NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Living Well

April and Scott
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We are April and Scott, creators of NaughtyGym.com and this is the Naughty Gym Show. For years we’ve been fitness and nutrition coaches to thousands of people through our commercial gyms and online platform. We’ve also spent nearly a decade in an ever-evolving, open relationship. This show brings together our two biggest passions, fitness and sex positivity. Our mission is to maximize the physical, emotional, and sexual health of the sex positive community. We have demolished our old ways of thinking about relationships and from that rubble built a life full of happiness, adventure, and vitality. And now we want to help you do the same. So hop on the treadmill, start the show, and let us teach you how to Never Stop Playing.

  1. 1D AGO

    The Spectrum of Compersion: From Neutrality to Joy, Without Toxic Positivity, w/Dr. Marie Thouin

    What if the goal is not to erase jealousy, but to stop letting it drive the car? Dr. Marie Thouin joins April and Scott to define compersion in clear, grounded terms, and to explain why it can show up as an emotion, an attitude, or even simple supportive neutrality. They talk about the spectrum from “I can handle this” to genuine joy, the “second arrow” of self-inflicted suffering, and the conditions that make compersion more likely: security in self, security in the relationship, supportive community, and more. The episode also explores how autonomy and trust intersect with boundaries, when “training wheels” help, and how to tell the difference between growth discomfort and self-abandonment. Dr Marie Thouin Websites: https://mariethouin.com/ https://www.whatiscompersion.com/ Naughty Gym Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Our Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

    58 min

  2. FEB 3

    Reframing Jealousy: Why The Word "Reclaiming" Gives Us The Ick

    Jealousy isn’t always about fear of losing your partner. Sometimes it’s about losing yourself. In this episode, April and Scott share a real, recent story from their open-relationship journey that completely reframed what jealousy can mean—and it leads to a breakthrough concept they call “imposed burdens.” After Scott goes on a separate date (with April’s full consent and clear emotional parameters), April is surprised by a familiar “pit in the stomach”… but it isn’t abandonment, comparison, or panic. It’s something quieter and more revealing: envy of the freedom Scott has to play, explore, and dream—because she’s carrying the invisible weight of life logistics, emotional labor, and household admin. The conversation turns into a powerful (and practical) exploration of how “freedom” in a relationship can be technically true while still being impossible to access. They also unpack why the phrase “reclaiming your partner” gives them the ick—and why “reclamation sex” can sometimes smuggle in ownership, control, or reassurance-seeking disguised as intimacy. Instead, they share what reconnection looks like for them (spoiler: it’s more about presence, honesty, and nervous-system safety than performing a ritual). If you’ve ever felt jealous and couldn’t explain why… if you’re doing “the work” but still feel stuck… or if you’ve wondered whether rules are helping you heal or just helping you avoid… this one will hit. Plus: a behind-the-scenes update on their upcoming Wild Love Theory book release, the new Wild Love Book Circle, and their April retreat in the Smoky Mountains. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

    57 min

  3. JAN 28

    Two Keynotes LIVE From Hedonism Resort: Luna Matatas & Ashley Manta

    In this live event recording, sex educator Luna Matatas breaks down why kink can feel so electrifying by exploring the psychology of power, risk, and taboo and how “eroticism” is really the felt sense of being lit up in mind and body. She offers a practical way to translate fantasy into real life by focusing less on props and more on the feelings and “flavors” you want to create, building a clear container of consent, and asking the two questions that change everything: How do I want to feel? How do you want to feel? Then sexologist and coach Ashley Manta introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a powerful tool for relationships and non-monogamy: learning to notice your “parts,” stop speaking from them, and start speaking for them. With vulnerable, funny stories and concrete steps, she shows how to work with jealousy, fear, and insecurity without outsourcing your safety to your partner, and how self-energy (calm, curiosity, compassion, clarity, courage) turns conflict into repair, intimacy, and better sex. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

    52 min

  4. JAN 21

    BBBB 2026 Recap At Hedonism Resort: Doctor Strange, Gum Hair, & A Coma In The Hot Tub!

    April and Scott recap Be Better at Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism—day by day—covering the themes, the workshops, the connection circles, and the parties that made this year’s week feel like the best yet. From Rave Bingo and fundraising for the Hedo Foundation to the Glow Party, foam party chaos, and the Superheroes & Villains night where “Professor X” somehow became “Doctor Strange,” they share the funny, the sexy, and the surprisingly meaningful moments that built real community. Plus: Wild Love Theory retreat updates, the Toronto X Club Pride weekend announcement, and why “Irish goodbyes” might be the secret to surviving a full takeover week. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

    1 hr

  5. JAN 15

    LIVE From Hedonism (2/2): THE FREEDOM MANDATE - Scott's Keynote BBBB 2026

    This week’s second special episode is Scott’s opening keynote from Be Better At Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism II Resort: The Freedom Mandate: The Ethical Case for Relational Freedom. Scott unpacks Wild Love Theory’s seven-word thesis, “Maximum relational happiness requires maximum relational freedom,” and asks the question that can feel both inspiring and terrifying: If your partner’s happiness matters to you… do you owe them freedom? From there, he draws a crucial line between true boundaries (inward-facing choices for self-protection) and what most couples call “boundaries” but are actually imposed limits designed to manage fear. He explains why rules can be necessary early on, but only as scaffolding: temporary supports meant to loosen as trust, regulation, and repair become load-bearing. The talk ends with a raw, personal story from Scott and April’s relationship: the moment Scott kissed April goodbye as she got ready for a date with no rules, and what that taught him about control, courage, and what it means to build a relational cathedral two free people can actually live inside. Next week we’ll release our full recap of BBBB 2026. If this keynote brings up questions or reflections, email Scott anytime at naughtygymonline@gmail.com. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

    31 min

  6. JAN 14

    LIVE from Hedonism (1/2): What Do You Want? How Desire Becomes Your Revolution - April's Keynote BBBB 2026

    In this opening keynote from Naughty Gym's Be Better At Being Bad Takeover at Hedonism Resort, Coach April invites you into a deeply honest exploration of desire, identity, and self trust. Through personal stories and lived experience, she challenges the roles, labels, and expectations that shape what we think we should want and asks a more powerful question: what do you actually want? This talk is about unlearning goodness, releasing approval seeking, and reconnecting with the quiet wisdom of the body. It’s an invitation to stop performing the life you were taught to live and start listening to the truth that’s been waiting underneath it all. This is not about having it all figured out. It’s about coming home to yourself and beginning again, on purpose. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

    38 min

  7. 12/30/2025

    She Chose Herself: April's First Date And The Night Autonomy Became Real

    2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date—the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)… without making it her responsibility. We also break down the real stuff people avoid talking about in ethical non-monogamy: What compersion actually feels like (not the internet version)How jealousy shows up even when you’re secureAutonomy vs. caretaking (and how to stop people-pleasing)Debriefing after a big night: what helped, what didn’t, and what we learned And yes… Scott shares the sleep-aid + vodka + couch disaster that happened DAYS before the date. 😬 Events & trips: 🇯🇲 Be Better Being Bad (Jamaica) — Jan 3–10 (few rooms left) 🏔️ Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat — Apr 15–19 (booking fast) 🇪🇸 Barcelona — Aug 14–21 (limited spots) More info: naughtygym.com 🎁 If you want to support the show: Like, Subscribe, and leave a comment (it helps more than you think). #ENM #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationship #Compersion #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

    56 min

  8. 12/16/2025

    Sexy Santa Surprise: April Agrees to a Dinner Date (After 1 Year of “Wild Love Theory”)

    April and Scott recap a wild (and unexpectedly meaningful) night out: a sexy Santa & Mrs. Claus gig at an LGBTQ-friendly Christmas party that turns into a real-time relationship test. By the end of the night, April, who historically hasn’t felt fully comfortable claiming that kind of freedom, finds herself laughing, connecting, and eventually agreeing to a dinner date with a newly divorced single guy from their extended lifestyle circle. What follows is the real conversation: how do you support your partner’s autonomy without turning it into pressure, surveillance, or “constant check-ins”? Scott shares how past attempts at separate dating triggered anxiety and control impulses (even when “nothing” was happening), and how this time felt different, calmer, steadier, more grounded. Together they unpack the difference between intuition vs. projection, explore “The Bad Prophet” (mind-reading, future-forecasting, spiraling), and practice “The Unprophet” (staying present, responding only to real data, honoring privacy). They also dig into a powerful desire question April is building her Hedo keynote around: “What would I do if there was nobody I could disappoint?” The episode closes with upcoming Naughty Gym events and a thoughtful note on protecting partners’ anonymity, because this show isn’t about sex-capade storytelling, it’s about the real emotional skills non-monogamy demands. More about Naughty Gym: www.naughtygym.com Our Upcoming Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

    54 min
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We are April and Scott, creators of NaughtyGym.com and this is the Naughty Gym Show. For years we’ve been fitness and nutrition coaches to thousands of people through our commercial gyms and online platform. We’ve also spent nearly a decade in an ever-evolving, open relationship. This show brings together our two biggest passions, fitness and sex positivity. Our mission is to maximize the physical, emotional, and sexual health of the sex positive community. We have demolished our old ways of thinking about relationships and from that rubble built a life full of happiness, adventure, and vitality. And now we want to help you do the same. So hop on the treadmill, start the show, and let us teach you how to Never Stop Playing.

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