Aging Fiercely Podcast

AM Costanzo
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Welcome to the Aging Fiercely Podcast! 💋 Who says life over 40 means slowing down? We’re here to flip the script on aging! Forget the scale and the “summer body” obsession—it’s about building strength, changing the narrative, and experiencing more wild adventures! Midlife isn't a crisis - it's a comeback! 👊 amcostanzo.substack.com

  1. Aug 11

    Our Secret to 40 Years of Friendship: Hold the Drama, Grudges, and Comparison Please

    What does it take to keep the same friend group together for over forty years? In this episode, I'm doing something a little different: I'm on a girls' trip with my three nearest and dearest friends, Jill, Amy, and Deb, the "core four" since fourth grade, and we're talking about what it actually takes to maintain a friendship this long. We got honest about where we all are right now: one of us divorced with no kids, one married with kids and empty nesting, me still knee-deep in carpools and school schedules, and one going through a divorce in real time while the rest of us show up for her. We talked about why we made an annual girls' weekend non-negotiable, how the sandwich generation squeeze of aging parents has made these weekends even more important, and why our friendship has stayed so drama-free and non-transactional. Plus a story about the time our middle school principal literally pulled us out of class to work through a fight, and how playing sports together as teenagers built the teamwork that's carried us through decades. In this conversation: How a friend group that started in fourth grade has lasted over forty yearsWhy we made an annual girls' weekend a non-negotiableNavigating divorce, empty nesting, and the sandwich generation togetherThe difference between a transactional friendship and the real thingThe middle school lesson from our principal that shaped how we handle conflictHow being teammates on a state championship volleyball team built lifelong teamworkOur best advice for other women on aging fiercely Connect with AM: Website: amcostanzo.com YouTube: amcostanzowellness Substack: Aging Fiercely Instagram: aging.fiercely

  2. Jul 21

    A Man's Perspective on Aging Fiercely (And Why Flow State is Harder for Women to Find)

    A man's perspective on aging fiercely — that's what you get in this one, recorded straight from the car on a family road trip through Colorado. I put my husband Tim on the spot and asked him what aging fiercely means to him. We talk about ditching the "slow fade" mindset, why he thinks he's in a constant state of flow (and why I can never get there myself), and the three things he's noticed that nearly every successful person he's studied has in common. It's a slightly bumpy-road conversation about staying young in mindset, taking risks later in life, and why the version of aging fiercely looks so different depending on who's living it. Key Takeaways1. The mental load is a flow-state killer. Tim describes being able to drop into deep, uninterrupted focus for hours — three hours can go by "in five minutes." I push back on that a little, because as a woman carrying the invisible mental load of pickups, groceries, and dinner plans, true flow state feels a lot harder to reach. This is a look at how mental load in midlife shows up differently for men and women, even within the same household. 2. Aging fiercely means rejecting the slow fade. Tim talks about watching people in their seventies and eighties still ripping down the ski mountain and thinking, "that's what I want." Instead of coasting into retirement mode, aging fiercely as a mindset means staying curious, staying active, and refusing to let age dictate what you're capable of. 3. Self-trust is built through self-care, not perfection. Whether it's Tim's observation that almost everyone he's seen interviewed about making their first million also prioritizes their fitness, or my own take that showing up for yourself is what builds self-trust in midlife — the throughline is the same: taking care of yourself isn't vanity, it's the foundation for everything else. Connect with TimTim has a podcast called the MedTech Founders Club on Apple. He is the founder of Vuelab and he is the brains behind the innovative sales enablement tool, Nuvue. (He also thinks he looks like Brad Pitt.)    Connect with AMWebsite: amcostanzo.com   YouTube: amcostanzowellness  Substack: Aging Fiercely  Instagram: aging.fiercely Join the Six-Week Glow Up Experience! Ready for your Glow Up? ✨ I'm running a Six-Week Glow Up Experience — six weeks, six Zoom calls (three with me, three with experts straight from this podcast's guest list). We're talking daily movement, nutrition and macros, and personal development, all pointed at your goals. By the end, you won't be the same woman who started — that's kind of the whole point. Want in? DM me on Instagram at @aging.fiercely and I'll get you on the waitlist to learn more!

  3. Jul 16

    The Importance of Fitting in Fitness | From Journalism to Fitness Studio Owner, Laura Kovall

    Today I sit down with Laura Kovall, owner of The Fit Co in Pleasantville, fellow fitness professional, and someone who has spent her whole life proving that you don't need a perfect schedule to stay consistent - you just need to fit it in. Fitness wasn’t Laura's first career but it kept finding her anyway. She talks about what it took to leave a career in journalism, her philosophy about fitting in fitness — short classes, and meeting people exactly where their real life is instead of where a perfect training plan says it should be — and how consistency is the key to aging fiercely! We also get into listening to your body, knowing the difference between a dull ache you can work through and a sharp pain that means stop, and why a tight muscle sometimes needs strengthening instead of stretching. In this conversation we talk about: How Laura went from journalism to NYPD analyst to owner of a fitness studioWhy classes at The Fit Co are intentionally short, and how that supports consistencyThe difference between a tight muscle and a weak one, and why stretching isn't always the answerWhat's actually going on with knee pain, and why sit-to-stand exercises can help more than squatsHow lower estrogen, not just "getting older," drives a lot of joint pain in midlifeWhy she pulled out of marathon training this year and the importance of listening to your bodyWhy carbs are not the enemy, and why "eating well" doesn't mean eating too littleHer one-word answer for women who want to age fiercely: consistency Connect with Laura Kovall:  Website: The Fit Co  Instagram: @thefitco_by_laura  Studio: The Fit Co,96 Wheeler Ave, Pleasantville, NY (in-person classes and live stream) Connect with AM:  Website: amcostanzo.com  YouTube: amcostanzowellness  Substack: Aging Fiercely  Instagram: aging.fiercely

  4. Jul 7

    Why Losing the Weight Doesn't Fix How You See Yourself

    What happens when you hit every fitness goal and still don't believe the life you're building for yourself is possible? In this episode, I'm the guest on Still in Progress with host Brittany Cates, talking about the pattern I kept seeing after 15 years as a personal trainer: women would lose the weight, do all the workouts, and still feel disconnected from who they were becoming. We get into why intuition and fear can feel like the same sensation in the body, why journaling and stillness practices build self-trust faster than willpower does, and what it actually took for me to walk away from a corporate accounting career in my mid-20s with nothing lined up. This conversation is proof that the real work of reinvention isn't the external stuff, it's learning to trust yourself before you have any evidence it'll work out. Three Key TakeawaysWeight loss and identity change are two separate projects. I've watched clients lose the ten pounds and still not believe their future vision for themselves is possible. That gap, between what you've achieved and what you actually believe about yourself, is where self-sabotage takes root.Intuition and fear can feel identical, so slow down before you react. The question I ask myself and my clients: am I pulling back because I'm afraid of what someone will think of me, or because something is genuinely misaligned? One is fear you can dismantle. The other is worth listening to.Trust is built in tiny, provable increments, not big consistent streaks. Showing up for five seconds and doing it again tomorrow builds more self-trust than one perfect ten-minute meditation you can't sustain. It's not about the amount of time, it's about proving to yourself that you show up.In This ConversationWhy you can't wait until you're certain, you have to become certain that it's okay to be uncertainThe hard question I ask myself before a big decision: can I embrace the suck?How to tell intuition apart from fear when they feel like the same gut sensationWhy journaling, specifically Julia Cameron's morning pages, became the most profound tool I've used to get my thoughts onto the pageThe moment I realized my personal training clients needed something deeper than workouts: a client who couldn't believe her own future vision was possibleWhy I stopped doing hands-on training sessions myself, clients now do their workouts independently while our calls focus on identity and accountability workThe onboarding question that catches clients off guard: do you think you're worthy of feeling good in your body?What an "artist date" is, and why buying yourself a five-dollar sparkly pen matters more than it sounds like it shouldWhy normalizing discomfort is the best strategy for lasting changeTry It YourselfAsk yourself the question that keeps coming up in my own life: where do I fit in my life? Not your workout, not your to-do list, just you. Connect with AMWebsite: amcostanzo.com Instagram: @aging.fiercely YouTube: amcostanzowellness Substack: Aging Fiercely

  5. Jun 30

    I Didn't Plan to Start a Business at 58, I Just Said Yes to a Hike | Libby Harrington

    What does it take to build a whole new chapter in midlife? In this episode, I sit down with Elizabeth Harrington, who said yes to a 48-mile rim-to-rim-to-rim hike across the Grand Canyon before she even fully understood what she was agreeing to. That hike became the origin story of everything that came next. Libby walks me through how training for an endurance event she'd never attempted taught her that strength training, not just cardio, helped her cross the finish lines, and it proved to her that she can do the hard things! After finishing the Grand Canyon, she ran her first marathon, and has run six since then! And at 58, she launched Vital Ventures, a fitness adventure company that trains small groups of midlife men and women for guided trips to places like the Grand Canyon, Alaska, and the Dolomites. (And more locations to come!) This conversation is proof that audacious growth doesn't require a five-year plan. Sometimes it just requires saying yes before you know exactly what you're saying yes to. I loved this conversation as it underscores exactly what Aging Fiercely means! Key TakeawaysStrength training is the engine, not the extra. Libby spent decades believing she "wasn't a runner" because her knees hurt past three miles. It wasn't until she added strength and conditioning to prepare for the Grand Canyon that her body could finally handle distance—cardio alone had never been enough. Small, consistent action beats big, occasional effort. Through Vital Ventures' Vital 100 and Vital 90 challenges, Libby has watched people discover the compounding power of showing up daily, in their fitness and in their belief in themselves.In This ConversationThe invitation that started it all: her sister's 60th birthday hike across the Grand Canyon, rim to rim to rimHow she trained for it: researching, interviewing experts who'd done it before, and building a three-month plan for a family ranging from age 20 to 65Why that hike gave her the confidence to sign up for her first marathon at 55, having never run a half marathonHow a recurring question from other people, "how did you do that at your age?", became the spark for a businessWhat a Vital Ventures adventure actually looks like: three months of training, expert-led nutrition and trail prep, and intimate teams of 8 to 12Why she calls the day-to-day training journey, not the summit or the finish line, where the real growth happensTry It YourselfCurious what living "Vital" could look like for you? Libby offers a free 15-minute conversation, no strings attached, to talk through what an adventure or training program might look like for your life. Details are on her website below. Connect with LibbyWebsite: VitalVentures.live Instagram: @live_vital_ Facebook: Vital Ventures Connect with AMWebsite: amcostanzo.com YouTube: amcostanzowellness Substack: amcostanzo.substack.com Instagram: am_costanzo

  6. Jun 23

    OWN Your Life: Why Smart Midlife Women Can't Break the Reaction Pattern

    What do you do when your life looks good on paper but you still feel anxious, overwhelmed, and disconnected from yourself? In this episode, I sit down with therapist Jodi Baretz to talk about why so many women in midlife are carrying that exact question: why doesn't this feel better? Jodi's answer is that most suffering isn't a life problem; it's an interpretation and reaction problem. We're smart, capable women who have read the books and seen all the Instagrams, but we get stuck reacting on autopilot to a thought, a tone, a text, or silence. Jodi shares her OWN framework as a simple, repeatable way out: Observe your patterns without judgment, Wonder what else might be true, and Navigate one small shift before you react. We get honest about what sits underneath it: the sandwich generation squeeze of kids becoming more independent and parents aging, the way we personalize behavior that is really about someone else's capacity and nervous system, and the expectations we never told anyone we had. Plus the question that reframes almost every conflict: do you want to be right, or do you want the relationship? In this conversation: - Why high functioning women still feel empty and exhausted - The OWN framework: Observe, Wonder, Navigate - Why behavior doesn't equal intent or character - The MOP, a mindful opportunity to practice - Why small experiments beat big overwhelming changes - Why discomfort is a sign it's working - A morning practice for setting an intention before you grab your phone - How ketamine assisted therapy helps people who feel truly stuck Connect with Jodi Baretz, LCSW: Website: JodiBaretz.com Instagram: Therapy with Jodi OWN Your Next Chapter: Virtual, last Tuesday of the month on Zoom, first one free. Details on her website. Connect with AM: Website: amcostanzo.com YouTube: amcostanzowellness Substack: Aging Fiercely Instagram: am_costanzo

  7. Jun 16

    The 4 Pillars Every Woman Over 40 Needs: Movement, Metabolism, Mindset & Meaning

    Midlife transformation is about coming home to who you were always meant to be. In this episode of the Aging Fiercely Podcast, I welcome back 15-time Ironman triathlete and coach Jen Rulon, who packed her bags at 50, built a container home on a hill in Costa Rica after her divorce, and rebuilt her life around four pillars: movement, metabolism, mindset, and meaning. In this conversation we talk about the blocks that keep women over 40 stuck—starting with self-worth and the negative self-talk so many of us run on autopilot. Jen shares a mirror practice that helped her look at herself again after her divorce, why the scale is the last thing you should measure, and how to dig past "I want to lose weight" to the why that keeps you going well past your 40s. If you've ever felt like you don't deserve the life you want, we're here to tell you a new story! Key Takeaways 1. The four pillars that keep her grounded. Movement, metabolism, mindset, and meaning. Movement is the anchor, metabolism the fire, mindset the compass, and meaning the North Star. It's the framework that carried Jen through her divorce and menopause, and it's what she teaches. 2. Self-worth is where it starts. A lot of women don't feel they deserve the good that's coming, the weight loss, the compliment, the next chapter to follow their hearts regardless of other's opinions, so they quietly hold themselves back. You're worth it! 3. Build the body, rebuild the confidence. Jen watched a client get consistent in the gym and it slowly allowed her to build strength in other areas of her life as well. Strength has a way of spilling over. 4. Twenty minutes still counts. So many of us are all-or-nothing. If we can't do the full 45, we do nothing. Jen's says to forget what you don't have, and focus on what do you have? A 10 minute workout can change your whole day! 5. End the night with three thank-yous. Jen's one piece of advice for aging fiercely: before bed, give thanks for your past, your now, and your future. When you do. your perspective shifts. (And perspective is EVERYTHING!) Connect with Jen Website: https://jenrulon.com Instagram: @coachjenrulon Facebook: Coach Jen Rulon TikTok: @coachjenrulon YouTube: Coach Jen Rulon Free Workshop Sign up for AM's FREE monthly workshop, Working on Becoming—Live on Substack the first Tuesday of every month: https://www.amcostanzo.com/free-goal-setting-workshop 🔗Connect With AM Substack: amcostanzo.substack.com YouTube: amcostanzowellness Website: amcostanzo.com

  8. Jun 5

    Stop Trying to Be More Disciplined—This Is the Real Block

    If you keep asking yourself how to be more disciplined—and you're exhausted from starting over again and again—this episode is going to challenge everything you thought the answer was. Because discipline, the way most of us use it, isn't the answer. In this solo episode, I'm talking about why forcing yourself to do the thing you dread never sticks, and why relying on willpower is the reason you can't stay consistent. It's not that you need to try harder. Trying harder is the wrong approach—and when forcing it stops working, we make it mean something about ourselves and start the whole cycle over again. Tune in to find out what's really going on. Key Takeaways 1. Discipline Isn't the Answer—and That's Why You Keep Starting Over Forcing yourself through on willpower feels productive at first, but it's the very reason consistency falls apart and you land right back at square one. Trying harder isn't the fix. 2. If You Dread It and Have to Force It, Something Else Is Going On When you're forcing a goal you dread, that resistance is information—not a sign you need more grit. There's usually a belief underneath that hasn't been addressed. 3. Your Beliefs Become Instructions for Your Results A belief is just an old thought you've repeated until it starts to feel true—and from that belief, you make decisions that act like instructions to the world around you. AM walks you through how to name the self-limiting belief that's blocking you, and a journal prompt to question whether it's even real—so you can stop forcing and start moving forward. 📚 Free Workshop Sign up for AM's FREE monthly workshop, Working on Becoming—Live on Substack the first Tuesday of every month. During the session you set a goal and receive accountability from AM all month long: https://www.amcostanzo.com/free-goal-setting-workshop 🔗 Connect With AM Instagram: am_costanzo Substack: amcostanzo.substack.com Facebook: amcostanzowellness YouTube: amcostanzowellness Website: amcostanzo.com Subscribe to the Aging Fiercely Podcast. New episodes each week for women over 40 who want to live healthier and more active lives! 💬 Let's Continue the Conversation What was your biggest takeaway from this episode? I'd love to hear from you! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast if you found this episode valuable. It helps other people discover the show, and it only takes 30 seconds!! ♥️

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Welcome to the Aging Fiercely Podcast! 💋 Who says life over 40 means slowing down? We’re here to flip the script on aging! Forget the scale and the “summer body” obsession—it’s about building strength, changing the narrative, and experiencing more wild adventures! Midlife isn't a crisis - it's a comeback! 👊 amcostanzo.substack.com

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  • Creator
    AM Costanzo
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    132
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 AM Costanzo
  • Show Website
    Aging Fiercely Podcast

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