The Self Control Show with Jason Schnitzer

The Self Control Show with Jason Schnitzer
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Hi! I'm Jason Schnitzer and I've been where you are. I understand the frustration of losing self-control and feeling stuck in a cycle of destructive behaviors. I created "Reclaim Control" to help you break free from that loop. Through my program, we'll learn techniques and gain cutting-edge knowledge to regain self-control and unlock your best self. Learn how to build self-control in order to achieve your goals, build stronger relationships, and ultimately live a happier and more fulfilling life. Visit our website https://www.jasonschnitzercoaching.com/ to learn more and book a free call!

  1. 2D AGO

    Episode 60: Why Your Wife Doesn’t Trust You Anymore

    You’re not cheating. You’re not lying. You’re not a bad guy. But when you say something, it doesn’t land anymore. In this episode, I break down the quiet pattern that erodes trust over time — overpromising in heated moments, getting overwhelmed, and then avoiding the follow-through. It’s not malicious. It’s not intentional. But it’s a cycle that slowly turns good intentions into distrust. ⚠️ I talk about: ➡️ Why you say “I’ll change” and genuinely mean it — in the moment ➡️ How appeasing to keep the peace creates long-term damage ➡️ The overpromise → overwhelm → avoid loop ➡️ Why defensiveness makes it worse ➡️ And how to rebuild trust through regulation and small, consistent follow-through This isn’t a character flaw issue. It’s a regulation issue. Trust isn’t built on intention — it’s built on consistency. 🧠💥 If this resonates, there’s a link in the show notes to book a FREE CALL and talk through what this looks like for you. ⬇️ ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    16 min

  2. 5D AGO

    Episode 59: Why Doing It All Yourself Is Destroying Your Marriage

    For years, I told myself I didn’t need anyone. I prided myself on handling everything alone — not complaining, not asking for help, just pushing through. What I didn’t realize was the hidden cost. ⚠️ In this episode, I break down the “Lone Wolf” pattern that so many men fall into — how self-reliance slowly turns into isolation, how isolation turns into resentment, and how that resentment quietly erodes connection at home. 🧠💥 I talk about why doing it all yourself doesn’t make you strong — it makes you emotionally unavailable — and how that shows up as distance, defensiveness, and feeling unappreciated. We’ll unpack: ➡️ Why “I got it” slowly becomes “no one understands me” ➡️ How not sharing stress creates resentment instead of relief ➡️ Why criticism feels like attack — and what’s actually happening underneath ➡️ The shift from roommates back to connection You don’t have to overshare. You don’t have to become someone you’re not. But you do have to stop carrying everything alone. 🚫 If this resonates, there’s a FREE call link in the show notes if you want to talk about what this looks like for you. ⬇️ ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    18 min

  3. FEB 4

    Episode 58: Why Everyone at Home Walks on Eggshells Around You (And You Don’t See It)

    One of the most common things I hear from guys is, “My wife says she feels like she’s walking on eggshells around me.” 👉 What most men don’t realize is how that dynamic actually starts—and how often it’s rooted in volatility, not intention. In this episode, I break down why kids suddenly get quiet when you walk in the door, why silence gets mistaken for peace, and how unpredictability quietly trains your family to brace instead of relax. I talk about the difference between real regulation and suppression, why holding it together at work turns into blowups at home, and how that pressure-cooker pattern erodes trust over time. ⚠️ I also walk through: ➡️ Why fear-based compliance looks like “respect” but creates distance ➡️ How unpredictability wires anxiety in your kids and your marriage ➡️ Why apologies stop working when behavior doesn’t change ➡️ What it actually takes to make your home feel safe again This isn’t about blaming or shaming. It’s about understanding the pattern and learning how to regulate yourself so your wife and kids don’t have to.🧠💪 If this resonates, you can book a free discovery call through the link below ⬇️: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    20 min

  4. JAN 23

    Episode 57: Would You Want Your Kids Dating Someone Like You?

    This episode starts with a simple question that’s uncomfortable for a reason. One day, your kids are going to choose partners who feel familiar to them. And a big part of what feels “normal” is being shaped right now at home. ➡️ In this episode, I break down how your reactions, your patience, and the way you handle tension quietly program your kids’ nervous system for what love, conflict, and connection are supposed to feel like. ➡️ I walk through why kids don’t see your bad days as “just a bad day,” how they internalize your blowups as something being wrong with them, and how that wiring carries forward into people-pleasing, fixing, and tolerating unhealthy dynamics later in life. ➡️ I also talk about why your nervous system naturally chooses what’s familiar over what’s healthy, and how learning to regulate yourself is one of the most powerful ways to change the legacy you pass on. If you’ve ever cooled off after losing it and felt that pit in your stomach wondering what that moment just taught your kids, this episode will help you see what’s really going on and where change actually starts. 👉 If this resonates, the next step is to book a complimentary discovery call through the link here: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    14 min

  5. JAN 7

    Episode 56: What Having No Patience Is Really Costing You

    Most guys don’t lose their patience because they’re bad dads or bad husbands. They lose it because their nervous system is overloaded and stuck in survival mode. ⚠️ In this episode, I break down why patience disappears in the moments that matter most, why your kids “not listening” hits you so hard, and what’s actually happening inside their nervous system when your reactions come out fast and loud. You’ll learn: ➡️ Why patience isn’t a personality trait, it’s a regulation skill ➡️ What’s happening in your kids’ brain when they shut down, appease, or get scared ➡️ How impatience quietly wires people-pleasing and anxiety into your home ➡️ Why trying harder never works and what actually changes this pattern If you’ve ever cooled off after snapping and wondered, “Why did I react like that?” this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and where to start. 👉 If this resonates, you can book a free discovery call How to work with me ⬇️: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    20 min

  6. 12/17/2025

    Episode 55: The Sneaky Truth About Anger

    You think anger is the problem—but it’s not. It’s a signal. A mask. A cover for what’s really going on underneath. ⚠️ In this episode, I reveal what research actually says about anger—and why it’s a secondary emotion that shows up when you don’t know how to feel or express what’s really there. 💭 Underneath your rage is something else: shame, fear, sadness, rejection, or helplessness. But because those feelings weren’t safe to express growing up, you learned to go straight to anger instead. We’ll unpack: 👉 Why men are wired to convert every feeling into anger 👉 The emotions hiding under the surface (and how to spot them) 👉 How to stop reacting to your triggers and start regulating in real time 👉 The difference between managing anger and healing what fuels it If you’re ready to stop fighting your anger and start understanding it, this one’s for you. HOW TO WORK with me ⬇️: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    15 min

  7. 12/10/2025

    Episode 54: Why Your Anger Management Classes Aren’t Working

    You’ve tried the classes, read the books, learned the tools—so why do you still lose it at home? You can hold it together at work, but the second your kid spills something or your wife’s tone changes, you snap. Then the guilt hits, and you tell yourself, “I just need more patience.” This episode breaks down the truth no one tells you about anger management: 👉 You’re not broken—you’re just fighting the wrong battle. 👉 You’ve been taught to “manage” your anger when the real issue lives deeper in your nervous system. I’ll walk you through: 👉 Why your anger isn’t a mindset problem—it’s a body problem 👉 How to understand the 80/20 connection between your nervous system and your brain 👉 Why suppression looks like self-control but always leaks out at home👉 The real reason your wife and kids feel like they’re walking on eggshells You don’t need to manage your anger. You need to learn to regulate your emotions. 🎯 Ready to stop the blowups and start building real self-control? How to work with me ⬇️: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here:calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    18 min

  8. 11/24/2025

    Episode 53: The hard truth about your tone, your kids, and the cycle you’re passing down

    In this episode, I break down why so many good men slowly turn into the dad they swore they'd never become, and how your tone, your triggers, and your reactions shape your child’s nervous system more than anything you say. 👉 You’ll learn why your kid’s behavior sets you off, why small things turn into big reactions, and how your childhood wiring shows up in your parenting without you even realizing it. 💭 Most dads think “I don’t hit them, I just raise my voice.” 👉 This episode explains why your voice is the impact — and why your tone can confuse, overwhelm, or damage your child even when your intentions are good. 💭 If you want to break generational patterns, stop overreacting, and become the steady dad your kids feel safe with, this episode is your blueprint. How to work with me ⬇️: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    19 min
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Hi! I'm Jason Schnitzer and I've been where you are. I understand the frustration of losing self-control and feeling stuck in a cycle of destructive behaviors. I created "Reclaim Control" to help you break free from that loop. Through my program, we'll learn techniques and gain cutting-edge knowledge to regain self-control and unlock your best self. Learn how to build self-control in order to achieve your goals, build stronger relationships, and ultimately live a happier and more fulfilling life. Visit our website https://www.jasonschnitzercoaching.com/ to learn more and book a free call!

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