Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild

Katie Rössler
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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

  1. 3D AGO

    Dear Katie: How Do I Become Emotionally Available After Living in Survival Mode?

    Send us a text Some relationships don’t begin with romance. They begin with survival. In this deeply moving Dear Katie episode, Katie responds to a letter from a partner who was abandoned with a newborn, struggled through postpartum depression, and entered a new relationship that quickly became about holding life together—not building intimacy. Years later, the weight of that beginning has caught up with them. If you’ve ever thought: “They did everything for me… and I don’t know how to give it back.”“I shut down emotionally and I don’t know how to open up.”“We skipped learning how to be partners because we were just trying to survive.”This episode is for you. Katie gently unpacks why emotional availability isn’t something you can force or perform your way into—and how unprocessed grief, abandonment, chronic stress, and survival-mode coping quietly shut down intimacy over time. She explains the difference between dependency and connection, why shame keeps couples stuck, and what it actually takes to move out of emotional shutdown and into real vulnerability. You’ll walk away with: A reframe that replaces self-blame with self-understandingPractical first steps to regulate your nervous system before “big talks”Language to begin honest, non-defensive conversations with your partnerGuidance on where grief belongs—and why your partner can’t be the place you process itThis episode is raw, compassionate, and hopeful—especially if you’re realizing you want more emotional closeness but don’t know where to start. Register for the upcoming Masterclass HERE. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    14 min

  2. JAN 7

    Stop Letting Life Run Your Relationship: A New Way to Plan as a Couple

    Send us a text It’s a new year, and if you’re being honest, you might be thinking, “We can’t do our relationship the same way we did last year.” Maybe life hit hard. Maybe stress piled up. Maybe nothing was “wrong,” but you’ve started to feel more like roommates than partners. If that’s you, you’re not alone. In this episode of Relationship Reset, Katie gets real about what happens when busy, capable couples stop being intentional—and how easily a marriage can slip into survival mode. Drawing from her own relationship after a brutally hard year, she walks you through how to plan your year like a power couple...not with pressure, spreadsheets, or performance reviews, but with alignment. You’ll learn why individual goals can quietly pull couples apart, and how shared goals bring you back into teamwork. Katie explains the difference between fix-it mode and feel-it mode, why assumptions fuel resentment, and how creating a shared direction can completely shift the way you handle conflict, stress, and connection. She also breaks down the three core areas every couple should focus on when planning their year: Connection – how you want to feel togetherGrowth – how you’re stretching in healthy waysSupport – how you actually show up for each otherYou’ll leave with simple, doable steps you can start this week—including choosing a word for your relationship and scheduling intentional time that actually sticks. If you’re ready to get out of autopilot and choose your relationship on purpose, this episode is your starting point. REGISTER FOR THE MASTERCLASS HERE Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    13 min
  3. Part 2: Love or Logistics? The Simple Question That Changes Everything

    12/31/2025

    Part 2: Love or Logistics? The Simple Question That Changes Everything

    Send us a text If you’ve ever thought, “We talk all the time… so why does it still feel like we’re missing each other?”—this episode is for you. In Part Two of The Power Couple Paradox, Katie breaks down exactly why communication keeps unraveling in high-achieving relationships—and more importantly, how to fix it without adding more pressure, more emotional labor, or another thing to do at the end of an already exhausting day. This isn’t about perfect communication. It’s about feeling like you’re on the same team again. In this episode, you’ll learn why most couples don’t need to talk more—they need better containers for conversations. Katie introduces a powerful (and surprisingly relieving) reframe: separating love conversations from logistics conversations. When everything gets mixed together—feelings, resentment, schedules, mental load—communication quickly turns into shutdowns, snapping, or avoidance. You’ll be guided through two simple weekly meetings that change everything: A Relationship Check-In focused on connection, appreciation, and emotional safetyA Chief Household Officer (CHO) Meeting focused on planning, roles, and systemsKatie also explains how performance mode impacts tone, why intent and impact matter more than being “right,” and how one simple question—“Is this love or logistics?”—can instantly de-escalate conflict. Your takeaway? You’re not failing. You’re overloaded. And with a little structure, communication can feel lighter, safer, and more connected again. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    14 min
  4. Part 1: When Success Hurts Connection - The Power Couple Paradox

    12/25/2025

    Part 1: When Success Hurts Connection - The Power Couple Paradox

    Send us a text You’re confident, capable, and communicate just fine at work. So why does talking to the person you love most feel… harder? If you’ve ever thought, “Why can I handle tough conversations everywhere else, but at home a comment about the dishes turns into tension, shutdown, or silence?”—this episode is for you. In Part One of the two-part series, The Power Couple Paradox, Katie unpacks why high-achieving couples often struggle with communication, even when they’re deeply committed, emotionally intelligent, and genuinely want things to be better. This isn’t about blame. And it’s definitely not about trying harder. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why success at work can actually work against connection at homeHow “performance mode” sneaks into relationships—and quietly erodes intimacyWhy conflict feels more intense with your partner than with colleaguesThe hidden cost of living in logistics-only conversationsWhy feeling lonely together is more common than anyone admitsKatie normalizes what so many couples experience after years of building careers, raising families, and managing full lives: you become great teammates… but something feels missing. You’re efficient, functional, and exhausted—and connection gets deprioritized without anyone meaning for it to happen. This episode is about awareness, not fixing. Because once you understand why this pattern exists, you can stop blaming yourself and your partner—and start changing how you relate. 🎧 Listen now, and sit with one powerful question this week: Where have we been operating in performance mode instead of connection mode? And don’t miss Part Two, where Katie walks you through exactly how to shift this—without adding more to your already full plate. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    9 min
  5. Dear Katie: Our Conflict Cycle Is Quietly Breaking Connection

    12/17/2025

    Dear Katie: Our Conflict Cycle Is Quietly Breaking Connection

    Send us a text What happens when one partner reaches for connection… and the other shuts down completely? If you’ve ever tried to share something vulnerable only to be met with silence, defensiveness, or days of emotional distance, this episode is for you. In this Dear Katie episode, Katie responds to a heartfelt letter from a couple married for 14 years who feel stuck in a painful loop: one partner reaches out to repair, the other withdraws to cope, and both end up feeling rejected, overwhelmed, and alone. Katie breaks down why this dynamic is so common in long-term, high-achieving couples — especially those navigating stress, parenting, and life transitions. You’ll learn how attachment styles collide during conflict, why shutdown often has more to do with feeling like a failure than not caring, and how long silences can quietly erode connection when repair doesn’t happen. One of the most eye-opening parts of this episode? The couple communicates better through writing than face-to-face conversations. Katie unpacks whether that’s healthy (spoiler: it absolutely can be) and how to use writing as a bridge, not a barrier, to deeper connection. You’ll walk away with practical tools you can use this week, including: How to pause without disappearing during conflictWhy writing helps your “wise adult” lead instead of your reactive patternsA simple structure for sharing feelings without triggering shame or defensivenessA powerful homework exercise to break the shutdown cycle for goodIf you and your partner love each other but keep missing each other in hard conversations, this episode will help you feel seen — and give you a clear path forward. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    19 min
  6. Holiday Personalities Gone Wild: How Couples Stay Sane Together

    12/10/2025

    Holiday Personalities Gone Wild: How Couples Stay Sane Together

    Send us a text Raise your hand (mentally!) if the holiday season brings out at least one big personality in your family—the spotlight stealer, the over-helper who won’t let anyone help, the “everything must revolve around me” relative, or the perfectionist who treats table settings like a NASA launch sequence. If your hand went up, welcome to December… the month when love is warm, lights are twinkly, and everyone’s stress responses are dialed up to 100.  In this week’s episode, Katie breaks down the four difficult personality types that flare during the holidays—the narcissist, the codependent, the entitled, and the perfectionist—and explains why these behaviors intensify this time of year. More importantly, she gives you the tools you and your partner need to stay grounded, connected, and fully in your adult selves (not the inner teen who wants to bolt from the dinner table).  You’ll learn: How to “be the rock” when a narcissist tries to create emotional wavesThe one-offer rule that keeps you out of codependent burnoutWhy entitlement thrives in vagueness—and how clear expectations shut it downHow to support perfectionists without getting swallowed by their stressThe couple rituals and boundaries that prevent post-gathering argumentsIf you and your partner want to walk into holiday events as a united front instead of a stressed-out duo bracing for impact, this episode gives you the roadmap. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    14 min
  7. When Opposites Attract (and Annoy): How Marie Kept Her Marriage Alive

    12/03/2025

    When Opposites Attract (and Annoy): How Marie Kept Her Marriage Alive

    Send us a text Long-term love isn’t just romance and roses—it’s late-night talks, feeling like roommates sometimes, cultural clashes over Christmas… and still choosing each other anyway. In this episode, I sit down with Marie, a French entrepreneur living in Germany, who’s been with her German husband for 26 years. She shares how they went from a slow-burn love story (including a very delayed first kiss at Oktoberfest!) to building a life with three kids, two cultures, and very different personalities under one roof. We talk about what it really looks like when opposites attract—Marie is the energetic butterfly, her husband the calm, steady rock—and how that dynamic can be both comforting and incredibly frustrating. Marie opens up about the season where she felt invisible, more like a vase on the table than a woman and partner, and the courageous conversation that became a turning point in their marriage. You’ll hear: How they kept intimacy and connection alive while raising three little onesWhat to do when you feel taken for granted or like “just roommates”Why you can’t change your partner—but you can change how you relateHow bicultural couples can honor both traditions without losing themselvesIf you’ve ever wondered, “Is this it?” in your long-term relationship, this episode will give you hope, language, and next steps. Connect with Marie Website Instagram LinkedIn Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    34 min
  8. Two Habits That Quietly Destroy Relationships

    11/26/2025

    Two Habits That Quietly Destroy Relationships

    Send us a text In this off-the-cuff episode, Katie hits pause on her original holiday plan and gets real about something bigger: the quiet habits many couples are carrying into 2026 that will quietly wreck their relationship if they don’t change. Instead of another “fix your partner” conversation, Katie flips the script and invites you to ask a harder question: Am I being the version of myself I want to be in my ideal relationship? She walks you through getting clear on what a “level 10” relationship looks like—your communication, shared responsibilities, trust, respect, and how you dream together—and then helps you see who you would be in that kind of partnership. You’ll also learn about “sandpaper moments”: those irritating, triggering behaviors your partner has that feel like rubbing your nervous system the wrong way. Katie shows you how to sort out what’s just an annoyance versus what’s bumping into old wounds from your past… and how to talk about it without blaming, shaming, or expecting your partner to magically read your mind. If you’re ready to drop the finger-pointing, own your 50%, and start making 2% shifts each day toward the relationship you actually want, this episode is your holiday reset. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    20 min
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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

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