The Mental Health Janitors

Aaron Quinonez and Jessica Burgans
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We help you clean up the mess in your head. Aaron and Jess help navigate through the wonderful and sometimes scary world of therapy to educate you, empower you, and encourage you through your difficult times. Join Us Today! 

  1. 3d ago

    The Biggest Relationship Red Flag? Not Showing Up When It Matters

    Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to show up for someone you love? In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about healthy relationships, accountability, childhood trauma, and emotional maturity. When one partner chooses a night out over showing up during a medical emergency, it raises difficult questions. Is this simply a mistake, or does it reveal something deeper about priorities, trust, and commitment? And when someone hurts the people they love, can childhood trauma explain their behavior without excusing it? From relationship red flags and self awareness to narcissistic traits rooted in unresolved trauma, this episode challenges listeners to look beyond excuses and ask one of the hardest questions of all. Am I taking responsibility for the way I treat others? If you've ever questioned a relationship, struggled with accountability, or wondered how your past influences your present, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to explore why accountability is one of the hardest parts of healing, and how taking ownership can change the way you show up for the people who matter most.  Episode Highlights:  00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors  03:18 Pastor Tony and Protecting Your Family  19:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation  27:45 What It Means to Show Up in a Crisis  41:26 Accountability or Excuses?  53:08 Can Childhood Trauma Lead to Narcissistic Traits?  59:48 Why Healing Requires Honest Self Reflection Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

    40 min

  2. Jun 30

    The Relationship Red Flag Every Parent Should Know

    Send us Fan Mail Would you step in if helping someone you love created even more conflict?  In this episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about parenting, family boundaries, responsibility, and emotional maturity. When a father repairs his adult daughter's unsafe car after her boyfriend fails to follow through, one simple act of love raises difficult questions. When should parents step in? Where do healthy boundaries begin? And how do pride and ego influence the way we respond? From family dynamics and healthy relationships to accountability and emotional intelligence, this episode explores what it truly means to protect the people you love without losing sight of respect and responsibility. If you've ever struggled with family boundaries, wondered when to step in, or questioned what real responsibility looks like, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to discover why this story is about far more than fixing a car, and how the lessons behind it can strengthen families and relationships. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 03:26 Seeing America Through a Different Perspective 14:03 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation 19:44 Did Dad Cross the Line? 23:11 Responsibility vs Pride 31:58 Parenting Through Difficult Decisions 36:31 Educate, Empower, and Encourage Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

    30 min

  3. Jun 23

    The Quiet Damage of Pride in Relationships, Parenting, and Communication

    Send us Fan Mail Why is it so hard to admit we're wrong? 💭 In this episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about pride, accountability, parenting, and emotional growth. What happens when we're confronted with undeniable proof that we made a mistake? Why do so many people become defensive instead of taking ownership? And what lessons do our children learn when they never see us apologize? From family dynamics and relationship conflict to trauma responses and emotional intelligence, this episode explores the hidden cost of letting pride take the driver's seat. If you've ever struggled to say "I was wrong," found yourself explaining instead of apologizing, or wondered why accountability feels so uncomfortable, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to learn how genuine apologies build trust, why ownership matters more than excuses, and how small moments of accountability can transform relationships. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 03:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation 08:45 Why Pride Makes Accountability So Difficult 13:20 Should Parents Apologize to Their Kids? 18:34 Explanations vs Excuses 24:10 Trauma Responses and Emotional Reactions 29:47 The Power of a Simple Apology 35:18 How Accountability Strengthens Relationships 40:05 Taking Ownership and Moving Forward Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

    29 min

  4. Jun 16

    Are You Showing Up or Just Showing Off? The Truth About Ego in Relationships

    Send us Fan Mail Most relationships don’t fall apart because of big dramatic events. They fall apart in small moments where ego shows up, priorities get misaligned, and one person stops considering the experience of the other. In this powerful episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Dr Jess break down a viral Reddit story that starts with a simple date night, Bruno Mars tickets, a planned dinner, and a special evening together, but quickly spirals into conflict over something as small as a steak. What unfolds is a deeper conversation about emotional intelligence, selfish decision making, and what it really means to create shared experiences in a relationship. They explore how stress, excuses, and personal comfort can quietly override connection, and why “good intentions” are not enough when your actions tell a different story. From ego-driven decisions to emotional memory and relationship damage, this episode reveals how one moment of self-focus can undo an entire experience you thought you were building together. If you’ve ever wondered why small disagreements turn into big disconnects in relationships, this conversation will make you rethink how you show up for the people you care about. 🎧 Tune in now. It’s not about the steak or the concert it’s about what happens when you stop making it about “us” and start making it about “me.” Episode Highlights: 00:00 - Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 02:36 - The “Concert vs Steak” Reddit Story Begins 05:01 - When Excuses Show Up in Relationships 06:35 - “Why does she even care about the opener?” 08:58 - How Personal Comfort Overrides Shared Experience 11:21 - Emotional Connection & Neuro Pathways in Relationships 13:20 - The Power of Negative Emotional Memory 15:07 - Accountability vs Justifying Behavior 17:11 - Why Intentions Don’t Matter Without Action Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

    23 min
  5. The Marriage Mirror: Why Changing Yourself Changes Your Relationship

    Jun 12

    The Marriage Mirror: Why Changing Yourself Changes Your Relationship

    Send us Fan Mail 🎁 Free Resource from Doc Jess If this conversation resonates with you and you want practical tools to strengthen your marriage by focusing on personal growth first, Doc Jess is offering a free marriage assessment and relationship resource to help you identify areas for growth and build a stronger foundation. 👉 Get started here: https://firstonesfree.com/ If you feel stuck in the same arguments, frustrated with your spouse, or wondering why your relationship keeps running into the same challenges, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez sits down with Doc Jess to discuss one of the most overlooked truths about healthy relationships. The strongest marriages are often built when each person focuses on improving themselves before trying to fix their spouse. Drawing from personal experience, counseling practice, military life, and marriage research, they explore why self-reflection creates lasting change, how unresolved pain affects communication, and why assumptions often create conflict where none exists. You will learn how past experiences shape the way you interpret your spouse's actions, why your brain naturally tries to protect you from emotional pain, and how that protection can sometimes damage connection. Doc Jess also shares her practical 24-48-72 Hour Tool for responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. This episode explores the importance of personal accountability, emotional awareness, healthy communication, and creating space for growth within marriage. The goal is not to change your spouse. The goal is to become the healthiest version of yourself. Watch if you are searching for How to improve your marriageHow to stop arguing with your spouseChristian marriage adviceMarriage communication tipsHow to build a stronger relationshipHow to work on yourself firstBe part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn't flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/Connect with Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/Disclaimer: Educational only. Not medical, psychological, or relationship counseling advice. Support the show

    22 min
  6. How to Reinvent Yourself and Build Confidence (Overcome Identity Crisis)

    Jun 3

    How to Reinvent Yourself and Build Confidence (Overcome Identity Crisis)

    Send us Fan Mail 🎁 Free Resource from Estyn If this episode resonated with you and you want to understand where you are in your life right now, Estyn shares a simple tool to help you evaluate different areas of your life and see where you need to focus next. 👉 Get started here:  https://firstonesfree.com/ If you feel stuck in who you are, struggle with confidence, or feel like you have lost your sense of identity, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez sits down with Estyn Elan, a style image consultant, to break down how identity, self image, and confidence are shaped and how you can rebuild them with intention. You will learn how many people go through identity shifts during life transitions like becoming a parent, moving to a new environment, or going through major life changes, and why these moments often lead to confusion, low self esteem, and feeling disconnected from yourself. This episode also explores how self mastery starts with understanding who you are beyond roles and expectations, and how your appearance, communication, and daily habits all play a role in how you show up in the world. You will learn a simple system to evaluate your life, identify where you feel out of alignment, and begin rebuilding your confidence from the inside out. The goal is not to become someone else, but to fully step into who you are meant to be. Watch if you are searching for How to build confidenceHow to reinvent yourselfIdentity crisis helpHow to improve self imagePersonal growth and self development Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors01:00 Growing Up with Limited Perspective02:30 Expanding Identity Through Travel04:00 Identity Crisis as a New Mom06:00 Why Most People Struggle with Self Esteem08:00 Self Mastery and Finding Your True Identity10:00 How Self Image Affects Confidence12:30 The 7 Step System for Personal Transformation16:00 The Compass of Life Direction Tool19:00 Real Life Transformation Stories and Next Steps Be part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations with your spouse turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn’t flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/ Disclaimer: Educational only; not medical advice. Support the show

    21 min
  7. The Trauma Lens: How Past Wounds Affect Your Marriage

    Jun 2

    The Trauma Lens: How Past Wounds Affect Your Marriage

    Send us Fan Mail Most marriages don't suffer because of communication problems. They suffer because of unresolved wounds, unchecked emotions, unrealistic expectations, and baggage that never got dealt with. In this powerful episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess tackle the hard truths about marriage, emotional healing, faith, trauma, and personal responsibility. They break down why lasting change doesn't happen when you focus on fixing your spouse—it happens when you confront what needs to change within yourself. From PTSD and emotional triggers to limiting beliefs, mindset, and relationship growth, this conversation delivers practical wisdom, real-life experience, and actionable tools to help you build stronger relationships and a stronger life. If you're tired of the same arguments, the same frustrations, and the same cycles repeating themselves, this episode will challenge the way you think about marriage and personal growth. 🎧 Tune in now. Stop waiting for someone else to change. Start doing the work that changes everything. Episode Highlights: 00:00 - Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors07:26 - The Lies You Believe Are Holding You Back09:12 - When Performance Becomes Your Identity14:19 - Most People Talk Too Much About Themselves15:07 - How to Destroy Imposter Syndrome17:11 - Slay the Giant in Front of You20:40 - Stop Letting Your Thoughts Control You23:51 - Master Your Emotions Before They Master You Be part of a growing community having real conversations about veteran mental health, PTSD, trauma, faith, resilience, and healing. Find support, purpose, and practical tools to move forward.  🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website- https://sgtq.net/ Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/Support the show

    28 min
  8. How to Reinvent Yourself and Build Confidence (Overcome Identity Crisis)

    May 29

    How to Reinvent Yourself and Build Confidence (Overcome Identity Crisis)

    Send us Fan Mail 🎁 Free Resource from Estyn If this episode resonated with you and you want to understand where you are in your life right now, Estyn shares a simple tool to help you evaluate different areas of your life and see where you need to focus next. 👉 Get started here:  https://firstonesfree.com/ If you feel stuck in who you are, struggle with confidence, or feel like you have lost your sense of identity, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez sits down with Estyn Elan, a style image consultant, to break down how identity, self image, and confidence are shaped and how you can rebuild them with intention. You will learn how many people go through identity shifts during life transitions like becoming a parent, moving to a new environment, or going through major life changes, and why these moments often lead to confusion, low self esteem, and feeling disconnected from yourself. This episode also explores how self mastery starts with understanding who you are beyond roles and expectations, and how your appearance, communication, and daily habits all play a role in how you show up in the world. You will learn a simple system to evaluate your life, identify where you feel out of alignment, and begin rebuilding your confidence from the inside out. The goal is not to become someone else, but to fully step into who you are meant to be. Watch if you are searching forHow to build confidenceHow to reinvent yourselfIdentity crisis helpHow to improve self imagePersonal growth and self development Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors 01:00 Growing Up with Limited Perspective 02:30 Expanding Identity Through Travel 04:00 Identity Crisis as a New Mom 06:00 Why Most People Struggle with Self Esteem 08:00 Self Mastery and Finding Your True Identity 10:00 How Self Image Affects Confidence 12:30 The 7 Step System for Personal Transformation 16:00 The Compass of Life Direction Tool 19:00 Real Life Transformation Stories and Next Steps Be part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations with your spouse turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn’t flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/ Disclaimer: Educational only; not medical advice. #selfimprovement #inspiration #confidence #selfconfidence #selfesteem Support the show

    21 min
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We help you clean up the mess in your head. Aaron and Jess help navigate through the wonderful and sometimes scary world of therapy to educate you, empower you, and encourage you through your difficult times. Join Us Today! 

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  • Creator
    Aaron Quinonez and Jessica Burgans
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    158
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Mental Health Janitors
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