The Mental Health Janitors

Aaron Quinonez and Jessica Burgans
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We help you clean up the mess in your head. Aaron and Jess help navigate through the wonderful and sometimes scary world of therapy to educate you, empower you, and encourage you through your difficult times. Join Us Today! 

  1. Jul 28

    The Psychology of Arguments: Why Your Brain Creates Stories That Hurt Relationships

    Send us Fan Mail What do a concert security breach, a broken family heirloom, and your relationships have in common? More than you might think. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Doc Jess begin with the viral Jay Z concert incident, where hundreds of people entered the venue without tickets, causing a massive delay and leaving fans frustrated. But beneath the headlines was a much bigger conversation about assumptions, accountability, leadership, and why understanding the full story matters before placing blame. The discussion then shifts to a viral Reddit story about a husband struggling to forgive his wife after she broke an irreplaceable family heirloom during a heated argument. Was it truly an accident, or was it an intentional act fueled by anger? More importantly, what happens when our minds fill in the gaps with assumptions instead of facts? Together, they explore how emotional reactions shape our decisions, why accountability and humility are essential for healthy relationships, and how the stories we tell ourselves can either build trust or create lasting resentment. You'll also learn the powerful Six Pack Method, a practical tool for challenging assumptions, regulating emotions, and creating healthier conversations before conflict spirals out of control. If you've ever struggled to forgive someone, questioned another person's intentions, or found yourself replaying an argument over and over, this episode is for you. 🎧 Tune in to discover how emotional intelligence, healthy communication, personal accountability, and learning to assume the best can strengthen your relationships and protect your mental health. Episode Highlights • 00:00 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors • 00:18 When One Broken Item Changes Everything • 02:20 The Jay Z Concert Security Breach Explained • 08:45 Why People Blame Before They Know the Truth • 11:20 How One Open Door Became a Massive Safety Risk • 19:16 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation • 22:30 A Wife Breaks an Irreplaceable Family Heirloom During a Fight • 31:00 Are You Reacting to Facts or Your Assumptions? • 36:30 Why Accountability Matters More Than Being Right • 48:30 The Six Pack Method for Managing Conflict and Challenging Assumptions • 58:00 How Assuming the Best Can Strengthen Your Marriage Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, emotional intelligence, relationships, conflict resolution, healthy communication, marriage, trauma, and personal growth. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

  2. Jul 22

    When Your Family Turns Against Your Spouse... What Should You Do?

    Send us Fan Mail What do entitled children, family conflict, and marriage have in common? More than you might think. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Doc Jess begin with a viral video that sparks a powerful conversation about entitlement, mob mentality, parenting, and the importance of teaching consequences. But the discussion quickly takes a deeper turn with a viral Reddit story about a husband forced to choose between his family and his wife. Together, they explore how childhood environments shape adult relationships, why unresolved resentment can divide families, and how healthy boundaries, accountability, and emotional maturity are essential for protecting both your marriage and your mental health. When family members criticize your spouse or expect you to choose sides, what is the healthiest response? Should you fight for reconciliation, or is creating distance the better path? This episode tackles those difficult questions with practical insight, compassion, and honest conversation. If you've ever struggled with family conflict, questioned where your loyalty belongs, or wondered whether reconciliation is always the right answer, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to discover how setting healthy boundaries, communicating with emotional maturity, and taking personal responsibility can strengthen your relationships and protect your mental health. Episode Highlights • 00:00 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors • 00:18 When Family Pits You Against Your Spouse • 02:20 Mob Mentality, Entitlement, and Why Group Behavior Matters • 13:20 Raising Children Who Understand Consequences and Accountability • 19:16 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation • 21:10 A Birthday Invitation That Divided an Entire Family • 26:05 Should Your Spouse Always Come First? • 31:10 Should You Fight for Reconciliation or Walk Away? • 34:40 Is the Relationship Worth Saving? Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, family dynamics, healthy boundaries, trauma, and personal growth. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

  3. Jul 14

    Stop Expecting People to Read Your Mind: The Expectations Trap

    Send us Fan Mail Have you ever built a whole scenario in your mind about how something was supposed to go, only to feel crushed when reality looked completely different? In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Mrs. Q explore one of the biggest hidden causes of conflict in relationships. Unspoken expectations. Using a relatable Reddit story about a wife returning home after caring for an ill parent, they unpack why so many couples unknowingly expect their partners to read their minds, how assumptions create resentment, and why communication is the foundation of emotional safety. Before diving into relationships, Sgt. Q also shares the explosive Bricks & Minifigs controversy, examining business integrity, leadership accountability, franchise responsibility, and how social media has become one of the most powerful tools for exposing unethical behavior. Whether you're married, dating, leading a business, or simply trying to build healthier relationships, this episode will challenge how you think about expectations, communication, and personal responsibility. 🎧 Tune in to learn why disappointment often begins long before conflict ever starts, and how changing one communication habit can transform every relationship you have. Episode Highlights 00:00 Why We Create Expectations That Never Become Reality 00:33 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors 01:07 The Bricks & Minifigs Story Explained 04:53 How Social Media Exposed a Business Scandal 09:49 Business Integrity and Franchise Leadership 15:17 Why Reputation Is Every Business Owner's Greatest Asset 21:47 Reddit Story. My Husband Didn't Miss Me 27:42 Expectations Versus Reality in Marriage 29:49 Common Sense Isn't Common Sense 34:06 The Therapy Advice That Changed Their Marriage 35:43 Communication Beats Assumptions Every Time Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having honest conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, communication, trauma, leadership, and personal growth. 🔗 Join our community:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz 🎧 Website:  https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron "Sgt. Q" Quinonez Website:  https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Become a Giant Slayer  https://giantslayerworkshop.com/get-your-ebook Support the show

  4. Jul 8

    The Biggest Relationship Red Flag? Not Showing Up When It Matters

    Send us Fan Mail What does it really mean to show up for someone you love? In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about healthy relationships, accountability, childhood trauma, and emotional maturity. When one partner chooses a night out over showing up during a medical emergency, it raises difficult questions. Is this simply a mistake, or does it reveal something deeper about priorities, trust, and commitment? And when someone hurts the people they love, can childhood trauma explain their behavior without excusing it? From relationship red flags and self awareness to narcissistic traits rooted in unresolved trauma, this episode challenges listeners to look beyond excuses and ask one of the hardest questions of all. Am I taking responsibility for the way I treat others? If you've ever questioned a relationship, struggled with accountability, or wondered how your past influences your present, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to explore why accountability is one of the hardest parts of healing, and how taking ownership can change the way you show up for the people who matter most.  Episode Highlights:  00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors  03:18 Pastor Tony and Protecting Your Family  19:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation  27:45 What It Means to Show Up in a Crisis  41:26 Accountability or Excuses?  53:08 Can Childhood Trauma Lead to Narcissistic Traits?  59:48 Why Healing Requires Honest Self Reflection Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

  5. Jun 30

    The Relationship Red Flag Every Parent Should Know

    Send us Fan Mail Would you step in if helping someone you love created even more conflict?  In this episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about parenting, family boundaries, responsibility, and emotional maturity. When a father repairs his adult daughter's unsafe car after her boyfriend fails to follow through, one simple act of love raises difficult questions. When should parents step in? Where do healthy boundaries begin? And how do pride and ego influence the way we respond? From family dynamics and healthy relationships to accountability and emotional intelligence, this episode explores what it truly means to protect the people you love without losing sight of respect and responsibility. If you've ever struggled with family boundaries, wondered when to step in, or questioned what real responsibility looks like, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to discover why this story is about far more than fixing a car, and how the lessons behind it can strengthen families and relationships. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 03:26 Seeing America Through a Different Perspective 14:03 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation 19:44 Did Dad Cross the Line? 23:11 Responsibility vs Pride 31:58 Parenting Through Difficult Decisions 36:31 Educate, Empower, and Encourage Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

  6. Jun 23

    The Quiet Damage of Pride in Relationships, Parenting, and Communication

    Send us Fan Mail Why is it so hard to admit we're wrong? 💭 In this episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about pride, accountability, parenting, and emotional growth. What happens when we're confronted with undeniable proof that we made a mistake? Why do so many people become defensive instead of taking ownership? And what lessons do our children learn when they never see us apologize? From family dynamics and relationship conflict to trauma responses and emotional intelligence, this episode explores the hidden cost of letting pride take the driver's seat. If you've ever struggled to say "I was wrong," found yourself explaining instead of apologizing, or wondered why accountability feels so uncomfortable, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to learn how genuine apologies build trust, why ownership matters more than excuses, and how small moments of accountability can transform relationships. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 03:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation 08:45 Why Pride Makes Accountability So Difficult 13:20 Should Parents Apologize to Their Kids? 18:34 Explanations vs Excuses 24:10 Trauma Responses and Emotional Reactions 29:47 The Power of a Simple Apology 35:18 How Accountability Strengthens Relationships 40:05 Taking Ownership and Moving Forward Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

  7. Jun 16

    Are You Showing Up or Just Showing Off? The Truth About Ego in Relationships

    Send us Fan Mail Most relationships don’t fall apart because of big dramatic events. They fall apart in small moments where ego shows up, priorities get misaligned, and one person stops considering the experience of the other. In this powerful episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Dr Jess break down a viral Reddit story that starts with a simple date night, Bruno Mars tickets, a planned dinner, and a special evening together, but quickly spirals into conflict over something as small as a steak. What unfolds is a deeper conversation about emotional intelligence, selfish decision making, and what it really means to create shared experiences in a relationship. They explore how stress, excuses, and personal comfort can quietly override connection, and why “good intentions” are not enough when your actions tell a different story. From ego-driven decisions to emotional memory and relationship damage, this episode reveals how one moment of self-focus can undo an entire experience you thought you were building together. If you’ve ever wondered why small disagreements turn into big disconnects in relationships, this conversation will make you rethink how you show up for the people you care about. 🎧 Tune in now. It’s not about the steak or the concert it’s about what happens when you stop making it about “us” and start making it about “me.” Episode Highlights: 00:00 - Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 02:36 - The “Concert vs Steak” Reddit Story Begins 05:01 - When Excuses Show Up in Relationships 06:35 - “Why does she even care about the opener?” 08:58 - How Personal Comfort Overrides Shared Experience 11:21 - Emotional Connection & Neuro Pathways in Relationships 13:20 - The Power of Negative Emotional Memory 15:07 - Accountability vs Justifying Behavior 17:11 - Why Intentions Don’t Matter Without Action Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ Support the show

  8. Jun 12

    The Marriage Mirror: Why Changing Yourself Changes Your Relationship

    Send us Fan Mail 🎁 Free Resource from Doc Jess If this conversation resonates with you and you want practical tools to strengthen your marriage by focusing on personal growth first, Doc Jess is offering a free marriage assessment and relationship resource to help you identify areas for growth and build a stronger foundation. 👉 Get started here: https://firstonesfree.com/ If you feel stuck in the same arguments, frustrated with your spouse, or wondering why your relationship keeps running into the same challenges, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez sits down with Doc Jess to discuss one of the most overlooked truths about healthy relationships. The strongest marriages are often built when each person focuses on improving themselves before trying to fix their spouse. Drawing from personal experience, counseling practice, military life, and marriage research, they explore why self-reflection creates lasting change, how unresolved pain affects communication, and why assumptions often create conflict where none exists. You will learn how past experiences shape the way you interpret your spouse's actions, why your brain naturally tries to protect you from emotional pain, and how that protection can sometimes damage connection. Doc Jess also shares her practical 24-48-72 Hour Tool for responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. This episode explores the importance of personal accountability, emotional awareness, healthy communication, and creating space for growth within marriage. The goal is not to change your spouse. The goal is to become the healthiest version of yourself. Watch if you are searching for How to improve your marriageHow to stop arguing with your spouseChristian marriage adviceMarriage communication tipsHow to build a stronger relationshipHow to work on yourself firstBe part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn't flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/Connect with Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez: Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/Disclaimer: Educational only. Not medical, psychological, or relationship counseling advice. Support the show

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We help you clean up the mess in your head. Aaron and Jess help navigate through the wonderful and sometimes scary world of therapy to educate you, empower you, and encourage you through your difficult times. Join Us Today! 

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  • Creator
    Aaron Quinonez and Jessica Burgans
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    161
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The Mental Health Janitors
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