Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild

Katie Rössler
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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

  1. 2D AGO

    Dear Katie: How Do I Support My Partner Through Family Drama?

    Send a text Have you ever looked at your partner — the capable, steady, high-achieving person you built a life with — and thought, I know something is hurting them… I just don’t know how to reach it? Maybe their childhood looked perfectly fine on paper. Two parents. Stable home. No obvious trauma. And yet, underneath it all, there’s something tender. Something that surfaces when stress hits. When aging parents decline. When old sibling dynamics flare up. In this Dear Katie episode, I respond to a thoughtful wife navigating exactly that. Her husband grew up in a seemingly loving home — but with subtle narcissistic traits, scapegoating dynamics, and comparison trauma that left deeper wounds than anyone realized. Now, as his father faces dementia and family tension increases, those old roles are being activated again. We talk about: The hidden impact of being the “scapegoat” childWhy grief makes old childhood wounds louderThe difference between being your partner’s anchor vs. their healerHow to protect your marriage from extended family trianglesThree practical tools you can start using this weekIf you’re navigating aging parents, complicated in-laws, or watching your strong partner quietly carry more than they should — this episode will help you support them without losing yourself in the process. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    13 min

  2. FEB 18

    When Your Inner Child Runs Your Marriage

    Send a text Have you ever been mid-argument and suddenly thought, Oh no… I sound exactly like my mom? Or maybe you shut down and realized, Wow. That was my dad 100%? If you’ve been with your partner for 10, 15, 20 years, you already know this: most of your repeat conflicts aren’t just about dishes, schedules, or tone of voice. They’re about old survival strategies running quietly in the background. In this episode, we’re talking about how to break generational cycles in your relationship—without blaming your parents, shaming yourself, or pretending it’s not happening. Because for high-achieving couples who want a long-term, deeply connected partnership, this work isn’t optional. It’s foundational. You’ll learn: The difference between your wounded child and adaptive child—and why it matters in conflictHow inherited family roles silently shape your marriageWhy healthy couples still experience disharmony (and what they do differently)Three practical steps you can use this week to start updating your “relationship software”Breaking generational patterns doesn’t mean becoming perfect. It means becoming conscious. It means recognizing when 10-year-old you is driving the conversation—and choosing differently. If this resonates, don’t miss my upcoming masterclass where we’ll go deeper into recognizing and rewriting these inherited patterns together.  REGISTER FOR THE MASTERCLASS HERE Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    12 min
  3. Sex, Stress, and Safety in Long-Term Love

    FEB 11

    Sex, Stress, and Safety in Long-Term Love

    Send a text If sex and intimacy have quietly slipped to the bottom of your priority list—and now feel awkward, pressured, or just… gone—you’re not alone. Many couples don’t start by saying, “We’re struggling sexually.” They say, “We feel disconnected,” “We’re resentful,” or “We’re basically roommates.” And here’s the truth: intimacy doesn’t fade in isolation. It fades when the core of the relationship feels unsafe, stressed, or misaligned. In this episode of Relationship Reset, Katie is joined by somatic experiencing practitioner and intimacy coach Molly Eames for a refreshingly honest conversation about sexual desire, aging, and what intimacy actually needs in your 40s and 50s. Together, they unpack why desire isn’t something to “fix,” but something to listen to—and why changing desire levels are not a sign that something is wrong with you or your partner. You’ll hear how stress, burnout, resentment, hormonal shifts, and lack of emotional safety directly impact physical connection—for both partners. Molly shares powerful insights on co-regulation, nervous system safety, and the six different “intimacy buckets” couples can explore when sex feels hard or off the table. (Spoiler: penetration is not the only path to closeness.) This episode is for couples who want to stop blaming themselves or each other—and start getting curious, compassionate, and connected again. So if you’re wondering when the last time you had sex was…and it feels like a long time ago—take a breath. You’re in a safe space. Grab a warm drink and press play. Listen now and start rebuilding intimacy in a way that actually fits this season of your relationship. Molly's Instagram  Molly's Website Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    38 min

  4. FEB 4

    Dear Katie: How Long Can I Carry a Relationship Alone?

    Send a text What happens when you’re doing all the work in your relationship—and your partner just… isn’t? In this Dear Katie episode of Relationship Reset, Katie reads a powerful letter from a listener who has been carrying the emotional, mental, and relational load for years. She’s been in therapy. She’s done the reflection. She’s managed the family system. Meanwhile, her husband’s untreated, long-term depression has left her feeling lonely, exhausted, and quietly terrified of one question: What if I keep growing and my partner doesn’t? If you’ve ever wondered how much longer you can hold everything together on your own, this episode is for you. Katie breaks down one of the most painful dynamics high-achieving couples face: when one partner is deeply invested in personal growth and emotional health, while the other is stuck in survival mode. She explains why you can’t love someone into therapy, why pressure doesn’t create change, and how depression quietly shapes beliefs like “life is just meant to be hard.” Most importantly, Katie gets practical. You’ll learn: What is and isn’t actually in your controlHow to stop carrying the relationship alone without blowing it upWhy boundaries inspire more change than pushing ever willA simple sentence that can start shifting the dynamic immediatelyThis episode isn’t about giving up hope—it’s about pairing hope with clarity, boundaries, and self-respect. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    10 min

  5. JAN 28

    From Blowups to Repair: How Strong Couples Lead Emotionally

    Send a text Have you ever started a conversation about something small—like the dishes—and somehow ended up questioning your entire relationship? You’re tired, it’s late, emotions are high… and suddenly it feels like everything escalated way faster than you expected. If that sounds familiar, you’re not broken—and your relationship isn’t failing. You’re just bumping up against something most of us were never taught: emotional leadership. In this episode of Relationship Reset, Katie breaks down what emotional leadership actually looks like in real life—not in theory, not when you’re perfectly calm, but in the middle of busy schedules, family stress, and emotional exhaustion. You’ll learn why logic doesn’t save heated conversations, how your tone shapes the outcome more than your words, and why taking responsibility calms conflict faster than explaining yourself ever will. Katie also walks you through common long-term relationship patterns (hello, fire and ice), why conversations spiral when there’s a lot under the surface, and how “problem stacking” quietly overwhelms even the strongest couples. Most importantly, she shares practical tools you can use immediately to slow things down, stay focused, and repair faster—even when the conversation gets messy. This isn’t about being calm all the time or saying things perfectly. It’s about being more intentional, more often—especially when life is full and you care deeply about getting it right. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    13 min
  6. From Corporate Burnout to Feeling Like a Team Again

    JAN 21

    From Corporate Burnout to Feeling Like a Team Again

    Send a text Most couples don’t talk enough with other couples about what’s really happening in their relationship. And when we don’t? We start to believe we’re the only ones struggling behind closed doors. In today’s episode of Relationship Reset, Katie sits down with Josefine Wanner, a LinkedIn strategist, entrepreneur, and one half of a 25-year marriage that has weathered a lot: burnout, career pivots, entrepreneurship, raising kids, and even a malignant tumor diagnosis—all at the same time. Josefine shares the honest, behind-the-scenes story of how she and her husband navigated dual burnout, the pressure of corporate life, and the moment when “everything looks good on paper” stopped being enough. You’ll hear how her husband’s burnout became a catalyst for deeper reflection, how resentment can quietly build when one partner feels stuck, and what it really takes to support each other through massive life transitions without losing yourselves—or each other. This conversation is especially powerful for high-achieving couples who are juggling demanding careers, parenting, and big dreams while trying not to drift into roommate mode. Josephine offers real insight into shared values, navigating change as a team, redefining roles at home and in business, and why communication doesn’t have to look the same for both partners to work. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it just us?”—this episode is your reminder that you’re not alone, and that growth is possible, even in the hardest seasons. Connect with Josefine:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/josefine-wanner/  https://www.youtube.com/@josefinewanner https://www.instagram.com/josefinewanner/ https://www.facebook.com/josefine.wanner/ https://www.josefinewanner.com  Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    39 min

  7. JAN 14

    Dear Katie: How Do I Become Emotionally Available After Living in Survival Mode?

    Send a text Some relationships don’t begin with romance. They begin with survival. In this deeply moving Dear Katie episode, Katie responds to a letter from a partner who was abandoned with a newborn, struggled through postpartum depression, and entered a new relationship that quickly became about holding life together—not building intimacy. Years later, the weight of that beginning has caught up with them. If you’ve ever thought: “They did everything for me… and I don’t know how to give it back.”“I shut down emotionally and I don’t know how to open up.”“We skipped learning how to be partners because we were just trying to survive.”This episode is for you. Katie gently unpacks why emotional availability isn’t something you can force or perform your way into—and how unprocessed grief, abandonment, chronic stress, and survival-mode coping quietly shut down intimacy over time. She explains the difference between dependency and connection, why shame keeps couples stuck, and what it actually takes to move out of emotional shutdown and into real vulnerability. You’ll walk away with: A reframe that replaces self-blame with self-understandingPractical first steps to regulate your nervous system before “big talks”Language to begin honest, non-defensive conversations with your partnerGuidance on where grief belongs—and why your partner can’t be the place you process itThis episode is raw, compassionate, and hopeful—especially if you’re realizing you want more emotional closeness but don’t know where to start. Register for the upcoming Masterclass HERE. Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    14 min

  8. JAN 7

    Stop Letting Life Run Your Relationship: A New Way to Plan as a Couple

    Send a text It’s a new year, and if you’re being honest, you might be thinking, “We can’t do our relationship the same way we did last year.” Maybe life hit hard. Maybe stress piled up. Maybe nothing was “wrong,” but you’ve started to feel more like roommates than partners. If that’s you, you’re not alone. In this episode of Relationship Reset, Katie gets real about what happens when busy, capable couples stop being intentional—and how easily a marriage can slip into survival mode. Drawing from her own relationship after a brutally hard year, she walks you through how to plan your year like a power couple...not with pressure, spreadsheets, or performance reviews, but with alignment. You’ll learn why individual goals can quietly pull couples apart, and how shared goals bring you back into teamwork. Katie explains the difference between fix-it mode and feel-it mode, why assumptions fuel resentment, and how creating a shared direction can completely shift the way you handle conflict, stress, and connection. She also breaks down the three core areas every couple should focus on when planning their year: Connection – how you want to feel togetherGrowth – how you’re stretching in healthy waysSupport – how you actually show up for each otherYou’ll leave with simple, doable steps you can start this week—including choosing a word for your relationship and scheduling intentional time that actually sticks. If you’re ready to get out of autopilot and choose your relationship on purpose, this episode is your starting point. REGISTER FOR THE MASTERCLASS HERE Relationship Game Plan Call Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples Couples Goal Setting Workbook Submit a Dear Katie episode question Follow Katie Rössler on Instagram

    13 min
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Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned. Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.

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