Bounce Back Better By Hilary Saxton

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Hey, Hilary here and welcome to the Bounce Back Better podcast. Your past doesn't determine your future, no matter what you've experienced. Just know that it's possible to redesign your life from today by simply drawing a line in the sand and making a choice to live your best life. Hit follow or subscribe and tune in weekly for episodes from me.  Chat soon, Hilary x

  1. 11/21/2025

    Stop Shrinking Your Shine - Before It Looses All Of It's Glow

    Ever achieve something massive… then immediately shove it into the “no big deal” bin? In this straight-talking solo episode, Hilary gets brutally honest about the habit high achievers (especially women) fall into - downplaying wins so fast you barely feel the glow before it fades. Fresh off a 30-hour trip home from New York (with five global Stevie Awards and an Able Book Award under her arm), Hilary realised she’d walked straight back into business-as-usual. No celebration. No pause. Not even a proper post. And that wake-up call sparked today’s episode: why we shrink our success and how it’s quietly sabotaging our identity, confidence, and momentum. Using behavioural psychology, lived experience, and her signature no-b******t clarity, Hilary unpacks the real culprits -  fear of judgment, tall poppy syndrome, imposter thoughts, invisibility conditioning, and survival mode - and how each one tricks your brain into believing your achievements are “irrelevant.” In this episode you’ll learn: Why achievement amnesia is real (and how your brain literally deletes your wins when you don’t honour them). The psychology behind shrinking your shine — tall poppy syndrome, fear of judgment, and the “don’t take up space” conditioning so many women have absorbed. How identity gets built (and destroyed) through repetition, celebration, and evidence. The exact phrases to stop using (“It was nothing… anyone could have… just lucky…”) and what to say instead to rewire confidence. How to show up unapologetically so your success fuels your next level instead of quietly dying in your laundry basket. Your Challenge This Week →Pick one win - big or small - that you brushed aside. Write it down. Say it out loud. Tell one person you trust. Then honour it with a small ritual: a toast, a walk, a moment of stillness, or a post if it matters. Bonus: Message someone else and celebrate their win. Evidence builds identity - yours and theirs.   🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Got a win to share? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com Know someone who needs this?Share this episode with the friend who keeps brushing off their brilliance. Remind them: you can’t build an empire by hiding your shine. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    16 min

  2. 11/06/2025

    Pivot, Don’t Panic - The Power of Changing Direction

    Ever find yourself clinging to Plan A even when the universe is clearly yelling, “Not that way”? In this candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why change feels so uncomfortable (hello, brain craving certainty) and how to pivot with purpose instead of panicking - so you can move from dead end to better direction without losing your footing. Drawing on real-life stories (a last-minute New York trip for the Stevie Awards, the “whole new corridor of doors” reframe, and that netball/basketball pivot metaphor) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains why our brains resist uncertainty - and how to plant one foot in your values while you rotate to a smarter play. You’ll walk away with her four-step pivot plan and practical examples from business (Netflix, Apple), relationships, and career moves. In this episode you’ll learn: Why certainty feels “safe” (and how to calm your nervous system before you choose your next move). The 4-step Pivot Plan: pause before you panic, ask better questions, anchor to values, take imperfect action. How to keep your purpose the same while changing direction (plant foot, rotate options). The difference between victim mode and resilient mode when change is forced on you. A simple script to spot the new door faster (“What could this be teaching me?”). Your Challenge This Week → When something veers off-plan, don’t fix it fast. First, take 3 slow breaths. Then journal two “better questions” you can ask, write one value you’re anchoring to, and take one imperfect action within 24 hours. Bonus: Notice any “closed door” and list three possible doors in the new corridor. Watch the full episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ejRGMZcNe4Y 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com Know someone who needs this? Share this episode with the friend staring at a shut door. Remind them: plant your foot, pivot, and play the next pass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    14 min

  3. 10/24/2025

    Noticing The Glitch, Not The Glimmer

    Ever catch yourself predicting the worst - no parks, no luck, no chance - and then proving yourself right? In this refreshingly candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why so many of us default to spotting the glitch instead of the glimmer - and how a tiny shift in focus can change what you notice, how you feel, and the life you build. Drawing on real-life stories (parking myths, mentoring-room “regrets,” young-Nana trampoline energy, and Toastmasters butterflies) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains negativity bias, the 3-to-1 rule for emotional balance, and learned optimism. You’ll walk away with simple, repeatable practices to re-train your brain’s filter (RAS), flip setbacks into fuel, and start a positive-result spiral on purpose. In this episode you’ll learn: Why the brain overweights bad - and how to rebalance with the 3-to-1 rule. The “Accept or Change” life rule to stop simmering in resentment. How to reframe in real time (from “I have to” → “I get to”). A nightly “Three Glimmers” ritual to rewire your RAS for good. How to surround yourself with glimmer-spotters and visualise the win before it happens. Your Challenge This Week → Each night, list three glimmers - moments, conversations, or coincidences that went right. Then, tomorrow, pick one inevitable hiccup and ask: “What’s the glimmer here?” Bonus points for swapping one “have to” for an “I get to.” 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com Know someone who needs this? Share this episode with the friend who always says, “Typical, that never happens for me.” Tell them they’re your glimmer - and watch the contagion of optimism do its thing.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    23 min

  4. 10/16/2025

    From “Why Me?” to “Try Me”: The Luck Reset

    Ever met someone who just seems lucky? Things fall into place, opportunities appear, and doors swing open for them? Here’s the truth - luck isn’t random. It’s created. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton flips the script on luck and shows you how to go from saying “Why me?” to boldly declaring “Try me.” You’ll discover how the most “lucky” people are actually just bold action takers - people who say yes, bring great energy, and create their own opportunities through connection, mindset, and movement. Hilary shares practical, real-world ways to make your own luck: ✅ How to shift from waiting for good fortune to generating it through micro-actions ✅ Why your energy determines the opportunities that show up ✅ The secret power of saying “yes” more often - and meaning it ✅ How connection and curiosity attract the right people (and the right timing) ✅ Why writing “I’m lucky” on your mirror might just change your life This episode is a feel-good fire-starter for anyone stuck waiting for things to change. You don’t need a four-leaf clover - you need focus, energy, and action. Check out this week’s episode and learn how to turn everyday moments into lucky breaks. Challenge: This week, create your own luck. Say yes to something new, reach out to someone you’ve been meaning to connect with, or take one brave action you’ve been putting off. Then watch what opens up. 💬 Know someone who says, “I’m just not lucky”? Send them this episode. It might just be the mindset reset they need. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    27 min

  5. 09/04/2025

    Fuelling From Within - How To Gain Get & Maintain Motivation

    Ever feel fired up one day and flat the next? In this week’s Bounce Back Better, Hilary pulls back the curtain on real-world motivation - what gets you started and what keeps you going when life gets loud. Fresh from a Toastmasters competition (with a last-minute scramble and a hard-won lesson), she shares how pressure can be a powerful teacher - if you pair it with purpose. You’ll hear: Why “connect to your why” isn’t woo-woo - it’s wiring The magic of yet: building a growth mindset that sticks Set it, see it, step toward it: a simple three-step goal loop Habit stacking that makes momentum inevitable (not optional) Coaching, feedback, and accountability - how pros stay on track Protecting your energy from dream-stealers (and topping up with gratitude) This episode is your permission slip to stop waiting for perfect conditions and start taking imperfect action. Motivation isn’t a mood; it’s a muscle - and today, you’ll learn how to train it. Check out this week’s episode: If you need a reset that’s practical, personal, and powerfully doable - no beige meditation outfit required. This Week’s Challenge: Pick one goal you’ve been avoiding: Write your why in one sentence. Visualise it for 60 seconds today. Choose one tiny habit you’ll do daily. Tell one person who’ll hold you accountable. Know Someone Who Needs This? Share this with a friend who’s “waiting to feel ready.” It might be the nudge that gets them moving today. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    27 min

  6. 08/28/2025

    The Wine Won’t Fix It, Real Tools to Tackle Overwhelm

    Ever felt like life is just too much? Like your to-do list belongs on a medieval scroll, your brain has 47 tabs open, and the easiest solution is a glass of wine (or three)? That’s overwhelm. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton takes a no-nonsense look at why we spiral into overwhelm and what it’s really costing us - from energy leaks and strained relationships to stolen confidence and joy. With raw honesty and humour, she unpacks the modern monster of overstimulation and the sneaky ways we try to self-soothe that only keep us stuck. You’ll learn: ✅ Why overwhelm isn’t weakness - it’s a signal ✅ The five biggest culprits (perfectionism, overcommitment, lack of clarity, overstimulation, and coping mechanisms) ✅ The real costs of staying stuck in overwhelm ✅ Practical tools and the THANKS framework to shrink the chaos and take back control This week’s challenge: Notice when you’re reaching for a coping mechanism - wine, chocolate, scrolling - and instead, choose one small action that clears the clutter and moves you forward. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    29 min

  7. 08/21/2025

    Failing, Falling, or Flying: The Truth About Worry

    What do you worry about the most? For many of us, it’s failure - in our careers, our relationships, or simply not being “enough.” But here’s the thing: worry doesn’t protect you, it paralyses you. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton dives deep into the hidden costs of worry - where it comes from, why it sticks around, and how it can quietly sabotage our confidence and decisions. With raw honesty and real-life reflections, Hilary unpacks how past experiences and old narratives shape the things we obsess over today. You’ll learn: ✅ Why worry can become a self-fulfilling prophecy ✅ How to spot the “trigger stories” that feed your fears ✅ Simple mindset shifts to stop worry stealing your energy ✅ Why failure isn’t final - and sometimes it’s exactly what launches you forward If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of “what if,” this episode will show you how to break free, rewrite the story, and move from worrying about falling… to learning how to fly. This week’s challenge: Notice the thought you worry about most often. Write it down. Then ask yourself - is this thought fuelling me or failing me? If it’s failing you, rewrite it into a new story that helps you fly. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    13 min

  8. 08/08/2025

    Don’t Dim It, Damn It – Why Playing Small Isn’t Good

    How many times have you held back in a meeting, skipped sharing your win, or toned yourself down so others wouldn’t feel uncomfortable? In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton calls time on playing small - because it doesn’t just hurt you, it keeps everyone in the dark. Inspired by a five-year-old named Billy, who strutted into a movie theatre in full Sonic the Hedgehog gear without a care in the world, Hilary explores what it really means to show up unapologetically. From the “spotlight effect” (spoiler: people aren’t noticing you as much as you think) to tall poppy syndrome and imposter syndrome, this episode is a deep dive into why we dim our brilliance - and how to stop. You’ll discover: ✅ Why worrying about being “too much” is making you forgettable ✅ How dimming your light doesn’t help others shine - it just keeps everyone in the dark ✅ The real reason confidence grows when you put your hand up ✅ Why visibility is an act of service ✅ How to fire the fake audience in your head This week’s challenge: Turn the dial up one notch brighter. Post the win. Speak up. Wear the bold lipstick. Apply for the thing. Stop shrinking to fit into rooms you’ve already outgrown. You weren’t born to be beige - you were born to be unforgettable. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com 📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in 🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/TYzE3RkRpvg ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    18 min
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Hey, Hilary here and welcome to the Bounce Back Better podcast. Your past doesn't determine your future, no matter what you've experienced. Just know that it's possible to redesign your life from today by simply drawing a line in the sand and making a choice to live your best life. Hit follow or subscribe and tune in weekly for episodes from me.  Chat soon, Hilary x

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