen.com caronpollard.com Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-flaxen/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/caron-pollard-259a9b1b/

    1h 8m
  3. Simplifying Leadership: Actionable Tips for Effective and Efficient Leadership. Pathik Parik Ep27

    10/23/2023

    Simplifying Leadership: Actionable Tips for Effective and Efficient Leadership. Pathik Parik Ep27

    In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, we welcome Pathik Parikh to share his insights on building genuine and authentic relationships. Pathik emphasizes the importance of trust and engagement in leadership, highlighting that it goes beyond just completing tasks. He discusses the qualities of being genuine and authentic, and how they contribute to successful engagement. Pathik shares a turning point in his career where he began to analyze his environment and observe successful individuals who came from a similar background. He delves into his journey of differentiating between the behaviors of bad managers and great managers, developing his own frameworks and strategies based on the habits and practices of successful individuals. The speaker also discusses the impact of expectations and limiting beliefs. They explore the concept of viewing uncertainty as a limiting belief and the importance of challenging such beliefs to foster inclusive engagement. Pathik reflects on their experience within a business program and the contrast between the clear roadmap provided in the program and the chaos encountered in the real-world business environment. They share personal experiences of navigating through black and white training, and how adopting the language and phrases used by colleagues in operations helped them form connections and gain acceptance. Throughout the episode, Pathik emphasizes their definition of "good" as a leader. They aim to inspire and help people become better leaders, focusing on asking good questions, making others comfortable, and drawing out new information. Join us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the power of genuine and authentic engagement, the importance of connecting with others, and the impact of limiting beliefs. Discover how emotional intelligence plays a role in fostering empathy and supporting individuals, and learn valuable insights on effective leadership from our guest, Pathik Parikh. Connect with Pathik Linkedin Profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/parikh-pathik/ Newsletter:https://my-newsletter.carrd.co/

    58 min
  4. Kintsukuroi Wellbeing: Prioritising Wellbeing in Tech. Insights for Female Leaders. Dr Lauren Dawson

    10/12/2023

    Kintsukuroi Wellbeing: Prioritising Wellbeing in Tech. Insights for Female Leaders. Dr Lauren Dawson

    In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, we have the privilege of welcoming Dr. Lauren to the show. Prepare to be inspired as she shares her powerful journey from living with a congenital heart condition to becoming a well-being coach for female leaders in the tech industry. Dr. Lauren opens up about her decision to undergo surgery for her heart condition, and the traumatic experience she encountered during the procedure and recovery. Through this challenging time, she discovered the importance of support and resources in overcoming obstacles. As a self-taught data coach, Dr. Lauren emphasizes the significance of mentorship and guidance in the world of data analytics. During the episode, Dr. Lauren delves into the impact of the pandemic on well-being and the need for small changes in daily routines to support energy levels and overall wellness. She stresses the value of self-awareness and self-regulation in emotional intelligence, highlighting the connection between these two aspects. Dr. Lauren also shares her fascination with the concept of Kintsugi, finding beauty and value in imperfections. As we delve deeper into the conversation, Dr. Lauren discusses her leadership approach of allowing flexibility in work schedules and the importance of setting clear expectations for flexible work arrangements. She shares her experiences as a manager and the lessons learned in setting boundaries and empowering her team. In addition, Dr. Lauren introduces her well-being working group within Multiverse and her innovative use of data to track energy levels and workload. She explores the potential of combining data and storytelling to create powerful narratives for senior leaders. Join us for this thought-provoking conversation with Dr. Lauren as we explore the intersection of leadership, well-being, and emotional intelligence. This episode is sure to leave you inspired and equipped to make meaningful changes in your own life and leadership journey. Connect with Dr.Lauren Linkedin:https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawsonlauren/ Website:https://kintsukuroiwellbeing.co.uk Free Guide to Creating Space in your day-to-day - https://kintsukuroi-wellbeing.ck.page/create-space

    54 min
  5. Unlocking Adaptability & Healing From Triggers for the Future - John Sanei of The Expansive - EP25

    10/06/2023

    Unlocking Adaptability & Healing From Triggers for the Future - John Sanei of The Expansive - EP25

    In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, we have the privilege of hosting John Sanei, a renowned speaker and author. John starts off by sharing his initial excitement about curating drones and blockchain for the future, but he quickly noticed that despite engaging with his audience, no one was actually changing their behavior. John then delves into his journey of combining self-development and psychology to overcome victim thinking and engage more curiously with the future. However, he soon discovered that this approach was not enough. According to John, the future requires a shift towards neuroscience, as it rewires the brain, unlike psychology which only updates the software. Drawing an analogy, John compares relying solely on psychology and software to trying to put iOS 16 into an iPhone 1. He stresses the importance of evolving neuroscience to access new levels of creativity and increase our awareness in finding innovative solutions. Throughout the episode, John highlights the significance of unlearning and rewiring our brains quickly, as well as changing our awareness and thinking to become more adaptable and engaged with the future. He challenges traditional notions of critical thinking, suggesting that we explore emotional intelligence and other types of intelligence that may not be understood yet. Further, John explores the concept of intimacy and its relationship to the brain's response. He discusses a study that reveals how the brain's reaction to receiving a physical gift is similar to imagining receiving a gift. This raises questions about the definition of intimacy and how it resonates with individuals in different ways. The conversation takes a personal turn as John opens up about his own experiences, including a difficult breakup. He reflects on the importance of working on our memories, rearranging and recalibrating them towards love rather than bitterness. By softening our memories and breaking patterns, we can increase our emotional intelligence and make the future more accessible and enjoyable. John also shares a heartwarming story about his relationship with his mother, emphasizing the power of curiosity and open-mindedness in deepening connections. He highlights the crucial role of leadership in preparing for the future and implementing strategies, emphasizing the interconnection between leadership and culture. Throughout the episode, John offers invaluable insights and strategies to enhance personal growth, evolve rapidly, and adapt to the disruptions caused by the rapid advancements of technology and artificial intelligence. He emphasizes the importance of engaging with our emotions, changing our frequencies, and healing from diseases that are based on outdated patterns. Join us in this thought-provoking and enlightening conversation with John Sanei as we explore new ways of thinking and navigating the complex challenges of the future.

    44 min
  6. Moving Through Change: Adaptation & Improvement with Erik Kruger from the Expansive - EP24

    09/29/2023

    Moving Through Change: Adaptation & Improvement with Erik Kruger from the Expansive - EP24

    This episode is part 1 of a 2 part series with with The Expansive (https://theexpansive.com/) podcast. I had a great time hosting Erik and John - I know you will enjoy the episodes! In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, we have the privilege of welcoming Erik Kruger to the show. Erik is here to discuss the process of dealing with the ending of something and the importance of being in the wilderness for inner reorientation. Erik shares his insights on the necessary closure that comes with endings and how being in the wilderness is a time of reconfiguring one's identity. He emphasizes that this period of inner reorientation is crucial and explains how people who have just ended a long-term relationship may not be interested in dating again during this time. A key theme throughout the episode is the role of emotional intelligence in choosing how we respond to various stimuli. Erik dives into the importance of self-awareness, understanding our patterns, beliefs, and triggers, and using that knowledge to modulate our interactions with others. He highlights the significance of considering the impact of our words and behaviors on those around us. They explore the art of being a good host and creating a space where individuals can feel heard and understood. They delve into the concept of the wilderness and how it can be relevant and comforting, especially in challenging times like the COVID pandemic. Erik, who works with high performers, also shares his desire to find a way to accelerate the process of going through the wilderness effectively. While acknowledging that trying to rush through it is not the point, they discuss the importance of embracing each phase of the wilderness, as each serves a specific purpose. Throughout the episode, Erik emphasizes the significance of receiving input and feedback from others. They stress that self-awareness practices can only take a person so far and that being open to feedback without getting upset or feeling inferior is key to growth. The conversation takes an introspective turn as Erik reflects on their own journey of reinvention. They discuss the challenges of leaving behind past identities, communities, and expectations. Erik shares personal experiences of navigating through the periods of turmoil that come with transitioning from one phase of life to another. In sharing their own story, Erik touches on the difficulty of changing one's perception of oneself and how reinvention requires letting go of old identities, both externally and internally. They speak to the challenges of breaking free from the boxes others try to fit us into and finding acceptance in our ever-evolving selves. As the episode progresses, Erik delves into their work with leaders and teams, discussing the importance of adaptability and change in the modern world. They talk about the necessity of developing change as a skill rather than expecting it to happen naturally. The conversation concludes with insights into triggers and their potential to ignite both negativity and curiosity or opportunity. Erik shares personal anecdotes about triggers in their own life and how they've come to recognize and harness them for growth. Overall, this episode with Erik Kruger provides a wealth of knowledge and wisdom for listeners. It offers a deep dive into topics such as endings, emotional intelligence, reinvention, and the role of triggers in personal and professional growth. Tune in and discover valuable insights for your own leadership journey.

    40 min
  7. Leading with Love and Authenticity: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership - EP 23 Bruce Alexander

    09/21/2023

    Leading with Love and Authenticity: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership - EP 23 Bruce Alexander

    In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, we are joined by Bruce Alexander, a seasoned firefighter and leader. Bruce delves into the realm of authentic leadership, highlighting the key principles that he learned in leadership school: self-awareness, consistency, humility, open communication, observance, and love. Bruce emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and how leaders need to analyze their weaknesses and understand how they respond to different situations. He also stresses the need for consistency, ensuring that the team knows what to expect from their leader in handling various challenges. Humility is a core aspect of Bruce's leadership philosophy, as he firmly believes in recognizing oneself as the weakest link and leveraging the strengths of others to strengthen the team. Open communication is another crucial element, creating a safe space for team members to share openly and not just when things go wrong. Bruce emphasizes the importance of being a real and approachable leader, encouraging listeners to shed the facade and truly connect with their team. He shares anecdotes from his extensive training as a firefighter and how that training made responding to fires feel natural and not weird to him. While expressing their excitement and exhilaration when fighting real fires, Bruce also acknowledges the need to prioritize the safety and well-being of the people affected, rather than solely focusing on the thrill of the firefighting experience. The physical demands of the job and the toll it takes on their body have caused Bruce to reconsider their initial enthusiasm for fighting fires. However, the lessons learned from their firefighting experience have also shaped their understanding of leadership. Bruce emphasizes the importance of recognizing who you are responsible to and who you are responsible for, both in the firefighting profession and in corporate teams. Throughout the episode, Bruce shares valuable insights on fostering a happy and engaged team, utilizing team members' skills, teaching sacrifice and the importance of being a team player. He also emphasizes the role of genuine care and love for team members as the foundation of effective leadership. Bruce candidly discusses their personal journey with ADHD, sharing how this neurological difference affected their understanding of social cues, feedback from their boss, and overall work performance. They reflect on the challenges they faced and the importance of open communication and understanding in navigating and managing ADHD in the workplace. The episode touches on the speaker's experience in the paramilitary system of the fire department, their initial resistance to conforming to its hierarchical structure, and their grappling with bureaucracy and slow progress. Bruce emphasizes the importance of observing and respecting your team, as well as catching them doing things right and praising their contributions to create a positive work environment. Ultimately, Bruce emphasizes that authentic leadership and an exciting culture can create teams that are enthusiastic and successful in any task given to them. When leaders genuinely care about their team's success, trust is established, and ambitious goals can be achieved. This episode is a captivating exploration of leadership, emotional intelligence, and the power of genuine care in building strong and successful teams.

    59 min

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Welcome to The EQ Leadership Podcast, where we explore the critical role of emotional intelligence in effective leadership. Hosted by Tolu Adebekun, each episode features a conversation with a top leader from various industries, discussing their personal stories and experiences, and how they've enhanced their emotional intelligence to lead with greater impact. Join us on this journey to discover practical tips and tools that can help you become a better leader.