Wet Dreamz

Jose Gonzalez
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As men we are expected to be a provider, be strong, have it all put together, and know all there is to know about sex. In this podcast we will discuss all the taboo topics surrounding men's sexuality and empower men to improve themselves and their sexual health.

  1. FEB 27

    36. "There's no trauma trophy...for whoever gets the most": Decoding Male Trauma

    About the Hosts: Jose Gonzalez: Jose Gonzalez is a sex therapist and a licensed professional counselor. With significant experience in helping individuals navigate sexual health and relationships, he co-hosts the "Wet Dreams Podcast" where he addresses a variety of topics related to sexual health, trauma, and therapy. Dr. Brad Hinman: Dr. Brad Hinman, a seasoned licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist, is also a sex therapist. Alongside his co-hosting duties on the "Wet Dreams Podcast," Dr. Hinman brings a wealth of knowledge about psychological trauma and its impact on sexual health. Summary of Episode: In this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams Podcast, we explore the intricate relationship between trauma and sexual health, focusing on its implications for men. Through thoughtful discussion, they explore the nuances of trauma, distinguishing between "big T" traumas like chronic abuse and "little T" traumas such as minor accidents. Our conversation underscores the importance of understanding trauma's lingering effects on the mind and body, and how these manifest in sexual health issues. The episode delves deep into how trauma can manifest as various behavioral patterns in men, from emotional shutdowns to compulsive sexual behaviors. Key psychological concepts such as fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are explored, particularly the latter, which is often overlooked but critical in understanding trauma reactions. With practical advice for recognizing and addressing these issues, we emphasize the importance of therapy and the therapeutic process in resolving trauma and improving sexual health. We discuss how uncovering underlying trauma can not only alleviate sexual dysfunction but lead to healthier coping mechanisms and relationship dynamics. Key Takeaways: Trauma can be categorized into "big T" and "little T" types, emphasizing both the nature of the event and its personal impact. Common trauma responses include avoidance, emotional shutdown, and compulsive sexual behavior, often unnoticed by those affected. The "fawn" response, especially in sexual contexts, represents a self-preservation mechanism during trauma but can lead to confusion and guilt. Effective therapy can help individuals uncover underlying traumas influencing their sexual behaviors, leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Open discussion and self-questioning can empower individuals to address trauma and its manifestations in everyday life. Timestamp 0:00 Understanding Trauma's Impact on Sexual Health and Men's Wellbeing 7:42 Understanding Trauma Responses in Relationships and Emotional Shutdowns 12:41 Understanding Trauma's Impact on Sexual Behavior and Performance 18:02 Exploring Self-Reflection and Therapy for Behavioral Change 23:00 Therapists as Mental Health GPS for Navigating Personal Growth 25:56 Confronting Trauma and Its Impact on Sexual Behavior 31:47 Secrets, Social Media, and the Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer ⁠LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    33 min

  2. FEB 6

    35. The Cold Comfort of ChatGPT: Why AI Can't Replace Your Therapist Yet

    About the Hosts: Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez are both experienced mental health counselors and sex therapists. Brad Hinman, also known as Dr. Brad Inman in the podcast, has built a robust career helping individuals navigate the complex interplay between mental health and sexual wellness. Jose Gonzalez, the host of the Wet Dreams Podcast, brings a wealth of knowledge from his background as a mental health counselor and sex therapist. Together, they delve into issues related to intimacy, relationships, and the evolving role of technology in mental health. Summary In this intriguing episode of the Wet Dreams Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the rising trend of utilizing AI, specifically ChatGPT, in mental health therapy and sexual wellness contexts. With a focus on how these AI tools are reshaping conversations around mental health, the hosts undertake a live experiment, simulating a therapy session with ChatGPT to understand its potential and limitations in addressing issues related to pornography addiction and relationship dynamics. The discussion centers around the increasing use of AI for personal issues, especially as it pertains to sexuality and intimate relationships, giving a nod to its role as both a therapist and a companion. As the hosts engage with ChatGPT, they critically evaluate its responses, emphasizing the importance of empathy and connection—elements often missing in AI interactions. The episode provides a thoughtful examination of AI's capabilities and its shortcomings when compared to human therapists, especially in understanding and processing complex emotions and relational contexts. Key Takeaways AI's Role in Therapy: The hosts investigate how AI, like ChatGPT, is being used by individuals as a tool for mental health support and sexual communication, noting the pros and cons.Therapeutic Effectiveness: The inherent lack of empathy and personalized understanding in AI-driven therapy sessions is highlighted as a significant limitation.Consistency and Transparency: For effective therapy and relationship building, both human and AI-driven, consistency, transparency, and clear communication are emphasized as crucial.AI as a Supplemental Tool: While AI can offer structured guidance, it cannot replace the nuanced understanding and emotional support found in human therapists.Collaboration Between Partners: In managing issues such as pornography addiction, the importance of mutual consent and shared decision-making in discussing or disclosing the issue to others is underscored. Timestamps 0:00 Exploring AI's Role in Mental Health and Sexual Therapy 2:35 Navigating Relationship Challenges Amid Pornography Addiction 12:10 Rebuilding Trust and Communication in Relationships 18:44 Collaborative Disclosure and Accountability in Recovery Journeys 23:36 Navigating Habit Change and Support Systems for Personal Growth 27:39 Therapists Critique ChatGPT's Empathy and Effectiveness in Sessions 35:44 Exploring AI's Role in Romantic and Sexual Interactions LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    37 min

  3. 12/19/2025

    34. "I'm only here to get d*ck and weed": Wild Reddit Stories on Sex and Relationships

    In this insightful episode of the Wet Dreams podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman delve into real-life Reddit stories revolving around relationships, sex, and mental health. Equipped with the expertise of seasoned sex therapists, they navigate complex emotions, offering professional perspectives on each scenario. From handling sexual desire misalignments in relationships to the awkwardness of caught-in-the-act moments, the episode explores varied dimensions of human intimacy. The hosts engage in dynamic discussions about the challenges and stigmas surrounding sex, interspersed with real-life anecdotes that listeners can relate to. Addressing issues such as pornography's impact on relationships, they provide thoughtful analyses, emphasizing the importance of open communication. This episode not only entertains but enlightens, as Jose and Brad illustrate the intricate dance between personal desires and relationship demands. Dive into their entertaining yet educational conversation as they blend humor with serious counsel, providing insights into maintaining healthy relationships amid modern complexities. Timestamps 0:00 Struggles of a Relationship Affected by Porn Addiction 9:12 Parental Boundaries and Awkward Discoveries 14:26 A Tale of Misaligned Expectations in Casual Relationships 21:18 Struggling With Relationship Attraction and Emotional Conflict 22:26 Navigating Relationship Challenges and Domestic Violence Concerns 29:17 Exploring Relationship Dynamics and Sexual Desire Challenges 37:10 Struggles with Trust and Intimacy in a Relationship 38:48 Navigating Relationship Challenges and Emotional Trauma 43:17 Awkward Encounters and Unspoken Moments at the Boyfriend's House 48:33 Wet Dreams Podcast Offers Entertainment and General Information LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    49 min

  4. 10/11/2025

    33. "Some part of them believes....that they were scum, and then they start telling themselves that" Step 5: Disassembling

    In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive into STEP 5 of their eight step recovery model for men struggling with out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as porn use and sex addiction. Titled "Disassembling," this step focuses on breaking down the underlying patterns and coping mechanisms driving these behaviors. The conversation explores how unresolved trauma—whether big or small ("big T" or "little t")—often plays a hidden role, even when many men minimize or dismiss their own experiences. We discuss the importance of acknowledging and addressing past trauma, recognizing harmful thought patterns, and understanding the self-perpetuating cycle of unhealthy coping mechanisms. We also touch on the resistance many men feel to labeling past experiences as traumatic, the societal stigma around acknowledging vulnerability, and the ways trauma impacts both individuals and their relationships. The episode encourages listeners to confront difficult truths, question negative self-beliefs, and seek healthier ways to cope and heal, all while emphasizing that meaningful change, though uncomfortable, is both possible and worthwhile. Eight Step Model viewable PDF⁠⁠ https://shorturl.at/MDJUC Timestamps00:00 "Disassembling and Setting Boundaries" 06:13 "Mislabeling Childhood Sexual Abuse" 08:52 Recognizing Hidden Emotional Trauma 10:40 Disassembling Harmful Coping Mechanisms 15:00 Realizing and Overcoming Negative Coping 19:56 Systems Resist Change 20:58 Recovery Brings Challenges and Change 25:03 "Understanding Triggers and Actions" 28:50 "Affairs Aren't Real Life" 31:48 Breaking Harmful Coping Patterns 34:45 Surface vs. Deeper Behavioral Analysis 37:30 "Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer" LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    38 min

  5. 09/08/2025

    32. "Take this part of you and shove it aside...it's unacceptable" The "Silent Father" Effect: How Dads Shape Male Emotional and Sexual Health

    In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive deep into the impact of the "silent father" archetype on men’s emotional and sexual health. We reflect on how having an emotionally distant or stoic father often shapes sons’ ability to understand and express their feelings, and we share some of our own experiences as well as what we’ve seen in our clients. We talk about the ways this dynamic can lead to struggles with emotional awareness, difficulties in relationships, and even compulsive behaviors later in life. We also look at why these patterns repeat across generations and discuss the confusing family messages that so many of us received growing up about emotions and vulnerability. Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of starting small—just noticing your feelings—and being patient with yourself as you develop new emotional skills, even if it feels awkward at first. We even touch on how partners can support each other through this process. This conversation is personal, honest, and packed with insights for anyone looking to better understand the effects of father-son dynamics and how to start healing and breaking those cycles. Timestamps 00:00 Impact of the Silent Father 04:46 Silent Dads, Silent Emotions 08:01 Traditional Male Problem-Solving Methods 11:52 Reflecting on Masculine Emotional Resistance 14:06 Family Image and Secrecy 18:26 High School Sneak Out Drama 20:22 Impact of Upbringing on Adulthood 25:00 Emotional Suppression and Addiction Cycle 27:54 Emotional Disconnect in Relationships 29:57 Emotional Awareness Post-Crisis 33:45 Parental Emotional Disconnect 36:36 "Embrace Noticing and Trying" 40:21 Parenting and Emotional Growth Analogy 43:26 Podcast Disclaimer: Informational Use Only LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    44 min

  6. 07/25/2025

    31. "51% of you wants to get better, and 49% of you wants to keep using" Step 4: Define the Problem

    In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into Step 4 of their eight-step recovery model: defining the real problem behind compulsive sexual behaviors like porn use. They emphasize that while porn might seem like the core issue, it’s actually a symptom of deeper emotional needs—such as a lack of affirmation, respect, or validation—that aren’t being met in healthy ways. The conversation explores how therapists help clients uncover these underlying issues by looking for themes in their personal histories and recurring emotional patterns. Jose and Dr. Hinman share insights on the challenges men face in identifying their “why,” including resistance to change, never having reflected on their motivations before, and societal habits of compartmentalizing problems. The episode ends with practical advice for those struggling to define their core issues, encouraging gentle self-reflection and curiosity to find healthier coping mechanisms rather than relying on porn or other destructive habits. Eight Step Model viewable PDF⁠ https://shorturl.at/MDJUC Timestamps: 00:00 "Defining the Problem: Step 4" 06:27 Identifying and Addressing Needs 07:08 Life's Bird's Eye View Insights 11:43 Resistance to Change 15:49 Identifying Roots of Conflict 18:35 Reflect on Past to Heal Future 22:34 "Understanding and Disassembling Coping Mechanisms" 24:57 Overcoming Negative Behaviors 27:09 Personalized Coping Mechanism Discovery 33:41 Introspective Coping Without Unhealthy Habits 36:04 "Be Your Own Detective" LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    38 min

  7. 07/12/2025

    30. "90% of what we worry about isn't true": What Really Happens in Your First Sex Therapy Session

    In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman break down what to expect during your first visit to a sex therapist. They discuss common anxieties and misconceptions—like embarrassment, fear of judgment, or not knowing what sex therapists actually do—and reassure listeners that sex therapy is professional, confidential, and supportive. The conversation covers what typically happens in a first session (mostly talking, no physical exams!), the range of issues sex therapists help with (from desire differences and dysfunction to infidelity and sexual identity concerns), and practical tips on how to prepare. Above all, they encourage listeners to feel comfortable seeking help early and highlight the importance of honesty, openness, and humor in the therapeutic process. Timestamps 00:00 First Sex Therapy Visit Guide 04:59 Lack of Sex Therapy Education 07:03 Talking Openly About Sex 12:41 Therapy Avoidance Phenomenon 15:07 Confidentiality and Honesty Encouraged 18:16 Problem Identification and Solutions Collaboration 20:32 Unique Challenges in Sex Therapy 25:08 Misconceptions About Sex Therapy 27:09 Define Therapy Goals 32:18 Restoring Lightness in Relationships 33:18 Lightening Awkward Conversations 38:06 Sex Therapy Insurance Coverage 42:07 Detached Perspective on Sex Therapy 43:20 "Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer" ⁠⁠LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

    44 min

  8. 06/27/2025

    29. "You're pressing the nuclear button": Divorce, Sex, and Self-Esteem

    In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, Jose and Brad get real about divorce—how messy, confusing, and emotionally tough it can be, especially for guys. They talk about everything from couples using divorce as a threat, to the weird “should we/shouldn’t we?” dynamic around sex during and after splitting up. The hosts dive into how divorce can seriously mess with a guy's sexual confidence, self-worth, and even lead to things like erectile dysfunction, especially when jumping into new relationships too soon. They also tackle the myth of staying together “for the kids” (spoiler: the kids almost always know what's up), and remind listeners that it’s way more important to work on yourself, figure out what went wrong, and give yourself time before diving into something new. There’s a lot of honesty here—about heartbreak, confusion, and healing—and the big message is: don’t go it alone. Therapy, reflection, and reaching out for support can make a massive difference when you’re picking up the pieces after a divorce. If you’re in the thick of it or just coming out the other side, this episode is a comforting, no-judgment look at how to move forward with a little more clarity and self-compassion. Timestamps 00:00 "Divorce and Sexual Health" 06:18 Sex During Imminent Divorce 07:44 Confusing Intimacy and Relationship Status 13:03 Divorce: Men's Sexual Self-Esteem 16:14 Sex, Relationships, and Emotional Confusion 18:40 Misconceptions After Relationships End 20:53 Fear of Vulnerability and Intimacy 23:40 "Double Heartbreak Reflection" 28:49 "Relationships Complicated by Kids" 32:40 Kids Sense Troubled Relationships 34:56 Triggers in New Relationships 37:30 Post-Divorce Therapy Guidance 40:21 Divorce and Sexual Health Strategies 43:42 Self-Reflection for Personal Growth 47:53 "Growth Through Divorce Challenges" ⁠LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI

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As men we are expected to be a provider, be strong, have it all put together, and know all there is to know about sex. In this podcast we will discuss all the taboo topics surrounding men's sexuality and empower men to improve themselves and their sexual health.

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  • Creator
    Jose Gonzalez
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jose Gonzalez
  • Show Website
    Wet Dreamz