The Robyn Graham Show a Podcast for Christian Women - Become Calm, Confident, and Consistent

Dr. Robyn Graham, Anxiety Breakthrough Strategist, Keynote Speaker, Coach
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Welcome to The Robyn Graham Show . . . A top 1% globally ranked podcast for high-achieving Christian women in leadership. Through solo episodes and guest interviews we share strategies to help you break through anxiety-driven behaviors like control, perfectionism, people-pleasing, overreacting and avoidance so you can be a calm, confident, and consistent leader at work, at home, and in the communities you serve. . I'm Robyn Graham, your host, and an anxiety breakthrough strategist, author, and keynote speaker. As a high achiever myself, and mom to three, I've experienced life with anxiety and emotional chaos, and that is why I am passionate about this mission - to help other women be calm, confident and consistent in all their leadership roles, including parenting. Past episodes include a depth of content on business growth strategies, faith, and mindset. Now, you'll experience more topics related to parenting, overall well-being, relationships, faith, mindset, and more. I and my guests will share our personal experiences and practical strategies to help you live a calm, confident, and consistent life with your family and in your leadership roles. Subscribe for new content every week! And be sure and visit https://therobyngraham.com/resources to download a free resources to help you develop healthy habits for a healthy mind. Now for the good stuff! Grab your cup of coffee, the car keys, or the dog's leash, and let's dive in. Email us: theteam@therobyngraham.com Connect with Robyn: LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/therobyngraham Instagram – https://Instagram.com/therobyngraham YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwNrxK-44J7YVbM7THDOVJA You, Me, and Anxiety: www.youmeandanxiety.com A note about guests: Guests are invitation only. We are no longer accepting guest pitches.

  1. 2D AGO

    Ep. 425 Do you believe your self-talk?

    Your self-talk is powerful. It will build you up or tear you down. What is your self-talk saying about you? Positive self-talk will build you up, give you strength, and confidence. Negative self-talk will tear you down, wear you down, and hold you back from healthy relationships and success. What self-talk does to you. How is self-talk biological Intersection of science and Scripture Mind over matter The neuroscience connection Self-talk has roots in scripture Genesis 1:26 2 Timothy 1:7 James 1:21 Philippians 4:6-7 Matthew 28:18 Proverbs 23:7 Psalm 145:3 Romans 12:2 Romans 11:33 Proverbs 3:5-6 Proverbs 19:21 2 Corinthians 10:5 Matthew 6:25-33 When your mind starts to take a wrong turn, pause, assess, and adjust. Ask yourself these questions and implement the 6 C's strategy: Where is this thought coming from? What do I know to be true about this thought? Would someone that I know, love, and respect be thinking the same thing about me? What does Jesus say about me? What is my identity in Him? If the answers to those questions do not align with what you know to be true, change the thought. Write down a positive self-talk alternative and repeat it to yourself. Over and over. Read the full show notes and access all links. Schedule a free consult discovery call with me today to move from being stuck in an anxiety response loop to renewing your mind to become calm, confident, and consistent in your work, relationships, and the communities you serve. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Health Habits for a Healthy Mind, including the 6 C's strategy.

    32 min

  2. MAR 3

    Ep. 424 Everyone needs rest to reduce anxiety, including you. With Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

    Rest is something every human needs to thrive, experience joy, feel happiness, build healthy relationships, achieve success, and have a healthy mind, body, and spirit. Rest is not just a luxury; it's an essential part of maintaining a balanced and healthy lifestyle. With mounting pressures from various facets of life, from work to family commitments, tapping into different forms of rest everyone needs to reduce anxiety and improve overall well-being. Understanding the True Meaning of Rest Rest goes beyond merely sleeping or taking a break from physical activities. It encompasses nurturing your mind, body, soul, and spirit to rejuvenate and restore your energy levels. Unlike a day at the spa, rest is about creating daily habits that allow you to live less stressed and more fulfilled lives. No one is exempt from needing rest. Rest is an integral part of overall health and wellness. The Seven Types of Rest to Reduce Anxiety Understanding the diverse types of rest helps individuals tailor their self-care practices. There are seven primary types of rest: physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, sensory, and creative. Each type addresses unique aspects of your daily life, providing a comprehensive approach to reducing anxiety and promoting peace, longevity, strong relationships, and success in parenting and career. Rest is crucial for mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health and well-being. Physical Rest Physical rest is often perceived as sleep, yet it also includes activities that enhance circulation and muscle relaxation, such as posture correction, stretching, or taking leisurely walks. Sleep is a restorative process. However, deep restorative sleep can not be achieved without rest. Everyone needs to adopt a habit of rest to achieve the sleep levels needed to restore cells throughout the body. Mental Rest Meanwhile, mental rest involves quieting a racing mind, which might include taking breaks to let your thoughts settle or practicing mindfulness. Nervous system regulation is also important for mental rest. Moving the brain from a place of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn into a space of being able to access the pre-frontal cortex for better decision making will help you achieve mental rest. It is about quieting the mind, which has control over the brain, to allow the brain to heal and restore and rejuvenate the neural pathways. Spiritual Rest Spiritual rest involves cultivating a sense of belonging and purpose, often through spiritual practices like prayer or meditation. Connection with friends and Bible studies are additional ways you can rest spiritually. Having prayer partners is another way to rest spiritually. Read the Full Show Notes and Access All Links. Website for Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith Buy the book: Sacred Rest Buy the book: Being Fully Known Download the free eBook: 15 Journaling Prompts and Scripture Verses Schedule a free consult discovery call with Robyn. You, Me, and Anxiety Teen Edition You, Me, and Anxiety Parent Edition

    42 min

  3. FEB 24

    The need to forgive because unforgiveness increases anxiety.

    Unforgiveness disrupts your ability to feel calm and keeps you stuck in a cycle of negative emotions, feelings, and thoughts about yourself or others. Notice, if you are feeling anxious, irritable, or unfulfilled for a period of time, it could be that unforgiveness and anxiety have partnered to disrupt your nervous system regulation. Perhaps you are striving to please people, feeling exhausted by the need to control, or living in a constant drive for perfection. Everyone sins, therefore everyone needs forgiveness. The connection between unforgiveness and anxiety. If we harbor unforgiveness in our hearts, whether toward ourselves or others, fear and shame grow. Anxiety is an abnormal sense of fear. And it is our nervous system's way of keeping us safe. So if anxiety is building, our nervous system is dysregulated, and therefore we are not able to access our pre-frontal cortex to make good, effective, meaningful decisions. In addition, shame results in fear and nervous system dysregulation. Nervous system dysregulation When the nervous system is dysregulated for long periods, it can manifest in your body and reduce overall well-being. First, your brain is operating from the limbic system and relying on fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses. Here's what happens in each state: Fight: You become irritated. Instead of responding to others or situations, you overreact. Overreaction leads to more shame, guilt, and disruption in relationships. Flight: You run, and avoid. Freeze: You feel stuck. Fawn: People-pleasing becomes part of your identity. Nervous system regulation strategies: Breath Pray Practice gratitude Get creative - color, doodle, write, draw, paint, etc. Go for a walk Spend time in nature Get sunlight Journal Read Connect - spend time with family or friends Tapping Hum Listen to music Laugh Cry Practice mindfulness Progressive muscle relaxation Confirmation that unforgiveness and anxiety go together Proverbs 10:12 Matthew 6:14-25 1 John 1:9 Luke 6:37 Colossians 3:13 (ESV) Mark 11:25 (ESV) Forgiveness is hard. Unforgiveness is easy, until it's not. Forgiveness awaits. Read the full show notes and access all links. If you are struggling with anxiety or would like to start a journaling practice that includes Scripture verses, download our free resources today. Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book

    26 min

  4. FEB 17

    Ep. 422 Your Attachment Style in Relationships is Not Random: Acknowledging the Wound with Kathryn Wessling, PhD

    Awareness of attachment styles in relationships is crucial for maintaining healthy, sustainable relationships. Once you are aware of your attachment styles in relationships, you will begin to see areas where you may need healing. Understanding Attachment Styles and Anxiety Understanding how you relate to others is deeply influenced by your attachment style. This concept, rooted in early life, plays a pivotal role in how you experience relationships today. The Root of Attachment Styles Attachment styles begin to form during the first three years of life when the brain and nervous system are most malleable. Types of Attachment Styles There are several types of attachment styles to consider: Secure Attachment: Developed through consistently supportive caregiving, resulting in trusting and balanced relationships. Anxious Attachment: Arises when caregivers are unpredictable, leading to worry about relationships being untrustworthy or unstable. Avoidant Attachment: Occurs when a caregiver is consistently dismissive or unavailable, causing an emotional distance in adult relationships. Disorganized Attachment: Results from trauma or inconsistent caregiving, creating confusion and fear around intimacy. The Impact of Anxiety Attachment styles are not merely theoretical; they are intricately connected to anxiety levels in relationships. Anxious and avoidant tendencies can manifest through fear of abandonment or difficulty with closeness and vulnerability. Pathways to Healing and Establishing Secure Attachment Awareness is the primary step in transforming your attachment style. Here are some methods to guide your journey: Therapy and Professional Support: Engaging in therapy, especially when informed by attachment theory, can provide profound insights and tools for change. Techniques such as Somatic Experiencing or neurofeedback can aid in reconditioning the nervous system. Grief and Story Work: Unprocessed grief from childhood needs acknowledgment. Story work in a supportive group setting can help reframe past narratives, providing healing and a sense of empowerment. Co-Regulation: Finding relationships where co-regulation is possible helps. Whether through therapy, a coach, or a supportive spouse, being with someone who models secure attachment can naturally elevate your own attachment style. Exploring Spiritual and Emotional Growth: Acknowledging Christianity's role can also promote healing. Secure faith and trust in Jesus as your savior can provide stability and comfort. The Crucial Role of Community Healing from attachment-related wounds is not a solitary journey. Awareness, Acknowledgement, and Hard Holy Work Acknowledging and working with your attachment style is a critical component of improving interpersonal relationships and managing anxiety. A Relationship With the Lord God is at our side and ready to help us heal. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Kathryn Wessling Additional Attachment Style resources from Kathryn Books How We Love Secure Love Attachment Style Quizzes: How We Love The Attachment Project

    58 min

  5. FEB 10

    Ep. 421 A Healthy Marriage Needs Intimacy with Lindsey Maestas

    Intimacy goes beyond sex; every marriage needs intimacy. Marriage and intimacy go hand in hand for a strong marital foundation. Intimacy in marriage helps you connect on a deeper level, communicate more effectively, and build bonds that are hard to break. In addition, intimacy and marriage are biblical concepts. Healthy relationships are built on trust, and intimacy influences trust and confidence in others. The crucial nature of intimacy Intimacy is crucial in maintaining a healthy marriage. It's not solely about physical connection; it's a powerful blend of emotional bonding and communication. The Significance of Physical Connection Physical intimacy plays a crucial role in strengthening a marriage. Navigating Emotional Intimacy and Marriage Emotional intimacy is as important as physical connection, if not more so. Addressing Challenges in Intimacy Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability Intimacy flourishes best in an environment of safety and trust. Maintaining Intimacy in Marriage Sustaining intimacy requires dedication and intentionality. Nurturing both physical and emotional intimacy is imperative for a thriving marriage. Faith and Intimacy God created us to be in relationship. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Lindsey Maestas Buy Lindsey's book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down Additional Resources: A Happy Marriage, A Happy Family Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind

    25 min

  6. FEB 3

    Healing Starts Beyond the Brain

    You do not have to stay stuck in pain, trauma, anxiety, and depression. There is hope for you because healing starts beyond the brain. Healing begins with the power of your mind. Everyone experiences struggle, pain, or heartache at some point in their life journey. The question is what you choose to do with it. Do you let it keep you stuck? Or do you acknowledge it, accept it, and tap into the power of your mind? Because healing starts beyond the brain and its stories, which most often are not truths. The Connection Between Neuroscience and Faith Exploring the connection between neuroscience and faith reveals a path to healing anxiety. Bridging the Mind-Brain Gap Traditionally, science has viewed the mind and brain as synonymous. However, contemporary research challenges this notion. The mind, through conscious thought and intention, can alter the brain's pathways. Heal Your Brain with Gratitude Gratitude plays a pivotal role in healing your brain. Training the Brain for Resilience To heal your brain, it's crucial to train it to be resilient. Empowering Change Through Thought Change starts with recognizing the power of your thoughts. The brain is 80% more likely to think negative thoughts than positive, this is negativity bias. In addition, the brain cannot determine what is true or false. Transformative Healing Through Acceptance Acceptance of life's challenges is another step in healing. It's not about denying pain but acknowledging it as part of the human experience. The Importance of Building Community Healing extends beyond the individual, emphasizing the importance of community and connection. Embrace Inner Hope and Faith Hope and faith are integral to healing. Heal your brain, enjoy your life. Breaking through anxiety and pain starts beyond the brain by focusing on the power of your mind, renewing it, and transforming your beliefs about what's possible for you through grace and faith. Website for Dr. Lee Warren Purchase Dr. Warren's Book: The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery Additional resources and podcast episodes Adopt the Holy Pause to Stop Overreacting The Facts About Grief Every Mom Needs to Know How Gratitude Reduces Anxiety Read the full show notes and access all links. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind

    50 min

  7. JAN 27

    Ep. 419 A Healthy Marriage, A Healthy Family with Lindsey Maestas

    Every married couple can benefit from having strategies for a healthy marriage. Marriage can be challenging, especially as couples grow individually. So how can couples overcome modern-day distractions to achieve a healthy marriage? Strategies for a healthy marriage include, but are not limited to, playfulness, honesty, intimacy, deep connection, and being anchored in faith to honor the sacred covenant. A healthy marriage translates into a healthy family. When your children see you working on your marriage and experience your joy in your marriage, they learn how to build healthy relationships, too. Fullfillment in life and relationship To maintain fulfillment at home, recognizing the significance of a healthy marriage is crucial. Understanding the Ripple Effect A healthy marriage serves as the foundation for a harmonious family life. When spouses collaborate to create a stable, loving home, children benefit immensely. The Importance of Connection over Disconnection Disconnection in marriage is not neutral; it breeds further discord. It can stealthily lead to emotional distress and, eventually, separation. Misconceptions and Realities about Intimacy Intimacy and vulnerability are key components of marriage that are often misunderstood or ignored. Statistics and Sobering Realities of Divorce Statistics highlight a troubling trend: nearly half of marriages end in divorce, and the rate is even higher in subsequent marriages. Strategies for a Healthy Marriage Building a resilient marriage involves practical strategies. Communication: The Bedrock of a Strong Marriage Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy marriage relationship. Miscommunication or lack of expression can lead to marital breakdown. Forgiveness and Healing in Marriage At times, marriages face betrayals or challenges that seem insurmountable. Forgiveness in these circumstances may be challenging, but it is key. Cultivating a Stronger Family Through a Strong Marriage A healthy marriage inherently benefits children, providing them with a model of love, teamwork, and communication. When parents invest in their relationship, children feel more secure and valued. Thus, nurturing your marriage not only fulfills you and uplifts your partner but also enriches your family's collective well-being. Revisiting these principles and strategies offers couples a pathway to nurture and sustain a healthy marriage. Through dedication and mutual understanding, couples can create a positive familial atmosphere where everyone thrives. Read the full show notes and access all links. Website for Lindsey Maestas Buy Lindsey's book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down Where Should We Begin Podcast with Esther Perel Additional resources on relationships and narcissism Narcissism 101: Truths You Need to Know - Episode 417 How to Set Boundaries. Every Relationship Needs Them - Episode 418 Schedule a free consult discovery call with Robyn. Download free resources to help break through anxiety.

    41 min

  8. JAN 20

    Ep 418 How to set boundaries. Every relationship needs them.

    The importance of boundaries, especially for those experiencing anxiety. The question is how to set boundaries with compassion and kindness, without being disrespectful or rude to those you love and want to maintain a healthy relationship with. Setting boundaries can be especially challenging for those codependency is plagueing. Boundaries from a Christian Perspective For many, the notion of setting boundaries might initially seem contrary to Christian teachings. Four Types of People in Your Life Understanding the different roles people play in your life is crucial for setting boundaries effectively. People can be categorized into four distinct categories: viewer, voice, vote, and veto. Viewer Voice Vote Veto Determining where individuals fit helps establish the foundation for boundary setting. Four Types of Boundaries Boundaries vary in their strength and purpose, just as the categories of people in your life vary. Invisible Line White Picket Fence Brick Wall Alligator Moat Navigating Codependency Codependency can deeply complicate boundary-setting efforts. The Art of Setting Boundaries Setting boundaries is both an art and a necessity for fostering healthy, biblical relationships. About Kris Reece Kris Reece helps Christians conquer codependency, set biblical boundaries, and navigate difficult relationships with truth and grace. Website for Kris Reece Buy Kris's book: Breaking the Narcissist's Grip Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind Website for Kris Reece Buy Kris's book: Breaking the Narcissist's Grip Additional Resources Read the full show notes and access all links. Links for You, Me, and Anxiety: Parent Book Teen Book Schedule a free consultation discovery call with Robyn. Download the free eBook: Alleviate Anxiety by Developing Healthy Habits for a Healthy Mind

    39 min
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Welcome to The Robyn Graham Show . . . A top 1% globally ranked podcast for high-achieving Christian women in leadership. Through solo episodes and guest interviews we share strategies to help you break through anxiety-driven behaviors like control, perfectionism, people-pleasing, overreacting and avoidance so you can be a calm, confident, and consistent leader at work, at home, and in the communities you serve. . I'm Robyn Graham, your host, and an anxiety breakthrough strategist, author, and keynote speaker. As a high achiever myself, and mom to three, I've experienced life with anxiety and emotional chaos, and that is why I am passionate about this mission - to help other women be calm, confident and consistent in all their leadership roles, including parenting. Past episodes include a depth of content on business growth strategies, faith, and mindset. Now, you'll experience more topics related to parenting, overall well-being, relationships, faith, mindset, and more. I and my guests will share our personal experiences and practical strategies to help you live a calm, confident, and consistent life with your family and in your leadership roles. Subscribe for new content every week! And be sure and visit https://therobyngraham.com/resources to download a free resources to help you develop healthy habits for a healthy mind. Now for the good stuff! Grab your cup of coffee, the car keys, or the dog's leash, and let's dive in. Email us: theteam@therobyngraham.com Connect with Robyn: LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/therobyngraham Instagram – https://Instagram.com/therobyngraham YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwNrxK-44J7YVbM7THDOVJA You, Me, and Anxiety: www.youmeandanxiety.com A note about guests: Guests are invitation only. We are no longer accepting guest pitches.

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