To Help You Heal

Marie Monville
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Join me on a healing journey. I’ll share practical tools, personal stories, and relevant insights to help you find the healing you need. You’ll find a new episode each week; 10 minutes on Tuesdays.

  1. Jun 2

    Episode 154: The Courage to Pause

    After more than 150 episodes of To Help You Heal, I’m taking a pause for the summer. This wasn’t a decision I made overnight. In fact, I’ve been thinking about it for a couple of months. As I’ve spent the last several weeks talking about not pushing harder, questioning the voice that puts pressure on us, and examining where our expectations come from, I realized I needed to listen to my own advice. In this episode, I share why I’m stepping back from the podcast for the summer and why I believe there is value in creating space to listen, reflect, and get curious about what’s next. So often we think our only options are to keep going or give up. But what if there’s a third option? What if we simply pause? A pause isn’t failure. It isn’t quitting. It’s creating enough space to pay attention—to ourselves, to our lives, and to what God may be stirring beneath the surface. As we head into summer, I want to invite you into that same practice. Where might you need a little more room to breathe? What might you discover if you gave yourself permission to slow down and listen? In this episode, I talk about: Why I’ve decided to pause the podcast for the summer The difference between quitting and pausing How busyness can keep us from hearing what our lives are trying to tell us Why growth isn’t the same as constant production The connection between curiosity and clarity The importance of creating space before demanding answers Questions to help you discern what needs your attention in this season Reflection Questions: What feels more like an obligation than inspiration right now? Where do I need a little more space? What could curiosity look like in this season? What am I afraid might happen if I pause? What might become possible if I do? Stay Connected This Summer While the podcast is taking a break until September, I’ll still be sharing encouragement and reflections through my email list. If you’d like to stay connected, you can sign up at: www.MarieMonville.com Thank you for being part of this journey. Whether you’ve listened to one episode or all 150+, I’m so grateful you’ve chosen to walk alongside me. Sometimes the next chapter doesn’t begin with a plan. Sometimes it begins with a pause.

  2. May 26

    Episode 153: Where Did that Voice Come From

    In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, I’m continuing our series on confidence by talking about something many of us experience every day without even realizing it—negative self-talk. The truth is, the way we speak to ourselves didn’t just appear out of nowhere. That inner voice came from somewhere. It was shaped by experiences, environments, expectations, pressure, comparison, survival mode, and the things we picked up along the way. And so often, we don’t even question it—we simply assume it’s true. But what if the harshest voice in your life is the one inside your own head? In this episode, I talk about where that voice may have come from, why many of us developed patterns of pressure and self-criticism, and how awareness becomes the turning point for healing. I also share some of the ways I’ve personally learned to shift my internal dialogue—not through toxic positivity, but through curiosity, grace, and gentler questions. This conversation is an invitation to stop speaking to yourself like the enemy and start offering yourself the same compassion you would extend to someone you love. In this episode, I talk about: Why negative self-talk feels so normal for many of us Common inner dialogue patterns like: “You should be doing more” “You’re behind” “That wasn’t good enough” How childhood environments, performance-based approval, comparison, perfectionism, and survival mode can shape the way we speak to ourselves Why being hard on ourselves can feel productive or protective The difference between conviction and criticism How awareness helps us begin changing the voice inside our heads Learning to replace shame and pressure with curiosity and compassion The phrase that helps me:   “I’m doing the best I can with what I have.” Reflection Questions: What does my inner voice sound like most often? Where might I have learned to speak to myself that way? What beliefs about worth, success, or love might be driving it? What would compassion toward myself sound like today? You are allowed to question the voice that constantly pressures you. And while that voice may have been learned, it can also be changed. Thanks for joining me for this week’s episode of To Help You Heal. I hope this conversation encourages you to offer yourself more grace and reminds you that healing sometimes begins with simply learning to speak to yourself differently.

  3. May 19

    Episode 152: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves

    This week on the podcast, I want to talk about something I think so many of us experience without even realizing it: the internal dialogue we carry every single day. Sometimes the loudest voice in our lives is the one nobody else can hear. In this episode, I’m sharing some personal stories about feeling unseen, how experiences from childhood followed me into adulthood, and the ways negative self-talk can quietly become “background noise” in our lives. From replaying conversations and overthinking messages to apologizing unnecessarily or assuming rejection before we even put ourselves out there, I think many of us are carrying thoughts we stopped questioning a long time ago. I also talk about: why self-doubt often disguises itself as protection how rejection, comparison, and painful experiences shape the way we see ourselves the exhausting mental conflict many women quietly carry why familiar thoughts are not always true thoughts how compassion toward ourselves can begin to change the conversation internally One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is this: Just because a thought feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s telling the truth. Reflection Questions: What do I say to myself regularly? Where did that belief come from? What would I say to a younger version of myself now? I hope this episode helps you begin to notice the voice in your head with a little more awareness and a little more compassion.

  4. May 12

    Episode 151: Maybe You Don't Need to Push Harder

    Have you ever found yourself feeling like you just need to try harder? Push more. Figure it out. Force clarity.  In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, we're talking about the exhaustion that comes from living in constant “go mode” and the pressure many of us place on ourselves to keep everything together. When life feels uncertain, unresolved, or overwhelming, our instinct is often to push harder—but what if more pressure isn’t actually the answer? We'll discuss the difference between healthy effort and alignment, the illusion of control, and the ways fear and urgency keep us stuck in cycles of exhaustion.  This episode is a gentle reminder that not everything meaningful has to be forced—and that sometimes the breakthrough comes when we finally loosen our grip. In this episode: Why many of us default to pushing harder when life feels uncertain The emotional and physical cost of constant striving How fear and the need for control fuel the pressure to push harder The difference between effort and alignment How peace and clarity often emerge when we create space instead of pressure Reflection Questions: Where am I pushing from fear instead of peace? What am I trying to force right now? What would it look like to trust instead of striving? Where do I need to loosen my grip a little? If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. You can connect with me on social media or through my website. And if you’re longing for deeper support as you navigate your own healing journey, you can book a free Clarity Call with me.  Thanks for joining me for this week’s episode of To Help You Heal. I hope it reminded you to breathe a little deeper, take some time to rest, and trust that you do not have to carry everything on your own.

  5. May 5

    Episode 150: Hitting the Reset Button

    In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, I’m wrapping up this series by talking about something many of us need: a reset. Sometimes what we need most is not a dramatic life change or a total reinvention. We simply need space to pause, notice what feels off, and take one intentional step forward. Often the signs that we need a reset are subtle. We may feel disconnected, emotionally tired, mentally cluttered, or stuck on autopilot. It is not always chaos that signals change is needed—it is often misalignment. In this episode, I share common areas where a reset may be needed: Your pace – life feels rushed and there is no margin Your mind – too much input, overthinking, mental clutter Your space – physical clutter affecting clarity Your priorities – everything feels urgent, but nothing feels meaningful Your spirit – feeling disconnected from prayer, peace, or God’s presence I also walk through simple ways to reset without overwhelm: Pause and name what feels off Ask yourself: What do I need more of? What do I need less of? Choose one small shift Repeat the process regularly A reset is not failure. It is a sign that you are paying attention and responding to what your life needs right now. Reflection Questions What feels off right now? Where are you running on autopilot? What do you need more of? What do you need less of? What is one small reset you can make this week? You do not need to reinvent yourself. Sometimes healing begins with one honest pause and one small step forward.

  6. Apr 28

    Episode 149: Finding the Fun

    In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, I’m talking about why fun matters more than we often realize. So many of us treat fun like something we’ll get to later—after the to-do list is done, after everyone else is cared for, after life feels less busy. But fun isn’t frivolous or something we have to earn. It’s restorative, healing, and an important part of living well. When life feels heavy, fun is often the first thing to disappear. Stress, grief, burnout, responsibility, and survival mode can crowd it out before we even notice it’s gone. Sometimes we don’t realize it until someone asks, What do you do for fun?and we don’t know how to answer. In this episode, I share why joy and fun help regulate stress, reconnect us to creativity, build resilience, and remind us who we are outside of pressure and productivity. I also talk about how fun doesn’t have to be big or complicated. It can be simple moments like: Laughing with a friend Listening to music while cooking Taking a walk outside Baking something new Dancing in your living room Trying something just because it sounds interesting Sometimes finding fun again means redefining it for the season you’re in now. Reflection Questions What has crowded out joy in your life lately? What used to help you feel alive? What feels light or interesting right now? What small act of joy could you make space for this week? You do not have to wait for life to feel perfect before you enjoy it. Fun is not something you earn—it’s something you’re allowed to cultivate now. Come back next week as we wrap up this series and talk about hitting the reset button.

  7. Apr 21

    Episode 148: See the Good

    Last week we talked about the reality that life has been a lot lately. And I walked you through three simple things that help me navigate those heavy seasons. This week we're going deeper into the first one: seeing the good. I actually have those words on the wall behind my desk. See the good. I love that reminder every time I sit down to work because the truth is that our perspective is everything. Whatever we're focused on, that's exactly what we're going to find. If I'm looking for problems, I'll find them. If I'm looking for good, I'll find that too. It's the same reason why when you're shopping for a new car you suddenly start seeing that car everywhere. So I want to train myself to look for the good — especially when there's so much that doesn't feel good. But I want to be clear about something first. I am not asking you to deny that life is hard or pretend your feelings don't exist. Because gratitude becomes unhelpful when it's used to silence what hurts. When someone tells you to just be grateful or just focus on the positive, that can actually feel dismissive. It minimizes what you're going through as if there isn't room for the pain too. What I want to invite you into is something different. Holding both at the same time. You don't have to choose between acknowledging what's hard and noticing what's good. We can do both. We can say things like: this season is exhausting and there are still moments of beauty. I feel the grief and I'm grateful for the person walking with me. Things feel uncertain and I still see God's faithfulness. I'm struggling and I still laughed today. Healing often happens when we stop forcing one truth to cancel out the other. The pain doesn't get the final say. It's not the entirety of the story. Think about being on an airplane on a rainy day. The storm is real on the ground. But once you get above the clouds it's vibrant and sunny and beautiful. Seeing the good is knowing that the sun is still there even when you can't see it yet. Here are three simple habits that help: At the end of each day ask yourself one question: what was good today? Not amazing or spectacular. Just good. Then name three things that are also true right now. They can be as honest as: I'm tired, I'm loved, and I made it through. And then practice catching the small goodness around you. The sunlight coming through the window. A kind text. A moment of quiet. Laughter. Strength you didn't know you had. Those three things together can be genuinely life-changing because they teach us to hold both at the same time and catch what we would otherwise miss. And if you're in a really hard season and the good feels difficult to find, that's okay. Maybe your good today is that you got out of bed. That you asked someone for help. That you took it one breath at a time. Quiet good still counts. Reflection questions for the week: What has felt especially hard or draining for you lately? Even in that hard place, what good exists that's easy to overlook? Where have you felt pressure to just be positive instead of honest? What would it look like to hold both at the same time? You don't have to deny what's hard in order to notice what's good. Hard is not the only thing here. And pain is not the end of the story. Come back next week as we take the next step in this journey.

  8. Apr 14

    Episode 147: When Life Feels Like A Lot

    Maybe you've noticed it too. Life feels like a lot lately. It might be something specific like a health concern, a relationship that's hard, or a financial stress. Or maybe it's not one big thing at all. It's just the accumulation. Six or seven little things that stack up. The news cycle. The uncertainty. The mental load of trying to keep up with everything while also trying to show up well for the people around you. If that's where you are today, you're not alone in it. And you don't have to fix everything this week. When life feels heavy our first instinct is to think everything needs to change. We want a major overhaul, a big plan, a breakthrough moment where it all clicks into place. But that's actually the last thing that helps. What helps is usually something much smaller and a lot kinder than what we were initially thinking. Over the next four weeks I want to talk about three simple things that have made a real difference for me in those heavy seasons. Seeing the good, finding the fun, and hitting the reset button. Not as a checklist, but as gentle invitations back to yourself. See the Good When life gets heavy our brains naturally go to what's wrong, what's missing, what's uncertain. But whatever we're looking for, we're going to find more of it. So we have to gently train our eyes to notice what's still good too. Not to pretend the hard things aren't there, but to balance them with what's also real. Start here: at the end of your day ask yourself one simple question. What was good today? Look for the small, almost ordinary thing you would have missed. That question is more powerful than it sounds. Find the Fun When life gets heavy, fun is usually the first thing to go. But joy doesn't work on a delay. And fun isn't frivolous, it's actually healing. Laughter lowers cortisol, reduces stress, and helps regulate our nervous system. We can't afford to keep crowding it out. Ask yourself: what feels light right now? What would bring even a small amount of joy into your day? That thing matters more than you're giving it credit for. Hit the Reset A reset doesn't mean reinventing your life. It could be cleaning out one drawer, taking a walk at sunset, turning your phone off for an hour, or saying no to one thing that's been draining you. A reset is simply choosing not to keep running on autopilot. You don't need to fix your whole life this week. Maybe you just need to notice what's still good, make a little room for joy, and find one small reset. Because healing often looks less like a breakthrough and more like a fresh start. Questions to think about this week: What has felt heavy lately that you haven't named out loud yet? What was something good today, even something small? What feels fun or light right now, even just a little? What would one small reset look like for you this week? Join me next week as we go deeper into seeing the good, even when life feels heavy.

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Join me on a healing journey. I’ll share practical tools, personal stories, and relevant insights to help you find the healing you need. You’ll find a new episode each week; 10 minutes on Tuesdays.

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  • Creator
    Marie Monville
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
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