BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

Margarita Nazarenko

Welcome to BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko, where we talk about womanhood, self development and the journey to BECOMING the best version of HER.

  1. 5d ago

    188: Your Life Won’t Change Until You Become More Selfish.

    Join Selfish 30, Margarita’s 30-day challenge starting November 1st Welcome back to Being Her, where we are officially entering our selfish era. After years of talking about how to get over an ex, move from anxious to secure attachment, and create the life you want, Margarita has realised the answer to all of it is the same: become a little bit more selfish. Not selfish as in taking from others, but deliciously selfish, putting yourself at the centre of your own life and owning it. In this episode, Margarita explains why “decentring men” keeps you thinking about men, why being the good girl hasn’t made you happier or more valued, and how guilt conditioning keeps women convenient instead of unforgettable. She gets candid about her own people-pleasing, finally buying herself caviar, and the difference between being needed and being valued. She also reveals Selfish 30, her brand new 30-day challenge to help you stop delegating your life to others and actually start doing the behaviours of a woman who puts herself first. In this episode: 1. How is being a good girl actually working out for you 2. Your life is a result of what you repeatedly prioritise 3. Stop volunteering for self sacrifice nobody is giving you a medal 4. Why being selfish feels so uncomfortable 5. Nobody is coming to hand you the life you want 6. Selfish women ask for what they want because they know what they want 7. Become less available to everyone else to become more available to yourself 8. Stop confusing being needed with being valued 9. You cannot think your way into becoming a different woman you have to do the behaviours 10. Selfish 30, 30 days to become the woman you actually want to be If you are ready to stop thinking about it and actually do something, this is your sign. Write to Dear Margarita and read Unfiltered with Margarita Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  2. Oct 18

    187: "Just Leave Him" Is the Laziest Relationship Advice on the Internet

    This week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him. In this episode: 1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different 2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so painful 3. Anxious versus avoidant attachment and why these two always find each other 4. Sleep does not prove emotional indifference 5. Why women ruminate and men shut down during conflict 6. Emotional invalidation versus nervous system overload 7. Stonewalling versus taking a healthy break 8. Why women carry the emotional labour of the whole relationship 9. Contempt and emotional punishment disguised as withdrawal 10. What the next day actually tells you about everything Write to Dear Margarita and read Unfiltered with Margarita Mentioned in this episode: Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  3. Oct 11

    186: Stop Chasing. See What Happens When You Let Go.

    Episode mentioned: The Bossticks with Margarita Nazarenko Peep the comments on the IG Reel that sparked this conversation Books mentioned: Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko The New Rules by Margarita Nazarenko To learn more about Margarita Nazarenko, visit https://www.margaritanazarenko.com Welcome back to Being Her, where today it’s getting juicy, spicy and real life. Margarita is launching her new Substack, Unfiltered with Margarita, and using a viral moment from her recent appearance on The Bossticks to unpack why so many women feel burnt out, frazzled and in constant conflict with the people they love. When a clip about her husband forgetting the diapers in Las Vegas blew up online, the comment section revealed something bigger: women are carrying loads that were never theirs to carry. In this episode, Margarita breaks down the psychology of over-functioning, the difference between caring and controlling, and why stepping back and letting natural consequences play out can transform your relationships. She gets candid about her own over-functioning roots as the child of an immigrant, the mental load, catastrophizing, and why being unbothered means knowing exactly what deserves your energy. As always, 10 takeaways and 10 actionable steps. In this episode: 1. Stop turning inconveniences into emergencies 2. You are not an emergency service for every adult in your life 3. The psychology of over functioning in a family system 4. Stop confusing caring with controlling 5. Consequences are often the best teacher, stop removing them 6. Your nervous system does not know you are arguing about small things 7. Stop treating every mistake as evidence of something bigger 8. Women are exhausted from monitoring everything 9. You cannot complain about carrying everything while refusing to put it down 10. Being unbothered means knowing what actually deserves your energy If you do everything and nobody notices, if you correct how everyone else does things because your way is right, or if you are exhausted but cannot actually let go, this one is going to hit home. Write to Dear Margarita and read Unfiltered with Margarita Subscribe to receive my emails Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  4. Oct 4

    185: You Already Know What You Need to Do.

    Join me in The Final Round of Unbothered Woman Receive emails from me You already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you. Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say. In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time. In this episode: 1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences 2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer 3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot 4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one 5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence 6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard 7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions 8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know 9. There is no future version of you coming to save you 10. Give yourself until the end of the year to prove you can do hard things If you know what you need to do but cannot bring yourself to do it, if you keep asking everyone else what you should do with your life, or if you are waiting to feel ready before you start, this one is for you. This is your sign. Lock in. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  5. Sep 27

    184: The Woman Who Started Her Biggest Success At 52 — And Has Zero Regrets

    Join me for the Final round of The Unbothered Woman Ever - We start October 2nd. She was a fashion editor at GQ and Allure. She built a fashion line that dressed every A list celebrity. Then covid shut it all down. And at 52 years old she started over. And built the biggest success of her entire career. In this episode Margarita sits down with Mary Alice Haney in Hollywood and has the conversation every woman in her thirties, forties and fifties needs to hear. About reinvention. About the why not me mentality. About what it actually costs to build something. We talk about how Mary went from fashion editor to founder to podcaster, why confidence is not something you wait for it is something you fake until it becomes real, what nobody tells you about balancing motherhood and ambition, why your biggest success might still be ahead of you, and why your age and your children are not the excuses you think they are. If you have ever thought you are too old, too busy, too far behind, or that the window has closed, this episode will change your mind. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  6. Sep 20

    183: If This Video Doesn’t Heal Your Relationship Anxiety, Block Me.

    Check out Hinge Get my Book: Unbothered The Art of Letting Go to Find Yourself Join the Unbothered Woman Watch Detach My 3 Day Intensive If there is one episode you listen to this year on anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and why you can never fully relax in a relationship, let it be this one. Your gut is not a wise little oracle. It is a nervous system shaped by everything that has ever happened to you. And if most of your experiences with love have involved pain, your gut has been calibrated to a setting that does not serve you when you are finally safe. In this episode Margarita breaks down the real difference between anxiety and intuition, why trusting your gut is damaging advice for anxiously attached women, and what to do in the moment when you genuinely cannot tell which one is speaking. In this episode: Why anxiety and intuition feel exactly the same from the inside Why trusting your gut is dangerous advice for anxious women How your nervous system scans for danger even when you are safe Why reassurance is a leaky bucket that will never fill The three question framework to tell anxiety from intuition What real intuition actually feels like vs anxious spiraling What hyper independent women do when they finally feel something real How to regulate before you react and ruin something good When to stay and when the signal is actually real What changes when you finally learn to tell the difference If you can never fully relax no matter how much he shows up, if you need certainty just to feel okay, or if you are exhausted by your own spiral and just want it to stop, this one is for you. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  7. Sep 13

    182: Master Secure Attachment So Fast It Feels Like Cheating

    View The Feminine Energy Collection Here Join The Unbothered Woman Here If you have been trying to step into your feminine energy but everything you have followed so far has felt like a performance, doing all the right things, not texting first, being soft, letting him lead, and still feeling the same anxiety underneath because nothing you were taught actually changed how you feel on the inside, this episode is for you. In this episode I break down why the mainstream version of feminine energy is keeping you stuck in a cycle of performing for an outcome instead of actually embodying who you are, the real definition of feminine energy that no one is talking about, and the specific practices that shift you from managing every outcome to being so anchored in yourself that you never lose her again. → FREE: The Unbothered Reset: 30 Days to Become Her. Every day for 30 days, you’ll receive a short email. Start the 30-Day Reset → Unbothered: The art of letting go → The New Rules Book Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

  8. Sep 6

    181: 5 Brutal Truths About Why He Lost Interest (And What To Do About It)

    Get your copy of Unbothered, now available in the US Join the waitlist for Unbothered Woman Watch Detach Check out Hinge You are not going to like this one. And if it makes you angry, that is probably a sign you need to hear it. In this episode Margarita breaks down five things women do completely unintentionally, usually with the best intentions, that quietly push men away. Not the obvious stuff every relationship coach has already told you. The things nobody is saying. In this episode: 1. Narrating every internal state the second you feel it 2. Mothering him and collapsing the polarity without realising it 3. Making yourself too agreeable, too easy, too cool girl 4. Manufacturing jealousy instead of actually building a full life 5. Needing his validation vs valuing his opinion Whether you are in the talking stage, a long term relationship that has lost its spark, or a marriage that feels more like flatmates, one of these five is going to hit home. This is not about blame. It is about understanding why the dynamic shifts without either of you realising, until he pulls back and you have absolutely no idea what happened. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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