Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild

Katie Rössler
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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

  1. Dear Katie: Our Conflict Cycle Is Quietly Breaking Connection

    DEC 17

    Dear Katie: Our Conflict Cycle Is Quietly Breaking Connection

    Send us a text What happens when one partner reaches for connection… and the other shuts down completely? If you’ve ever tried to share something vulnerable only to be met with silence, defensiveness, or days of emotional distance, this episode is for you. In this Dear Katie episode, Katie responds to a heartfelt letter from a couple married for 14 years who feel stuck in a painful loop: one partner reaches out to repair, the other withdraws to cope, and both end up feeling rejected, overwhelmed, and alone. Katie breaks down why this dynamic is so common in long-term, high-achieving couples — especially those navigating stress, parenting, and life transitions. You’ll learn how attachment styles collide during conflict, why shutdown often has more to do with feeling like a failure than not caring, and how long silences can quietly erode connection when repair doesn’t happen. One of the most eye-opening parts of this episode? The couple communicates better through writing than face-to-face conversations. Katie unpacks whether that’s healthy (spoiler: it absolutely can be) and how to use writing as a bridge, not a barrier, to deeper connection. You’ll walk away with practical tools you can use this week, including: How to pause without disappearing during conflictWhy writing helps your “wise adult” lead instead of your reactive patternsA simple structure for sharing feelings without triggering shame or defensivenessA powerful homework exercise to break the shutdown cycle for goodIf you and your partner love each other but keep missing each other in hard conversations, this episode will help you feel seen — and give you a clear path forward. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    19 min
  2. Holiday Personalities Gone Wild: How Couples Stay Sane Together

    DEC 10

    Holiday Personalities Gone Wild: How Couples Stay Sane Together

    Send us a text Raise your hand (mentally!) if the holiday season brings out at least one big personality in your family—the spotlight stealer, the over-helper who won’t let anyone help, the “everything must revolve around me” relative, or the perfectionist who treats table settings like a NASA launch sequence. If your hand went up, welcome to December… the month when love is warm, lights are twinkly, and everyone’s stress responses are dialed up to 100.  In this week’s episode, Katie breaks down the four difficult personality types that flare during the holidays—the narcissist, the codependent, the entitled, and the perfectionist—and explains why these behaviors intensify this time of year. More importantly, she gives you the tools you and your partner need to stay grounded, connected, and fully in your adult selves (not the inner teen who wants to bolt from the dinner table).  You’ll learn: How to “be the rock” when a narcissist tries to create emotional wavesThe one-offer rule that keeps you out of codependent burnoutWhy entitlement thrives in vagueness—and how clear expectations shut it downHow to support perfectionists without getting swallowed by their stressThe couple rituals and boundaries that prevent post-gathering argumentsIf you and your partner want to walk into holiday events as a united front instead of a stressed-out duo bracing for impact, this episode gives you the roadmap. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    14 min
  3. When Opposites Attract (and Annoy): How Marie Kept Her Marriage Alive

    DEC 3

    When Opposites Attract (and Annoy): How Marie Kept Her Marriage Alive

    Send us a text Long-term love isn’t just romance and roses—it’s late-night talks, feeling like roommates sometimes, cultural clashes over Christmas… and still choosing each other anyway. In this episode, I sit down with Marie, a French entrepreneur living in Germany, who’s been with her German husband for 26 years. She shares how they went from a slow-burn love story (including a very delayed first kiss at Oktoberfest!) to building a life with three kids, two cultures, and very different personalities under one roof. We talk about what it really looks like when opposites attract—Marie is the energetic butterfly, her husband the calm, steady rock—and how that dynamic can be both comforting and incredibly frustrating. Marie opens up about the season where she felt invisible, more like a vase on the table than a woman and partner, and the courageous conversation that became a turning point in their marriage. You’ll hear: How they kept intimacy and connection alive while raising three little onesWhat to do when you feel taken for granted or like “just roommates”Why you can’t change your partner—but you can change how you relateHow bicultural couples can honor both traditions without losing themselvesIf you’ve ever wondered, “Is this it?” in your long-term relationship, this episode will give you hope, language, and next steps. Connect with Marie Website Instagram LinkedIn Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    34 min
  4. Two Habits That Quietly Destroy Relationships

    NOV 26

    Two Habits That Quietly Destroy Relationships

    Send us a text In this off-the-cuff episode, Katie hits pause on her original holiday plan and gets real about something bigger: the quiet habits many couples are carrying into 2026 that will quietly wreck their relationship if they don’t change. Instead of another “fix your partner” conversation, Katie flips the script and invites you to ask a harder question: Am I being the version of myself I want to be in my ideal relationship? She walks you through getting clear on what a “level 10” relationship looks like—your communication, shared responsibilities, trust, respect, and how you dream together—and then helps you see who you would be in that kind of partnership. You’ll also learn about “sandpaper moments”: those irritating, triggering behaviors your partner has that feel like rubbing your nervous system the wrong way. Katie shows you how to sort out what’s just an annoyance versus what’s bumping into old wounds from your past… and how to talk about it without blaming, shaming, or expecting your partner to magically read your mind. If you’re ready to drop the finger-pointing, own your 50%, and start making 2% shifts each day toward the relationship you actually want, this episode is your holiday reset. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    20 min
  5. Dear Katie: How Do I Prevent Another Holiday Meltdown Between Us?

    NOV 19

    Dear Katie: How Do I Prevent Another Holiday Meltdown Between Us?

    Send us a text Family visits + cultural differences + emotional shutdowns + holiday pressure… if your chest tightened just reading that, you are not alone. In this Dear Katie episode, we dive into a listener letter from a long-married couple navigating a sudden rupture: a household fight, parents visiting from abroad, a partner shutting down, and the fallout nobody saw coming. In today’s conversation, I break down what was really happening underneath the surface of this moment—because coldness and rudeness never show up out of nowhere. We talk about emotional bandwidth, cultural vulnerability, language as a form of grounding, and how the “adaptive child” in both partners can take over when shame or insecurity hits. Then we get practical (you know I always do). You’ll learn the exact structure for a 15-minute repair conversation that prevents multi-day spirals, how to anchor tough talks to shared values, how to actually listen without correcting, and how to create a holiday plan that protects both partners from overwhelm. We also cover code words, nightly debriefs, and the holiday “stress map” that helps high-achieving couples feel like a team instead of emotional referees. If you’re dreading an upcoming family visit—or if your partner tends to shut down when pressure rises—this episode will help you move from rupture to repair with clarity, empathy, and strategy. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    20 min
  6. When the Dream You Built No Longer Fits: How to Realign Your Relationship Vision

    NOV 12

    When the Dream You Built No Longer Fits: How to Realign Your Relationship Vision

    Send us a text You worked hard to build the dream—the home, the business, the family, the life you both said you wanted. But now, something feels… off. You’ve checked all the boxes, yet you’re looking around wondering, “Is this still what we want—or just what we said we wanted?” In this week’s episode of Relationship Reset, we’re talking about what happens when high-achieving couples realize they’ve outgrown their original dream—and how to realign your shared vision so it actually fits who you are now. Katie shares the story of Mark and Elena, a couple who built a beautiful life together only to realize their dream no longer matched the people they’d become. From that powerful moment came a process to help couples pivot with purpose instead of panic. You’ll learn: How to recognize when success has become a mask for disconnectionWhy identity shifts are a natural (and healthy) part of long-term loveA practical 3-step “Vision Realignment Process” to reset your shared goalsThis conversation is your reminder that growth doesn’t mean failure—it means evolution. Your relationship isn’t ending; it’s asking for an upgrade. 💡 Ready to start your next chapter together? Get the Couple's Vision & Goal Setting Workbook Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    14 min
  7. Men, Perimenopause & Partnership: How to Show Up with Laurence Finn

    NOV 5

    Men, Perimenopause & Partnership: How to Show Up with Laurence Finn

    Send us a text Hot flashes get all the headlines, but the real story of perimenopause is happening in our homes, our beds, and our conversations. In this episode, I’m joined by Laurence Finn, a husband of 36 years turned fierce advocate for women’s hormonal health, to explore how men can better support their partners through perimenopause and beyond. We break down the basics (peri vs. menopause vs. post), the symptoms people don’t talk about (sleep disruption, brain changes, oral health, tinnitus), and why empathy—not fixing—is the foundation of thriving together. You’ll hear practical ways men can show up: lead with “I’m not trying to fix you,” get curious instead of defensive, and offer support in small, consistent ways (think dishes, laundry, foot rubs—with no expectations attached). We also dig into HRT myths, why informed medical care matters, how to restart intimacy (hello, Monday-to-Friday foreplay strategy), and a simple conversation-starter survey couples can use tonight. Lawrence also challenges men to champion menopause policies at work and to learn this for their daughters’ future, too. Listen in for real talk, relationship tools, and a reminder: you’re in transition, and you don’t have to navigate it alone. Get the Conversation Guide Here Connect with Laurence:  Instagram @menmeetmenopause Website: https://www.menmeetmenopause.com/ Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    48 min
  8. You’re Great at Communication… Just Not With Each Other

    OCT 29

    You’re Great at Communication… Just Not With Each Other

    Send us a text You can run a board meeting like a boss, handle clients with grace, and lead your team like a pro—but somehow, when it comes to talking with your partner, all that communication brilliance disappears. Suddenly, one sideways comment and you’re defensive, shutting down, or mentally checking out, wondering, “Why can’t I communicate at home like I do at work?” In this episode of Relationship Reset, Katie Rössler breaks down why your brain switches from CEO mode to adaptive child mode the moment emotions get involved—and what to do about it. You’ll learn how your nervous system reacts differently in love than it does in business, and how to bring your calm, confident self back online when conversations get heated. Katie shares practical tools like her three-breath reset ritual, the pause between modes, and how to identify whether your business brain or adaptive child is running the show. Plus, she offers simple mindset shifts—like swapping efficiency for empathy—that can transform everyday tension into deeper connection. If you’ve ever felt like a rockstar communicator everywhere except in your relationship, this one’s for you. You don’t need new skills—you need new awareness. 👉 Listen now and learn how to communicate with connection, not control. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    13 min
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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

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