Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast

Jill Olish and Linda Bonney
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A podcast for moms about the real, raw, and unscripted perspectives of guilt-free self-care by two moms across the globe. This unedited podcast is real life and their personal experiences told in friendly conversation style. Advocating for all moms who have mucked up their self care. There are so many others out there that aren't successfully solving the real problem of trying to figure out what self-care is. We want to bring to light the reality of what self-care can look like for moms who struggle to fit it in, don't know what will work for them, and the ways that it hasn't worked. We want to have conversations about the guilt we feel when we are pressured to mother ourselves when we don't know how and aren't given the support to in our society today.

  1. 11/02/2025

    When Self-Care Feels Selfish

    Sometimes self-care feels impossible when life demands everything from us, and that's when we need it most. In this raw and honest episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda dive into one of the hardest questions moms face: How do we take care of ourselves when others need us more? From navigating terminal illness and anticipatory grief to solo parenting four kids through sickness and cold weather, this conversation gets real about guilt, shortcuts, and the mental load of trying to do it all. If you've ever felt selfish for taking a moment for yourself while others are struggling, this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll hear: Why self-care feels selfish when you're caring for sick or struggling loved ones and how to reframe that guiltHow to take meaningful shortcuts without sacrificing your sanity (hello, skipping pajamas and porridge for dinner!)The difference between being selfish and setting realistic expectations when you're overwhelmedWhy "taking care of yourself too" can feel impossible when someone else's need feels greater than yoursHow to identify who your priority "family" is during crisis seasons and why that mattersWays to combine self-care with caring for others so your cup gets filled while you're still showing upWhat anticipatory grief looks like and why it makes self-care even harder to prioritize Self-care doesn't have to be solo or scheduled to count. Whether you're reading while the house gets messier, sharing time with your child during spooky season, or showing up for aging parents while barely holding it together yourself, this episode is a reminder that you're not selfish for needing care too. Jill and Linda get vulnerable about the weight of responsibility, the shortcuts that save them, and why we have to stop waiting for permission to take care of ourselves—even in the hardest seasons. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required! 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    22 min

  2. 10/26/2025

    Self-Care Through Different Motherhood Stages

    Parenting a thirteen-year-old for the first time feels completely different than parenting your four two-year-old—and that's exactly the point. In this vulnerable episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda explore how self-care shifts and evolves through every stage of motherhood, from pregnancy loss and postpartum preparation to managing preteens, kindergarteners, and everything in between. Through personal stories of hospital scares, garden overwhelm, and the messy reality of trying to control the uncontrollable, they remind us that sometimes the best self-care is simply letting go. In this episode, you'll learn: How self-care needs change dramatically across different parenting stages (and why that's completely normal)Why trying to control too much in motherhood can actually dampen your self-care effortsThe unique challenges of managing multiple ages at once—from preteens leaving empty food packets everywhere to toddlers needing constant attentionHow to navigate self-care during intense seasons: pregnancy, loss, health crises, and emotional heavinessWhy "structured self-care" isn't always the answer—sometimes it's about vegging out on the couch with a bookHow to prepare for postpartum self-care when you've been through it before and know what you needThe power of having a go-to self-care list when you're too overwhelmed to think clearlyWhy giving yourself understanding and grace is essential when parenting any age for the first time Motherhood doesn't come with a manual, and neither does self-care through its many stages. Whether you're dealing with difficult school drop-offs, preteen messes, pregnancy worries, or just trying to squeeze in half a page of reading before falling asleep, this episode validates the reality that every stage brings new challenges—and new opportunities to care for yourself differently. Jill and Linda's honest conversation reminds you that it's okay when things don't go as planned, and that sometimes the best thing you can do is dance it out, take it one day at a time, and remember: this is the first time you're parenting this exact child at this exact age. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛 📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we'll send our favorite simple self-care ideas—no thinking required! 👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com 💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    25 min

  3. 10/19/2025

    Disappointed in Your Self-Care?

    Sometimes self-care doesn’t look like what we planned, and that’s okay. In this heartfelt episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda open up about exhaustion, disappointment, and the emotional tug-of-war between expectations and reality. From overpacked schedules and shifting bedtime routines to learning how to “read the room” with your energy, this conversation gets real about what happens when your self-care just doesn’t go the way you hoped and how to show yourself grace in the middle of it. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why self-care can sometimes feel disappointing and what that really meansHow to shift expectations without giving up entirelyWhat “reading the room” looks like for your own energy and capacityHow comparison sneaks into self-care and feeds disappointmentWhy small, intentional moments (like watching your child thrive) still countWays to redefine success in your self-care journey Self-care doesn’t have to be perfect to be powerful. Whether you’re skipping a workout to rest, choosing frozen pizza over a full meal, or celebrating the small wins, this episode is a reminder that your needs matter - even when life gets messy. Jill and Linda invite you to stop measuring your self-care against expectations and start giving yourself the grace to do what you can, when you can. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛   📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    23 min

  4. 10/12/2025

    Building Your Village: Support, Self-Care & Survival

    The old saying “it takes a village to raise a child” feels harder than ever in today’s world of busy schedules, full calendars, and endless responsibilities. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self Care, Jill and Linda talk highs and lows, the loneliness that can come with motherhood, and the creative ways moms can reimagine community -even when neighbors no longer just “pop by.” From navigating school transitions to finding support in unexpected places, this conversation is all about redefining what a modern-day village looks like. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why highs and lows often happen in the same day and how that emotional “sandwich” feels for momsHow school schedules, activities, and jobs make building community harder than everWhy asking for help is tricky and how to make it easierHow guilt and pressure keep moms from accepting supportThe idea of a “village order form” that takes the decision fatigue out of asking for helpCreative ways moms can team up to share the load (from folding laundry to meal prep playdates)   Motherhood was never meant to be a solo act and yet, too many moms are carrying the load alone. Jill and Linda remind us that building a village doesn’t have to look perfect or traditional. Sometimes it’s as simple as one friend showing up to fold laundry, share dinner in the park, or prep meals side by side. If you’ve been craving more support, this episode will leave you with both solidarity and fresh ideas for how to invite community back into your life. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛   📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    29 min

  5. 10/05/2025

    Self-Care for the Perfectionist: Letting Go of “Perfect” and Finding What Works

    What happens when perfectionism sneaks into self-care? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda unpack the tension between wanting everything “just right” and the messy reality of motherhood. From waiting for the perfect moment to spiraling into guilt when plans fall apart, they share raw reflections on how perfectionism holds us back and what it looks like to embrace imperfection instead. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why perfectionism and vulnerability don’t play well togetherHow high expectations set us up for frustration and burnoutThe hidden trap of waiting for “perfect timing” before doing self-careWhy nature and movement are powerful (and imperfect) forms of self-careHow rest, even when unplanned, counts as real self-careSimple ways to reset when self-care doesn’t go as planned   Self-care isn’t about picture-perfect timing or flawless execution; it’s about meeting yourself where you are. Jill and Linda remind us that sometimes the most powerful form of care is letting go of expectations and embracing the imperfect options in front of you. If you’ve ever delayed self-care because the stars didn’t align, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and take the pressure off. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛   📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    24 min

  6. 09/28/2025

    Maternal Burnout: Why Self-Care Feels Impossible (and What to Do About It)

    Parenting, loss, school transitions, sleepless nights, sometimes it all collides at once. In this raw and honest episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda talk openly about the weight of maternal burnout. From disrupted nights and defiant kids to the impossible juggle of family, work, and self-care, they share the highs, lows, and the messy middle that so many moms live through. In this episode, you’ll learn: How grief, school transitions, and daily stress compound into burnoutWhy disrupted sleep leaves moms feeling like they can’t ever “catch up”The difference between early motherhood burnout and maternal burnout later onThe hidden pressure of overscheduled kids and family routinesWhy letting things slide can actually be a form of self-careHow to prioritize your needs when family always feels like the top valueWhy burnout is a signal, not a failure   Maternal burnout isn’t just exhaustion, it’s the buildup of unrelenting pressure, grief, and responsibilities that leave little space for you. Jill and Linda remind us that you’re not alone in this struggle, and sometimes the first step in self-care is simply naming the burnout out loud. If you’re feeling stretched too thin, may this episode be your reminder that something has to give - and that it’s okay if it’s not you. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛   📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    24 min

  7. 09/21/2025

    Digital Boundaries as Self-Care in the Always-On Era

    Screens are everywhere - our phones, our kids’ devices, the endless noise of background TV - and sometimes it feels impossible to step away. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda get real about the messy, imperfect process of setting digital boundaries for themselves and their kids. From bedtime routines to doom-scrolling traps, they share the highs, lows, and lessons of trying to find balance between technology and true self-care. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why screen time can feel both like a lifesaver and an energy drain for momsHow Jill and Linda handle screen time differently with toddlers, tweens, and teensThe role of boundaries in protecting your peace, especially around noise and overstimulationWhy digital boundaries are self-care, not just rulesSimple strategies like “Do Not Disturb” mode, non-digital self-care blocks, and limiting device accessHow to reframe screen use into intentional connection and creativity Digital boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace and being intentional with how screens show up in your family life. Whether it’s cutting off phone use at night, making space for non-digital self-care, or navigating kids’ ever-growing appetite for technology, Jill and Linda remind us that boundaries create room for more presence, calm, and connection.   Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛   📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    27 min

  8. 09/14/2025

    Setting Boundaries as Self-Care: How to Protect Your Energy

    Boundaries - so simple to say, yet so messy to live out. In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda dive deep into the highs and lows of motherhood, illness, family dynamics, and the complicated art of boundary setting. From sick kids and shifting routines to navigating boundaries with toddlers, teens, and even extended family, this conversation gets real about how boundaries and self-care overlap, clash, and sometimes crumble. In this episode, you’ll learn: How illness at home can throw boundaries out the window, and where new ones suddenly appearWhy boundaries with kids of different ages can be tricky to balanceThe tension between self-care and parenting responsibilities (and why “just read a book” isn’t always that easy)How to separate your energy from your child’s big emotionsWhy boundary-setting is both a form of self-care and a setup for self-careThe ongoing process of unlearning unhealthy boundaries while teaching healthier ones Boundaries are rarely neat, but they are necessary. Whether it’s saying no to family expectations, holding space for a crying toddler, or giving yourself permission to step away and breathe, boundary-setting is both self-care in itself and the pathway toward it. Join Jill and Linda as they remind you that boundaries aren’t about perfection, they’re about protecting your peace, even when it feels messy.   Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck! 💛   📩 Need help figuring out where to start with self-care? Message us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com and we’ll send our favorite five simple ideas.👋 Find Jill @mamaoutspoken and mamaoutspoken.com💬 Connect with Linda @hellolindabonney or lindabonney.com

    25 min
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A podcast for moms about the real, raw, and unscripted perspectives of guilt-free self-care by two moms across the globe. This unedited podcast is real life and their personal experiences told in friendly conversation style. Advocating for all moms who have mucked up their self care. There are so many others out there that aren't successfully solving the real problem of trying to figure out what self-care is. We want to bring to light the reality of what self-care can look like for moms who struggle to fit it in, don't know what will work for them, and the ways that it hasn't worked. We want to have conversations about the guilt we feel when we are pressured to mother ourselves when we don't know how and aren't given the support to in our society today.

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  • Creator
    Jill Olish and Linda Bonney
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    127
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2025 Jill Olish and Linda Bonney
  • Show Website
    Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast