Real Influence w/ Joey Vaillancourt

Joey Vaillancourt
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Welcome to Real Influence with Joey V, where you'll learn the tools and meet the people who can help you master the art of self-influence – the innate power we all have to transform our thoughts, beliefs, habits, and behaviors and lead more intentional, authentic, and inspired lives. In each episode, Joey Vaillancourt shares personal stories from his journey of radically reinventing his life and invites his guests to reveal the techniques they've used to overcome adversity and create success on their terms. Whether you're looking to grow your business, improve your relationship, or find more fulfillment in your personal life, Real Influence With Joey V is your place to discover how to lead yourself first and, in doing so, create a ripple effect that influences the world around you. If you're ready to stop letting the external forces around you control your reality and start transforming your life from the inside out, you've come to the right place. Check your ego at the door, drop the mask, and prepare to explore what's REAL—because that's where true influence begins.

  1. 1d ago

    128.Why You Must Decide What You Want Before You Know How to Get It

    What if the first step toward changing your life isn't figuring out how to make everything happen, but deciding what you actually want? A few years ago, I was working late every night, constantly feeling behind, and believing that success required hustle, grinding, and sacrifice. My business was growing, but I was still stressed. I was still working too much. And I knew I didn't want to keep repeating the same patterns. So I hired a mentor, expecting to learn how to build a bigger business. Instead, we spent 12 months working on my beliefs. I began challenging the idea that I had to sacrifice myself to become successful. I started practicing a different approach: spending less time on things while operating from a more relaxed state. The results surprised me. Over those 12 months, I doubled my business, took nine trips, and watched my team become more productive as I gave them more autonomy. But the biggest lesson wasn't simply about working less. It was about making a decision about the life I wanted before knowing exactly how I would create it. In this episode, I share how I changed my beliefs about success and how you can begin creating a different future. We'll explore: Challenge your old beliefs. Recognize how your definition of success may be keeping you stuck. Decide what you want. Stop letting uncertainty prevent you from defining your future. Create a vision. Identify the life you want beyond financial milestones and achievements. Change how you operate. Make decisions, set boundaries, and delegate in ways that align with your vision. Practice consistently. Look for evidence of your new beliefs and take action toward the life you're creating. I'll also share how Monika and I developed Future Reel, which turns your vision into a personalized cinematic film you can revisit regularly. You don't need every answer today. You need a clear direction and a willingness to start moving toward it. The question I'm leaving you with: What would you decide today if you trusted yourself to figure out the how along the way?   Your biggest goal, made into a 5-minute film starring you. Watch how it works: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/future-reel/   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   CHAPTERS 00:00 Why You Need to Decide Before You Know How 01:04 The Old Pattern That Was Costing Me My Life 02:25 Why I Spent 12 Months Changing My Beliefs 03:20 The Belief That Doubled My Business 05:07 Decide What You Want Before Figuring Out How 07:20 Turn What You Don't Want Into Your Vision 09:03 How Changing My Approach Created New Opportunities 10:12 Build Your Future Vision With Future Reel   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

    128.Why You Must Decide What You Want Before You Know How to Get It

  2. Sep 14

    127.The 4D Framework: How to Stop Waiting for Your Life to Change

    What if the life you're trying to create doesn't require you to work harder, stress more, or wait for the next milestone? Recently, I noticed myself slipping back into an old version of me. I was stressed. Reactive. Worried. Feeling behind. Feeling like I wasn't enough. I call that version Primal Joey. And instead of trying to push through it, I used a framework I learned from one of my mentors called the 4D Framework. It's a simple five-minute exercise that helps you identify: What you actually want in your future Who you're being right now How that current version of you behaves And who you would become if everything you wanted was already accomplished I call that future version Powerful Joey. The important part isn't waiting until you have the money, the business, the house, the relationship, or the success you want. It's asking: How would I behave if I already knew everything was going to work out? Then starting to live from that state today. In this episode, I walk you through the exact exercise and how I've used it to become more relaxed, present, loving, grounded, and intentional instead of constantly operating from stress and fear. We'll talk about: Why stress can become a signal that you're off track The difference between an experience and the story you're attaching to it How to identify your "Primal" version How to define your future or "Powerful" version Why you shouldn't wait for success before becoming the person you want to be How neuroscience supports the importance of embodying a new state Why your behavior can either reinforce your current reality or create room for something new How I started taking more trips and working less as part of this practice And how to use the 4D Framework as a daily compass You don't need hours. You need one sheet of paper, one pen, and about five minutes. Because the goal isn't to become someone else. It's to start becoming the version of yourself you already know you want to be.   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   CHAPTERS 00:00 Feeling Stuck? This Is Your Signal 01:44 Why I Became "Primal Joey" Again 03:26 Where the 4D Framework Started 04:10 The 4D Framework Explained 06:33 Meet Your Powerful Future Self 08:18 Why You Have to Become That Person Now 09:20 How to Start Embodying Your Future Self 12:13 Use Your Future Self as Your Compass 15:31 Consistency Is the Practice   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

    127.The 4D Framework: How to Stop Waiting for Your Life to Change

  3. Aug 24

    126.What I Want My Kids to Inherit From Me

    My kids aren't waiting for me to teach them something. They're already learning. From how I respond when I'm tired. From how I treat my wife. From whether I look up when they're talking to me. From how I handle conflict. From the things I repeat every single day. And that realization changed the way I think about being a dad. In this episode, I share five things I'm intentionally doing in my own family: Be there. Be present. Be the leader. Don't let their energy set yours. Model it, because you're the mirror. Say what you want, not what you don't want. Say the same words every single day. This isn't about being a perfect parent. It's about becoming more aware of the things we're already handing down. Because most of us inherited a formula from our own parents. They inherited one too. And most of them were simply doing the best they could with what they had. Now it's our turn to decide what moves forward. And what stops with us. The question I'm leaving you with: What's one thing you want your kids to carry from you and are you living it or just saying it?   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   Chapters 00:00 What Are Your Kids Learning From You? 01:00 The Words I Say to My Kids Every Day 02:30 Why I Became Intentional About Parenting 04:34 Tip #1: Be There, Be Present 07:29 Tip #2: Be the Leader 12:05 Tip #3: Model It, Because You're the Mirror 16:22 Tip #4: Say What You Want, Not What You Don't 18:47 Tip #5: The Same Words Every Day 21:35 The Belief I Want My Kids to Carry 22:13 What Do You Want Your Kids to Inherit?   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

    126.What I Want My Kids to Inherit From Me

  4. Aug 18

    125.I Read Every Comment on the David Bayer Video | Here's my Take

    I spent $100,000 on coaching with David Bayer. When I shared my experience on YouTube, I got 157 comments. Some were supportive. Others questioned how I could possibly spend that much money, called the experience a scam or a cult, and wondered why anyone would pay for something they could learn for free. So almost ten months later, I went back through the comments. And what I found was more interesting than the comments themselves. Nobody gets mad at a $100,000 truck. Nobody gets angry when someone spends $100,000 on an MBA, a kitchen, or a wedding. But spend that money on your own mind and suddenly the conversation changes. This episode isn't about convincing you to spend $100,000 on coaching. It's about the beliefs underneath our reactions to money, investment, success, and personal transformation. I read some of the harshest comments word for word, concede where people were right, share the real story behind how I made the investment, and explain what actually changed for me. We also get into the difference between free information and commitment, whether the community I joined was really a "cult," the roughly 75% financial return I made from the investment, and the much bigger return that had nothing to do with money. Because sometimes the most revealing part of an experience isn't what happened. It's the story we attach to what happened. And the question I'm leaving you with is simple: What is something you could afford right now and still won't let yourself buy and whose voice is it when you tell yourself no?   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   Chapters 00:00 The $100K Comment That Started It All 03:06 Why I Spent $100,000 on Coaching 04:10 Nobody Gets Mad at a $100K Truck 05:46 The Truth About My Misleading Title 08:14 What $100K Really Meant to Me 13:07 The Money Beliefs We Inherit 15:09 Free Information vs. Real Commitment 20:10 Did I Join a Cult? 24:47 The Line Nobody Heard 26:04 The 75% Return Nobody Noticed 28:12 The Transformation Beyond Money 31:39 Whose Voice Is It When You Say No?   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

    125.I Read Every Comment on the David Bayer Video | Here's my Take

  5. Aug 3

    124.Why Visualization Isn't Working (And The Missing Piece That Changes Everything)

    Your biggest goal, made into a 5-minute film starring you. Watch how it works: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/future-reel/ For years, I thought I was doing visualization wrong. I'd close my eyes during guided meditations and see... nothing. While everyone else described vivid images and powerful experiences, I was left wondering if something was wrong with me. That question stayed with me until it sparked an idea that would eventually become Future Reel. In this video, I share the personal story behind that breakthrough, why traditional visualization doesn't work for everyone, and how combining cinematic storytelling with coaching can help you build a future your brain can actually connect with. If you've ever struggled to picture your future, this conversation was made for you.   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   Chapters 00:00 Why visualization never worked for me 00:20 Sitting in an Uber changed everything 00:54 "Am I broken?" My biggest frustration 01:26 Why some people visualize differently 02:03 The idea that became Future Reel 02:43 Why I decided to build it anyway 03:20 If visualization has never worked for you 03:54 What Future Reel actually is 04:38 Why seeing your future changes everything 05:38 What happened after I started using it 06:10 Why coaching is part of the process 06:49 Who Future Reel is for 07:10 What happens on the discovery call 07:46 Your next step   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

  6. Jul 27

    123.How to Never Experience Failure Again with ONE Shift

    For two decades I looked back on my life and saw a list of failures,  the corporate job I left, the farm that folded, the marriage that ended, the masterminds I demanded refunds from. Black and white, right or wrong. Even the good stuff landed as proof I'd fallen short. This episode is about the word "failure" and how much of a life changes when you stop using it. I go through my own examples,  one at a time and what each was actually training me for, including the belief I carried into every room that quietly guaranteed the outcome. Pain is real; the suffering is the story laid over it. You get to choose the meaning, and you're not behind, no matter what your past looks like.   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   Topics covered The glasses that changed everything and the prescription glasses couldn't fix Handed-down beliefs: the worldview you inherited without choosing Naming the inner prescription and testing it instead of obeying it Why evidence follows focus and how that keeps a belief alive Ownership vs. blame: not your fault, still your responsibility   Chapters: 00:00 When everything looks like failure 00:33 Welcome to Real Influence 00:58 A quick thing before we start 01:20 The word I stopped using 02:20 Quitting hockey out of fear 03:46 The farm, the marriage, the "failures" 04:20 The masterminds and the refund clause 05:50 The moment I saw it was a choice 06:05 You're not behind — you're on time 08:28 Reframing each story for what it trained 13:33 Living your life as an experiment 15:00 Choosing the meaning from here Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

    123.How to Never Experience Failure Again with ONE Shift

  7. Jul 20

    122.Handed-Down Beliefs: Change the Prescription You Never Chose

    At fourteen, I couldn't read the chalkboard and figured something was wrong with me. A friend handed me his glasses, the board came into focus, and my grades climbed from barely passing to the honor roll, nothing changed but my eyesight. It took another twenty years to notice I was wearing a second prescription I'd never chosen: the one on my whole worldview. This episode is about that second lens, the handed-down beliefs about money, trust, control, and worth that get installed before you're old enough to question them. The lens feels like reality, but it isn't permanent; it's testable. I walk through how to name the prescription you're looking through and check whether it's even yours, and why the same argument keeps following you into every new partner, job, and situation until you do.   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   Topics covered The glasses that changed everything and the prescription glasses couldn't fix Handed-down beliefs: the worldview you inherited without choosing Naming the inner prescription and testing it instead of obeying it Why evidence follows focus and how that keeps a belief alive Ownership vs. blame: not your fault, still your responsibility   Chapters: 00:00 The blurry chalkboard 00:35 Welcome to Real Influence 00:55 A quick thing before we start 01:35 The kid who thought he wasn't smart 03:00 The day Jeff handed me his glasses 04:00 From 60s to the honor roll 05:15 "I don't think you'll cut it" 06:00 The prescription you can't take off 08:15 Name the lens, then test it 10:30 The belief that keeps repeating 11:35 The handed-down shirt that never fit 13:00 What lens are you looking through   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

    122.Handed-Down Beliefs: Change the Prescription You Never Chose

  8. Jul 13

    121.A Belief Is a Decision, Not a Fact — Rewriting the Success Formula You Never Chos

    For twenty years I was sure success had a price, and the price was me. More hours, more strain, more proof that I was serious. Then one conversation asked me what success actually was — and how it made me feel and the answer fell apart in my hands. This episode is about the moment a belief stops looking like a fact and starts looking like a decision you can revisit. I walk through the Experiment Cycle — Notice → Flip → Run → Read — the loop I used to test the rule I'd never questioned, and what changed over the year after I stopped forcing. The point was never doing less. It was living closer to what's actually true for me instead of a formula I inherited by default.   Helpful Links: The Great Life Experiment You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all. Take the FREE quiz here:  Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz   Chapters: 00:00 The price I paid for twenty years 00:48 The formula you never chose 01:33 Looking busy vs. being productive 03:41 The Experiment Cycle: Notice → Flip → Run → Read 04:20 A belief is a decision, not a fact 05:50 Writing the new belief and stacking evidence 07:54 Picking the opposite on purpose 10:10 The campaign and the farm: proof it was easy 12:30 What happened when I ran the experiment 14:48 Six trips, an empowered team, double the revenue 17:24 Alignment over escape 19:47 The one belief to question this week   Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms! Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website) Instagram Facebook  LinkedIn YouTube   Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizr—get 10% off with code JOEYV. Transform your meditation and boost sleep, creativity, and focus with Sens.ai—save $100 with code REALINFLUENCE. About: Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.

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Welcome to Real Influence with Joey V, where you'll learn the tools and meet the people who can help you master the art of self-influence – the innate power we all have to transform our thoughts, beliefs, habits, and behaviors and lead more intentional, authentic, and inspired lives. In each episode, Joey Vaillancourt shares personal stories from his journey of radically reinventing his life and invites his guests to reveal the techniques they've used to overcome adversity and create success on their terms. Whether you're looking to grow your business, improve your relationship, or find more fulfillment in your personal life, Real Influence With Joey V is your place to discover how to lead yourself first and, in doing so, create a ripple effect that influences the world around you. If you're ready to stop letting the external forces around you control your reality and start transforming your life from the inside out, you've come to the right place. Check your ego at the door, drop the mask, and prepare to explore what's REAL—because that's where true influence begins.

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