Send a text What happens when the very thing you're most ashamed of is also the thing keeping you from the love you most desperately need? In this episode, we sit down with Joshua Urrutia, MS, LPC-Associate and ASAT Candidate, to talk about one of the most painful paradoxes at the heart of sexual addiction: the war between deep shame and the longing to be truly known, seen and loved. At the root of that war, more often than not, is an attachment wound that has never been named, never been healed, and has been quietly running the show for years. Joshua brings both clinical expertise and personal experience to this conversation. He shares what he witnessed during his time in ministry and mission work, and how those experiences led him to specialize in compulsive sexual behavior. This is an honest, grounded, and hope-filled conversation for anyone in recovery, anyone loving someone in recovery, or anyone who has ever felt too broken to be seen. In this episode we cover: Joshua's personal journey and why he became a Certified Sex Addiction TherapistWhat intimacy disorder actually means and what it looks like in real lifeHow early attachment wounds and attachment injuries lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior later in lifeThe painful cycle of shame, hiding, and compulsive behavior and why it is really a distorted scream for connectionWhy healing requires the opposite and what you can do to start healingA note on attachment: You may hear the terms attachment theory and attachment injury in this conversation. Attachment theory, developed by psychiatrist John Bowlby, describes the deep human need for safe, reliable emotional bonds. First with caregivers, and later in adult relationships. When those bonds are broken, neglected, or never formed, an attachment injury occurs a: wound in the person's ability to trust, connect, and feel safe being truly known by another. For many men and women struggling with sexual addiction, compulsive behavior is not primarily about sex. It is about an unmet, often unconscious need for closeness and comfort that was rarely safely available. And for the betrayed spouse, the discovery of her partner's secret life is one of the most devastating attachment injuries an adult can experience: a rupture at the deepest level of relational trust. About Joshua: Joshua Urrutia is a Licensed Professional Associate Counselor and ASAT Candidate (on his way to a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) with Intuitus Group in the Austin area in Texas. He holds a Master's in Counseling from Divine Mercy University, is EMDR trained. 🌐 Website: intuitus-group.com 📞 Phone: (512) 650-8018 📧 Email: joshua@intuitus-group.com HELPFUL LINKS: -Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here. -Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here. -For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at: https://www.covenanteyes.com PROMO CODE: CFP -Get a safe, locked-down phone - a Wisephone! Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 - https://www.techless.com/CFP -Book an INTRO Call with Steve here. -Email: steve@catholicsfightporn.com -Sign up for the email newsletter at the website -Donate to
