Sex, Lies and Love Podcast

The Commandress
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This is not a podcast. It's a portal. Hosted by the Commandress – a former corporate woman turned sacred strategist – Sex, Lies & Love is where high-functioning men come to be unraveled and reawakened. Here, we dismantle false power, decode masculine longing, and strip away the lies that sabotage intimacy. Expect: ~Erotic truth transmissions ~Spiritual wake-up calls ~Uncomfortable awakenings ~And sultry truths from a woman who sees your soul before your story. If you're ready to trade performance for presence–welcome to the edge of your initiation. Listen in. Rise Up. www.sexlieslove.com

  1. Aug 27

    The Man Card: What Happens When a Man Never Grows Up Emotionally?

    What happens when a man has been taught that vulnerability threatens his masculinity? In this episode, we look beneath the “man code” and the invisible rules of the “man card”—the expectations that teach men to stay tough, stay composed, never admit weakness, and protect themselves from emotional exposure at almost any cost. But there is an important distinction between emotional immaturity and a learned pattern of self-protection that repeatedly places the emotional cost onto someone else. What happens when vulnerability enters the room? Does he deflect? Shut down? Get angry? Cry—but make his tears someone else’s responsibility? Turn the conversation around? Withdraw? Or can he stay present long enough to hear what his behavior has actually done to another human being? This isn't about shaming men for having defenses. It's about asking whether those defenses are still running the relationship. Because when a man's heart is unavailable, intimacy becomes limited—not only for him, but for everyone who loves him. And perhaps one of the greatest costs of the man code is something we rarely talk about: what happens to women when the person they most want to be emotionally intimate with has never been taught how to safely inhabit his own heart? And, what if he's too busy collecting information about what it means to be emotionally mature but never practices transformation? Emotional development requires practice. That means new behaviors. This episode is an invitation to reflect—not on whether you're a “good man,” but on whether you've grown enough to carry your vulnerability without making someone else carry the consequences of your inability to do so. #TheManCode #TheManCard #MensEmotionalHealth #EmotionalIntimacy #MensVulnerability #EmotionalMaturity #HealthyMasculinity #Masculinity #Relationships #MensMentalHealth #Accountability #Vulnerability #EmotionalConnection #ConsciousMasculinity #SexLiesAndLove #Capacity If you're still reading, I'll leave you with one last question: “Can you remain present when your emotions are no longer protecting you from accountability?” The Commandress Go to sexlieslove. com to schedule a thirty minute call. To learn more about the private email service mentioned - go to www.mainmail.us and use promo code SLOVE10 for a 10% discount.

  2. Jul 27

    Can You Stay Present While a Woman Cries?

    This is an unedited encounter with grief. Before you listen to this episode, I want to ask something of you. Please do not try to fix me. Do not rush to make my grief smaller, explain it, or turn away from the discomfort of hearing a woman cry. Simply notice what happens inside your body. Do you tighten your chest? Hold your breathe? Become restless? Feel the urge to rescue me? Do my tears awaken tears of your own–or reveal how far away from them you have learned to live? What you are about to hear is not a performance. It is grief moving through a human body. Most men have been taught how to solve a problem, manage a crisis, and continue performing while their own hearts are breaking. Very few have been taught how to remain present with a feeling they cannot control. This is part of the work I now offer men: learning to breathe, move, feel, and stay present when something real enters the room through movement, conversation and embodiment . Today, I am not going to teach vulnerability from a distance. I am going to let you hear it. Warmly, The Commandress sexlieslove.com

  3. Jun 30

    Five Questions Every Man Should Ask Himself Before It's Too Late

    Most men spend years learning how to build a career, provide for others, and solve problems–but very few are ever taught how to know the truth of their own heart. Which leads them to dismissing and deflecting the hearts of others. In this episode of Sex, Lies and Love, I share five deceptively simple questions that can expose what's really driving your decisions, your relationships, and your emotional life. These aren't questions designed to judge you. They're invitations to discover whether you're living from fear or freedom...obligation or love... performance or presence. If you've been feeling emotionally unsettled, disconnected, or quietly exhausted, these questions may reveal why. Sometimes one honest question can change the direction of a man's life. Perhaps one of these will be yours. Warmly, Commandress sexlieslove.com #Emotional Intelligence for Men #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #Self-Awareness #MensMentalHealth #Relationships #Courage #Healing #Vulnerability #menspodcast #sexliesandlove

  4. May 25

    "Get Used to the Pain" - The Hidden Wound Inside Men"

    In this rare and intimate conversation, a successful structural engineer shares his fear of vulnerability, his relationship with his father, and the profound shift that occurred when he heard the words: “Courage comes from the heart.” This episode explores: emotional suppression in men father wounds and masculine conditioning the loneliness behind competence why many successful men still feel emotionally disconnected the physical weight men carry in their bodies how vulnerability becomes true strength For the man who has spent his life enduring…and for the woman who wants to understand him more deeply. This conversation may open something long buried. Please share it with those who need to hear it. Let's help the men of the world heal. Lovingly, Andrea... The Commandress www.sexlieslove.com #podcastformen #masculinity #emotionalhealing #fatherwounds #mensmentalhealth #vulnerabilityinmen #emotionalintelligence #masculinehealing #selfawareness #heart #courage #love #relationships

  5. Mar 29

    "The Conversation Men Aren't Supposed to Have"

    This episode is different. I don’t bring men on to perform. I bring them on when something real has shifted. In this 20-minute conversation, a man speaks openly about what changed when he stepped into my world—and what most men never admit they’re craving. We talk about control, emotional armor, truth, and what it actually feels like to be met beyond performance. No scripts. No coaching language. Just honesty. If you’ve ever felt the pressure to hold it all together… If you’ve built a life that looks right but doesn’t feel right… This conversation will land somewhere deeper than your mind. This is what happens at The Edge. A space where men stop performing… and start experiencing themselves in a way they can’t access alone. If you feel something while listening, that’s your signal. sexlieslove.com Fill out the application under the submit tab if you are ready. #MasculineTransformation #SelfMasteryForMen #MasculineAwakening #EmotionalIntimacy #InnerWorkForMen #PersonalDevelopment #MensWork

  6. Feb 14

    Love and Water: A Valentine's Transmission from the Tub

    On Valentine’s Eve, I slip into the bathtub and talk about what I love — the simple pleasures, the flavors of life, the laughter that lives in me. You’ll hear the trickle of water, the giggles, the sensuality in my voice — and then we go deeper. This episode moves from love in its softest forms to love in its most tested — divorce, rebuilding, and the quiet power of men gathering weekly in my home. I introduce Brothers Basin, a transitional home for men navigating separation with dignity, depth, and brotherhood. It’s intimate. It’s playful. It’s wet. Real. And it’s an invitation. Love, The Commandress P.S. Don't forget to comment on the crystal count contest. www.sexlieslove.com #MasculineHealing #DivorceRecovery #BrothersBasin #MensWork #Valentines #ASMRPodcast #ConsciousMasculinity #ASMR #Bathtub #Initiation #Self-growth

  7. Jan 19

    Sacred Edges: Where Boundaries Meet Intimacy

    What if your deepest wound became your doorway to connection? Sacred Edges is a podcast for men and women unlearning the lie that love means losing yourself. Here, we explore the potent intersection of healed trauma, embodied boundaries, and sovereign intimacy. Through raw conversations and piercing insights, you'll uncover how honoring your “no” makes space for your most authentic “yes.” Hosted by The Commandress — a mentor to high-level men and a guide in emotional intelligence — this podcast speaks to the quiet power of self-respect, relational integrity, and what it really means to be ready for love. www.sexlieslove.com #boundaries #emotionalhealing #intimacy #sacredsexuality #self-worth #conscious-relationships #jan2026 #episode101

  8. 12/10/2025

    “Closing the Door on Counterfeit Comfort: A Woman’s Wake-Up Call to the Half-Alive Masculine”

    After a year of displacement, five homes, and the fires of Malibu at my back, I woke up in my childhood home with a clear knowing: I have reached the end of investing in the counterfeit masculine. This episode is a personal reckoning—raw, honest, and unfiltered. I share what it feels like to walk through the museum of inherited survival, and how I am closing the door on men who perform presence without embodying it. If you are a man hearing this, know this is not condemnation—it is a clear signal. The feminine is no longer feeding what refuses to grow. www.sexlieslove.com #asmr #single and #happy #conscious #masculinity #feminine #awakening #emotional #sovereignty #masculine #healing #trauma #patterns #relationship #truth #embodiment #work #peace #billionaire

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This is not a podcast. It's a portal. Hosted by the Commandress – a former corporate woman turned sacred strategist – Sex, Lies & Love is where high-functioning men come to be unraveled and reawakened. Here, we dismantle false power, decode masculine longing, and strip away the lies that sabotage intimacy. Expect: ~Erotic truth transmissions ~Spiritual wake-up calls ~Uncomfortable awakenings ~And sultry truths from a woman who sees your soul before your story. If you're ready to trade performance for presence–welcome to the edge of your initiation. Listen in. Rise Up. www.sexlieslove.com

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  • Creator
    The Commandress
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    108
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © The Commandress
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