Spilt: A Podcast with Charlene and Tonya

Tonya and Charlene
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Welcome to "Spilt...a podcast" with Charlene and Tonya. This podcast is about two friends, who realized we're kindred spirits, sharing authentic life experiences related to our battles with depression and mental health struggles. Join us as we journey through decades of stuffing our issues down so no one would notice. Guess what? We spilt and maybe you're spilling, too. We will explore topics such as: guilt, self-doubt, effects of trauma, self-acceptance, and much more. Healing is not linear but is possible. Check out our new episodes releasing every Tuesday.

  1. Sep 22

    Episode 113: Who Told You?

    Who made you believe you weren’t capable, worthy, important, lovable, or enough? Sometimes those words were spoken outright. Other times, the message came through criticism, comparison, rejection, or how we were treated. Over time, someone else’s voice can become an inner dialogue that we might keep repeating long after they’ve stopped. In this episode, Tonya and Charlene talk about where our self-beliefs come from, how they shape our decisions, and why it’s worth questioning who we’ve allowed to define us. They dive into separating helpful feedback from judgments about our value, noticing evidence that challenges old beliefs, and deciding which voices get to influence the life we’re building today. Not every belief we carry started with us—and not all of them deserve to come along for the journey ahead. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  2. Sep 15

    Episode 112: The Beautiful Pieces of You

    When life changes us, healing doesn’t always mean returning to who we were before. Sometimes it means gathering what remains—our experiences, relationships, lessons, faith, courage, and even our tender places—and creating something new. In this episode, Tonya and Charlene explore the idea of life as a mosaic. They talk about grieving former versions of ourselves, deciding which pieces of the past belong in the life we’re building, and recognizing what has quietly held us together along the way. The painful things that happened to us were not beautiful and did not need to happen. The beauty belongs to the person who gathered the pieces, gave them new meaning, and continued becoming. Maybe wholeness was never supposed to mean untouched. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  3. Sep 8

    Episode 111: When Life Doesn't Ask Permission

    We can make plans, work on ourselves, and finally feel ready for a new season—then life changes everything without asking permission. In the Season 7 premiere of Spilt, Tonya and Charlene share how unexpected expenses, caregiving, family concerns, changing roles, and disrupted plans reshaped the summers they imagined. They talk about the cumulative weight of “one more thing,” the difference between control and influence, and what purposeful living looks like when life refuses to follow the plan. Because living forward isn’t about controlling what happens next. It’s about learning how to meet the life we actually have—with honesty, grace, and room for both the hard and hopeful things. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  4. May 19

    Episode 110: Reflections on Growing Through It (Part 6)

    This season, we explored what it means to grow through life instead of avoiding it. From processing emotions and overthinking to self-worth, core lies, intuition, healing patterns, emotional weight, and honoring our energy—we spent this season learning how awareness changes the way we move through the world. In this finale episode, we reflect on the biggest lessons from Season 6 and what growth has looked like for us personally. We talk about the reality of change, the importance of self-acceptance, and why meaningful growth isn’t about perfection—it’s about awareness, intention, and learning to respond differently over time. Growth is rarely dramatic. Most of the time, it happens quietly in the choices we make every day. Part of our Growing Through It season, this episode is a reminder that healing is ongoing, awareness matters, and you are allowed to grow without demanding perfection from yourself. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  5. May 12

    Episode 109: Now What? The Season of True Growth

    What happens after you recognize your patterns, your “mountain,” or the core beliefs you’ve been carrying? In this episode, we explore what real growth actually looks like after the moment of awareness. We talk about why change is often slower than we expect, what it means to live in the “in-between” space, and how growth shows up in small, everyday choices rather than dramatic transformation. Part of our Season 6 theme, Growing Through It, this conversation is a reminder that awareness is just the beginning—and that meaningful change happens through patience, consistency, and self-compassion. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  6. May 5

    Episode 108: Challenging Your Core Lie

    What’s the belief about yourself that feels like a fact—but might not be? In this episode, we explore the idea of a “core lie”—a deeply held belief that shapes how we see ourselves and move through the world. We talk about how these beliefs form, how they show up in everyday life, and why they can be so difficult to challenge. With honest reflection, we share the core lies we’ve carried and how they’ve influenced our thoughts, choices, and self-perception. Part of our Season 6 theme, Growing Through It, this conversation invites awareness, compassion, and a willingness to question the stories we’ve always believed. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  7. Apr 28

    Episode 107: Listening to Your Energy Levels

    How often do we stop and ask ourselves how much energy we actually have? In this episode, we talk about recognizing our energy levels—emotionally, mentally, and physically—and why learning to pay attention to our capacity matters. We explore the signs of low energy, why we tend to push through anyway, and what it looks like to adjust instead of forcing ourselves to keep going. Part of our Season 6 theme, Growing Through It, this conversation is a reminder that honoring your energy is a form of growth. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

  8. Apr 21

    Episode 106: Carrying Extra (Emotional) Weight

    How much are you carrying right now? In this episode, we explore the emotional and mental weight we hold—responsibilities that aren’t ours, past experiences we haven’t released, and the pressure to carry things we can’t control. We talk about why we take on so much, how it affects our mental health, and what it looks like to begin putting some of that weight down. Part of our Season 6 theme, Growing Through It, this conversation is a reminder that caring doesn’t mean carrying everything. Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mailto:spilt.apodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ if you have comments, questions, or ideas about future episodes. Be sure to follow, rate, and review to stay informed about future episodes. You can find us on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/spilt.apodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/spilt.podcast/ Disclaimer: The views expressed are solely those of the hosts and should not be considered medical or mental health advice.

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Welcome to "Spilt...a podcast" with Charlene and Tonya. This podcast is about two friends, who realized we're kindred spirits, sharing authentic life experiences related to our battles with depression and mental health struggles. Join us as we journey through decades of stuffing our issues down so no one would notice. Guess what? We spilt and maybe you're spilling, too. We will explore topics such as: guilt, self-doubt, effects of trauma, self-acceptance, and much more. Healing is not linear but is possible. Check out our new episodes releasing every Tuesday.

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