The Unapologetic Woman Podcast

Gen Stoney
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  • Self-Improvement
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Calling all successful women! Tune in and learn how to be Unapologetic, Deepen your Relationships, Celebrate your Sobriety, Uplevel your Success, embrace Metaphysics, and truly Connect with your Sacred Sober Self! Gen is the Sacred Sober Sexuality Expert for women, a wife to an incredible man for 11+ years, & mom to 2 little boys. Gen has been coaching women on this amazing journey and has been sober from drugs and alcohol for 15+ years. She is a certified Life coach, EFT practitioner, meditation guide, and chakra healer.  Gen is a #1 International Best Selling Author and has been featured as a regular guest expert on FOX & The CW. She has also been listed on the 100 TOP inspirational women globally. If you are ready to claim your unapologetic radiant romantic sober fun energized life, Gen Stoney is your person & this podcast is for you! 

  1. Oct 27

    How Do You Know When Something in Your Life Needs to Change? with Gen Stoney

    Just because you can handle everything doesn't mean you should have to. Oh, this one's for my capable women. The ones everyone calls when something goes wrong. The problem solvers. The peacekeepers. The women holding together their families, careers, relationships, and everyone else's emotional well-being. You know who you are, girlfriend. ❤️ You're exhausted. You're resentful. You're doing way too much. And when someone asks how you're doing? “I'm fine.” But are you? What if being the strong one has quietly become the very thing keeping you stuck? In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman Podcast, we're having a very real conversation about over-functioning, people-pleasing, resentment, boundaries, and the uncomfortable ways we sometimes use our own strength against ourselves. Because here's something I've had to learn in my own recovery: Your capacity to endure something is not a compelling reason to keep choosing it. I've been the woman doing everything, frustrated that nobody was helping, while simultaneously making sure nobody else had the opportunity to take responsibility. Yep. That one stung. And whether you're navigating sobriety, questioning your relationship with alcohol, managing a demanding career, loving someone struggling with addiction, or simply feeling responsible for everyone around you, this conversation might hit a little closer to home than you expected. We're talking about what happens when resilience becomes tolerance, helping becomes rescuing, and being dependable starts looking a whole lot like abandoning yourself. And here's where it gets interesting. What if nothing in your life has to become terrible before you're allowed to want something different? Your relationship doesn't have to become toxic. Your career doesn't have to become unbearable. Your drinking doesn't have to destroy your life. And someone you love doesn't have to hit rock bottom before you decide to change how you participate. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop asking, “Can I handle this?” and start asking, “Is this actually mine to carry?” This conversation is especially for the women who lead, manage, parent, love, rescue, and quietly carry responsibilities that were never entirely theirs to begin with. And no, I'm not encouraging you to quit your job, end your marriage, or burn your entire life down by Tuesday. 😂 We're talking about something much more powerful: honesty, self-trust, personal responsibility, and learning to make choices that actually align with the woman you're becoming. Because recovery isn't just about what we stop doing. It's about how we choose to live. So grab your coffee, take a walk, or turn up the volume on your drive to work. I've got a question for you: What are you still calling fine simply because you've learned how to survive it? And what might become possible if you finally stopped? 🎧 Listen now. And if there's a woman in your life who's always the strong one, send her this episode. She might need the reminder that she doesn't have to carry everything to be worthy of love, respect, and support. ✨ Bring this conversation to your organization. Gen Stoney is a recovery coach, speaker, and consultant helping individuals, colleges, universities, and workplace leaders have honest, meaningful conversations about recovery, personal responsibility, boundaries, resilience, and creating healthier relationships at home and at work. For speaking engagements, workshops, or organizational consulting, explore the resources and speaking inquiry link in the show notes. You can be strong, capable, and compassionate without abandoning yourself in the process. And girlfriend, you're allowed to want more than fine. ❤️ Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  2. Oct 20

    High-Functioning Addiction: What If Nobody Knows You're Struggling? with Gen Stoney

    You can be the good mom. The successful woman. The straight-A student. The CEO. The dependable friend. The one everybody calls when their life goes to shit. And still be quietly thinking: If you only f*****g knew. Because sometimes the scariest part isn't that somebody is going to find out you're struggling. It's realizing nobody has any idea. In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, we're talking about the masks that have nothing to do with Halloween—the “I'm good, just busy” mask, the high-functioning mask, the successful mask, and even the sober-but-still-not-okay mask. Because functioning is not the same thing as being okay. And sometimes the exact behaviors the outside world rewards—being strong, productive, dependable, successful, never needing anything—are the same behaviors helping us hide what desperately needs our attention. I share pieces of my own recovery that go far beyond getting sober: the years when everything could look pretty damn good on paper while internally I wasn't okay, the times I protected the image of my life and marriage, and the uncomfortable truth that sobriety itself can become another mask if we're not willing to keep getting honest. We talk about high-functioning addiction, sober curiosity, long-term recovery, people-pleasing, perfectionism, grief, emotional health, asking for help, and what happens when you keep waiting for someone else to validate something you already know. And I'm asking you one of the questions that shows up over and over again in my work: What do I already know that I keep trying not to know? Not so you can diagnose yourself. Not so you can blow up your marriage, quit your job, or make some giant life decision before this episode ends. But because you don't have to know exactly what you're going to do with the truth before you're allowed to tell it. And you sure as hell don't have to wait for rock bottom. You do not have to earn support by destroying your life first. Whether you're questioning your relationship with alcohol, years into sobriety and wondering why you still feel empty, succeeding professionally while privately struggling, or loving someone who looks completely “fine” from the outside—this conversation is for you. And it's one I believe we need more of in our homes, on college campuses, and inside workplaces where high performance can make hidden struggles incredibly easy to miss. If this episode made you think, “Oh shit. She's talking about me,” send it to the woman who always says she's fine, too. And if you know something needs to change but genuinely don't know what your next right step is, information about working with me privately is in the show notes. For colleges, universities, businesses, leadership teams, and organizations ready to have more human conversations about substance use, recovery, high-functioning struggle, asking for help before crisis, and the people behind the performance, my Speaking & Consulting Inquiry link is also below. You don't have to look like you're falling apart to be f*****g exhausted from holding yourself together. And you don't need a boulder to drop before you decide your experience—and your life—matter. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  3. Oct 14

    The Woman You’re Becoming Needs Different Choices. with Gen Stoney

    Who is the woman you're becoming—and do your current choices belong to her? Thirty-one days ago, we started by looking at what you were surviving. Today, we're talking about what you're choosing. And no, this isn't graduation day. Because there is no perfectly healed woman standing at the finish line with flawless boundaries, an organized house, a green juice, zero resentment and absolutely no laundry. 😂 Recovery doesn't work like that. It's an evolution. In this final episode of the 31-day series, Gen brings everything back to the invitation underneath every conversation we've had: Come home to yourself. Not become more selfish. Not stop loving people. Not leave your marriage, quit your job, abandon your responsibilities or become some perfectly regulated version of yourself who never loses her shit. Come home to you while you're doing all of it. Gen looks back at the woman she was when she got sober in 2008—crushed, lost, struggling with her worth, convinced everybody else was the problem—and the thousands of imperfect choices that created the woman she is today. Because sobriety saved her life. But sobriety was never supposed to become her entire identity. It gave her the chance to discover who the hell she actually was. And maybe that's what becoming really is. Not constantly adding more. More healing. More accomplishments. More discipline. More self-improvement. More ways to fix yourself. Maybe it's putting down enough of what was never yours to carry that you can finally recognize the woman who's been underneath it all. Throughout these 31 days, we've talked about integrity. Boundaries. Feedback. Emotional reactions. Trust after addiction. Relationships. Receiving. Peace. Pleasure. Wanting. The person who was hurt getting a recovery too. But none of it was about becoming perfect. It was about becoming honest. What is working? What isn't? What are you carrying that isn't yours? Where are you saying yes when you mean no? What truth do you already know but keep trying to renegotiate? And instead of shaming yourself for what you find: What should I have done instead? Because you cannot shame yourself into becoming a woman you trust. And you don't need another five-year plan before you start. Sometimes you just need the next decision. The text you're about to send. The conversation you're avoiding. The meeting you know you need. The apology. The boundary. The lunch you actually stop working long enough to eat. The five-minute walk without your phone. The moment you stop stalking their social media. The time you say no when you mean no—or finally say yes to the thing you actually want. Ask yourself: Is this moving me toward the woman I'm becoming…or away from her? Because your future isn't built only in the giant decisions everybody sees. It's built in the tiny decisions nobody claps for. That's discipline. That's devotion. That's self-trust. That's becoming. And maybe there's a truth you've been circling for these 31 days. A conversation. A relationship. A pattern. A decision. A part of yourself you're done negotiating away. You don't need 31 more podcast episodes before you're allowed to trust what you already know. And being your own best coach doesn't mean doing everything alone. Sometimes the strongest thing your own best coach can say is: I need support with this. This episode isn't another self-improvement assignment. It's one commitment. One choice. One tiny action in the next 24 hours. Because you do not become her someday. You practice being her today. And perhaps the biggest shift of all is this: Recovery eventually stops being only about everything you had to give up. It starts asking what you're willing to become available for. Love. Joy. Connection. Purpose. Pleasure. Your marriage. Your friendships. Your motherhood. Work that matters. Your own voice. Peace. A life you don't constantly need to escape from. Sobriety was never the end of your story. It was the moment you finally became available for your life. And, unapologetic woman, you are allowed to f*****g live it. 🎧 If you've been quietly listening for 31 days and repeatedly thinking, “Oh shit…she's talking about me,” don't let this become another series you loved, saved—and changed nothing from. Choose one thing. Then take the next right action. If you're ready to stop doing the personal work alone, Gen's Private Clarity Call is linked in the show notes. And if you've spent this series thinking, My college, workplace, team, organization or community needs conversations like these, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. You'll find the Speaking & Consulting Inquiry in the show notes. And if one woman kept coming to mind while you listened? Send her the episode she needs. You don't have to fix her. Just open the door. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  4. Oct 13

    What Do You Actually Want From Love Now? with Gen Stoney

    What do you actually want from love now? Not what your family would approve of. Not what looks impressive online. Not what would make your ex jealous. Not what you were taught a “good relationship” is supposed to look like. And definitely not just whatever you think you can get. What do YOU actually want? Because some of us could give a 45-minute TED Talk—with a PowerPoint and supporting documentation 😂—about everything we never want to experience again. But ask us what we do want? Well…shit. That can get uncomfortable. In this deeply personal episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen opens up about love, sobriety, marriage, self-trust, romantic patterns, standards—and what it means to finally stop building your relationships around what you've learned to tolerate. Recorded on Gen and Ray's 15th wedding anniversary, this conversation begins with a tiny rose quartz sitting on Gen's desk and the stranger in recovery who gave it to her during one of the most painful seasons of her life—when she was questioning whether she was even lovable. That moment became part of a much bigger realization: If I'm single for the rest of my life, I'm going to be okay. And if love comes? It gets to be really freaking good. Because naming what you want is vulnerable. If you don't admit you want something, you can't be disappointed when you don't get it. If you never establish a standard, you don't have to ask whether your current relationship meets it. And if you keep saying, “I'm fine with whatever,” you never risk someone calling you needy, difficult, unrealistic—or too much. But there's a cost to staying vague: You stay disconnected from yourself. Gen shares how her own definition of love has evolved from chasing attention, image, intensity and validation to building a marriage rooted in honesty, depth, play, desire, respect, growth, freedom, friendship and the ability to tell the freaking truth. And this isn't only for single women. You can deeply love the person you're married to and still renegotiate how you participate in your relationship. What do you want your marriage to feel like now? How do you want to communicate now? What needs to change because you've changed? This episode also brings back one of Gen's most powerful pieces of relationship work: Romantic Golden Nuggets—looking backward not to obsess over your exes, but to collect information about yourself. Who brought something out in you that you loved? When did you feel most like yourself? When did you feel safe, desired, supported or free? And then comes the question that changed everything for Gen when she was sitting on the floor during the breakdown of her own marriage, looking at every relationship she'd had: What if they're not all the repeating pattern? What if I am? Not because you're responsible for someone else's betrayal, abuse, addiction or behavior. But because recognizing your patterns means you finally have something you can do something about. Maybe you say you want consistency…but feel wildly drawn to uncertainty. Maybe you want emotional availability…but pull away when someone actually shows up. Maybe you want honesty…but keep swallowing what you really think because you're terrified of conflict. This isn't about shame. It's about information. Because sometimes what you want and what feels familiar are two completely different things. And once you know what you want, there's one more uncomfortable question: Am I choosing accordingly? You can say you want respect, honesty, stability, partnership and emotional intimacy. But what are you participating in? What are you tolerating? What are you avoiding? Where are you abandoning yourself because asking for what you really want might cost you something? You can be sober and still be negotiating with your integrity. This isn't about creating a 37-item Build-a-Boyfriend Amazon order with Prime shipping. 😂 It's about alignment. How do I want love to feel most days? What am I no longer willing to abandon in myself to maintain a relationship? What do I want to consistently give—and receive? Don't make the answers impressive. Make them true. 🎧 Listen to this one if you're sober and rethinking love, dating after addiction or recovery, questioning old relationship patterns, rebuilding a marriage, or simply realizing you don't know what you want anymore. And if that's you? That's not failure. That's information. And it's a beautiful place to begin. Send this episode to the woman who's spent years figuring out what she doesn't want—and might finally be ready to claim what she does. And if you realize you need help separating what you genuinely want from what you've been taught to want, what you've learned to tolerate, and what you're afraid you'll never have, this is some of Gen's favorite work to do privately with women. You'll find ways to work with her in the show notes. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  5. Oct 12

    Pleasure Is Not Something You Have to Earn. with Gen Stoney

    Okay, quick question: when exactly are you allowed to enjoy your life? When the laundry is done? When you lose 20 pounds? When your kids are okay? When your partner is okay? When the inbox is empty, you've made enough money, healed enough, accomplished enough, fixed enough? When exactly do you get permission to sit your ass down and enjoy your coffee? Because some of us got sober…and accidentally turned recovery into another job we could never perform well enough. In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen is opening the pleasure door—and no, this isn't just an episode about sex. 😉 It's about something much bigger: Can you experience pleasure without first proving you've earned it? Because there is a difference between building a better life and constantly treating yourself like a renovation project. You can work. Mother. Recover. Exercise. Go to therapy. Journal. Set boundaries. Build the business. Heal the relationship. Help everybody else. And still forget to actually enjoy the freaking life you're working so hard to create. Pleasure doesn't have to mean an expensive vacation, three child-free days at a hotel, or some wildly extravagant experience. Sometimes it's drinking your coffee while it's still hot. Blasting music in the car. Clean sheets. Flirting with your husband. Laughing until you snort—or pee your pants, because motherhood. 😂 Putting something on because you feel sexy in it. Lighting the damn candle at 2 p.m. just because you want to. Taking a walk that doesn't need to become a calorie-burning assignment. Or doing something you love that produces absolutely nothing. That last one? Oof. Because if you've spent years trying to make up for “lost time,” prove yourself after addiction, achieve your way into worthiness, or turn every hobby into something productive, pleasure can start feeling irresponsible. But you didn't fight this hard to get sober just to become incredibly efficient at surviving your life. You got sober so you could actually be here for it. And Gen makes an important distinction between pleasure and escape: Food can be pleasurable. Sex can be pleasurable. Shopping, TV, rest—all pleasurable. And every one of them can also become a way of disappearing. The question isn't whether something is “good” or “bad.” It's: Does this bring me deeper into my life—or help me escape from it? Because recovery isn't about becoming afraid of pleasure. It's learning how to experience pleasure without having to disappear inside of it. This one is for the sober woman who has done so much work on herself that she's forgotten she's allowed to have fun. The high-achieving woman who can't sit still without feeling guilty. The mom who makes pleasure the first thing to disappear from her calendar. The woman learning how to receive—in her relationships, her body, the bedroom and her life. And the woman who's ready to feel sexy, playful, feminine, vivacious, alive and completely herself without apologizing for any of it. Your assignment? Do one completely unnecessary thing that brings you joy. No productivity. No self-improvement. No gold star. And if anyone asks why? Tell them your podcast lady made you. 😂 You fought really hard to be here. You're allowed to actually be here. You don't have to earn moments inside a life you're already living. 🎧 Listen to this one when recovery has started feeling like another damn to-do list—and send it to the woman who needs permission to stop improving herself for five minutes and enjoy who she already is. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  6. Oct 11

    What If Healthy Love Feels Unfamiliar Before It Feels Safe? with Gen Stoney

    What if the relationship isn’t boring? What if you’re just…not activated? Nobody disappeared for six hours. You’re not checking his phone. You’re not analyzing a three-word text like it’s evidence in a federal investigation. Nobody blocked anybody. Nobody’s threatening to leave. He actually texts when he says he will. And suddenly you’re sitting there thinking… Wait. Is something missing? Ohhhh, babe. What if the thing you’re missing isn’t chemistry? What if it’s chaos? In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen gets deeply personal about one of the strangest parts of healing your romantic life after addiction, toxic relationships, codependency, or years of chasing emotionally unavailable people: Sometimes healthy love feels unfamiliar as hell. Gen shares what happened when she met Ray just weeks before getting sober—and suddenly found herself with a man who adored her, supported healthy choices, wrote her poems, gave thoughtful gifts, and didn’t require her to manipulate, chase, perform, or prove herself to keep his attention. It was everything she said she wanted. And at first? She thought it was boring. She picked fights. Questioned the chemistry. Almost ended the relationship. Because when love has historically felt like chasing, proving, waiting, wondering, fighting, making up, being rejected, getting chosen again, or feeling indispensable because someone needs saving… peace can feel suspiciously like a lack of passion. This episode isn't telling you to stay in a relationship you don't want. And Gen definitely isn't telling you every calm person is your soulmate. 😂 It's an invitation to get curious before automatically deciding that healthy means boring. Do you want attraction—or uncertainty? Are you connected to the person—or connected to the chase? Is there genuinely no spark? Or are you waiting for anxiety to tell you you're in love? Because recovery can uncover something wildly uncomfortable: You can get sober and still recreate emotional intensity through your relationships. And sometimes the next chapter of recovery isn't learning how to avoid unhealthy love. It's learning how to receive healthy love without feeling like you have to earn it first. Healthy doesn't have to mean passionless. Peace doesn't mean settling. You are allowed to want safety and attraction. Stability and play. Depth and fun. Peace and really freaking good chemistry. You are allowed to be adored. Desired. Seen. Heard. And loved as the sexy, messy, evolving, imperfect woman you actually are. Gen even shares one ridiculously romantic anniversary surprise from Ray that may make you raise your standards just a tiny bit. 😉 And no—we're not spoiling that one here. Maybe the question isn't only: Do I want them? Maybe it's: Who do I become when I'm with them? 🎧 Listen to this one if you've ever wondered why the healthy relationship feels “different,” why dating after sobriety can feel confusing, or why the person who actually treats you well somehow doesn't create the same rush. And send it to the woman who keeps saying, “He's amazing…but I don't know, something feels like it's missing.” Maybe something is. Or maybe, for the first time, chaos is. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  7. Oct 10

    The Pattern Can Stop With You—But It Won’t Stop by Accident with Gen Stoney

    Families pass down a whole lot more than eye color. We pass down what love looks like. How we fight. Whether we apologize. Who walks on eggshells. Who has to keep everybody happy. Whether addiction gets talked about—or becomes the family secret nobody is allowed to mention. Whether Mom sacrifices herself and calls it love. Whether anger means cruelty. Whether we forgive because someone actually repaired the damage…or because “they’re family.” And sometimes the patterns we inherit aren't huge, dramatic things. Sometimes they're just a typical Tuesday night that somebody taught us was normal. In this episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen asks a question that may hit a little differently: What am I unconsciously teaching the people I love to normalize? This isn't about blaming your parents, villainizing your family, or spending the next 45 minutes psychoanalyzing everybody at Thanksgiving. Gen gets deeply personal about the patterns she inherited, the ones she carried forward without realizing it, the moment motherhood exposed one of them almost immediately, and the recovery work that forced her to confront something uncomfortable: You can love where you came from and still decide that certain things don't get to continue through you. Because sobriety alone doesn't automatically change a pattern. Awareness alone doesn't change it either. You can identify every childhood wound, understand exactly why you react the way you do, and psychoanalyze yourself into next Tuesday… and still keep doing the same damn thing. Patterns change when we practice something different often enough that different becomes normal. Gen shares her own evolution with anger, validation, repair, motherhood and recovery—including why she wants her boys to see her make mistakes. Not because messing up doesn't matter. But because they also get to see what happens after Mom gets it wrong. Honesty. An apology. Repair. Different action. Because your children don't need evidence that adults are perfect. They need evidence that human beings can get honest, repair and choose differently. And this conversation goes far beyond parenting. Your “next generation” might be your children. But it might also be the students you teach. The athletes you coach. The employees you lead. The team watching how you respond when someone is struggling. Organizations have patterns too. This is just how things are done here. Nobody addresses the drinking because they're a top performer. Everyone compensates for one person's instability. The team walks on eggshells. Someone is struggling and nobody knows what to do, so people either enable them or judge them. Eventually, what you repeatedly tolerate becomes part of the culture. So whether you're a sober woman trying to build a different life, a mother wondering what your kids are absorbing, someone questioning the “that's just how our family is” story, or a leader realizing something unhealthy has quietly become normal inside your organization—this episode will ask you to look at your part without drowning yourself in blame or shame. You don't have to heal the entire family tree. You don't have to convince everyone else to see what you see. You don't have to change ten things by tomorrow. Maybe you choose one: With me, addiction isn't a secret. With me, anger doesn't mean cruelty. With me, love doesn't require self-abandonment. With me, asking for help isn't weakness. With me, we apologize. With me, sobriety isn't the end of growth. And then you practice it until that becomes normal. Maybe your job isn't to fix the entire family tree. Maybe your job is to become one healthy branch. 🎧 Listen to this one when you're ready to stop asking only, “Why am I like this?” and start asking, “What am I choosing to hand forward?” Then send it to the woman who's starting to realize she can deeply love her family—and still choose differently. And if your college, university, workplace, leadership team, or organization needs more honest conversations around addiction, recovery, culture, accountability and what we unconsciously normalize, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. The Speaking & Consulting Inquiry is linked in the show notes below. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

  8. Oct 9

    Grief Changes What You’re Available For with Gen Stoney

    If life really is this short…why are you still spending yours on things you already know aren’t right for you? That question became very different for Gen after losing her best friend, Sarah, to stage 4 breast cancer. Sarah was 15 years sober. An incredible wife. Mom. Friend. Human. She did the work. She loved deeply. She built a beautiful life. And she still didn't get unlimited time. After Sarah died, Gen and her husband Ray looked at each other and essentially said: What the hell are we doing with ours? In this deeply personal episode of The Unapologetic Woman, Gen opens up about grief, sobriety, boundaries, relationships, motherhood, marriage—and the loss that permanently changed the way she thinks about where her time and energy go. It also created a practice Gen and Ray still use today: You get 10 energy tokens. That's it. And every day, you decide where they go. Your marriage. Your kids. Your recovery. Your health. Your purpose. Your friendships. Or… Resentment. Proving yourself. Replaying a conversation for the 37th time. Managing someone else's feelings. Overexplaining. Staying in relationships you've outgrown. Saying yes because saying no feels uncomfortable. And here's the part we don't talk about enough: Every yes costs you something. Sometimes the price isn't money. Sometimes the price is the version of you your family gets when you finally come home. Gen gets vulnerable about realizing she had become so generous with everyone else's needs that sometimes Ray and the kids were getting what was left of her—and what it meant when her husband finally told her, We don't want your leftovers. This isn't an episode about becoming cold, cutting everybody off, or using grief as an excuse to stop caring. It's about something much deeper: You can love someone and have limits. You can forgive and still change someone's access to you. You can care deeply and still say no. And maybe protecting your peace doesn't require becoming harder. Maybe it requires finally understanding how precious your life actually is. This conversation is for the woman in recovery who's realizing sobriety was only the beginning. The mom who gives everyone else her best energy. The leader or business owner pouring herself into everyone and everything. The people-pleaser exhausted from maintaining relationships out of obligation. The person grieving someone she loves. And the woman who keeps telling herself she'll change things eventually. Because eventually isn't promised. Your life is happening while you're deciding whether you're allowed to live it. So call the person. Go to the game. Take the picture. Say no. Say yes. Put the damn phone down. Tell the truth. Come home to yourself. 🎧 Listen to this one when you need to remember that your time isn't something you have to earn the right to protect. And send it to the woman you love who keeps giving her life away one tiny yes at a time. If conversations about recovery, resilience, boundaries, leadership, grief, and building a life you don't need to escape from belong on your college campus, in your workplace, or inside your organization, Gen Stoney is available for speaking, workshops and consulting. The Speaking & Consulting Inquiry is in the show notes below. Send us Fan Mail BRING GEN TO YOUR ORGANIZATION Looking for a speaker, workshop, or consulting support for your college, workplace, organization, or community? Let’s start a conversation. Speaking & Consulting Inquiry: https://forms.gle/wmxT9z78o9G2n2gF9

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Calling all successful women! Tune in and learn how to be Unapologetic, Deepen your Relationships, Celebrate your Sobriety, Uplevel your Success, embrace Metaphysics, and truly Connect with your Sacred Sober Self! Gen is the Sacred Sober Sexuality Expert for women, a wife to an incredible man for 11+ years, & mom to 2 little boys. Gen has been coaching women on this amazing journey and has been sober from drugs and alcohol for 15+ years. She is a certified Life coach, EFT practitioner, meditation guide, and chakra healer.  Gen is a #1 International Best Selling Author and has been featured as a regular guest expert on FOX & The CW. She has also been listed on the 100 TOP inspirational women globally. If you are ready to claim your unapologetic radiant romantic sober fun energized life, Gen Stoney is your person & this podcast is for you! 

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  • Creator
    Gen Stoney
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    112
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Unapologetic Woman Podcast
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