Thrive Again - Your relationship podcast

Michael & Amy
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Guiding a positive redesign in the relationship we have with our partner and ourselves. Offering tools, strategies and personal insights to bring your relationship from barely surviving to thriving.We are Michael and Amy, your couples connection coaches. Our mission is to help relationships to THRIVE again! A bit about us...We met in 2005 and married in 2009, welcomed two children in 2010 and 2012. Our relationship has had many ups and downs since we first met.-  Mental breakdowns from work overload- Massive stresses from a premature baby- Scare with ovarian cancer- Dealing with financial pressures- Not knowing ourselves!This led us to experiencing:- A communication breakdown- Arguments and not understanding each other- Living separately under one roof- Exhaustion! This podcast is for couples and singles who want to unlock their relationship potential using a conscious and holistic approach that brought us back to a state of beautiful harmony. One of the basic human needs is to feel LOVE and CONNECTION but our modern life has led us to feel disconnected and isolated more than ever before. This podcast is all about helping you to RECONNECT as a couple at a deeper, more meaningful, soul level.  Now, both working as coaches we share insights, client breakthroughs and personal stories to move your relationships from barely surviving to absolutely thriving!  www.michaelandamy.com.au

  1. Jun 10

    Attachment, Resentment & Narcissism: Understanding the Patterns Behind Relationship Pain with Clare Rosoman

    When you’re stuck in the same fight, it’s tempting to believe you just need better communication skills. We’ve learned the hard way that the real lever is often deeper: the bond, the emotional safety, and the attachment needs neither of you is saying out loud. We’re joined by Claire Rosoman, a psychologist and EFT trainer who helped shape our own work, to break down what emotionally focused therapy looks like in real relationships. We talk about why secure attachment creates flexibility, how self-protection shows up as “armour”, and why slowing the moment down is the fastest way to find what’s actually happening underneath. Claire shares practical language and memorable metaphors to help couples move from defensive cycles into clearer reaching and responding. We also go into resentment as a cold protest that can drain goodwill over time, plus the tough truth that some “relationship problems” are tangled up with individual issues like addiction and coping strategies. Then we tackle one of the most searched and most misused topics online: narcissism. Claire clarifies narcissistic traits vs narcissistic personality disorder, explains grandiosity, entitlement and gaslighting, and describes the “fog” many empathic partners experience when their reality has been governed for years. We explore what can happen when you finally set a boundary, including the crucial difference between narcissistic patterns and simple misunderstanding or neurodivergence. If you want a grounded, compassionate conversation about EFT for couples, attachment theory, relationship resentment, and navigating narcissistic dynamics with clearer eyes, press play. Subscribe, share with someone who needs support, and leave a review letting us know what landed most for you. Check out https://bceft.com.au/ for resources and courses on this topic. Grab Clare's book here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Emotionally-Focused-Guide-Relationship-Loss/dp/103220561X Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    51 min

  2. May 27

    A Conscious Relationship Starts With Choosing Yourself: With Sara Fiordi & Mark Mack

    The fastest way to reveal your unhealed patterns isn’t another self-help book, it’s getting close to someone you love. We’re Michael and Amy, and we’re joined by somatic and identity coach Sarah Fiordi and her partner Mark, a somatic coach for men, to pull apart the idea of the relationship being a mirror and make it real for everyday couples. We talk about what a conscious relationship actually is: two individuals committing to themselves first, not as a selfish move, but as the foundation for a safer, more intimate partnership. Sarah shares how she began noticing the link between nervous system regulation, relationship dynamics, and even success and visibility in business. Mark adds the other side of the coin: freeze, shutdown, disconnection, and how conscious leadership starts with returning to the body. You’ll hear practical tools for when the spark disappears and the triggers take over, including “the pause” (space to regulate, not a break-up), the SEW method (Sensation, Emotion, Want), and why creating a “void window” can help rewire old evidence of danger into new evidence of safety. We also get honest about the messy part: what happens when one partner grows faster, how criticism can be a nervous system response, and how trust and surrender become the next layer of healing. If you’re searching for conscious relating, somatic coaching, nervous system healing, and real strategies for conflict repair, this one will meet you where you are. Subscribe, share this with your partner, and leave a review so more people can build relationships that help them thrive. Find Mark & Sara here: https://teamunfiltered.com/ Instagram:  Sara: https://www.instagram.com/_sarafiordi?igsh=M2c0ZWwwa2ppMWM5 Mark: https://www.instagram.com/markmack_?igsh=MXh5dW9wenZ0d3I5 Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    53 min

  3. May 15

    3 Things That Feel Like Love...But Aren't

    Love can look calm on the outside while quietly falling apart underneath. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing the right thing” in your relationship but somehow ending up more distant, we’re putting words to why. We unpack three patterns that often get mistaken for love: walking on eggshells, overgiving, and staying quiet about what you feel. We talk about how tiptoeing becomes suppression, why overgiving can come from anxious attachment and a fear of not being chosen, and how unspoken truth doesn’t disappear, it turns into frustration and resentment. Along the way we share what we see in couples every day: when defensiveness becomes the norm, partners stop feeling heard, and connection starts to harden into roommate energy. We also get practical about what actually helps: emotional safety, nervous system regulation, and the ability to sit in discomfort without making it all about you. If two of these three patterns show up on repeat, there’s nothing “wrong” with you, but there is work to do, and it can change faster than you think with the right communication strategy and support. If this resonates, come and say hi, subscribe for more, and share this with someone who needs it. What’s the one pattern you want to break first? Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    17 min

  4. Apr 28

    How To Rebuild Desire & Sexual Intimacy In Long-Term Relationships: With Sexologist Isiah McKimmie

    If your relationship looks great on paper but your physical connection has quietly faded, you’re not broken and you’re definitely not alone. We sit down with Australia’s leading relationship therapist and sexologist Isiah McKimmie to name the real reason intimacy disappears in long-term relationships: it drifts, slowly, until touch feels risky and sex turns into the unspoken tension sitting between you. We unpack why “quick fixes” rarely work and why sexual intimacy can’t be treated like a separate problem to solve. Isiah walks us through the order that actually rebuilds a thriving relationship: get clear on a shared vision, rebuild daily connection, learn to communicate needs without criticism or defensiveness, then bring that safety into the bedroom. Along the way we talk about rejection, guilt, fear, and the stories couples tell themselves when desire doesn’t match. We also go deep on pleasure, tantra, and the nervous system, translating spiritual tools into practical, evidence-based strategies. You’ll hear why relaxation is essential for arousal, what “foreplay” really means, and why many couples benefit from redefining sex beyond penetration and orgasm. Michael and Amy share a 30-day intimacy experiment that became an “embodiment practice”, plus a simple appreciation game you can start tonight to soften resentment and bring warmth back fast. If you want better couples communication, stronger emotional safety, and a sex life that feels connected instead of pressured, press play. After you listen, share this with your partner or a friend, then subscribe and leave a review so more couples can find the support they need. To find Isiah and her amazing work: https://isiah-mckimmie.com/ https://www.instagram.com/isiahmckimmie.sexologist/ Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    47 min

  5. Apr 8

    How to Bring Up Couples Coaching Without Starting a Fight

    Want to ask your partner about couples coaching but worry it’ll blow up into an argument or get met with a cold brick wall? We get it. When a relationship already feels tense or disconnected, even a well-meant suggestion can land like criticism, and the moment you say “we need help”, your partner may hear “you’re the problem”. We unpack why this topic triggers so much resistance and what’s really going on underneath it: fear of failing, fear of being blamed, fear of being exposed, and the very real urge to preserve whatever peace is left. We also talk about the avoidant pattern many couples get stuck in, where one person minimises the problem, compares to “worse” relationships, or promises to “try harder” without a strategy. If you’ve been searching for relationship coaching, couples coaching, communication help, or a healthier alternative to traditional marriage counselling, this is a practical roadmap. Then we get specific: when not to raise it (never mid-fight, never as an ultimatum), how to regulate your nervous system so you don’t come in hot, and the exact kind of “I feel” and “we” language that invites teamwork instead of defensiveness. We show you how to explain why it matters, share your vision for the relationship, and add real ownership for your part so your partner can soften and stay in the room. We also cover what to do if they need time to process, and how to handle common objections around time, money, and “we should fix this ourselves”. If your partner still won’t engage, we’ll point you toward the next best step: begin your own work, shift what you can control, and build safety so repair becomes possible. If this helps, subscribe, share it with someone who needs it, and leave us a review so more couples can find the support they’ve been avoiding. Example Prompts for bringing up the conversation: "I feel like we're disconnected and have been for a long time - I'm scared that we won't be able to improve our communication and connection on our own. I'd like to talk about exploring getting some help." IT TAKES TWO BUT IT STARTS WITH YOU -  2-NIGHT ONLINE WORKSHOP FOR THE PARTNER WHO’S WILLING TO LEAD THE CHANGE — WITHOUT LOSING THEMSELVES. https://michaelandamy.com.au/shop/p/ittakestwodownload Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    26 min

  6. Mar 24

    5 Reasons Men Shut Down

    The moment he goes quiet, it can feel personal. Your mind fills in the blanks: he doesn’t care, he’s checked out, you’re on your own. We get it and we also see another truth again and again in couples coaching: men often shut down because connection has started to feel like pressure instead of safety. We walk through five specific triggers that commonly lead to emotional shutdown, stonewalling, or withdrawal. We talk about what happens when a man is corrected while trying to express himself, why “you can never get it right” slowly kills effort, and how emotional intensity with no room to breathe can overwhelm an already stressed nervous system. We also name the quieter forms of disrespect like tone, eye rolls, sarcasm, and dismissal and why many men experience that as a direct threat to closeness and belonging. Then we land on the painful final pattern: only being seen for what he gets wrong. From there, we shift into solutions you can use immediately to improve relationship communication and rebuild emotional safety: slowing the moment down with simple language, moving from correction to curiosity, acknowledging effort before outcome, using embodiment and breath to stay present, and repairing after conflict without punishment. If you’ve been stuck in the pursue withdraw cycle, this gives you a clearer map back to secure connection. If this resonates, subscribe for more conscious relationship tools, share the episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more couples can find the support. Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    26 min

  7. Mar 10

    The Real Purpose Of A Relationship: Becoming Your Authentic Self Together

    What if the version of you your partner loves is only a mask you built to keep the peace? We pull back the curtain on authenticity in relationships and talk candidly about the armour we wore, the shame that sat under our reactivity, and the exact practices that helped us trade fake harmony for mature love. This is a grounded, practical look at what it takes to be fully seen without turning your partner into your sole emotional regulator. We start with the real cost of people-pleasing and control, then unpack why your nervous system decides the tone long before your mouth opens. From there, we share a simple nervous-system-first approach to conflict: notice the first ten seconds after a trigger, translate the surge into the feeling underneath, and speak from that truth rather than the polished defence. You’ll hear how we use weekly check-ins, clean requests, and honest reflection to stay connected even when the conversation gets hot. We also explore shadow work in plain language: how your partner becomes a mirror for exiled parts of you, and how naming the story “I’m failing” can shift an argument into a moment of healing. For anyone who feels lost in their relationship, we offer a concrete starting point: a one-month self-abandonment log to reveal patterns, plus scripts for setting boundaries without blame. We talk about men’s work, why support networks matter, and how to avoid turning your relationship into a parent-child dynamic. This is not theory—we map the messy middle where authenticity creates short-term tension and long-term safety, and why suppressed emotions eventually show up in your body. If you’re ready to swap performance for presence, hit play and join us. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the one brave sentence you’re committed to saying this week. Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    32 min

  8. Feb 26

    A Man's Guide To Masculine Containment: The Secret To Safety & Desire

    One sharp comment, one quick defence, and the spark can vanish. We open up about the split-second loop that pulls couples from warmth into cold distance—and the quiet skill that pulls you back: masculine containment. Think steady presence under pressure, the kind that hears the message beneath the heat and holds space without flaring up or shutting down. It’s not suppression; it’s structure that lets emotion move without taking the house down. We trace our own pattern: she carried too much, asked for support with an edge, and met a wall of defensiveness. He heard “not enough,” adrenaline hit, and logic left the room. That cycle made Amy hyper-independent and left Michael convinced he had to justify or disappear. We break down the nervous system mechanics behind that spiral, then show how safety precedes desire and how consistency, boundaries, and calm attention rebuild both. Along the way, we answer a key question—yes, there’s a feminine version too—and share how framing, timing, and clear asks reduce misfires. You’ll learn simple, body-first tools to stay present when it’s hot: breath that slows the system, posture that signals steadiness, and language that keeps the focus on care instead of blame. We also dig into the deeper work—naming core emotions, surfacing old “not enough” narratives, and building evidence of reliability—so the relationship stops running on threat and starts moving on trust. Expect practical examples, honest reflections, and steps you can try this week to turn conflict into connection. If you’re ready to replace reactivity with leadership and rekindle desire through safety, listen now—and share it with a partner who wants the same. Then subscribe, leave a review, and tell us your biggest trigger and the tool you’ll practise first. Thankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe. Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/ Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/ Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challenge If you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

    33 min
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Guiding a positive redesign in the relationship we have with our partner and ourselves. Offering tools, strategies and personal insights to bring your relationship from barely surviving to thriving.We are Michael and Amy, your couples connection coaches. Our mission is to help relationships to THRIVE again! A bit about us...We met in 2005 and married in 2009, welcomed two children in 2010 and 2012. Our relationship has had many ups and downs since we first met.-  Mental breakdowns from work overload- Massive stresses from a premature baby- Scare with ovarian cancer- Dealing with financial pressures- Not knowing ourselves!This led us to experiencing:- A communication breakdown- Arguments and not understanding each other- Living separately under one roof- Exhaustion! This podcast is for couples and singles who want to unlock their relationship potential using a conscious and holistic approach that brought us back to a state of beautiful harmony. One of the basic human needs is to feel LOVE and CONNECTION but our modern life has led us to feel disconnected and isolated more than ever before. This podcast is all about helping you to RECONNECT as a couple at a deeper, more meaningful, soul level.  Now, both working as coaches we share insights, client breakthroughs and personal stories to move your relationships from barely surviving to absolutely thriving!  www.michaelandamy.com.au

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