How To Destroy Everything

Hello, I’m really enjoying listening to your podcast. I just listened to the brother episode. Your father was clearly a toxic person who hurt so many people for so many years. It seems that your brother was manipulated into thinking that your mother was in the wrong on many occasions, which, clearly she wasn’t. There is no wonder why your mother was so scared to lose you to your manipulative father, it seemed to work on your brother, he seems brainwashed. He takes your father’s nefarious actions and twists them into something more palatable for him. It doesn’t matter if he’s your father, it doesn’t give him the right to hurt you or anyone else. These stories are interesting but never funny because his actions hurt people. I would never want to be friends or in a relationship with someone like that, would your brother be okay with his kids being friends or in a relationship with someone like your father? Your brother seemed to say that he found your dad amusing and that is upsetting because your dad caused so much pain and conflict and there’s nothing amusing about that. Your dad used and abused so many people and staying away from him was clearly the right thing to do. I do appreciate the way you two had a civil conversation about something so clearly hard to talk about and so personal. You all were traumatized by this man in some way or another and I think with you talking to your family about it will hopefully help you heal. (P.S. I really do hope you understand that your mom did the best that she could with the circumstances she was put in. Your dad was horrible and he took advantage of her and put her up against a rock and a hard place.)

This was an outstanding A+ podcast. The story is phenomenal and absolutely insanely entertaining. But it has gone on too long.

I love this show. There’s too much to say and it’s probably already been said in other POSITIVE comments, but I will say the deep, deep dive is great. With other podcasts, you’re left needing more information, but the pace, amount of episodes and interregnums, and length of each allows a thorough assessment and lots of insight that unfolds gradually similar to how long it takes to understand your own experience and to make sense of what happened to you.

Do it!! We love you both, Brothers Jacobs! And Darren, you nailed it right on the head at the end when you said you were laying out a game plan for those of us that dealt with such similar things with our own fathers and have suffered a great distance in between siblings of not knowing how to breach that distance, and all of us have different feelings about the narcissistic father yet we probably deep down, I know I do, want to rack each of my siblings brains about exactly how they might feel and more importantly how they got through Their relationship with said and I know it’s gonna be a lot different than the way I did but again that distance needs to be breached and it does feel important!!!!!!