The Ebbs and The Flows.

The Ebbs and The Flows

The Ebbs and The Flows is a podcast revolving around the essential questions about the light and shade of our life. The adventures, the challenges, the journeys through grief and trauma, the humour we find in the struggle, the beauty and depth of the experiences we hold close to us individually and the lessons we take from them universally. Warts and all conversations about mental health, the art of feeling and healing, the power of connection and the absurdity of the paths we have trodden and the roadblocks we have encountered. theebbsandtheflows.substack.com

  1. 04/07/2025

    #33 The Things We Carry: Shame

    A seven part series of short podcasts revolving around challenging discussions and topics. The Things We Carry. On this episode, we focus on Shame and the impact it has on individuals, groups and society externally and internally. The Things we Carry is a title inspired by a book that had an indelible impact on me, and still does. Tim O’Brien’s ‘The Things They Carried’ changed me in many ways. It explored the depths of the emotional experience of the Vietnam War for soldiers. As an 17 year old, going to a quality school, surrounded by wealth and privilege, it was an eye-opening exploration of things I’d thought about previously, but put to the side because of course, surely they can’t affect me!?! Trauma, death, the duality of man, the lasting impact of war on soldiers and civilians and the ethical questions that come with fighting a war that seemingly doesn’t have a clear point. The Things We Carry is a look at the internal and external topics that people, particularly men, find difficult to talk about, but carry the impact, the effects, the statistics and the stories along with them. From alcohol to shame to sexuality, racism and big feelings and emotions that drive many of us to dark places, The Things We Carry will explore these challenging topics, but also open up opportunities for growth, development, empathy, understanding and connection. There are dark and difficult themes, as with most of my stuff, but there are also great opportunities for a conversation, learning and opening the door to talking about the hard stuff. Get involved, let us know what you think and check out my new website for an opportunity to book my documentary and for me to speak to your school, workplace or community group. Welcome to a special series – The Things We Carry – a seven part series by The Ebbs and The Flows on things we find difficult to talk about. This is episode two: Shame. The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or in a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For those struggling, or who know somebody who is, help is available: @lifelineaustralia 13 11 14 @beyondblueofficial 1300 22 4636 @headspace_aus 1800 650 890 @kidshelplineau 1800 55 1800 For advice specific to Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander people @13yarn 13 92 76 For LGBTQIA+ specific advice @qlife_aus 1800 184 527 For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #33 The Things We Carry: Shame
  2. 03/25/2025

    #32: The Things We Carry - the darker side of booze

    The Things we Carry is a title inspired by a book that had an indelible impact on me, and still does. Tim O’Brien’s ‘The Things They Carried’ changed me in many ways. It explored the depths of the emotional experience of the Vietnam War for soldiers. As an 17 year old, going to a quality school, surrounded by wealth and privilege, it was an eyeopening exploration of things I’d thought about previously, but put to the side because of course, surely they can’t affect me!?! Trauma, death, the duality of man, the lasting impact of war on soldiers and civilians and the ethical questions that come with fighting a war that seemingly doesn’t have a clear point. The Things We Carry is a look at the internal and external topics that people, particularly men, find difficult to talk about, but carry the impact, the effects, the statistics and the stories along with them. From alcohol to shame to sexuality, racism and big feelings and emotions that drive many of us to dark places, The Things We Carry will explore these challenging topics, but also open up opportunities for growth, development, empathy, understanding and connection. There are dark and difficult themes, as with most of my stuff, but there are also great opportunities for a conversation, learning and opening the door to talking about the hard stuff. Get involved, let us know what you think and check out my new website for an opportunity to book my documentary and for me to speak to your school, workplace or community group. Welcome to a special series – The Things We Carry – a seven part series by The Ebbs and The Flows on things we find difficult to talk about. This is episode one: Alcohol and The Darker elements. The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or in a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For those struggling, or who know somebody who is, help is available: @lifelineaustralia 13 11 14 @beyondblueofficial 1300 22 4636 @headspace_aus 1800 650 890 @kidshelplineau 1800 55 1800 For advice specific to Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander people @13yarn 13 92 76 For LGBTQIA+ specific advice @qlife_aus 1800 184 527 For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #32: The Things We Carry - the darker side of booze
  3. 03/05/2025

    #31 with Jack Davis, founder of It's Cool to Cry: Normalising and frothing our mental health, soaking up the simple pleasures and being proactive when it comes to the hard conversations

    Jack Davis from It's Cool To Cry joins The Ebbs and The Flows for episode 31. There are some heavy themes relating to suicide in this episode, but we do tread lightly. There's also plenty of swears. Other than that, it's a bloody ripper chat with a bloody ripper bloke. Jack has a message that really resonates with me, and many others, when it comes to emotional expression. Crying is cool. It's important to express your emotions, it's important to learn about them, because it allows you to simultaneously feel more connected to yourself and also connected to others. Jack has a compelling reason for starting his apparel and advocacy business, the devastating death by suicide of his partner when he was a younger man, however just as relevant is the reason he continues. Normalising talking about our mental health makes some people squirm, but it doesn't need to. And without an investment in our mental health, we not only duck our heads in the sand in regard to a stark and urgent reality, but we also put ourselves and others at risk of not finding positive and healthy ways to cope with the tricky and difficult parts of life that are inevitably facing us all. A chat I thoroughly enjoyed, and reckon you will too. Check it out on most podcast platforms. Give us a follow, get in touch. All of the stuff. Weird Fishes: (from 45 mins on) Films: Dumb and Dumber & Iron Claw Book: Bodies of Light - Jennifer Down Album: In Waves by Jamie XX Local Reco: Wall Two-80 in Balaclava, Melbourne, Victoria Check out Jack's website here: https://itscooltocry.com/ At the end of the day, we're all just a work in progress. The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or in a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For those struggling, or who know somebody who is, help is available: @lifelineaustralia 13 11 14 @beyondblueofficial 1300 22 4636 @headspace_aus 1800 650 890 @kidshelplineau 1800 55 1800 For advice specific to Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander people @13yarn 13 92 76 For LGBTQIA+ specific advice @qlife_aus 1800 184 527 For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #31 with Jack Davis, founder of It's Cool to Cry: Normalising and frothing our mental health, soaking up the simple pleasures and being proactive when it comes to the hard conversations
  4. 02/02/2025

    #30 with Madeleine Thornton-Smith: Fighting for the rights of precarious workers, solidarity forever, searching for more equitable and safer systems and why the arts are so vital to culture.

    It's our thirtieth episode! And we want our fair share! How come artists and creatives are so often undervalued for their contribution to culture and society? Madeleine Thornton-Smith is an artist, a ceramicist, an art teacher and an activist fighting for fair conditions for creatives and artists across creative industries. She is passionate about the simplicity yet astounding power of what artists can produce, and how much more can be done to support their work and guarantee their emotional and physical safety at work and at home. Join Madeleine and William for a winding conversation about the creative arts, with so many tidbits and takeaways for those looking to learn more about the challenging lay of the land... as well as chatting about what makes Madeleine tick and why she is so passionate about her work, as well as her former work as a carer for those with disabilities, and why Ten Things I Hate About You is the film she cherishes most. Weird Fishes: Album and film: Ten Things I Hate About You and its accompanying soundtrack. Book: A book about Glazers - The artists... I think? Local Recommendation: Samurai in Hawthorn Check out Madeleine's work at @realjobexhibition The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or in a crisis, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For those struggling, or who know somebody who is, help is available: @lifelineaustralia 13 11 14 @beyondblueofficial 1300 22 4636 @headspace_aus 1800 650 890 @kidshelplineau 1800 55 1800 For advice specific to Aboriginal and Torres Strait islander people @13yarn 13 92 76 For LGBTQIA+ specific advice @qlife_aus 1800 184 527 For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #30 with Madeleine Thornton-Smith: Fighting for the rights of precarious workers, solidarity forever, searching for more equitable and safer systems and why the arts are so vital to culture.
  5. 01/23/2025

    #29 with Eliza Hull: 'The Way You Walk is not something you need to hide', Hope is an Action, Love is the way and Running Underwater.

    On this episode of The Ebbs and The Flows, Soft Chats about Hard Stuff, musician, advocate and writer Eliza Hull joins us for a gorgeous, moving and compelling conversation. Eliza is a musician living in rural Victoria, who has released 'Here They Come', an EP in 2023, representing her journey as a person who has come to terms with living with a disability and now performs and champions a vulnerability and acceptance that is contagious. It's also just really beautiful music. As well as a musician and writer, who has performed on ABC's Q and A, opened for Coldplay for their recent tour and released a children's book with Sally Rippon, she is also a mother and proudly fighting for equality and access for all. Eliza's beautiful 'A Note To Self' is one of the highlights of this episode, unyielding in its reflection of travelling tough paths that have seen her grow stronger, more resilient, but also more willing to love and be loved. As always, the episode features 'Me and The World on a Page', 'The 90 Second Nugget', 'Weird Fishes' and 'The Art of The List' amongst many other topics we cover with Eliza. The Art of The List in particular is a truly insightful look into the process for an artist, in both gathering inspiration, but also reflecting upon the trajectory of her own career. Weird Fishes responses - check it out at the backend of the episode: Book: Fast Like a Girl by Dr Mindy Pelz. Movie: Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind Song/Album: Frogstomp by Silverchair Local Recommendation: Theatre Royal in Castlemaine Check out Eliza's website here: https://elizahull.com/ The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #29 with Eliza Hull: 'The Way You Walk is not something you need to hide', Hope is an Action, Love is the way and Running Underwater.
  6. 01/13/2025

    #28 with Reagan Morel: Education Matters, 20 years old, feelin' pretty fine, a passion for community and an ingrained love of music, family and the beach.

    On this episode of The Ebbs and The Flows, Soft Chats about Hard Stuff, Reagan Morel joins us for a chat with our youngest guest on le pod. Reagan is a 20 year old studying teaching, but it is at The Reach Foundation where he does some fine and compelling work with young people across Australia. A beacon of happiness and joy for others, but underneath the veneer is a person working through his own challenges. He is a captivating young voice and a wonderful community person. Tune in for more. These notes got edited for some unknown reason - but this is a cracking episode to listen to. Check out Reagan's band at: https://www.instagram.com/thedahlias_band/ The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #28 with Reagan Morel: Education Matters, 20 years old, feelin' pretty fine, a passion for community and an ingrained love of music, family and the beach.
  7. 09/26/2024

    #27 with Kierren Robinson: Finding your identity in the aftermath of grief, why early intervention is the way for young people and climbing mountains in search of universal truths

    On this episode of The Ebbs and The Flows, Soft Chats about Hard Stuff, Kierren Robinson is a boxer, the founder of Awakened Warrior - a mentoring and coaching platform to connect people to a greater truth, a husband and a quiet leader seeking to find his voice. We discuss empathy, compassion, leadership and the unending journey of grief on another Soft Chat about Hard Stuff. Kierren's beautiful 'Note To Self' is one of the highlights of this episode featuring 'Me and The World on a Page', 'The 90 Second Nugget', 'Weird Fishes' and 'The Art of The List' amongst many other topics we cover with the quiet leader. Weird Fishes responses - check it out: Book: The Body Keeps the Score and Iron John Movie: Planet of the Apes Song/Album: 'I believe' from Honey Check out Kierren's Instagram page here: https://www.instagram.com/the_awakened_warrior/?hl=en The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #27 with Kierren Robinson: Finding your identity in the aftermath of grief, why early intervention is the way for young people and climbing mountains in search of universal truths
  8. 09/01/2024

    #26 with Matt LaFontine: Pulling Up for Mental Health, Building Beautiful Gardens and finding deep and meaningful connection and community after rock bottom

    Matt LaFontine, founder of Safe Space Mornington and a man who belies expectation of a footy bloke is on a mission for mental health. On October 12, he will be Pulling Up for Mental Health. Join us as we discuss this venture, Safe Space, creating beautiful gardens (metaphorically and physically) and how he counters the notion of what it is to be a 'Footy Bloke' by opening his heart and working hard to be a better man. On this episode, we navigate the '90 Second Nugget', compile our thoughts on 'Art of The List', wash over our life's journey on 'Me and The World on a Page' and listen to the heartfelt 'Note to Self' from Matt around his toughest challenge during COVID-19 lockdowns several years ago. Matt opens his heart and mind for us on this freewheeling episode of The Ebbs and The Flows. We back!!! The Ebbs and the Flows is an emotional health movement focused on openness and transparency about the light and the shade of the lives we led and journeys we encounter. The Ebbs and the Flows is not a licensed mental health service and therefore if you are seeking mental health advice, assessment or treatment, you should seek expert advice with a GP, psychologist, psychiatrist or call Lifeline on 13 11 14. For The Ebbs and The Flows Instagram page head to https://www.instagram.com/theebbsandtheflows/ At the end of the day, we are all just a work in progress. Get full access to The Ebbs and the Flows with Willie Bee. at theebbsandtheflows.substack.com/subscribe

    #26 with Matt LaFontine: Pulling Up for Mental Health, Building Beautiful Gardens and finding deep and meaningful connection and community after rock bottom

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The Ebbs and The Flows is a podcast revolving around the essential questions about the light and shade of our life. The adventures, the challenges, the journeys through grief and trauma, the humour we find in the struggle, the beauty and depth of the experiences we hold close to us individually and the lessons we take from them universally. Warts and all conversations about mental health, the art of feeling and healing, the power of connection and the absurdity of the paths we have trodden and the roadblocks we have encountered. theebbsandtheflows.substack.com