The Nope Coach

Suzanne Culberg
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  • Self-Improvement

The Nope Coach Podcast is for recovering people-pleasers who are tired of putting themselves last to keep everyone else comfortable. Hosted by Suzanne Culberg, these honest conversations explore people-pleasing, boundaries, burnout, self-worth, relationships, guilt, and what it actually looks like to choose yourself without apology. Some episodes are solo. Others are conversations with guests who bring wisdom, lived experience, and fresh perspectives. Expect real talk, practical insights, pattern-spotting, and the occasional F-bomb, because life is too short to abandon yourself. You won't find toxic positivity or pressure to hustle harder here. Instead, you'll find conversations that help you notice where you're saying yes when your body is saying no, and permission to stop treating yourself like a problem to solve. If you're tired of being everything to everyone and ready to feel more at home in your own life, you're in the right place.

  1. 6h ago

    The Invisible Rules Behind People-Pleasing with Ludovica Colella

    What if people-pleasing isn't your personality, but a collection of invisible rules you learned years ago? CBT psychotherapist and confidence coach Ludovica Colella joins me to talk about the beliefs that can keep us prioritising other people at our own expense. In this episode, we discuss: The invisible rules behind people-pleasing How being constantly adaptable can erode your sense of self The difference between genuine kindness and helping to feel safe or accepted Why guilt doesn't necessarily mean you've done something wrong What can happen to relationships when you start setting boundaries Using the "broken record" technique to hold your ground Find Ludovica at lu-cole.com or on Instagram at @permissiontob.me. Find Suzanne at https://www.suzanneculberg.com/  Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach

  2. 6h ago ·  Bonus

    You Might Also Like: The Oprah Podcast

    Introducing The Correspondent: The Story Behind the Unexpected Bestseller Everyone is Reading from The Oprah Podcast. Follow the show: The Oprah Podcast BUY THE BOOK! The Correspondent by Virginia Evans https://amzn.to/4xasavH Oprah sits down with Virginia Evans, author of the story readers can’t stop talking about: The Correspondent. Selling over two million copies and translated into over 35 languages it’s the book that has captured readers. Although it's her first published novel, it's the eighth book Virginia's written and one she never intended anyone else to read. When The Correspondent debuted it sold fewer than 8,000 copies. However, readers who discovered it fell in love and began recommending the novel to others, turning this book into a word-of-mouth phenomenon and a New York Times bestseller. Virginia shares the remarkable story behind the book she never expected to publish. Listeners will discover why Sybil Van Antwerp—a complex, prolific letter writer in her seventies—has resonated so deeply with readers of all ages. Oprah also speaks with readers around the country who have questions for Virginia. 00:00:00 - Welcome Virginia Evans, author of ‘The Correspondent’  00:04:00 - Her 20 year journey to getting published 00:07:10 - Questioning if she would ever publish  00:08:46 - How she wrote the book  00:12:00 - How the main character came to Virginia  00:14:55 - Oprah's favorite passage  00:16:16 - What letter writing allows us to say  00:19:50 - What we learn from other letters 00:25:30 - Does a letter need a reply?  00:30:00 - Loneliness  00:34:20 - Writing what you’re afraid of 00:39:40 - What she wants listeners to do  Follow Oprah Winfrey on Social: https://www.instagram.com/oprahpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/oprahwinfrey/ Listen to the full podcast:  https://open.spotify.com/show/0tEVrfNp92a7lbjDe6GMLI https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-oprah-podcast/id1782960381 DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

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  3. Aug 13

    When Being the Reliable One Becomes a Cage with Jennifer Kaufman

    What happens when being the reliable one stops being something you do and becomes who you believe you have to be? In this episode of The Nope Coach Podcast, I'm joined by Jennifer Kaufman, who spent more than 25 years in educational leadership while also being a caregiver, advocate, mother, grandmother and the person everyone knew they could rely on. Then, at 61, she walked away from her career as a school principal to pursue the work she truly wanted to do. We talk about burnout, over-functioning, boundaries, identity and what Jennifer calls "burnout dressed up as competence", when you're exhausted but keep proving how capable you are by doing even more. We also talk about: • Why being capable can become a trap • Knowing when it's time to make a change • The difference between helping and rescuing • Why you don't have to keep climbing the career ladder • Making a plan when fear tells you to stay put • Letting go of stuff, responsibilities and identities you've outgrown • Becoming a grandparent to an autistic child and learning to support rather than take over • Why kindness needs to include yourself too Just because you can carry it doesn't mean it's yours to carry. Find out more about Jennifer here: https://jenkaufman.com/ Find out more about Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/  Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach

  4. Aug 7

    The Stories You Tell Yourself Aren't Facts with Dr. Lauren Fine

    What if some of the things you believe about yourself aren't actually facts? "If I say no, I'm difficult." "If I change my mind, I've failed." "I've already put so much time into this, so I have to keep going." They might feel true, especially when you've been telling yourself the same story for years. But feeling true and being true are two very different things. In this episode of The Nope Coach Podcast, I'm joined by Dr. Lauren Fine, a physician, medical educator, coach and recovering people-pleaser, to talk about the stories we mistake for facts and how they can keep us stuck. We talk about people-pleasing, saying no without guilt, changing direction, sunk cost fallacy, identity, overthinking and why highly competent people can be particularly bad at choosing themselves. Lauren also shares her simple "camera test" for separating what actually happened from everything your brain has added afterwards. Because "they haven't replied to my message" is a fact. "They're ignoring me because I've done something wrong" is a story. We also talk about: • Why changing your mind doesn't mean you've failed • The grief that can come with changing careers or identities • Why past experience isn't wasted just because you choose a different path • When saying no needs an explanation and when it doesn't • How to challenge the stories keeping you stuck If there's something you've been telling yourself you can't do, can't change or have to keep doing, this episode might leave you asking: Is that actually true, or is it just a story you've been telling yourself for a really long time? Connect with Lauren here: https://laurenfine.com/ Connect with Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/  Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach

  5. Jul 31

    How to Stop Abandoning Yourself (Even If You've Been Doing It for Years) with Holly Fair

    Have you ever looked after everyone else so well that you forgot how to look after yourself? In this episode of The Nope Coach Podcast, I'm joined by Holly Fair for an honest conversation about self-abandonment, people pleasing, confidence, identity, and what it really takes to start trusting yourself again. After surviving childhood abuse, divorce, infertility and the loss of a baby, Holly found herself disconnected from the person she used to be. Then she made an unexpected decision. She wore a crown every single day for nearly two years. It wasn't about getting attention. It became a daily practice of showing up differently, taking up space, and becoming the person she wanted to be before she fully believed she could. We talk about: what self-abandonment actually looks like why confidence usually comes after action, not before it how people pleasing slowly disconnects you from yourself surviving other people's disappointment when you start setting boundaries why your identity changes through repeated actions, not positive thinking the stories we tell ourselves versus what's actually true finding your own version of "the crown" learning to take up space without apologising for it If you've ever struggled to say no, found yourself shrinking to keep everyone else comfortable, or wondered how to rebuild self-trust after difficult experiences, this conversation is for you. Connect with Holly here: https://www.fireuplife.com Connect with Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com

  6. Jul 21

    Are You Building a Business You Secretly Resent? with Krista Miller

    What looks like generosity isn't always generosity. Sometimes it's people-pleasing dressed up as "going above and beyond." In this episode, I'm joined by membership expert Krista Miller to talk about one of the biggest traps online business owners fall into: believing they need to keep adding more content, more calls, more access and more support to make people happy. We explore why overdelivering often leads to burnout rather than better results, how memberships can become unsustainable when they're built around fear instead of confidence, and why your community usually needs less from you than you think. If you've ever caught yourself wondering whether you're doing enough, this conversation is for you. In this episode: Why overdelivering can actually be people-pleasing How to spot when you're building a business you secretly resent The myth that members always want "more" Why community matters more than constant new content How to grow a membership without becoming available 24/7 What healthy boundaries look like inside a business Why experimenting, changing your mind and scaling back is sometimes the best thing you can do Krista Miller helps membership owners attract and retain members through simple, sustainable marketing strategies. She's also the host of the Membership Momentum Summit, register for free here: https://suzanneculberg--summitinabox.thrivecart.com/membership-momentum/665f8ff8164e2/ (affiliate link)

  7. Jul 16

    Stop Editing Yourself Out of Your Own Story

    Have you ever tried so hard to say the right thing that you stopped sounding like yourself? After reading yet another polished podcast pitch, I realised the biggest mistake most people make isn't saying the wrong thing. It's editing themselves out of the conversation. In this episode, I explore why people connect with authenticity over perfection, how people-pleasing can creep into the way we communicate, and why being memorable has far more to do with being human than being polished. Whether you're applying for jobs, pitching yourself for opportunities, dating, or simply trying to be understood, this episode will encourage you to stop hiding behind the "perfect" version of yourself. In this episode: Why polished doesn't always mean memorable How people-pleasing shows up in everyday communication The hidden cost of trying to say the "right" thing Why authenticity builds stronger connections A simple mindset shift to help you communicate with more confidence If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love The Done Diaries, my private audio series inside The Done Era, where I share regular solo reflections, insights, and truth bombs you won't hear anywhere else. Join here: https://www.skool.com/the-done-era-9863/about

  8. Jun 30

    When Parenting Becomes People Pleasing: Boundaries, Gaming and Guilt with Nathan Graham

    If you've ever wondered whether you're setting a healthy boundary... or just giving in because you're exhausted, this episode is for you. Nathan Graham, author of Why Won't He Just Log Off?, joins me for a conversation that starts with video games but quickly becomes something much bigger. We explore why excessive gaming is often a symptom rather than the problem itself, how parents accidentally slip into people pleasing with their children, and why keeping the peace isn't always the same as building connection. This isn't an episode about banning screens or blaming parents. It's about understanding what's really going on underneath the behaviour, holding boundaries without guilt, and remembering that being a good parent doesn't mean keeping your child happy every minute of the day. In this episode we discuss: • Parenting and people pleasing • Healthy boundaries with children • Screen time and video game addiction • The emotional needs gaming can fulfil • Why punishment often backfires • Connection versus control • How guilt influences parenting decisions • Why understanding behaviour matters • The difference between hearing and listening • Helping kids build healthy habits around technology • What adults can learn from the way children use screens • Why the game is often the symptom, not the problem Whether you're raising gamers, teenagers, or simply trying to stop carrying everyone else's emotions, this conversation offers practical insights that reach far beyond screen time. Find out more about Nathan here: https://syntheticecho.ca/  Grab a copy of Nathan's book here: https://syntheticecho.ca/why-wont-he-log-off  Find out more about Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/  Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach

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The Nope Coach Podcast is for recovering people-pleasers who are tired of putting themselves last to keep everyone else comfortable. Hosted by Suzanne Culberg, these honest conversations explore people-pleasing, boundaries, burnout, self-worth, relationships, guilt, and what it actually looks like to choose yourself without apology. Some episodes are solo. Others are conversations with guests who bring wisdom, lived experience, and fresh perspectives. Expect real talk, practical insights, pattern-spotting, and the occasional F-bomb, because life is too short to abandon yourself. You won't find toxic positivity or pressure to hustle harder here. Instead, you'll find conversations that help you notice where you're saying yes when your body is saying no, and permission to stop treating yourself like a problem to solve. If you're tired of being everything to everyone and ready to feel more at home in your own life, you're in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Suzanne Culberg
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    524
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2023
  • Show Website
    The Nope Coach